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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on here a while now I think my profile is ok, I have been messaging people but been having no luck with replies not even chatting. Im not the type of guys whos seedy or straight of the mark and intimidating like some men im normal and like all others just want to make freind s meet new people and explore new things where am I going wrong can someone please give advice

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be doing nothing wrong... Woman on here can literally get hundreds of messages everyday.. I have had to block delete messages before because there were too many to reply to... If you are interested in someone and they have deleted your message without even reading it... Send another one, it will then go to the top of her mail box and hopefully she will see it Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I honestly can't see too much wrong. Why not pay a visit to Eurekas I think they have a social coming up soon, it would be an opportunity to get to know people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you I just didn't want to send another message and annoy them if you know what I mean some people dont like that lol it juat seems that all my messages get deleted or read ones get no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile text sounds almost like pleading. Confidence gets people's attention. You have mixed pics and you mention being athletic however they don't portray this perhaps get some more flattering pics in some smart underwear.

You say you get no reply with your messages what type of messages do you send?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see what you mean about pics ill have to getsome sorted, the messages I send are kinda llike starting a normal convo down the pub I suppose asking how they are etc then I comment about their pics if they are nice and stuff really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get hundreds of msgs a day and they bulk delete every 30min or so lol, so send out multiple emails and hope for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see what you mean about pics ill have to getsome sorted, the messages I send are kinda llike starting a normal convo down the pub I suppose asking how they are etc then I comment about their pics if they are nice and stuff really "

Hi how are you messages and the many varieties of them are really common. Along with what you into? Etc etc

Inject some humour and tailor make your message to their profile. It sounds an utter ballache but a personal touch with some cheekiness stands out.

It's a numbers game on here supply far outstrips demand and you have to get ahead of the game. Have you thought about some of the socials and clubs out your way? Perhaps attend and get some verifications that make you stand out as a decent and reliable guy.

Clubs opened a lot of doors for us.

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By *lba The ScotMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

My Golden Rule is that I block all who do not even bother to acknowledge my messages. Their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not Athletic. You need to change that coz it doesn't look good.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

A message that makes me smile is always a good start...inject some humour and personality into your messages. I get bored with 'how are you', 'what you up to', 'what you into' etc etc....

And no offence, but I would say you are average, not athletic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're not Athletic. You need to change that coz it doesn't look good."

Wow, all hell would have broken loose if you'd said that to a woman !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a 6pack lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol maybe that athletic bit needs changing I was going to the gym lots and running hence the athletic part but maybe people think athletic means buff muscle etc lol I am new to this so never really written profile info loke that before bit thank you for all your advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is merit in the point about your messages being one of many a person may get.

For example, I messaged a couple in response to a meet request. And the message was deleted. 'No matter' I thought, 'not what they're after' and left it that.

A few months later, I just messaged them after seeing their profile again, independently of any meet request... And was invited to meet them.

That's why I say that a part of the success of men on here (apart from socials, which I should get on board soon) is luck and timing-being the right guy at the right time.

As for the OP profile, though I'm not your intended target, I don't see a great deal wrong with it. As said before, maybe a little more confidence.

You'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate, try and throw some fun and comedy into your messages and your profile. As all these lovely ladies are saying... They get spammed with messages, literally 100's a day sometimes ...make yours stand out from the norm, with a unique title and an interesting... Different message and I'm sure you'll get more responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a 6pack lol

Really? You have not mentioned that before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Golden Rule is that I block all who do not even bother to acknowledge my messages. Their loss."

No it's not their loss, it's no one's loss

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My Golden Rule is that I block all who do not even bother to acknowledge my messages. Their loss.

No it's not their loss, it's no one's loss"

Lol.

I think its a good idea to block under those circumstances though it saves a repeat performance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely the same mate! Ive been on here on and off for a year now, it gets to you not getting replies, really knocks your confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here a while now I think my profile is ok, I have been messaging people but been having no luck with replies not even chatting. Im not the type of guys whos seedy or straight of the mark and intimidating like some men im normal and like all others just want to make freind s meet new people and explore new things where am I going wrong can someone please give advice

thank you "

One easy and hassle-free thing to do is to go to the "sent" section straight after you've sent a message then delete it. A lot of people get pissed off about people deleting their messages straight away so by deleting it yourself you never have to worry or be pissed off with it again because you did it yourself.Plus it's good housekeeping.You're welcome

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

thank you "
it will be those boxer shorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely the same mate! Ive been on here on and off for a year now, it gets to you not getting replies, really knocks your confidence"

Then don't look at your sent box

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By *atlady555Woman
over a year ago

Reading

your profile seems fine to me

I delete messages that don't have face pics

I delete messages from anyone who hasn't read my profile fully

other than that I will reply even if its to ay no but good luck

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"My Golden Rule is that I block all who do not even bother to acknowledge my messages. Their loss."

Yeah you tell em dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women get hundreds of msgs a day and they bulk delete every 30min or so lol, so send out multiple emails and hope for the best

Or totally ignore these words of wisdom since they are exactly the type of message that get deleted without reading!!

Do women really have time to delete their inbox every thirty minutes - or nothing better to do with their time?!?!?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're not Athletic. You need to change that coz it doesn't look good."

Noticed your rule 10 - No exceptions to the above rules.

This only includes the rules above 10, which means rule 10 can change, but if rule 10 changes, then it means all the rules above it can change too ?

Ahhh i'm so confused ....

Nice profile though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heh I find the best responses come from the messages you don't expect anything to come from as they e pressure free and so a natural conversation not a proposition if you know what I mean.

A few of my great friends from here were met like that.

One was from asking if they'd got suspended for thier comment on a thread like I did lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get same problem. Just be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got a 6pack lol

Really? You have not mentioned that before!

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He means heinekens

reaches the parts others don,t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heh I find the best responses come from the messages you don't expect anything to come from as they e pressure free and so a natural conversation not a proposition if you know what I mean.

A few of my great friends from here were met like that.

One was from asking if they'd got suspended for thier comment on a thread like I did lol"

^_^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Golden Rule is that I block all who do not even bother to acknowledge my messages. Their loss."

lol how on earth is it their loss when they weren't interested enough to answer your mail?

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

Iv got use to now .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am suspicious of men in hats. Especially in gym changing rooms. Secondly your underwear is not classy. Thirdly, smile honey. If you're not having fun then how can you convey that you are fun to be with. If you aren't confident enough to go to clubs yet then try the cam room on here. Lastly, there is a strange white mark on your cock in the picture. Might be nothing, but it's offputting to me. Happy swinging. Hope things turn around for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us, we don't like to go for people who can't accomodate as it usually means they're married or have young children in the house!

Smile in your pictures - a nice smile goes along way with most women.

"Text talk" turns us off too. The kids use that language, not the adults. Facebook or the playground is where that belongs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attend a few clubs locally. If you are new to swinging, clubs should be a major part of your repertoire. Meet couples and females in real life. They will verify you as most clubbers have profiles. Within a fortnight, you will have 4-5 verifications. Simple and effective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the ladies and couple prefer guys to be clear about whether they are straight or bi or bi curious? You say straight but have a mix of friends. That would out us off as well as the bland kind of profile.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

If anything you are probably too nice mate

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