FabSwingers.com forum: Sex on first meet?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been turned down as i didn't want dsex on first meet.. Is it normal to play on first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man who doesn't want sex. Wow

actually it's normal to want to see if you're attracted in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your attracted and your both game yes why not

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Been turned down as i didn't want dsex on first meet.. Is it normal to play on first?"

Not for us and we say so in our profile. It's fine to want a social first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats my problem.. Was a late night meet and shed be in the bedroom when i'd turn up.. Quck chat then whambamb lol.. I prefer meetin socially first, plus i was warey as one previous meet they wanted me to climb through a window ffs lol

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I like a social first. Thats not to say I would never play on a first meet, but never an expectation of it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thats my problem.. Was a late night meet and shed be in the bedroom when i'd turn up.. Quck chat then whambamb lol.. I prefer meetin socially first, plus i was warey as one previous meet they wanted me to climb through a window ffs lol "

If I was a single man I would run a mile from either of those scenarios.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but most people indicate their preferences on their profile... Never have and never will do a social but i have many friends that prefer to do a social first before any commitment is made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not having much luck you mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets on here were just sex meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer a social first and getting to know my potential partner a bit first and making a considered decision to take it further. However I have done a number of straight to sex meets and enjoyed them too

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

"I like a social first. Thats not to say I would never play on a first meet, but never an expectation of it."

My sentiments exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely do socials. But always chat on phone and have a bit of banter and get to know them for a while before meets. I don't have time for socials between working odd hours and finding childcare. But I rarely meet someone new tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your not having much luck you mate "
your not wrong there pal.. Lol

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I like a social first. Thats not to say I would never play on a first meet, but never an expectation of it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's up for a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets are for sex first time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny as fuck

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Climb through a window!!!! Perhaps they wanted to play out the window cleaner fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me."
top answer me thinks has most people are on here for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me."

Same as us x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me.top answer me thinks has most people are on here for sex "

But you just asked if anyone was up for.a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me.

Same as us x"
hey your not far from me you ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you just asked if anyone was up for.a social.

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well i was but after chatting i can make anyone giggle trust ppl say in like lee evans

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me.

Same as us x"

Us too, except we usually meet in a club and have a chat in the bar first.

Still the rule has to be that anyone can veto at any stage.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think as with everything else if you are honest about how you do things people can choose if they want to meet you or not. Nobody is wrong in how they do things, just different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do a mix of the two... Tends to depend on how well I feel I've got to know them by chatting, but even if I wanted to get straight to it and someone wants a social first then I'd respect that and go for a drink first. Almost all my meets have ended in play though even if they've started as a social as I'm pretty sure I want to play before I'll bother to make plans to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met in a neutral place first to establish chemistry and can then either go straight back to theirs for sex or set up a mutually convenient playtime. Had a

once or twice by finding that the pics were less than honest so always a social first now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i go on a meet wouldn't just persume where having sex though

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me."

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer sex on the first meet, that's not to say i shag everyone i meet, i like to meet socially for a drink and a chat but if we get on i like to play that meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer sex on the first meet, that's not to say i shag everyone i meet, i like to meet socially for a drink and a chat but if we get on i like to play that meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but most people indicate their preferences on their profile... Never have and never will do a social but i have many friends that prefer to do a social first before any commitment is made

Exactly the same for us !

Yes , each to their own etc......

But we are here for sex and although we agree the scenario the op describes is not one we would engage in , we have never done a social meet , and never will

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It's not often I have a social meet and generally if I meet someone it is for sex. That doesn't mean to say I'm going to walk in the door and strip off, usually a drink and a chat at theirs or whatever and unless there is a complete lack of chemistry, move closer, touching, kissing, and we're off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social meet first e.g. a quick coffee at lunch time...there's been people before who I've got on with well online/phone/text but haven't clicked at all in real life. But then I've gone straight to sex on a first meet too if we've had a drink first and I feel comfortable with it. There's no right or wrong approach, just stick to your guns about what you want to do.

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

We don't get it, this is a swinging site for sex, swinging is based around sex and sexual act's we love to meet with people at clubs and just play, I've read some people need to be attracted to there sexual partners...

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't get it, this is a swinging site for sex, swinging is based around sex and sexual act's we love to meet with people at clubs and just play, I've read some people need to be attracted to there sexual partners...

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

You have sex with people you don't like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social meet first but some of those have turned into play meets too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

If I don't fancy them a little bit or at least have an attraction I'd rather just stay at home with a dildo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer a social meet first e.g. a quick coffee at lunch time...there's been people before who I've got on with well online/phone/text but haven't clicked at all in real life. But then I've gone straight to sex on a first meet too if we've had a drink first and I feel comfortable with it. There's no right or wrong approach, just stick to your guns about what you want to do. "

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

If I don't fancy them a little bit or at least have an attraction I'd rather just stay at home with a dildo "

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I know from messages if there is common ground so yes i do expect sex on a first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on circumstances, got to say quite a few meets (over a long period I must add) have lead to sex on the first meet. If the attraction is there, give the nature of this site, why not. It's what we're all on here for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly have socials for a 1st meet but have been known to bend the rules now and then

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

If I don't fancy them a little bit or at least have an attraction I'd rather just stay at home with a dildo

Me too! I would never have sex with somebody I don't fancy. ...swinging site or not, for me I would rather go without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

You have sex with people you don't like?"

Still can't believe what they've said after reading it twice but would hate to think someone shagged me without an attraction as I'd think they weren't giving me the full works or second best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I don't have any definite expectations at any point during the process of setting up a meet. Even down to when I meet people face to face.

My view is 'depending on what does or does not happen, I'm going to have a good time and make sure she/they are smiling and laughing'. Quite the risk, one could argue, since most of my meets have occurred some distance from me in Zone 2 London. Lol

Expecting to have sex on a meet would turn me into a dodo. Expecting not to have sex could either make me really relaxed or could turn me into a dodo

And that's even when prior messages and communication seem really positive. I just go with the mood. And have been fairly lucky so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a social first. Thats not to say I would never play on a first meet, but never an expectation of it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to talk to people for quite a while before meeting and most of the time I dont have a social but make it clear that if when meeting there's no spark or I dont feel safe I will end meet ...its worked well for me so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No rule to say you have to have sex first time you meet. A social meet is a good way to find out if you like the person enough to take the next step and what kind of kinky fun each other likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of my meets are sex first time. I don't have time for socials....I barely have time for sex meets!! I do all the chatting and getting to know beforehand. Works for me.

Same as us xhey your not far from me you ok "

Yeah we are good ta x

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If I was a single man I would run a mile from either of those scenarios."

Something about climb in through a window seems a bit freaky. You broke in through the window, she stabs you with some handily placed item,(a very sharp knitting needle perhaps?)

No way she'd be found guilty since she was obviously getting ready for bed when you invaded her premises. Maybe robbery and rape, what woman wouldn't rightfully kill to protect her honour.

Next money from the Criminal Compensation Board, sell her story to the press. It could be worse though, she could kill her husband so it looked like you the intruder had done it. She might call the cops and you're banged up or she might murder you too?

Or maybe I'm being a bit paranoid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met up with guy ages ago. His rule was no sex on the first meet.

When we met he was expecting me to suck his cock.

He was told he made the rules. He should stick to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a girl off here last week.

She came to my place for a social. Just a nice chat and coffee.

But within 30 minutes of meeting for the first time ever she had swallowed my cum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first for me but if private enough not going to say no to a kiss and a bit of a feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to just enjoy sexual contact, don't need to know your names, don't need to fancy you just need to know your limits and off we go

Could never have sex with someone who I wasn't physically attracted to. Call me old fashioned but I'd need to know their name as well. I'd expect the same in return. Just goes to show we are not all here for the same thing

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

You have sex with people you don't like?"

If someone is arrogant, big headed, dam right rude then no we wouldn't but we don't insist on them talking to us before having fun

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

If I don't fancy them a little bit or at least have an attraction I'd rather just stay at home with a dildo "

They don't make women shaped dildo's to eat me but if they did...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always sex on first meet thats why i use this site, though turned guys away when they turned up or speeded meet up because of trade description

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

Still can't believe what they've said after reading it twice but would hate to think someone shagged me without an attraction as I'd think they weren't giving me the full works or second best

There's always attraction but sometimes it's just sexual attraction, in a couples room at a club having fun and someone new starts giving one of us pleasure there welcome to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still can't believe what they've said after reading it twice but would hate to think someone shagged me without an attraction as I'd think they weren't giving me the full works or second best

There's always attraction but sometimes it's just sexual attraction, in a couples room at a club having fun and someone new starts giving one of us pleasure there welcome to do so"

Fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social 1st, then take it from there. I think being a single female, you do have to be more cautious. Inviting someone you've never met before to come to your home has risks attached to it.

Its different for couples as you have that other person to have your back.

Plus, like others, I've met guys who are nothing like their photos or that I've not connected with in reality like I have in cyber world. I only want to play with guys there's a chemistry with.

So I stand by my rule of a social 1st in a neutral public place. It works for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Social 1st, then take it from there. I think being a single female, you do have to be more cautious. Inviting someone you've never met before to come to your home has risks attached to it.

Its different for couples as you have that other person to have your back.

Plus, like others, I've met guys who are nothing like their photos or that I've not connected with in reality like I have in cyber world. I only want to play with guys there's a chemistry with.

So I stand by my rule of a social 1st in a neutral public place. It works for me. "

It works for us too. We could be the only people on the entire site who insisted on a social first and it still wouldn't change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for us too. We could be the only people on the entire site who insisted on a social first and it still wouldn't change

meets would be a bit thin on the ground if everyone else insisted on sex on a first meet though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It works for us too. We could be the only people on the entire site who insisted on a social first and it still wouldn't change

meets would be a bit thin on the ground if everyone else insisted on sex on a first meet though

This is true.

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