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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi. I have been using "fab" on and off, since last October, During the past 6 weeks or so, I have been quite actively messaging women, and some couples. I have yet to arrange a meet with anyone!...

I really am not sure what I am doing wrong? Is it because now, iv been on the site 9 months without a verification? I have recently added a few new pics (face included), which I do attach when I send a message. I realize not everyone will find me sexually attractive, and that is ok. But after 9 months on the site, with no luck, its obvious that i need some help!

In my messages, I am polite and pleasant. The messages I send are not just one liners. I actually put some thought into what I say.

I would greatly appreciate any advise, or help, from the forum readers! Thanks in advance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not my type. I don't know why people are not interested in you. Probably because there are shed loads off guys on here I should think.

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Getting lost in the crowd hey? Ok well thank you for your kind reply!

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Try going to a club get feedback that way

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"In my messages, I am polite and pleasant. The messages I send are not just one liners. I actually put some thought into what I say."

I'm annoying and sarcastic. Seems to work for me - I tried to be 'upbeat' but I'm really not like that and it just wasn't me.

"To thine own self be true"

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Upbeat is not exactly what i meant by polite and pleasant. I do try and add my own personality into the message though. What i mean is, Im not sending messages saying "wanna fuck now?" and the likes.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

You're not my type and too far away, but for me... I read messages and profile, and then decide whether to chat more, and you fall down on lack of profile. It tells me nothing other than in 9 months, you've neglected it... it honestly tells me nothing about you or what you like, other than you play straight with couples...

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I have never been to a swingers club. What could I expect going as a single man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting lost in the crowd hey? Ok well thank you for your kind reply!

"

Sums it up quite nicely

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Bummer. I will update my profile anyway, It can't hurt.

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Profile updated. Im not fully happy with it, Its late, I will think about it more tomorrow.

Thank you everyone for your input!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile seems fine. Just get yourself to a club or a social night out.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well your profile and profile pics look alright to me so I can only assume you must have a minging face.

P.s people can be too polite when messaging. You can spot the profiles where you know a good old dirty message will get you noticed .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame you are so far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a few people have been saying here they key is going to a club or a party! It's a great way of making new friends and certainly works for me

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By *arteeneWoman
over a year ago

aylesbury

Hi I am most likely not your type but I will say you should but in your profile a nice sexy pic if you see the guys pics who have added to your forum they are sexy and your profile looks like you are looking for a job try being yourself and as a lot have said go to a club x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my messages, I am polite and pleasant. The messages I send are not just one liners. I actually put some thought into what I say.

I'm annoying and sarcastic. Seems to work for me"

1st rule: Be attractive. 2nd rule: Do not be unattractive.

It's amazing what a guy can "get away with" if he has washboard abs and a modicum of intelligence! Same message from a "not my type" kind of guy could cause a torrent of self-righteous semi-abuse

I was talking about this with my very average-looking but perfectly serviceable guy friend just yesterday (he's given up now). This place is a hot-guy goldmine! Average-looking men have to try that much harder just to get noticed. It can be demoralising and I feel for you OP. BUT personality is also very important, so not all is lost. I have no specific advice, but I wish you best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love your updated profile, it's very witty & you have great photos.

shame for us you are so far away.

we are sure you will now get meets

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting lost in the crowd hey? Ok well thank you for your kind reply!

"

we would say the same your profile is very similar to a lot of others and your pictures are not the best so why not take new ones with better lighting.

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thank you again to everyone who has replied! I have got a few messages from posting this thread!

I am very interested in going to a club for the 1st time! But it will have to wait until next month!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take cock pics off and into friends pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1st rule: Be attractive. 2nd rule: Do not be unattractive."

Loved that...but sooo true too I'm sure I've fallen fowl of that one too from time to time

You might have to face it dude that you might not be able to get a shag via email lol Try getting out and connecting with people at a club...just go and socialise that's all. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yummy what a smile get urself to belfast lol

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I have removed the cock pics from public. And i Added a few new pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have removed the cock pics from public. And i Added a few new pics."

Much better !! I would meet you for SURE !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm annoying and sarcastic. Seems to work for me - I tried to be 'upbeat' but I'm really not like that and it just wasn't me.

"To thine own self be true""

Love your profile & your approach, sarcastic always works for me

OP your profile is great, if you approached me I would certainly reply at the very least as it shows you have a sense of humour which is a big plus in my opinion. That's as opposed to read, wince & bin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look like a big strapping fella too me and nice smile. Di

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You arent my type and the distance is a problem anyway regardless. Your profile is different in the way its written but a bit too off the wall for me. Why not try writing it in a fun,relaxed way. Info about you and what you like. Maybe say why you cant accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the way it is on here . If men get a meet we are very very lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like Russian roulette, you either get lucky or not here, owt can be done, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found meeting people at clubs opened doors for us in this world very quickly.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I like your pics, kind of guy I'd go for. Profile is unique, but not sure if I like it or not.

Have a look at the swinging club/events forum, for socials and events.

Good luck

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By *ot4ujoWoman
over a year ago

Eccles

Love the fact you've put on a smiling face picture not a dozen pictures of your cock x

As for the profile I think it's great bit fun but says all that's needed shame your so far away I'd of met you in a club x

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I say it a lot.... But hit tinder man!

30-45 professional women are crying out for big rugby types like you!

Wish I was half as big as you!

Really, bit of chat & within a week you will find a couple of interests...

It's not swinging... But it could be, you'd be surprised at how many of the so called "white unicorns" are just, successful, intelligent, assertive women who just don't want to be caged/lied to by a man... And how many of them are interested in this...

A year down the line and you could be back in this game with a couple of FBs.

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By *igowl OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Tinder! Yes, I have been using it for about 2 weeks! I've made some matches!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking of going to a adult cinema or something cos same problem sadly or it's people who want me to go there's at a drop of a hat especially couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the fact you've put on a smiling face picture"

Yep great picture and a clever move to include this

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"We found meeting people at clubs opened doors for us in this world very quickly. "
same here

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Nice profile n good picts OP .. Just read me tea leaves on your behalf! .. Yeap you will go far! Enjoy!

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

Mate, I've got verifications and even my meets have dried up, keep plugging away, go to clubs and socials and you'll be on your way

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