FabSwingers.com forum: profile advice for single men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok ladies, fed up with your in box being flooded (& guys I do mean flooded, 20 in 1 hour) with crap messages & cock shots from single men who can't understand why we don't reply??

Here's your chance, post some helpful advice about what would get them noticed.

For me my biggest pet hate is them not reading my profile, if it says men aged 35-45 & you're only 23, don't bother! I know what I want.

Personally I find cock shots a turn off , you might be very proud of it but save it for the bedroom it's your face i'm going to have to look at during the act.

Also try showing respect, a nice message proving you've read their profile will surely get a reply even if it's a polite no thank you.

Constructive advice only please ladies, & guys please don't see this thread as an invitation to flood my inbox again, i've found my play partner, thank you x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that single men ask for advice when they want it. If you're getting too many messages put a few filters in place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 2 of your points are related...

The showing respect point and also the age one, I think the kind of males who flood your inbox, as a majority, perhaps don't read your profile?

Cock shots will never be in my public pics, but some women are size queens, so they may just prefer seeing it as proof.

I do feel sorry for you couples / single women though, must get a lot of bad messages from men! Maybe filters could be tighter for your age preferences and single males, and you could be proactive for when you're seeking a man? Just a suggestion?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

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"Ok ladies, fed up with your in box being flooded (& guys I do mean flooded, 20 in 1 hour) with crap messages & cock shots from single men who can't understand why we don't reply??

Here's your chance, post some helpful advice about what would get them noticed.

For me my biggest pet hate is them not reading my profile, if it says men aged 35-45 & you're only 23, don't bother! I know what I want.

Personally I find cock shots a turn off , you might be very proud of it but save it for the bedroom it's your face i'm going to have to look at during the act.

Also try showing respect, a nice message proving you've read their profile will surely get a reply even if it's a polite no thank you.

Constructive advice only please ladies, & guys please don't see this thread as an invitation to flood my inbox again, i've found my play partner, thank you x"
Use the filters and do your own looking = reduces unwanted mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Classic one I got this morning ......8inch well hung and heaby cummer it says on his profile , message read come suck this as we are in same village , attached was a pic of a little cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think you've misunderstood the thread, i'm not new to this & know how to manage my page. My point was single men frequently complain they're not getting replies & thought it might be helpful to give them a few pointers.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

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"Think you've misunderstood the thread, i'm not new to this & know how to manage my page. My point was single men frequently complain they're not getting replies & thought it might be helpful to give them a few pointers."

Well there are some obvious and often cited points about the need to read the profile to understand and respect what it is the couples or ladies want and don't want, the need to write tailored polite messages, not to expect replies most of the time, not to feel entitled to instant gratification...those just to be getting on with.

The main trouble is that, even if there was a central reference point on the site, and there is to a certain extent with the FAQ section, the single guys who post the woe-is-me messages rarely read other such similar threads, and are as often as not posting the message expecting women and couples to chat to them individually rather than seeking and heeding the same advice which is posted repeatedly on similar threads.

There have been a few prime examples of that just recently, but they are just the latest in a long line of serial whingers and advice-ignorers.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

actually.... I would go the other way (hard hearted bastard I am)

tell them very little......

if they don't do research and they don't have basic common sense... why should people spoonfeed someone!

time, patient, basic common sense... they can't figure out the rest... thats on them...

all these type of threads end up doing is make it harder for those people who do get it... and harder for people to make choices because you are handing people a blueprint to dupe others...

deception by omission for example.... pictures that would draw red flags,

thats the only reason I like advice threads... because you can see who hasn't thought about what they put down before they came on the site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

change your status to "i am looking for an old message in my inbox right now, if you message me then your message is likely to be deleted" it seriously worked for me today, and i get more than 20 messages an hour usually.

i don't think guys have to have a certain profile, they shoud be themselves and find someone who likes that. i just ignore those i'm not interested in and message those i do, but yeah it's a lot easier to talk to a few people at once when your inbox isn't being flooded.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Shit profiles are great, they make to good ones stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me my biggest pet hate is them not reading my profile, if it says men aged 35-45 & you're only 23, don't bother! I know what I want."

Use your filters then thats what they are for you can very simply block people outside your age range!

People not using filters that can stop people they don't want messaging them is my pet hate as its border line stupidity not to and still get annoyed.

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