FabSwingers.com forum: Unsure what to do

By *litlicker77 OP Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe he was thinking more theme park related fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him if he has sent it to the right person as it doesn't make sense

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"

Only one person can answer this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask him if he has sent it to the right person as it doesn't make sense"

Ooo yes, good idea, that way there's a get out for him, and it also gives him and you chance to discuss.

My question is …would you?

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By *litlicker77 OP Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

"Ask him if he has sent it to the right person as it doesn't make sense

Ooo yes, good idea, that way there's a get out for him, and it also gives him and you chance to discuss.

My question is …would you?

Yes if it's genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd text him back and ask him why he has asked the question.

sounds like a test to me so I would reply and if he's genuine follow up with the 'have u thought it completely through' question & what does his partner think...?!

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By *litlicker77 OP Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

Seems to be a genuine ask. They have apparently discussed it several times over a long period of time and decided to ask the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making him less guilty about something?

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"

Just ask him what it is all about as you are confused at him contacting you like that out of the blue. Engage in a little communication.

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By *litlicker77 OP Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something "

What does SHE think?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something "

It could turn out well or it could turn out very, very badly. Your call.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something

What does SHE think?"

It would appear that she has been missing out on something which must make her husband feel great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make out like it's a joke and send a jokey yes like "sure anything to get her off your hands for the weekend mate lol".

That way if it's a joke you played it cool and played along with it. But if it's for real he then has to make it clear he wasn't joking

Oh and you also haven't questioned it or made it sound weird...which might mean he backs out of it

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something

What does SHE think?"

Silly! The woman has no say in this whatsoever. Her husband is fine with it so that's all that matters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something

What does SHE think?

Silly! The woman has no say in this whatsoever. Her husband is fine with it so that's all that matters."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would avoid this as potentially it has the ability to ruin your friendship and there relationship. The idea might seem all well and good with her consent but would your mate want the constant reminder around that you and his wife if this does happen have had extra fun together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send the reply 'sorry who is this?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Tight Bugger just wants you to pay for her Holiday

Gimp

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By *litlicker77 OP Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

We've had a three way text conversation me him n her she's keen but apprehensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"

If you're unsure then feel free to send her in my direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would politely decline, because this has "potential disaster" written all over it...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"

It's a set up.

Don't get suckered in. Let them sort their sex life out. Using a man for sex x shocking x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her

It's a set up.

Don't get suckered in. Let them sort their sex life out. Using a man for sex x shocking x

I don't get the test thing. What would he be testing and why?

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

Sounds like he wants the wife out of the way for his own shenanigans ....... Would ease his conscience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had a three way text conversation me him n her she's keen but apprehensive "

Apprehension before could turn into guilt afterwards. I think you should steer clear. You could end up losing his friendship and playing a part in ending their relationship (even unintentionally).

I guess it works for some people but we always avoid anything too close to home!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he ants you to take her because he has already found a meet for the weekend fron this site ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why a weekend and not just an evening...

Listen to those alarm bells...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get the test thing. What would he be testing and why?"

Testing to see his friend's resolve against seeing his woman as a potential sexual partner. As you know, in monogamous culture fucking someone's partner is considered highly disrespectful - extra disrespect points if it is a man fucking his friend's woman (because sexism). So a best friend is expected to fight the temptation EVEN IF it is being dangled in front of them! Twisted to try and tempt but honestly I've heard of people attempting this many times before.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't get the test thing. What would he be testing and why?

Is it insecurity? How awful to live like that

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By *amamanMan
over a year ago

Inverness and around. ...

He sends a text !?..To play with his wife ....?i may be old fashioned ,but if he wants you to play with his wife why doesnt he speak to you ? Sounds very wrong somewhere ,,tread very carefully ...this could fuk up a friendship or worse if it goes wrong !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about suggesting they join a website like erm, oh what's it called again, fabswingers?

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

Make sure he wants her back, you might be stuck with her!

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

"Make sure he wants her back, you might be stuck with her!"

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd walk away as far as you can. If you go through with it and things go wrong between them afterwards....guilt / jealousy then you'll be blamed. Surely your friendship is more important?

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe

I have to agree with Crafty98 you should give this a miss. Do you want to risk losing a mate and possibly being blamed for ruining their relationship?

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Things are going wrong in their relationship anyway

Maybe she wants to be pimped out and they trust you. Bless

He wants to prove how much better he is than you in bed

Etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does your friend know youre on here - if not might just be a rumour theyve heard and trying to find out if you are ''that type of guy''

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we could all come up with a hundred reasons why the message was sent but only one person knows the truth and he/she isn't here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 3 way conversation. Was this face to face or over the phone, email etc?

Sit them down. Talk to them. Make it clear they know what they are asking. Very clear.

Then it really is down to you. Could break a friendship, ruin a marriage. Or not.

Good luck.

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By *litlicker77 OP Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

Was via text. There going away next week on holiday been left for them to think it over whilst there away

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

blimey,sounds fraught with danger,may work out but 'don't shit on yr own doorstep' comes to mind.

I had a few similar experiences in my more reckless years,all ended in tears..

Wishing you all the best.. J

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.

Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.

They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"

Take her away, have as much fun as you like and when you get back ask if you've "passed"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.ones mentioned that it could be the wife thst texted to see what response it gets? maybe it's het that wants it not the husband

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No.ones mentioned that it could be the wife thst texted to see what response it gets? maybe it's het that wants it not the husband

I'm hoping that all three want it if it goes ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone thought that they could be both getting something out of this,and they will have something to talk and fantasize about after the event.Who better to trust your wife's security to than a friend better than a random stranger.

Do it they are adults and should know what they want.

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