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What's classed as degrading?

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how a gang bang would be degrading with multiple guys vying for a single girls attention (a bit like on here really), I very much doubt a reverse gang bang featuring multiple girls and one guy would be seen as degrading - quite the opposite in fact.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it "

Its entirely down to the individual to what they enjoy.

The problem is how others view it

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it "

nope, not degrading in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each person has there own level of when something becomes degrading. It depends if you are asking on what a person finds degrading to themselves or others?

To me it's when someone is objectivified purely on looks, for example I feel page three is somewhat degrading to women. However I accept that the women participating do so happily & earn a lot of money from it, so they wouldn't think it degrading.

I know some people get off on humiliation & degrading acts, it's not my cup if tea but if others enjoy it fair play to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it "
i always think would i like my daughter doing that, absolutely not. so, for me yes i think its degrading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean but nothing is degrading if you're enjoying it as part of this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Degrading is sometimes used in a derogatory way by people who wouldn't do something someone else may enjoy because it makes them feel superior to make assumptions about how it makes you feel

If you enjoy something and find it pleasureable then its not degrading,despite how it may look to outsiders

There are some people who get off on being publically degraded though

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

I wouldn't want my daughter doing anything sexual full stop lol where do they sell chastity belts???

It was just a thought, I suppose it doesn't matter what other people think. If we did we'd all stay at home

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"I know what you mean but nothing is degrading if you're enjoying it as part of this lifestyle. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it "

I would find a situation like that degrading if I didn't feel the people involved were respecting me and what I want out of the situation, just using me.

If they're tending to my needs as well as their own then all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My butler recently had the afternoon off and I had to wash my own dishes...

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Oh dear Mr who that's simply awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing is degrading if you're getting what you want, when you want it. x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

For me a greedy girl's night would feel degrading. But to many it is empowering.

It is up to the individual's own perception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler recently had the afternoon off and I had to wash my own dishes... "

Don't you have a stand in butler?

How peasant like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler recently had the afternoon off and I had to wash my own dishes...

Don't you have a stand in butler?

How peasant like!"

My backup butler was in the stocks after being caught with the milk maid.

Finding good staff these days is getting hard.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"For me a greedy girl's night would feel degrading. But to many it is empowering.

It is up to the individual's own perception. "

My regular Lady friend in here loved being the centre of attention at her birthday Gangbang and again at a MMMMF we arranged for her. She had all of us guys working for her pleasure not to degrade her

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I love being surrounded by guys all wanting me. Not all get to have me though I don't feel at all degraded and I'm in total control as to what goes down. I do need one guy involved that I trust to protect me though as I can't always see if they are playing safe.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"For me a greedy girl's night would feel degrading. But to many it is empowering.

It is up to the individual's own perception.

My regular Lady friend in here loved being the centre of attention at her birthday Gangbang and again at a MMMMF we arranged for her. She had all of us guys working for her pleasure not to degrade her"

As I said; it is up to the individual's own perception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One persons degradation, is another's fun!

Its only degradation if you are doing it against your will.

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

It' is, it's like don't understand the whole bdsm / s&m thing an humiliation stuff as it does absolutely nothing for me and foot fetishes ewww I hate feet an it makes me shudder

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Totally agree, but it still has to feel like the degradation is real.

Any time you get to play a role and experience in safety, then go back to reality is good for your spirit.

I know a few women who particularly like this word, all are quite high powered, power ponytail types, but want to be degraded almost like it's a test of their will.

It's a big subject, loaded with phycological needs and takes imagination to set the scene.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

And if it's not degradation because it's fun, then it's not degradation.

And your not experiencing that feeling.

If you don't feel humiliated then your not and that experience is lost too.

If you were leashed to a post and made to beg to eat the left over scraps that other people drop on the floor, you would then feel degraded.

The phycology for the individual has to be there, for it's not the same experience for everyone.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Degrading is what makes you feel degraded. It's a personal thing.

Some enjoy being treated in a degrading way in some circumstances. Others don't enjoy it at all in any circumstances.

As with all things sexual, communication is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find something that you are subject to degrading then it is degrading for you, if you consider something that someone else is doing voluntarily would be degrading if you were in their position then it is none of your business.

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Wish there was a like button xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One persons degradation, is another's fun!

Its only degradation if you are doing it against your will."

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By *eginner sub xdresserTV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

I find it degrading but thats part of the whole appeal xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can anything lawful be degrading if all participant enjoy what they are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it "

Not at all as long as all the men are respectful

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Totally not convinced on this one...

Sex... With no matter how many men is just sex.

Degradation is a feeling instilled by the performance of humiliating acts.

I know someone, smart, business owner, fun, 6 days a week gym goer, always happy and smiling and every now and then she likes to feel degraded.

If 4-5 guys fucked her, nothing, if 10 nothing.... With out feeling disrespected, humiliated, used and degraded it would be a waste of her time.

Better 1 gives her what she wants, than 10 give her nothing.

Numbers don't give you degradation, a phycological grip over your partner does that...

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Thanks for all these comment I've got it cleared up in my mind I'm just a little worrier I should stop lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when ever celtic lost to rangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people might think some of the things I do could be degrading, but if all party's involved are enjoying it, who cares.

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Yep who cares xx

I enjoyed myself like you wouldn't believe ha ha

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By *otswoldMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Yep who cares xx

I enjoyed myself like you wouldn't believe ha ha "

You enjoyed it? It made you feel good about yourself? You want to do it again? Three yeses and you have answered your original question - and good luck too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it i always think would i like my daughter doing that, absolutely not. so, for me yes i think its degrading."

Would you like your daughter having a profile on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people might think some of the things I do could be degrading, but if all party's involved are enjoying it, who cares."

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Everyone on here is someone's daughter or son ?

Your someone's daughter? Are you not?

What I've got from this thread is as long as An act isn't done against your will it's not degrading.

Prositition is degrading, lap dancing is degrading theses things are sometimes done against someone will or control etc

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Oh an my daughters 6!!!! So I should hope not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To use one as a cum slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone on here is someone's daughter or son ?

Your someone's daughter? Are you not?

What I've got from this thread is as long as An act isn't done against your will it's not degrading.

Prositition is degrading, lap dancing is degrading theses things are sometimes done against someone will or control etc "

Was that aimed at me? Press the quote and reply button so we know who you are replying to. x

I was replying to the woman that said she wouldn't like her daughter doing something. I thought it was ironic.

Prostitution and lap dancing aren't degrading for the people that enjoy doing it. It all depends on the person and how they feel, no matter what it is.

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Ahhh sorry scarlet star I must of got you confused with the op not to worry.

It's just people's perception of things.

Sorry again xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not. What ever makes you happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horses for courses .. personally I find facials degrading and certain language. .but some women love it. I dont like "porn style" gangbangs where the women appear to be treated as a piece of meat. . Greedy girl sessions sound better but even so, I don't like rough handling. As a spectator, i like to see the female getting lots of gentle, stimulative attention. Being cock whipped is not my idea of a good time: but someone out there loves it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh sorry scarlet star I must of got you confused with the op not to worry.

It's just people's perception of things.

Sorry again xx "

No need to apologise at all. I'm often lost with posts. xx

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Totally.... And to add to that we're each a hundred different people during the course of our lifetimes (of you continue to learn that is)... So who knows what you will like in 5 years time?

Beware your inner dragon may be unleashed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see how a gang bang would be degrading with multiple guys vying for a single girls attention (a bit like on here really), I very much doubt a reverse gang bang featuring multiple girls and one guy would be seen as degrading - quite the opposite in fact."

Reverse gang bang!! So that's what it's called lol I want to be used and abused by a jovial and horny pack of women. Smothered and fucked, sat on and sucked... totally used up and utterly ruined Definitely one of my fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see how a gang bang would be degrading with multiple guys vying for a single girls attention (a bit like on here really), I very much doubt a reverse gang bang featuring multiple girls and one guy would be seen as degrading - quite the opposite in fact.

Reverse gang bang!! So that's what it's called lol I want to be used and abused by a jovial and horny pack of women. Smothered and fucked, sat on and sucked... totally used up and utterly ruined Definitely one of my fantasies "

It wears a bit thin after a while

Double meaning fully intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see how a gang bang would be degrading with multiple guys vying for a single girls attention (a bit like on here really), I very much doubt a reverse gang bang featuring multiple girls and one guy would be seen as degrading - quite the opposite in fact.

Reverse gang bang!! So that's what it's called lol I want to be used and abused by a jovial and horny pack of women. Smothered and fucked, sat on and sucked... totally used up and utterly ruined Definitely one of my fantasies

It wears a bit thin after a while

Double meaning fully intended "

Picture evidence next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol. Too busy to take pictures!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its an individual opinion - what appeals to one doesnt to another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firing Lou Grade

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port


"Firing Lou Grade "

What does that mean?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firing Lou Grade

What does that mean?! "

An old farts joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lew Grade was responsible for bringing Thunderbirds et al and the Muppet Show to our screens as head of ATV.

It was a long time ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my book, something can only be degrading if it's affecting someone who would choose not to be involved, or is forced to commit and act they dislike

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"I know what you mean but nothing is degrading if you're enjoying it as part of this lifestyle. "

Clearly if YOU feel degraded by the act then there's your answer! If YOU don't then it isn't. Simples!

But if you do where is the pleasure???

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Yep... Totally agree with this.... It's all about how you feel psychologically....

But there's defiantly enjoyment in being degraded, if it's safe and you can play the psychological game, the mixture of fear, anger, frustration, shame, elation and finding this pleasurable, yet not wanting to...

For some sex is 80% in the mind and humiliation, affection, degradation are just tools to take a person on a journey, much like a movie or any other form of entertainment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey I have been with my mr 17 yrs and in that I never went near another bloke or woman then along comes the lets do swinging conversation so we start to get in to it however I did not realise how easy I have found going near another man and having my first bi experience would be for me so has it changed the person who I was to adapt to this life style or has it alwsys been there and I never showed it.

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Well a week on from having a kind of greedy girl, I say kind of as I only let one guy have me the other guys just touched me etc

I really really enjoyed myself ALOT an the guy I chose to have sex with had to be perfect as he was only my second cock I've ever had lol

It's not degrading at all, I loved it what women doesn't like all that attention

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port


"Hey I have been with my mr 17 yrs and in that I never went near another bloke or woman then along comes the lets do swinging conversation so we start to get in to it however I did not realise how easy I have found going near another man and having my first bi experience would be for me so has it changed the person who I was to adapt to this life style or has it alwsys been there and I never showed it. "

Mrs and I have been in exactly the same position as you as we'd only ever been with each other and then the swinging conversation came up. It's not that we needed spicing up our bedroom antics, just that we'd mellowed enough in our relationship to seriously consider it without the jealousy that would come from a newer relationship. It's always good to see people in the same position as ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has spiced our sex life up no denying that. But I never even entertained male attention cos didnt feel I needed it but now I am loving it and part of me thinks it is wrong cos thats not the person I was and feel my mr looks at me in a whole different light.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Everyone on here is someone's daughter or son ?

Your someone's daughter? Are you not?

What I've got from this thread is as long as An act isn't done against your will it's not degrading.

Prositition is degrading, lap dancing is degrading theses things are sometimes done against someone will or control etc "

I could introduce you to quite a few prostitutes who will tell you they don't feel degraded by what they do. And I can assure I am not some silly punter who has conned himself into to believing that to justify what he does for his kicks.

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I don't see how a gang bang would be degrading with multiple guys vying for a single girls attention (a bit like on here really), I very much doubt a reverse gang bang featuring multiple girls and one guy would be seen as degrading - quite the opposite in fact."

Nirvana!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say the only things that would be degrading sexually would be playing with animals and shit and of course any activity that is illegal.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I find bukkake degrading, I actively detest it. Others love it. It isn't for me to say they should feel degraded by it just because I do.

If you enjoy it and aren't made to feel used by those you are with, then have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why some woman find a gang bang thrilling because the sex can last for ages.

But I would like to know what woman like about Bukkake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it degrading if your enjoying what your doing ie greedy girl or gang bang?

This is just a thought that's been running around my head an thought I'd release it "

Degrading is different to different people some people out there in the world see swinging as degrading after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand why some woman find a gang bang thrilling because the sex can last for ages.

But I would like to know what woman like about Bukkake."

I don't like gangbang, but I love bukkake.

The taste, the texture, the whole package.

The thought of a line of Guys ready to cum just for me is...beautifull!

Each to their own

Susan

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By *otswoldMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Prostitution is degrading ..."

I knew a "working Girl" (but not as a client). She claimed she could get up to £500 for a single over-night trick. OK, she called herself an "Escort", worked through an agency, took pride in her work and cited getting repeat business as proof that she was good at her job. Since knowing her I have become more careful about using the "P" word.

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port


"I find bukkake degrading, I actively detest it. Others love it. It isn't for me to say they should feel degraded by it just because I do.

If you enjoy it and aren't made to feel used by those you are with, then have fun "

It's not for me either I just don't see the turn on, laying there being splattered with spunk. But then again if I was in a sort of sex trance lol I don't think I'd totally rule it out

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