FabSwingers.com forum: Nobody's cup of tea

By *ornyfreak1 OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Hun, you could take steps to help yourself. You've got 6 pics, but essentially only 2, as they are so samey. Your profile is fairly bland.

Try adding some more representative pics, spice up the blurb. Show why someone should meet you over 94,000 other single guys

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By *ornyfreak1 OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Your advice seems sound but what kind of pictures can I take? I don't have a six pack so my abs won't look appealing? I am training for a triathlon so fitness should be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour in photos is always a good thing. Try be a bit more inventive

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By *ondiniumCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

You're probably someone's cup of tea.

Chin up, there's someone for everyone!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Make your target audience those who prefer coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can borrow my silhouette if you like, then at least you wont feel too disappointed.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

wow, thats erm... dull. Humour appeals.

And not just cock pics, we all know what one looks like - I don't think there are many shy virgins on here (well apart from my good self

haha)

You won't meet couples unless you seem some good veris... you should be so lucky mate!

Look at the successful male profiles on here, and see the effort they put in - effort in = rewards out.

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By *ornyfreak1 OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Liked your photos. Might try something similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to have a six or be an Adonis to get interest, you simply have to make you stand out in the crowd. Do a bit of research and see if you can spot why some guys who haven't got gum bodies are successful.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?"

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"You don't need to have a six or be an Adonis to get interest, you simply have to make you stand out in the crowd. Do a bit of research and see if you can spot why some guys who haven't got gum bodies are successful.

Good luck OP

Are they mint flavoured?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!"

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You'll only meet couples if they have good veris?

Um... in which case why should they not apply the same rule, which would exclude you? Couples have just as much choice on here as single women, which is lots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck OP

Are they mint flavoured?

Lol bloody autocarrot

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

I'm not greedy, I like the funny, clever and gorgeous ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?"

apart from your first paragraph which is not great, the rest is dire, and the photos as Tina says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

You take the funny/clever and i'll take all the super fit and drop dead gorgeous ones instead. Shallow?! Fuck yeh

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Nobody is no one's cup of tea. We just live in a society where people have little time (or perceive themselves as having little time), so they prioritise their likes and chase after certain types of person (the fit ones, the rich ones, the smart ones).

It's just a matter of finding a social group you can integrate with easily and happily, and you go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?"

well if they do i may as well leave now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will send a pic of yourself if you agree to meet?

So someone has to agree to meet you without seeing a pic first?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

You take the funny/clever and i'll take all the super fit and drop dead gorgeous ones instead. Shallow?! Fuck yeh

Deal!

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By *ornyfreak1 OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Wthis doesn't seem to apply to woman

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am sure there are plenty of couples that are happy to be vetted by you before you agree to meet them (sight unseen). Patience is key.

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Check out the successful guys profiles......see how they present themselves, more varied pictures, the usual things. All been said here, and more eloquently put than I can. Good luck and keep trying.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Wthis doesn't seem to apply to woman

women are in a smaller pool of fish, and some guys think any hole is a goal...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If your profile has had a lot of time and effort put into it and is the best that you can possibly do, then look at other things such as message style/content etc. if you feel your profile isn't working, then change it.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

The main response to this is that to succeed, you have to SELL yourself!

You are up against 100's of other guys seeking the same thing, so you have to make yourself stand out against the rest.

Pics wise, ditch the Cock pics to Private and put up a Facial pic or two; maybe a Torso shot too, just anything but lots of cock pics which are off-putting to some people.

Get into the Forums, go to Socials and clubs in your area or nearby; get yourself noticed.

You've only been on here for 4 months; you are still a beginner and it takes time to get success. It isn't an Instant Fix site.

Your success depends on how much you put in, effort wise but it takes a lot of patience and perseverance too.

Good Luck.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Wthis doesn't seem to apply to woman

Basic economic theory of supply and demand. You need to be the Rolls Royce of profiles not the Skoda...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need an inventive, username pics and profile, you're in a sea of men trying to get into a pond of women and couple's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biting my tongue to aviid a bsn as ssid enough about folk whinging on here you sometime get out what u put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having read your profile, I would say you were married so would avoid!

Like everyone else has said, there is nothing in it that stands out to get someone's attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

can i have the dirty

ish ones with a good sense of humour and can make me laugh and stimulate my mind then my body lol

feck that be all of 5 on site then lol

cheer yer profile up OP . use yer wit to stand out as well as some crazy ness .. good luck ....

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By *ornyfreak1 OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I have refreshed my profile wording. What do you all think. I am going to do the pics but that will take some time. Prob update those over the weekend!!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

well if thats your improvement... good luck to ya

I think the original was better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't see the original profile, don't really understand the current one

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

How does the little scenario tell us more about you, what you can bring to meet, what you would like to gain from one, what you are like as a person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're meant to be selling yourself....35 and never seen a woman cum???????? That's gonna have the women flocking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow, thats erm... dull. Humour appeals.

And not just cock pics, we all know what one looks like - I don't think there are many shy virgins on here (well apart from my good self

haha)

You won't meet couples unless you seem some good veris... you should be so lucky mate!

Look at the successful male profiles on here, and see the effort they put in - effort in = rewards out."

I need 4 more veris to make my double century....feel free to nick ideas etc...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think I'd sooner shag Forest Gump.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

You take the funny/clever and i'll take all the super fit and drop dead gorgeous ones instead. Shallow?! Fuck yeh

Deal!

Thats me sorted then, devilishly handsome, comedy genius....lets not mention my modesty though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'd sooner shag Forest Gump.

lol you're only after his chocolates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'd sooner shag Forest Gump.

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it walk on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'd sooner shag Forest Gump.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

You take the funny/clever and i'll take all the super fit and drop dead gorgeous ones instead. Shallow?! Fuck yeh

Deal!

Thats me sorted then, devilishly handsome, comedy genius....lets not mention my modesty though

Or your tardiness...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

You take the funny/clever and i'll take all the super fit and drop dead gorgeous ones instead. Shallow?! Fuck yeh

Deal!

Thats me sorted then, devilishly handsome, comedy genius....lets not mention my modesty though

Or your tardiness...

Dynamic timing actually

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"I appear to have a major problem on here. I don't appear to be anyone's cup of tea. Does everyone just want someone who is super fit and drop dead gorgeous?

In a word - yes!! Why would anybody not?!

Oh speak for yourself lady... I'd like the funny, clever ones please.

You take the funny/clever and i'll take all the super fit and drop dead gorgeous ones instead. Shallow?! Fuck yeh

Deal!

Thats me sorted then, devilishly handsome, comedy genius....lets not mention my modesty though

Or your tardiness...

Dynamic timing actually

Awwww it's getting like Swingers Reunited in here!!

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By *aurenkaWoman
over a year ago

London

Show pictures which are flattering.

Flat bum is not appealing at all.

Put some effort to shot them, if you can by yourself ask photographer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 out of 10 women in the NE prefer tall lads and im a midget so thats my downfall but i have other talents but too many knock backs can get to me

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"9 out of 10 women in the NE prefer tall lads and im a midget so thats my downfall but i have other talents but too many knock backs can get to me "

Have you emailed all the women in the NE? And have honestly 90% of them said they won't meet you because you are too short? That still leaves 10% that will meet you.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

You've never seen a woman cum???? What, NEVER??!! Really??? To be honest I would keep that to yourself if its true, not really a selling point is it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've never seen a woman cum???? What, NEVER??!! Really??? To be honest I would keep that to yourself if its true, not really a selling point is it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Besides all the great advice already posted (yes your pics would turn us off immediately and your profile text doesn't jump and shout "hey I'm local and worth a chat") try changing your status to one that people can engage with. Say something funny or ask a question. That way you might get people replying and you can get chatting. We've made a few friends this way. Stating that you're horny is no surprise and there is little to say in reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've never seen a woman cum???? What, NEVER??!! Really??? To be honest I would keep that to yourself if its true, not really a selling point is it??

Was just about to post the same thing...

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

'When he comes back, she is combing her hair. Except for a pair of the cheap, black panties one finds on the counters in Monoprix, she is naked. She smiles at him, a little stiffly, a little uncertain.'

A random quote from your profile....please explain why it is there and what the hell it even means? I'm sure anyone reading your profile would read that and go "eh???". It seems totally irrelevant, or am I missing something? And what is Monoprix??

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By *ornyfreak1 OP Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Well it's from an erotica book. I've seen other people with quotes like that and it makes me think so I thought I'd try it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Monoprix is a cheap French supermarket.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Well it's from an erotica book. I've seen other people with quotes like that and it makes me think so I thought I'd try it

Try to think of something yourself!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Monoprix is a cheap French supermarket. "

Ohhh right.....should have said Aldi.....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tip... It's not a sex site (although most guys seem to think it is!?), it's a swinger site, big difference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"9 out of 10 women in the NE prefer tall lads and im a midget so thats my downfall but i have other talents but too many knock backs can get to me "

5'9 isn't too short. I have met a man who is 5'5, but I prefer to meet taller men, fun can be had sometimes, it's all about the connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have refreshed my profile wording. What do you all think. I am going to do the pics but that will take some time. Prob update those over the weekend!!"

The Forrest Gump quote doesn't appeal and sorry but your profile name doesn't either.

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By *.LBCouple
over a year ago

South

stretchygirl seemed to find you ok'ish

Not sure what your rambling on about in your profile mind

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Im training to run several marathons, but that does not mean i am everyones cup of tea or fit how they want me to be. If online does not work, when you have done all you can, then meet in public. Ultimately there will be some people whe are less successful or attractive than others. But you only need enough to be satisfied yourself. I really dont think swinging is perfect for all when solely operated from the net. And yes, there are quite a few more guys for every female, so you need to do what you can to improve your chances.

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