FabSwingers.com forum: Deleted messages?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fab provides us many tools which we try use.

Using the bullshit thermometer we have done ok and had a lot of great meets over the years.

We both do the messages on here.

So we sometimes check where it's been left of!

If you have been chatting on and off for days.

Why are all your messages deleted?

Other half thinks it's dodgy?

Someone who doesn't want caught and is covering tracks.

During the conversation nothing untoward has happened.

We just wonder what folks have to hide?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

All messages?

Do they keep any? If they're site supporters the whole conversation will show from any one message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete most messages as soon as sent. We like a tidy inbox

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't bother deleting any but some do fall off the bottom of the screen eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All messages deleted.

Perhaps we are not asking the correct questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant beat a tidy box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need to tidy mine, its mostly empty like sahara desert lol.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I delete all, to hide from mr ocd haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All messages deleted.

Perhaps we are not asking the correct questions

???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

We agree with that.

But when you are talking with several or more folks at one time.

Whom we like, we don't delete as we use it as a tool to remind us what has been said in the past.

Saves us repeating questions.

We get the clean inboxes.

Maybe not for us, as we are not always online at the same time.

Maybe it's a confidence thing?

Chatting away but all messages are deleted!

It screams to us as people hiding things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is hiding something, wouldn't a fab profile in itself be an issue, not just the messages? Or do you mean couples who are supposed to play together messaging separately? Either way, I think you're probably reading too much into it. I often bulk delete all read messages after saving a few want to keep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All messages deleted.

Perhaps we are not asking the correct questions

???"

We look for a certain thing.

Messages go back and forth.

Distance is a problem but hey ok there is a connection here.

We don't ask cos we don't care.

Years ago we said we would not meet FBs, married people etc.

Things changed as we met some fantastic people.

We don't condone cheating but we would rather folks are honest with us.

We know that our profile is classed as new meat !

But we have been on and off fab for 5 years and met some amazing people at clubs, at socials, some from the forums.

And just the random horny meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete all but the last message as the conversation history is saved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I noticed that after 100 msgs they get automatically deleted, so save the contacts and write it down lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I noticed that after 100 msgs they get automatically deleted, so save the contacts and write it down lol."

Lucky boy!

They don't get automatically deleted

They just disappear of the page.

When you clean up your inbox they will reappear.

;-)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We delete all but the last message as the conversation history is saved "

Ok we get this.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

We agree with that.

But when you are talking with several or more folks at one time.

Whom we like, we don't delete as we use it as a tool to remind us what has been said in the past.

Saves us repeating questions.

We get the clean inboxes.

Maybe not for us, as we are not always online at the same time.

Maybe it's a confidence thing?

Chatting away but all messages are deleted!

It screams to us as people hiding things

I think you may be being rather cynical but its your profile and your instincts,if something makes you feel uncomfortable then its not going to work in the long run,If something rings my alarm bells then I just stop contact

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone is hiding something, wouldn't a fab profile in itself be an issue, not just the messages? Or do you mean couples who are supposed to play together messaging separately? Either way, I think you're probably reading too much into it. I often bulk delete all read messages after saving a few want to keep. "

If we return messages it normally means there is something in the profile we like.

It's about compatibility 2 into 3 or 4 into 4.

We are happy to chat along as it both of us who do the messaging but we will get bored if it does not lead anywhere

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

you're reading too much into it lol.

I save one message in a stream, and delete the rest. And always delete messages from cock profile pics. Nothing worse to me than seeing my message list and its 'cock, cock, cock, cock, silhouette, arse, cock, cock, cock, arse, cock, cock, cock, cock, cock' ....

Ya dig?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"you're reading too much into it lol.

Ya dig?

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

We agree with that.

But when you are talking with several or more folks at one time.

Whom we like, we don't delete as we use it as a tool to remind us what has been said in the past.

Saves us repeating questions.

We get the clean inboxes.

Maybe not for us, as we are not always online at the same time.

Maybe it's a confidence thing?

Chatting away but all messages are deleted!

It screams to us as people hiding things

The deleting is the only thing!

We understand different folks like different strokes.

But I think you hit the nail on the head at the end.

We like lots of things but sometimes it's intonation that says walk away.

Thanks

A&J

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you're reading too much into it lol.

Ya dig?

Yes we do dig!

We used to live in northants.

Why did we not meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

We agree with that.

But when you are talking with several or more folks at one time.

Whom we like, we don't delete as we use it as a tool to remind us what has been said in the past.

Saves us repeating questions.

We get the clean inboxes.

Maybe not for us, as we are not always online at the same time.

Maybe it's a confidence thing?

Chatting away but all messages are deleted!

It screams to us as people hiding things

Guessing you are rather correct.

We all have our own alarm bells.

Which is a shame as we can't tar everyone with the same brush.

That's why we are asking for folks experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cant beat a tidy box

Amen! Gotta have a clean inbox.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cant beat a tidy box

Amen! Gotta have a clean inbox.

Is that an euthisiam ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we keep the last read/sent ones from people and delete the rest - still lose sight of a lot until we delete some and they re-appear - its one of the things that annoys me - id like to see all our messages -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we keep the last read/sent ones from people and delete the rest - still lose sight of a lot until we delete some and they re-appear - its one of the things that annoys me - id like to see all our messages -"

Completely get that.

It's more of the fact we are messaging, which means we like the profile and the messages.

Guess we are saying is this leading anywhere.

As we have said we both do messages, taking over from where the other has left off.

It just makes us think of the folks who delete all the text messages.

Until you meet. How do you know who is genuine or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

We agree with that.

But when you are talking with several or more folks at one time.

Whom we like, we don't delete as we use it as a tool to remind us what has been said in the past.

Saves us repeating questions.

We get the clean inboxes.

Maybe not for us, as we are not always online at the same time.

Maybe it's a confidence thing?

Chatting away but all messages are deleted!

It screams to us as people hiding things

This. Trust your instincts.

We've been in similar situations mailing a 'couple' but they deleted all mail (and didn't even keep one so they get the 'mail trail'). Turned out it was the guy mailing and his wife had no idea what he was planning behind her back.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

If I want to keep a message I click on 'save' then delete it from the inbox. Keeps things more organised but have been accused of deleting a few times by people who haven't noticed the 'save' option

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people like a tidy inbox,its nothing sinister,it makes life easier to keep deleting or else messages that havn't been opened slip off the page and unless you delete some you can't read them

We agree with that.

But when you are talking with several or more folks at one time.

Whom we like, we don't delete as we use it as a tool to remind us what has been said in the past.

Saves us repeating questions.

We get the clean inboxes.

Maybe not for us, as we are not always online at the same time.

Maybe it's a confidence thing?

Chatting away but all messages are deleted!

It screams to us as people hiding things

This. Trust your instincts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I want to keep a message I click on 'save' then delete it from the inbox. Keeps things more organised but have been accused of deleting a few times by people who haven't noticed the 'save' option"

We do the same.

Usually it pics or something different.

It does help us remember who we are talking with at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's the people who have noticed saved option but deleted?

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"If I want to keep a message I click on 'save' then delete it from the inbox. Keeps things more organised but have been accused of deleting a few times by people who haven't noticed the 'save' option

What's the people who have noticed saved option but deleted?"

If you save it to your saved box then delete it from your inbox it still shows to others that is deleted I belive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I want to keep a message I click on 'save' then delete it from the inbox. Keeps things more organised but have been accused of deleting a few times by people who haven't noticed the 'save' option

What's the people who have noticed saved option but deleted?

If you save it to your saved box then delete it from your inbox it still shows to others that is deleted I belive"

Ok?

Still does not make sense chick.

We use the save option and private notes.

Other half likes to watch message history sometimes before getting involved.

Not in a bad way as we both do it

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"If I want to keep a message I click on 'save' then delete it from the inbox. Keeps things more organised but have been accused of deleting a few times by people who haven't noticed the 'save' option

What's the people who have noticed saved option but deleted?

If you save it to your saved box then delete it from your inbox it still shows to others that is deleted I belive

Ok?

Still does not make sense chick.

We use the save option and private notes.

Other half likes to watch message history sometimes before getting involved.

Not in a bad way as we both do it

I may have it wrong, but I though the original question was why some people have been deleting messages you have sent and if it meant they had something to hide?

My point is that if they have saved your message to their saved box then deleted it from their inbox, they will still have it in their saved box but will show to you as deleted. Sorry if I have not got the original question right, I blame the time lol

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