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By *ones132 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

I am confused. They "specifically requested Asian types" because they hate "Pakis" (no apostrophe on plurals). Are they very bad at sex and want to meet them to get them to regret the meeting? I do agree though naked racism should not be tollerated in here.

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By *evilish_intentionsMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think the reply you received was out of order, but to be honest you were probably best just leaving them and not asking the question. People are entitled to their preferences and unless they've chosen to explain their reasoning on their profile, it's not really worth 'enquiring' about their thought process. I'm not saying everyone with such a "preference" is ignorant or racist, but you're going to get some element of that at the end of the day.

Plenty of hot girls and couples on here that are more open minded in any case, so why waste your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are small minded bigoted people in all walks of society, particularly in forums and Web chat as for the most part it's anonymous.

If we spotted racism or anything of that kind we would report it.

Should not be tolerated no matter who it is and who it's aimed at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

I'm assuming that it's a typo and tge profile said 'no asians'? In which case it does prompt the question why were you questioning their preferences?

Which isn't to say that racism is acceptable - of course it isn't. But racists are pretty common and it's sadlyniave to believe that there are non on here or that fab can do much about them. But it's also wrong to think every preference is representative of a prejudice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are small minded bigoted people in all walks of society, particularly in forums and Web chat as for the most part it's anonymous.

If we spotted racism or anything of that kind we would report it.

Should not be tolerated no matter who it is and who it's aimed at. "

Absolutely!! Bad things happen when good people tolerate everything and do nothing. Speak out! Don't be afraid to challenge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness

I'm assuming that it's a typo and tge profile said 'no asians'? In which case it does prompt the question why were you questioning their preferences?

Which isn't to say that racism is acceptable - of course it isn't. But racists are pretty common and it's sadlyniave to believe that there are non on here or that fab can do much about them. But it's also wrong to think every preference is representative of a prejudice"

Correct people have the right to choose who they invite into their private lives.

As long as it's done in a non offensive way then that's ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot stand racist or bigots of any sort. Be it colour or religion. Served in Bosnia while in the army and saw too many horrors.

The thought of it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are racists everywhere and we challenge it when we come across it. However as others have we're not sure why you would message anyone questioning their preferences although we often get messages asking why we won't meet attached men alone.

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By *ones132 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

My thoughts exactly - I was rightly confused but put it down to an individual who had some bad experiences with that type and wanted to hit back by personally abusing any Asian guy responding to their profile

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By *ones132 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

It wasn't a typo and I questioned their preference because it was something I'd never come across before so curiosity got the better of me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It wasn't a typo and I questioned their preference because it was something I'd never come across before so curiosity got the better of me "

They specifically requested Asian men then abused them when they responded? How odd, hope you reported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are small minded bigoted people in all walks of society, particularly in forums and Web chat as for the most part it's anonymous.

If we spotted racism or anything of that kind we would report it.

Should not be tolerated no matter who it is and who it's aimed at.

Absolutely!! Bad things happen when good people tolerate everything and do nothing. Speak out! Don't be afraid to challenge!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My thoughts exactly - I was rightly confused but put it down to an individual who had some bad experiences with that type and wanted to hit back by personally abusing any Asian guy responding to their profile"

But I still fail to see why anyone would rmessage a profile where they clearly don't match the preferences that are expressed? Or question those preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never seen any racism on here, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen though.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wasn't a typo and I questioned their preference because it was something I'd never come across before so curiosity got the better of me

They specifically requested Asian men then abused them when they responded? How odd, hope you reported."

He does say that he did and the profile was removed

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness

I'm assuming that it's a typo and tge profile said 'no asians'? In which case it does prompt the question why were you questioning their preferences?

Which isn't to say that racism is acceptable - of course it isn't. But racists are pretty common and it's sadlyniave to believe that there are non on here or that fab can do much about them. But it's also wrong to think every preference is representative of a prejudice"

Why can't Fab do anything about them? hey own the site and if reported it should be dealt with severely . It's casual attitudes to the seriousness of racism like yours that allows people to get away with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness

I'm assuming that it's a typo and tge profile said 'no asians'? In which case it does prompt the question why were you questioning their preferences?

Which isn't to say that racism is acceptable - of course it isn't. But racists are pretty common and it's sadlyniave to believe that there are non on here or that fab can do much about them. But it's also wrong to think every preference is representative of a prejudice

Why can't Fab do anything about them? hey own the site and if reported it should be dealt with severely . It's casual attitudes to the seriousness of racism like yours that allows people to get away with it "

I think most people on the forum will tellyou that I have nothing approacjing a 'casual attitude' towards racism (or any form of bigotry for that matter) and regularly challenge people's prejudices on the forums.

The point that I was making is that prejudices can always be defended by preferences and that preferences are far from an indicator of any more sinister prejudices. So unless someone posts something similar to what the OP refers to then there is nothing that can be done by the site

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By *ones132 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

Preferences are perfectly acceptable - this incident was more like a honey trap of hate - so individuals would be lured and racially abused

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've not seen much if any racism on here, and never at clubs. People fancy who they do, irrespective of race, so it's only about the non-sexual stuff that we can look.

The insult you received was wrong, and the user is no longer here. Like any user who has left for any reason, they may try to return. Fab has restrictions on who can join and use the site, for all kinds of reasons, so we have to trust them to do their work - and help out by reporting stuff that we think contravenes site rules - it's a 2 way street, we can't expect fab to do everything without our own effort. You did yours by reporting. I'd also not detail anything that has happened in the past in clear detail, as it could attract the wrong kind of attention.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


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Why can't Fab do anything about them? hey own the site and if reported it should be dealt with severely . It's casual attitudes to the seriousness of racism like yours that allows people to get away with it "

The OP reported it and says that the person was removed from the site. Suggests to me that it was dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why can't Fab do anything about them? hey own the site and if reported it should be dealt with severely . It's casual attitudes to the seriousness of racism like yours that allows people to get away with it

The OP reported it and says that the person was removed from the site. Suggests to me that it was dealt with."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just had a couple message me sayiny i was perfect..apart from the fact "i fuck blacks"

Checked theyre profile and 8 mins ago they updated a racist status

They then messaged the fact i had touched a black meant they.would never consider me...

Ha!! jog on then!! im a bbc.lover...beats being racist for sure xx

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I dont wont or would never meet/have sex with anyone other than white, as its my choice and do not expect to be questioned, the answer is just because

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By *ones132 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

Hope you reported them

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"Preferences are perfectly acceptable - this incident was more like a honey trap of hate - so individuals would be lured and racially abused"

Oh gosh that's dreadful,, you behaved impeccably, but your right they are probably back on under a new name,, it's similar to the trolls on other sites, they feel powerful having got a rise out of people,,, I'm sorry that happened to you x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

After millions of years of evolution it's about time that everyone twigged on to the fact that we are all human and that someone with a different skin colour isn't that different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After millions of years of evolution it's about time that everyone twigged on to the fact that we are all human and that someone with a different skin colour isn't that different. "

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By *evilish_intentionsMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"After millions of years of evolution it's about time that everyone twigged on to the fact that we are all human and that someone with a different skin colour isn't that different. "

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg


"After millions of years of evolution it's about time that everyone twigged on to the fact that we are all human and that someone with a different skin colour isn't that different. "

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I dont wont or would never meet/have sex with anyone other than white, as its my choice and do not expect to be questioned, the answer is just because "

Will you report it please. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously, I wouldn't waste any more time on it. You've reported them, and that's commendable, but I think you shouldn't let it absorb any more of your life.

If someone doesn't want to get intimate with a person of a different gender or ethnic background then so be it. Leave them to their opinions and preferences.

The OP's experience was a truly dreadful one and it was right to bring it to the attention of admin. However, I genuinely cringe when I see posts from single guys bemoaning the preferences of other users that exclude them. The notion that an individual can change the sexual and social preferences of another user by creating a discussion thread on a forum is ridiculous.

Personally, If I find a profile that excludes me on the grounds that I'm black, I simply move on. It's no difference to them not wanted to meet someone of a sexual orientation. For example, if I stated that I'm not looking to meet Asian bi-guys, does that make me a racist homophobe?

My only regret is that people who exclude me on the grounds of my skin colour are missing out.

Because I'm awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am of Polish descent, and I meet often with racism and feels bad

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By *tretchygirl and tintinWoman
over a year ago

Dartford


"There are small minded bigoted people in all walks of society, particularly in forums and Web chat as for the most part it's anonymous.

If we spotted racism or anything of that kind we would report it.

Should not be tolerated no matter who it is and who it's aimed at.

Absolutely!! Bad things happen when good people tolerate everything and do nothing. Speak out! Don't be afraid to challenge!"

There's a historian who wrote "the path to hatred is paved with indifference". I've always thought this to be a truism in this situation. The historian is called Raul Hilberg and he was writing about the Holocaust, an extremely heinous act of racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are small minded bigoted people in all walks of society, particularly in forums and Web chat as for the most part it's anonymous.

If we spotted racism or anything of that kind we would report it.

Should not be tolerated no matter who it is and who it's aimed at.

Absolutely!! Bad things happen when good people tolerate everything and do nothing. Speak out! Don't be afraid to challenge!

There's a historian who wrote "the path to hatred is paved with indifference". I've always thought this to be a truism in this situation. The historian is called Raul Hilberg and he was writing about the Holocaust, an extremely heinous act of racism."

I would disagree there,The death camps were filled will Polish, Germans, Russians, British..In fact every race in the western world.

I Think that you are confusing race with Religeion.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Religion even

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really."

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others profiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have Indian friends who dislike Pakistanis. Apparently they regard them as a lower race. Plus there are the old tensions between the countries.

So they would specify which Asians they would meet...if they were on here.

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Don't know about some of you on here but there's something not quite right about this thread. Rather not say anything more . Strange sensation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

Were they not being sarcastic in their response. To me if they had specifically put Asians as a preference then surely that's because they like Asians. It's like asking for an apple pie and being asked why apple "because I fucking hate apples". I could be wrong of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist "

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time. Sometimes if it doesn't happen to you, it may not really make much sense.

I'm used to it now. It's part and parcel of fab now.

What i find unacceptable is when those i've had 'sexual' meets with end up getting abuse because they've met me.

Now, i just tend to hide those verifications and one of the reasons i don't show who i'm friends with.

I'm here looking for the same thing as everyone else.

Mind you, sometimes it works in my favour. I'm their first.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO "

WOW!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Why do people feel the need to be racist

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO "

What about people that only want blondes/BBW/white guys etc should they all go to a different site as well then?

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

I must add that I wonder about the "reverse racism" which comes from the person who has been rejected.

A chap sent me his face pic and I replied with my standard sentence :"I am sad to say that you are not what I am looking for, sorry.

Happy hunting.

Jane"

I then got two messages back saying that he knew very well why I didn't want to meet him; it was due to his ethnic origin . . . etc.

So he decided what I was thinking !??

I don't get it.

Jane x

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Why do people feel the need to be racist

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO "
WTF!!?? How about you go to another site with your VSM ( very small mind ) would that be a reasonable request too? Or maybe just stick to your own likes and leave others to theirs?

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness

I am confused. They "specifically requested Asian types" because they hate "Pakis" (no apostrophe on plurals). Are they very bad at sex and want to meet them to get them to regret the meeting? I do agree though naked racism should not be tollerated in here."

There is an apostrophe in Paki's because it is an abbreviation of Pakistanis.

Just a point of order.

Anyway, all racism is utterly deplorable and indefensible. There are never mitigating circumstances. Ever.

End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO "

Is that because some women won"t meet you? So the point of this site is for all women to meet you and never say no? Now who needs a different site? ))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's simple on fab if you follow some easy steps. Report any hate attacks on others, block perpetrators and generally go about getting to know people you like.

Everyone has sexual preferences for partners and whilst some may be linked to hidden racism, the majority is just others' rights to consent with whoever they choose.

Fab has lots of people turned down, or never hearing from other, possibly blocked in the process. That is a hotbed for some to perceive incorrect motivation.

Sometimes you just have to accept that you're not all that you may have inflated your ego to be, maybe most don't find you attractive. Deal with yourself first and realize if you're prejudiced by hate that it's unattractive too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate peanut butter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He'll I get shed loads of rejections, I don't see that as people being racist..If someone puts their page no black or Asian. .then see ya..I won't message them..BUT...I'm not black and I'm not Asian either, I'm mixed race..that's half white! & half West Indian!. but that don't seem to make any difference..I like women round my own age and not younger...does that make me ageist

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"He'll I get shed loads of rejections, I don't see that as people being racist..If someone puts their page no black or Asian. .then see ya..I won't message them..BUT...I'm not black and I'm not Asian either, I'm mixed race..that's half white! & half West Indian!. but that don't seem to make any difference..I like women round my own age and not younger...does that make me ageist "

Take some advice from a realist (me) who sees the world for what it is and not what they wish it to be (those that think race doesn't matter to the majority because it doesn't matter to them)

State on your profile, at the beginning, what your racial mix is as to my eyes you look like you're of Asian origin.

There are many who will not meet Asian men but happily see black or a black/white mixed race combination.

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"Preferences are perfectly acceptable - this incident was more like a honey trap of hate - so individuals would be lured and racially abused"

Obviously just a sad individual wanting to racially abuse behind a screen...glad you reported it...I wonder if that shitty person would ever have the balls to confront those he/she hates in person though, I doubt it very much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He'll I get shed loads of rejections, I don't see that as people being racist..If someone puts their page no black or Asian. .then see ya..I won't message them..BUT...I'm not black and I'm not Asian either, I'm mixed race..that's half white! & half West Indian!. but that don't seem to make any difference..I like women round my own age and not younger...does that make me ageist

Take some advice from a realist (me) who sees the world for what it is and not what they wish it to be (those that think race doesn't matter to the majority because it doesn't matter to them)

State on your profile, at the beginning, what your racial mix is as to my eyes you look like you're of Asian origin.

There are many who will not meet Asian men but happily see black or a black/white mixed race combination."

Lmao...thanks your not the 1st person to think that, I'll give it a go...had someone once think I chinese origin .

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Lmao...thanks your not the 1st person to think that, I'll give it a go...had someone once think I chinese origin ."

You're most welcome, fam . . . . . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmao...thanks your not the 1st person to think that, I'll give it a go...had someone once think I chinese origin .

You're most welcome, fam . . . . . . . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We refuse to meet whoever we personally dont find attractive. ..to us..(think shallow hal)...if someone has a blanket ban on a group of people because of their race or sexual orientation. ..surely you should be able to read something into their personality. ..and step quietly away. ..

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Lmao...thanks your not the 1st person to think that, I'll give it a go...had someone once think I chinese origin .

You're most welcome, fam . . . . . . .

??"

Fam, bredren, blood, my ni...

Take a gander at my profile and the penny will drop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We refuse to meet whoever we personally dont find attractive. ..to us..(think shallow hal)...if someone has a blanket ban on a group of people because of their race or sexual orientation. ..surely you should be able to read something into their personality. ..and step quietly away. .."

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Sometimes I think it says more about the person that takes offence to the fact someone has specifically placed a preference for no asians, blacks even caucasions on there profile, oh they dont want to meet my race so therefore must be racist - No thats not always the case.

Id never sleep with anyone I dont find attractive for whatever reason, we all have certain things that make us tick. Personally When meeting I request no asians, not because Im racist but because Ive been unfortunate to have nothing but bad experiences from meeting asian men in the past and now its put me off yet i get abuse for being racist, funnily enough I also request a preference for people around my own age as im more attracted to them, yet ive never been abused for being ageist yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok ...but still think its better to say no to people individually. ...than to reject a race completely......then your not open to allegations of racism. . Thats if you GAF....lol

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Ok ...but still think its better to say no to people individually. ...than to reject a race completely......then your not open to allegations of racism. . Thats if you GAF....lol"

I don't say "no" individually to short men. Infact I go as far as putting a height restriction; any man under 5'11", as far as I am concerned, is short

So why should I say "no" individually to Asians?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok ...but still think its better to say no to people individually. ...than to reject a race completely......then your not open to allegations of racism. .

Thats if you GAF....lol"

Could not agree more lol

"I judge by race but am NOT racist."

Confused much?

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO "

Why?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Ok ...but still think its better to say no to people individually. ...than to reject a race completely......then your not open to allegations of racism. . Thats if you GAF....lol"

Tried that before and have still had the accusations of being racist for saying no because I have no verifications from asian men (yet do black men), you just cant win with some people as they just cant handle the rejection playing the 'oh your racist card' is the easy and quite frankly hurtful option to take. If someone is going to still reject them, surely by requesting the preference in the first place stops the guy from wasting his time messaging them just to be told no thanks or to have the message just be deleted.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Ok ...but still think its better to say no to people individually. ...than to reject a race completely......then your not open to allegations of racism. . Thats if you GAF....lol

Tried that before and have still had the accusations of being racist for saying no because I have no verifications from asian men (yet do black men), you just cant win with some people as they just cant handle the rejection playing the 'oh your racist card' is the easy and quite frankly hurtful option to take. If someone is going to still reject them, surely by requesting the preference in the first place stops the guy from wasting his time messaging them just to be told no thanks or to have the message just be deleted."

Also by thar logic there shouldnt be an option to block people outside of your age range as all the guys that message outside that range must be told no individually or that makes us all ageist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others profiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences. "

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Technically even using bbc is racist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile defines my personal preference and yet I have received abusive messages accusing me of being racist! They are my individual choice just as I refer to my preference for big cocks. I should not have to explain my personal choices. If you do not like them pass by without comment to someone who meets your criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

. I should not have to explain my personal choices. If you do not like them pass by without comment to someone who meets your criteria. "

Once again it's just the people crying that people won't fuck them that have a problem with it. Entitlement... yawn....

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Technically even using bbc is racist "

Technically even using "no gays" is homophobic, "no over 50s" is ageist .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences. "

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live and let live...

Life is less stressful that way... And less stress equates to better, more regular orgasms I'm sure!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x"

Yes but sometimes requesting what you DON'T want is a shorter way of telling the people what you DO want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x"

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Why do people feel the need to be racist

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO "

for every profile that says BBC only (which isn't a phrase i like to be honest) I bet I can find one that says Caucasian/White guys only.......

do you have the same opinion of those people.... or is that okay because you are included???

you prefer older women and aren't looking for men.... should i throw the terms ageist, and homophobic at you... and say that you should be on a different site?????

you have actually highlighted the main problem..... people are bitch and moan and find a way to whinge about the things that may exclude them.....

I've come to the radical thought that if I am not what people want.... i move on to the next profile.....

I know.... revolutionary!!!!!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x"

I really hope their answer to this is no its not ok, considering it still discounts other races. Otherwise theres a serious double standard present

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist

Why do people feel the need to use prefetnces as a form of attack be it race or size or anything

Plus I actually find it offensive that there are hundreds of women that but BBC only... Go to a differnt site IMO

for every profile that says BBC only (which isn't a phrase i like to be honest) I bet I can find one that says Caucasian/White guys only.......

do you have the same opinion of those people.... or is that okay because you are included???

you prefer older women and aren't looking for men.... should i throw the terms ageist, and homophobic at you... and say that you should be on a different site?????

you have actually highlighted the main problem..... people are bitch and moan and find a way to whinge about the things that may exclude them.....

I've come to the radical thought that if I am not what people want.... i move on to the next profile.....

I know.... revolutionary!!!!!

"

Wise words Fabio!

I have only met white women on here because of simple attraction.

I only get meets with people attracted to me. There are many ladies on here I would love to meet, but they just don't like me. I have to move on. But I will chat with anyone. I do actively report racist comments as there is no place for them on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x"

Yes. Totally okay.

They're stating their preference.

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x

I really hope their answer to this is no its not ok, considering it still discounts other races. Otherwise theres a serious double standard present "

You totally misunderstand...

Everyone has a right to like who they like.

It's all about how that preference is conveyed...

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x

I really hope their answer to this is no its not ok, considering it still discounts other races. Otherwise theres a serious double standard present

You totally misunderstand...

Everyone has a right to like who they like.

It's all about how that preference is conveyed...

"

I don't think that a 'White Mans Fan Club' will go down as well as a 'Black Mans Fan Club'

Just for the record, I would be visting both

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x

I really hope their answer to this is no its not ok, considering it still discounts other races. Otherwise theres a serious double standard present

You totally misunderstand...

Everyone has a right to like who they like.

It's all about how that preference is conveyed...

"

Stating "white people only" still as a racist undertone if people want to take it offensively so it is no different on that level

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"

Everyone has a right to like who they like.

It's all about how that preference is conveyed...

"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't think that a 'White Mans Fan Club' will go down as well as a 'Black Mans Fan Club'

Just for the record, I would be visting both"

Ha ha me too !

(with the OH of course - mmf research purposes)

S x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

Stating "white people only" still as a racist undertone if people want to take it offensively so it is no different on that level "

so could i call you ageist for having an age range preference.... it offends me!

I am sure that even you are attracted to certain types of guys... you are almost saying you are allowed to have them but not allowed the express them (within reason)

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"

Stating "white people only" still as a racist undertone if people want to take it offensively so it is no different on that level

so could i call you ageist for having an age range preference.... it offends me!

I am sure that even you are attracted to certain types of guys... you are almost saying you are allowed to have them but not allowed the express them (within reason)"

Ive already made the same agrument for people with age preferences being ageist earlier in the thread. I realy dont understand why saying whites only isnt more/less racist than asking for no asians is. My argument is its a matter of how people percieve such comments

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

This is a swinging site and just like a dating site first there must be physical attraction...

If you don't fit into someone's personal preference, don't question them... It doesn't make them racist because they aren't attracted to you, but makes you look immature for asking.

What the OP experienced after that wasn't right and I'm glad that the person was removed from Fab.

In my personal experience so far on fab I have had a few negative replies after rejecting people whom I wasn't attracted to and so now I don't bother replying.

I'm attached to Caucasian/white men BUT that doesn't mean I like ALL white men and just because I say I'm not attracted to Asian or black men, doesn't mean that there aren't a few exceptions.

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Technically even using bbc is racist

Technically even using "no gays" is homophobic, "no over 50s" is ageist ....."

Life's to short for labels. But you are correct

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

Ive already made the same agrument for people with age preferences being ageist earlier in the thread. I realy dont understand why saying whites only isnt more/less racist than asking for no asians is. My argument is its a matter of how people percieve such comments "

some people are always going to be offended for the sake of being offended... why should anyone have to pander to those people

if you dont express any preference than everyone on the site is going to email everyone.......

at the end of the day you are going to have to use some tools for people to narrow down what they way... and to express to others what they want....

so for example there is a huge difference between saying "no black guys" and saying "no N(word)"

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"

I don't think that a 'White Mans Fan Club' will go down as well as a 'Black Mans Fan Club'

Just for the record, I would be visting both

Ha ha me too !

(with the OH of course - mmf research purposes)

S x"

But ofcourse My 'research' is on-going too; x

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"

Ive already made the same agrument for people with age preferences being ageist earlier in the thread. I realy dont understand why saying whites only isnt more/less racist than asking for no asians is. My argument is its a matter of how people percieve such comments

some people are always going to be offended for the sake of being offended... why should anyone have to pander to those people

if you dont express any preference than everyone on the site is going to email everyone.......

at the end of the day you are going to have to use some tools for people to narrow down what they way... and to express to others what they want....

so for example there is a huge difference between saying "no black guys" and saying "no N(word)"

"

I completely agree and its the point I was trying to make just not so eloquently put as you have.

There will be some that take affence at being called white considering the PC term is caucasion. All depends on the individual

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Its far nicer to read a profile that states what they do want very eloquently rather than a profile that shouts about what they don't want rather harshly

At least to the intelligent and mature reader the preferences are obvious to see,to anyone else reading .....well they will find an arguement with their own shadow and no amount of logical reasoning will work with them so it's best not to even bother

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Its far nicer to read a profile that states what they do want very eloquently rather than a profile that shouts about what they don't want rather harshly

At least to the intelligent and mature reader the preferences are obvious to see,to anyone else reading .....well they will find an arguement with their own shadow and no amount of logical reasoning will work with them so it's best not to even bother "

Absolutely correct. And this would work very well where there are 'intelligent and mature readers'

I have tried that and found this particular category to be in very short supply here

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Its far nicer to read a profile that states what they do want very eloquently rather than a profile that shouts about what they don't want rather harshly

At least to the intelligent and mature reader the preferences are obvious to see,to anyone else reading .....well they will find an arguement with their own shadow and no amount of logical reasoning will work with them so it's best not to even bother

Absolutely correct. And this would work very well where there are 'intelligent and mature readers'

I have tried that and found this particular category to be in very short supply here"

Thats true but I find they're easily ignored

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester


"It wasn't a typo and I questioned their preference because it was something I'd never come across before so curiosity got the better of me "

Maybe the answer was a sarcastic one because you were questioning their personal prefences, which are personal. Maybe in this situation it was you who brought the ugly spectre of racism to the table and killed the 'golden goose' and not the couple who were actively inviting people into their bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems very strange! to request an Asian then give abuse seems very odd.

We state on our profile no Asians, nothing Racist about it just not our type. some people like young, some like old, some like red heads, some prefer blonds, each to their own really.

Agree with this, sometimes people see personal choice on others Ivprofiles and call it racism, all the arguments in the world aren't going to make people change their personal preferences.

I don't think I've EVER seen anyone try to change another person's 'preference'?

Incidentally - a 'choice' or 'preference' is pointing out what you DO want - not what you DON'T

S x

Fair point.

Question... if they stated 'white people only' they are stating what they do want... so that would be ok? x

I really hope their answer to this is no its not ok, considering it still discounts other races. Otherwise theres a serious double standard present

You totally misunderstand...

Everyone has a right to like who they like.

It's all about how that preference is conveyed...

"

Another fair point. I agree. There's lots of people I wouldn't meet but I don't shout about it. It just seems angry. I find other ways to put them off.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

We are a mixed couple and we often just browse profiles to seek out suitable play partners. We see profiles stating " Caucasians only / white only. / no black / no asian etc etc". The way we see it is that people are stating their preference as to who they wanna get jiggy with, just as it is our preference to preventatively block them..... simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate peanut butter "
well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hate is a strong word i prefer to use detest

just as you dont want to meet a black person or asian doesnt make you asian, just like if you dont want to meet a white person irs preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op has misinterpreted the response, it was sarcasm not racism, is it not obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "
I agree with all you say. But what I can't understand is why you would message someone to ask why they have that preference. !! If someone had will not meet white guys I would not dream of messaging them to ask why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I have been on the receiving end of both "racism" and ageism here in Fab. Before anyone jumps to condemn me for being immature about it, I'm not referring to people who state preferences on their profiles, after all we are all entitled to our own choices.

I have been rejected at swing parties before simply because the other couple or female thinks that I'm too young to be swinging. Or worse, I have ever been snubbed by a male half of a couple where the girl wanted to play but he didn't "because he's Asian". I find that if single white males already have a hard time here locally then Internationals like me who are no less genuine have it even harder and worse, even if we go out of our way to mingle and mix in and interact. And the worst thing is that nobody seems to complain about doing Asian women, but once they see you're an Asian man they run for the hills thinking they're too good to play with them.

Just my two cents. I don't plan go quit fab as yet, but frankly all this ageism and "race judging" crap has made me increasingly disillusioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The op has misinterpreted the response, it was sarcasm not racism, is it not obvious "

Judging by the above responses, obviously not!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say there are alot of racist people on here, iv been cussed because im asian, iv got a big cock, i know how to use it, im good in bed :D, oh well im still getting meets on this site and off the site :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say there are alot of racist people on here, iv been cussed because im asian, iv got a big cock, i know how to use it, im good in bed :D, oh well im still getting meets on this site and off the site :D"

nah arrogance doesnt help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this racism stuff folk go on about is ridiculous in relation to fab its personal choice and the folk moaning who seem to be asian ironically need to grow up accept the fact.

Some folk say will meet black guys only do I take to forums and whinge its pathetic.

If people cannot do anything else bar whinge and use skin colour as barrier to meets leave the site its not rocket science.

As most folk do accept we all have preferences I have met asians whites chinese etc makes no odds to me if the people are nice nowt else matters

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist? "

No, it's no different to preferring blondes to brunettes

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Have to say there are alot of racist people on here, iv been cussed because im asian, iv got a big cock, i know how to use it, im good in bed :D, oh well im still getting meets on this site and off the site :D"

so if I find you a profile than says asian guys only.... I want you to use that exact reasoning to turn then down....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definately an appalling way to behave when derogatory terms are used toward someone because of their skin colour .

But people will have preferences and that's cool , but we have enjoyed playing with every colour / creed / race and loved every minute .

The skin colour doesn't come into it , it's the person , and its to our advantage when others use skin colour as a filter

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist? "

race isn't the only fetish.... we can use age? or height? or some mentions hair colour? eye colour? oooh... size!! how about size?

so where do you then stop......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

. I should not have to explain my personal choices. If you do not like them pass by without comment to someone who meets your criteria.

Once again it's just the people crying that people won't fuck them that have a problem with it. Entitlement... yawn...."

Something on this site for everyone. People need to concentrate on who will meet them and it will be a lot more fun on here.

Don't give racists and knobheads the publicity.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist?

race isn't the only fetish.... we can use age? or height? or some mentions hair colour? eye colour? oooh... size!! how about size?

so where do you then stop......"

It's not the only fetish for sure, but it can be a really derogetory one. Last week a guy asked via pm session if I wanted his 'n*gger dick', so he's ok with using that language, but if I said I was looking for ND I'd look nothing but racist surely?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist?

race isn't the only fetish.... we can use age? or height? or some mentions hair colour? eye colour? oooh... size!! how about size?

so where do you then stop......

It's not the only fetish for sure, but it can be a really derogetory one. Last week a guy asked via pm session if I wanted his 'n*gger dick', so he's ok with using that language, but if I said I was looking for ND I'd look nothing but racist surely? "

some people are.... i had a couple i was chatting to slip that into a conversation and i immediately blocked them.....

people in the end will only use language other people accept.... its not acceptable language for me and i let them know.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

Why would you even message someone whos requests you don't fall into?

Of course calling someone a paki is out of order but I also feel mailing someone to ask why they don't meet Asians is wrong too, if you respected their wishes and didn't mail them it would have saved all this

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist?

race isn't the only fetish.... we can use age? or height? or some mentions hair colour? eye colour? oooh... size!! how about size?

so where do you then stop......

It's not the only fetish for sure, but it can be a really derogetory one. Last week a guy asked via pm session if I wanted his 'n*gger dick', so he's ok with using that language, but if I said I was looking for ND I'd look nothing but racist surely?

some people are.... i had a couple i was chatting to slip that into a conversation and i immediately blocked them.....

people in the end will only use language other people accept.... its not acceptable language for me and i let them know......."

I was really shocked. Not my place to call him out on it in any way, but I'd never use it. I've had similar encounters with other black men in person, I'm lucky I get to suck dick because no matter how confused I am by someone else's language I'm not likely to give an ignorant or inappropriate response with cock in my mouyh :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist? "
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What about not fetishising anything but just finding certain traits attractive and others not? And making syre that the bearers of the latter refrain from messaging?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"I see a lot of people specifically looking for big black dicks or asian women - isn't fetishising race also racist? u

What about not fetishising anything but just finding certain traits attractive and others not? And making syre that the bearers of the latter refrain from messaging?"

I'm not against fetishism. I love shoes, tightlacing, bdsm and so on. And I'm not against people having fetishism over bodies - muscles, beards, piercings, tattoos. I'm not such a hardcore fetishist that I need all or any of these things present though.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I hate peanut butter well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word "

OK. How about, "I am not sexually attracted to peanut butter"; better?

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over a year ago


"I hate peanut butter well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word

OK. How about, "I am not sexually attracted to peanut butter"; better? "
yeah that's better but peanut butter can be very erotic if Yer just give it a chance

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I hate peanut butter well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word

OK. How about, "I am not sexually attracted to peanut butter"; better? yeah that's better but peanut butter can be very erotic if Yer just give it a chance "

What your stance on Chrunchy or smooth peanut butter? Its not fair to say you arent attracted to all peanut butters

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I hate peanut butter well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word

OK. How about, "I am not sexually attracted to peanut butter"; better? yeah that's better but peanut butter can be very erotic if Yer just give it a chance

What your stance on Chrunchy or smooth peanut butter? Its not fair to say you arent attracted to all peanut butters "

What? I now have to say "no" individually to each jar of peanut butter otherwise I am suspected of anaphylaxis racism

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I hate peanut butter well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word

OK. How about, "I am not sexually attracted to peanut butter"; better? yeah that's better but peanut butter can be very erotic if Yer just give it a chance

What your stance on Chrunchy or smooth peanut butter? Its not fair to say you arent attracted to all peanut butters

What? I now have to say "no" individually to each jar of peanut butter otherwise I am suspected of anaphylaxis racism

"

But of course as we all know stating you have a preference is just a polite way to disguise your blatant racism. How could you be so foolish to assume otherwise?

Oh n Dont forget to check the jars weight and its use by date or you may be considered sizeist or ageist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've reported a few racists on here in the past, it should not be tolerated but it only reflects on what society is like. Its interesting to know why people have their preferences though, I've been with some who weren't into black guys some, but because they got to know me they looked past that and realised their stereotyping based on racial background is not always accurate.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I've reported a few racists on here in the past, it should not be tolerated but it only reflects on what society is like. Its interesting to know why people have their preferences though, I've been with some who weren't into black guys some, but because they got to know me they looked past that and realised their stereotyping based on racial background is not always accurate. "

That actually works both ways

I had never been with a Black guy and therefore never formed any opinion or preference. I have been with a few since and find them attractive and not because they are Black but because they are nice

Conversely, I had never been with guys of some other ethnicities but having been with them since, am not attracted to them and therefore would not waste my time and theirs by planning to meet with them for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

my question would be why question people's preferences

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness

my question would be why question people's preferences "

Good question. I bet a dickhead will come up with a pseudo-intelligent answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

A thread revived after 7 days of no responses with some thumbs up.

Of a thread that was revived being over 30 weeks old in the first place

(meme)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not naming & shaming, but I've seen a status update today that says "more arseholes in here than in a mosque on a Friday".

Now that could be reference to Muslims bending down with their bums in the air, to touch their foreheads to the floor in prayer, or it could be not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

I think you've been unlucky, most on here are lovely and unjudgemental people, so don't get hung up about it. Focus on people looking to meet other people regardless of race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sick of people pulling out the race card. If someone don't want to meet u it's because they don't like u. Get over it ffs

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over a year ago


"I hate peanut butter well all us peanut butter lovers out there find that very offensive. Hate is a strong word

OK. How about, "I am not sexually attracted to peanut butter"; better? yeah that's better but peanut butter can be very erotic if Yer just give it a chance

What your stance on Chrunchy or smooth peanut butter? Its not fair to say you arent attracted to all peanut butters

What? I now have to say "no" individually to each jar of peanut butter otherwise I am suspected of anaphylaxis racism

But of course as we all know stating you have a preference is just a polite way to disguise your blatant racism. How could you be so foolish to assume otherwise?

Oh n Dont forget to check the jars weight and its use by date or you may be considered sizeist or ageist "

Just because u don't find other races attractive doesn't make u racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me a lot of people pull the race card to make up for personal deficiencies and to harangue other people over personal choice, if it excludes them.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"After millions of years of evolution it's about time that everyone twigged on to the fact that we are all human and that someone with a different skin colour isn't that different. "

Now there's a radical idea. . you think it might catch on?

Yeah I could warm to that one.

Good thinking!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Seems to me a lot of people pull the race card to make up for personal deficiencies and to harangue other people over personal choice, if it excludes them. "

You think it's only race? People use age, size, location, height, marital status, sexuality, gender, disability...to name but a few reasons why people won't meet them.

There are those that cannot accept they will not appeal to all, therefore focus on the "negative" rather than move on and search for compatible playmates!

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you


"Seems to me a lot of people pull the race card to make up for personal deficiencies and to harangue other people over personal choice, if it excludes them.

You think it's only race? People use age, size, location, height, marital status, sexuality, gender, disability...to name but a few reasons why people won't meet them.

There are those that cannot accept they will not appeal to all, therefore focus on the "negative" rather than move on and search for compatible playmates!"

Good post this ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to me a lot of people pull the race card to make up for personal deficiencies and to harangue other people over personal choice, if it excludes them.

You think it's only race? People use age, size, location, height, marital status, sexuality, gender, disability...to name but a few reasons why people won't meet them.

There are those that cannot accept they will not appeal to all, therefore focus on the "negative" rather than move on and search for compatible playmates!"

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

i'm finding theres a lot of gingerism here as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm finding theres a lot of gingerism here as well"

And Welshism

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"i'm finding theres a lot of gingerism here as well

And Welshism "

i didn't want to play that card but yes that is also true lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people feel the need to be racist - I experienced it were an individual specifically requested Asian types and when I enquired as to why this was there preference they responded by saying "it's because I fucking hate Paki's". That person has since been removed from FAB but what's stopping them from putting another profile on? - there's no need for it if you prefer a certain then that's fine but leave out the nastiness "

Wouldn't it be racist not to allow racists!!!!!

think about it

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