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Is there a way to see if you're blocked?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

I sent a tentative mail to someone a few days ago, you know the usual witty, dashingly charming and irresistibly alluring sort of thing you'd expect from someone who makes an effort.

Anyway, I see that it hasn't been read and the profile in question has been on numerous times.

The last thing I'm going to do is send another message as that's not my thing but...I am curious to figure out if the reason it is unread is because it's been deleted and unread, or if my message has been immediately dropped due to some kind of blocking feature which I don't know about.

It may of course be simply down to the fact that they're staring at it, waiting with bated breath for that right moment to click "read" and be blown away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to look at the profile. If it says you can't then you've been blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah well..In that case it must be the bated breath excuse then!

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire


"Ah well..In that case it must be the bated breath excuse then! "

Yes their keeping it for the weekend, so they can bask in your enlightened words. But they first need to sit & choose a romantic film to watch & of course choice of nibbles. Then theres the getting together & sitting down part that can be challenging at the best of times. Its going to be an amazing time for you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly!

I trust you too have the same issue ??

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire


"Exactly!

I trust you too have the same issue ??"

No.. Pmsl

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Most people tend to read the profile first before deciding whether to read the message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooh that's an interesting point!

I never considered that one, cheers!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You'd know if it had been deleted because the title would have a line through it.

We often leave messages unread if we know we wont be able to answer fir a while also some couples will only read when both are present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many will look at your profile then think about it and if they do not reply next time there online take is as no.

As a single guy you might expect to get maybe 5% of your messages replied to as married guy maybe 1%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people tend to read the profile first before deciding whether to read the message. "

Correct - we read the profile 1st and we can see straight away if some one has read our profile or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It makes sense to check profiles before reading mail I guess...I might find out which works best when I start getting messages!

Cheers for the advice folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would simply delete without reading.. It clearly says on my profile i do not like speaking to people with silhouette profile pictures... I like it to be personal to that individual and looking at the same silhouette that dozens of people have; isn't personal.. Others might be the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Another solid piece of advice. I'll sort it immediately!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people tend to read the profile first before deciding whether to read the message.

Correct - we read the profile 1st and we can see straight away if some one has read our profile or not. "

We look at what you can see of the message without opening it, and depending on what that says, depends on whether we open it or delete it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can see how that would save a lot of time and effort too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we leave messages unread if it's for the other person e.g. if someone is messaging me, Marty would leave it unread and vice versa. It can get confusing if we both read and reply to each other's mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 23/08/14 10:34:29]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Focusing on your inbox rather than your sent mail is way more rewarding

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha yes I can only begin to imagine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people tend to read the profile first before deciding whether to read the message. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't focus on your inbox, just keep a casual eye out at the message box to see if it lights up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try to look at the profile. If it says you can't then you've been blocked. "

And if someone wants to read they will forget looking to see if they have its their choice what they open or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people tend to read the profile first before deciding whether to read the message. "

I always read the message first. If I like what I read, I go to the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Deuce I'm not questioning anyone's right to read or ignore my messages, I totally agree that they have that. My post was a question aimed at clarifying any ambiguity between a message simply unread, or my profile having been blocked x

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