FabSwingers.com forum: Honesty is such a difficult thing...

By *andL-Liverpool OP Couple
over a year ago

Huyton

We are totally honest with our profile and try to update it as often as we can if things change (going from fem being bi-curious to full on bi-sexual ect)

We have had a few messages from couples who list themselves as both straight, we are very polite in saying we enjoy bi play more than simple full swap

A few "straight" couples have come back and said sounds great when can we play??

So much dishonesty on this website from all different party's here

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yep! But lots of honesty too.

Some people actually prefer dishonesty it seems and are happier not knowing certain things.

We have always said the first rule of a relationship of any sort is honesty, after all you will never get what you want if you can't tell the truth. If you go in to Costa and ask for a cappuccino when you want a latte you get what you deserve.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Agree about some people's lack of honesty, although in part that could be due to the need for confidentiality. However your example raises a dilemma. My OH is not bisexual and had never played with another woman until our third visit to a club about 4 months ago. "Bicurious" doesn't seem correct now either but FAB doesn't have a "biplayful" option. DJ

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By *andL-Liverpool OP Couple
over a year ago

Huyton

"Agree about some people's lack of honesty, although in part that could be due to the need for confidentiality. However your example raises a dilemma. My OH is not bisexual and had never played with another woman until our third visit to a club about 4 months ago. "Bicurious" doesn't seem correct now either but FAB doesn't have a "biplayful" option. DJ"

The biggest plus point is your honest, you state in your profile Mrs is bi curious but then correct your self in your description by saying bi playful

So many people want to be discrete but it's a swinging site, put your likes/dislikes and keep photos private until you find someone that is sexually compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fully understand about honesty.

Men who say straight, but have verifications form men....cannot work that one out either.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People who say 45 and are 65.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are certain things that we don't want to put on our profile. We don't consider that dishonest, just prefer to share things when we talk and get to know people.

I wouldn't play with every female we met as I am much fussier about women. So I don't say bisexual in our profile, just curious.

I also find men that have played with men or tv/ts a huge turn off but I haven't put that in the profile as I would rather men were honest, rather than pretend so they get a meet.

A few other things too but you get the idea. A profile is a summary not a complete expose. Talking to people brings a lot more to light always....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of dishonesty on profiles teally gets me down, we put our real ages unlike 90% of people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Bi curious just about sums me up. Bi sexual to me is someone that has full on sex between men and I certainly don't feel the need to fit into that category.

I'm just not homophobic and happy with a bit of mutual oral or touchy stuff when Mrs N is present when playing with a couple. Does that make me Bi sexual. Well I'll let you be the judge of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of dishonesty on profiles teally gets me down, we put our real ages unlike 90% of people on here

This^^

Drives me crackers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are probably dishonest initially to attract interest, and then see where they can take it from there (e.g. we've agreed to meet, you're a few years older and with a smaller cock than you said, but fcuk it we're here now we might as well go with it

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My profile on here (and other sites where I have been a member longer) is totally honest (age, relationship status, cock size, face pic available if wanted) and basically gets very little interest at all.

My view is best to honest now to avoid disappointment later. I sometimes wonder if I lied about certain aspects whether that would lead to more interest but that would be dishonest and false which isn't me at all.

I guess the more you are exposed to timewasters and liars / fantasisirs the easier it is to spot them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hs ha , I have had SOOO many straight guys contact me, I realise that BI puts some people off, thats their choice. I dont do male solo meets, well not very often unless I enjoy the guys company as my BI side is mmf, I enjoy focussing on the womans pleasure. so I think I may well be "straighter" than many straight guys on here ??

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I fully understand about honesty.

Men who say straight, but have verifications form men....cannot work that one out either. "

Let me help...social verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of dishonesty on profiles teally gets me down, we put our real ages unlike 90% of people on here

I believe in honesty too, including age, although that does disadvantage me on so many occasions unless I meet by chance somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pics get me you meet up or see them on cam and they are nothing like it and no way would I Do what the guy above thought oh well we here now may as well if I meet and u have lied nothing would be happing and blocked as soon as I was online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honesty is always best ....but sorry to say there will always be too many lies on here

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I fully understand about honesty.

Men who say straight, but have verifications form men....cannot work that one out either.

Let me help...social verifications. "

I think she may have been referring to the type of verification which talks about how tasty his cock was, not about how he had a pint with him down the local!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand it when guys say they are 'straight' but in the moment they will suck the odd cock, or say they are just orally bi!?

I find this weird, if your a guy and you can suck another guy's cock you are definitely not straight!!!

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