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Telling the truth and being honest!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im new, ish, had a meet last night and he wasnt for me so I told him in the nicest possible way, because of this he has deleted his profile!!! I really do feel a bit guilty but im sure you will agree that if you dont "click" then it aint going to work, any feedback would be useful x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Im sorry that it did'nt go well for you,things don't always go to plan but thats no reason to delete your profile surely?

I don't believe you have any reason to feel guilty,and im sure that you will go on to have some great meets...he may have as well if he had'nt deleted his profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hell if it aint there it aint there hunny..............sometimes ya cant say things in a really nice way........else they dont get the picture!!! dont sweat it hunny!! lol xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many times do you hear someone say "I wish you had been honest blah blah blah......."

You did what a lot of people cant bring themselves to do and you have nothing to feel guilty about, the way you feel is who you are. You cant pretend to be something different to make someone feel better.

If he has deleted his profile that is his perogative I wouldnt feel too bad about it there might be other issues you aren't aware of.

Stay safe and have fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I do really think that honesty is the best policy and I think he turned up expecting sex there and then!! He really was quite taken aback that I said no thank you, im glad I was honest though, thanks guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hun dont blame yourself, he be back with another profile soon. Always best to be honest I think. It is our choice who we want to have fun with aint it.

enjoy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did the same, and got allsorts of abuse, said he had never felt so humiliated in his life, i felt really bad, but i wasnt go have sex with him to make him feel better.... he deleted his profile to. do i care , no, yr not tellin me no one ever gets the knock back some time in life, .... he will of got over it now , i think lol

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

sounds as if he spat the dummy out big style

for me the first meet is all ways to see if there is a conection .

If there is then we can go ahead and play but if not enjoy the chat and part friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sort of thing is the very reason we like to get to know people a bit before meeting. Some people don't want that and hey! that's fair enough, but we try to spend some time chatting and maybe building up a connection before we meet and it usually (but not always) works for us ..... but yes honesty is the best policy for sure ... we've all been there so don't feel bad hun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people get into swinging for all the wrong reasons.

I'll stick my neck out here and offer the opinion that this particular man has probably never had much luck with the ladies, not because he's ugly neccessarily but maybe through lack of confidence. He's then heard about swinging and thought that it must be a passport to sex without having to work too hard nor confront his demons.

I'm assuming that he spent some time chatting and got to know drywhitewine enough for a meet to be arranged. I don't think being rejected had entered his mind and at the meet he probably expected it to quickly progress to sex and when THAT didn't happen he's taken it personally and decided that swinging is a waste of time. I also suspect that even if he did get into swinging with his eyes wide open, he's probably to type of guy that magnifies any female attention and sees a simple hello as an expression of undying affection.

As I said, some people get into swinging for all the wrong reasons.

** I've assumed a lot there but as a man, that's my personal interpretation of another man's thoughts and actions.

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By *ohno7Man
over a year ago

cambridge

I ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH , THATS WHY I NOT HAVING ANY LUCK ON HERE LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you don't tell the truth, you won't get far. I'm sure not many people on here do charity shags/play

Old picture, even a false picture, lies about your location, how you play will all be found out during a meet, and you all run the risk of being 'outed' on the first date.

Plenty for all, and someone for someone somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

WishyNSiren, absolutely spot on!!

Im glad I was honest

thanks guys and girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy i won't post pics but try to be very open and honest about myself and my looks befor a meet! sometimes even if your meet is your type you might not fancy playing and nobody should play if they are not into it! period!If your kind and the person has a strop well so be it, not much you can do about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm yes honesty... wish the person I was supposedly meeting tonight knew anything about it.

Last I heard yesterday was everything was fine. Have I heard anything today? Have I f***!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm yes honesty... wish the person I was supposedly meeting tonight knew anything about it.

Last I heard yesterday was everything was fine. Have I heard anything today? Have I f***!"

It happens......move on! Will always get the ones like wishy said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't you, I am...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops was meant to say 'don't you worry' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tut tut lol

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