FabSwingers.com forum: New Starter Advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi there,

Hope we don't sound stupid but we are totally new to this. We are seriously considering a MMF encounter are wondering if any experienced couples can offer some guidance as to how best take the next step (we have a list of potentials). Also, can you recommend anyone in particular who you thinks is 10/10.

We don't want to rush in, this could be a one-off encounter so it needs to be the best it can be and fulfill all the desires.

Hope to hear from you all.

Rachel & Darren

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats 10/10 for one couple may not for you diff people diff likes dilikes you need to find your own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always go for a social drink first to see if we all get on and the attraction is there

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Don't do anything or be rushed into anything that you don't feel comfortable with

Take as much time as you need

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I just want to add that in an MMF situation its always really good if the 2 men feel comfortable with each other,and you both need to discuss any boundaries or concerns each of you may have before you meet anyone....it can be a bit daunting for a man to see his wife with another man for the first time,easy to talk about in fantasy but in real life it can be very different

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a refreshing change,MMF first time out, instead of the usual MFF fantasy.

Nice one,go for it and good luck!

XXXX

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By *lassyCouple15Couple
over a year ago

Bridlington

Always do everything together, read and write replies to emails.

Talk about what you both want from the experience and make a little script in your head of what will happen (this made my wife feel more confident and in control as she knew where we were both going to be and felt in "control")

As has been said already, what is 10/10 for one couple may be completely different for another. You need to talk about what your both looking for from the second guy.. do you want him to be dominant, does hubby want to watch YOU being fucked by another guy or YOU fucking another guy..same end result really but completely different balance of power.

What positions do you both feel comfortable in with the second guy? close and intimate/kissing may not be the thing..maybe the second guy from behind so you can keep constant eye contact wth your man is for you?

Who will be in charge of the situation?

will you own the space,will hubby direct or will the second guy??

Im sure there are 1000's of different situatins and combinations of an MMF.

For us it is about "HER" being in control, a show of confidence and sexual power that is able to be surrounded by male energy and completely master the environment.

"HER" looks upon the second cock as a "sex toy", theres no kissing, no close intimate positions just lots of sucking, wanking and spitroast action.

Hope this may help, maybe it throws up more questions???

The best advice is to communicate at all times, try to cover every detail..this WILL lead to it being much more fun should you ever end up playing as you will both know the rules, the positions youre happy with and how its loosely going to pan out.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

"Always do everything together, read and write replies to emails.

Who will be in charge of the situation?

will you own the space,will hubby direct or will the second guy??

Im sure there are 1000's of different situatins and combinations of an MMF.

For us it is about "HER" being in control, a show of confidence and sexual power that is able to be surrounded by male energy and completely master the environment.

"HER" looks upon the second cock as a "sex toy", theres no kissing, no close intimate positions just lots of sucking, wanking and spitroast action.

Hope this may help, maybe it throws up more questions???

Excellent advise,talking and communicating about what you both want(and dont want)from the 3 sum is paramount.

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By *asperthedogCouple
over a year ago

midlands

go to a club when they let single men in. you can pick and choose who you want and if you get cold feet well nobody's been let down. its much safer in a club then some pub in the middle of nowhere or inviting a stranger to your house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the best advice we can give in 12 yrs of happily swinging is that the first encounter should be the “scariest” this is what we were told…..;o)… but for us it wasn’t.. we had talked about all the ins and outs.. had even worked out our own secret codes….

It was fab.. but bottom line I think.. enjoy it,… and if you don’t get out! And most importantly is the two of you TALK… if you don’t… your fucked…;o)

Good luck! xxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your comments and advice, we have taken it all on board.

Things are hotting up and I have become more at ease with the idea. We have a shortlist that still needs some shortening yet. We are looking forward to a good chat tomorrow whilst we are away for the night!

Thanks again

Rachel & Darren

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By *eavensg84uCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

We agree with the idea of going to a club - that way, you remain safe, in control and able to walk away from it without hassle.

Profiles, emails and phone calls can help you narrow down the field if you want to play at home instead but none of them protect you from the guy with B.O, bad breath, an annoying laugh, a pic thats 10-years out of date, impotence or those who talk the talk but let you down at the last minute (i.e the married guys who cant get away). Sorry to sound so negative - and this isnt aimed at just at single guys as many couples are just as big a disappointment - but we think the clubs are a much better place to try for fun ,w hether its your 1st time or your 51st!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

studley_good_fuck 10/10 single guy on here, perfect gent, laid back, non pushy, never assumes etc etc, we highly recommend this guy for newbies and experienced alkike.

Albeit he has a terrible profile chat name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Further, I am one of the most active advocates for clubs, however, going to a club to meet your first single guy is not always (in my personal opinion) the best option.

Clubs are a good idea to get a feel for the scene, see what it's about, see what's on offer and so on.

When it comes to choosing your first single guy there are pitfalls at clubs, if your going to use this tack, have a chat with the guys you like at the bar or in a social area first, avoid the open/group rooms where you might not get to see the personality of the guys before you play.

There are some fantastic guys on here and at clubs, there are also a lot of pratts (that goes for couples too)

A lot of couples on here can tell you some of the best I would take your time, take that advice about the guys on board then get to know them guys and decide who would be your own personal choice.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I suggest you look for someone fairly local who is verified on the site (genuine people turn up as arranged). Perhaps extend your age limits and look for someone in lets say Morley.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were flattered by the first single guy who messaged us and that ended up being our first mmf (and our first "swingy" meet) it was OK but not what we wanted so the next time we got to know the person and the next time was much better, we still haven't found the right one yet, but have had fun trying! lol

Like one of the posts above we like the guy to be a bit like a sex toy (not as terrible as it sounds, honestly!).

We have been doing stuff for about 3 years and still don't consider ourselves to be outside the relms of beginner! We went to our first club last week and I don't think we would have been comfortable if we hadn't had a bit of swingy fun before.

Just our thoughts!

M+J

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