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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?!

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By *elsh n wildCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff area

Not much you can do don't react and hopefully they will forget about it but remember you've done nothing wrong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are harassing you, just go to the police you aren't doing anything illegal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult one.

YEars ago, i told a couple of friends.Well one of the friends and i fell out with each other.he started dropping hints into conversations when i was there,probably not enough to let others know what he meantBut it caused me embarrassment a few times.I just rode it.He stopped in the end.And to be fair, i am a lot les bothered now, but tell no one unless they have a swinging connection themselves.Chin up and hope it turns out ok.Have you tried good old fashion reasoning ? It may work.i like to think there is good in everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?! "
deny all knowledge

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We're lucky in the most of our friends know that we're, in their words, "not normal."

It's a tricky one though. You've definitely done nothing wrong but a lot of people see swinging as taboo and as immoral. You can either confront them or just ride it out. But if it's proper harassment then the police are your best bet but hopefully it won't come to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback guys.

Unfortunately reasoning isn't an option, so we'll see where it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck.

We were confronted by some people we sort of work with.

Neither of us even paused for thought and said "yes, and we love it ".

This sort of knocked the wind out of their sales and we had a chat about it and have heard no more.

It helps that people know we are odd anyway.

We enjoy our lives together too much to be concerned about what others think about what we are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?! "

I have an ex who keeps starting up new profiles mentioning me in his status. The worst one was about 12 months ago where he gave my name and the village I live in. He became UNLOS within 40 minutes but it wasn't very pleasant at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?!

I have an ex who keeps starting up new profiles mentioning me in his status. The worst one was about 12 months ago where he gave my name and the village I live in. He became UNLOS within 40 minutes but it wasn't very pleasant at the time "

I've got an ex who loves to stalk

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What is wrong with people!?

We have always said that if someone behaves like that towards us we will smile, look at them as if they're crazy and say "I have no idea what you're talking about".

I hope they soon find something else to occupy their empty heads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my friends know, some don't. Work colleagues all know...from shop floor up to directors. Like others have said...you have done nothing wrong.

We'll neither have I and I don't give a toss who knows.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?!

I have an ex who keeps starting up new profiles mentioning me in his status. The worst one was about 12 months ago where he gave my name and the village I live in. He became UNLOS within 40 minutes but it wasn't very pleasant at the time "

And again, what the hell is wrong with these people. I would hate to be on the inside of their heads.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Some of my friends know, some don't. Work colleagues all know...from shop floor up to directors. Like others have said...you have done nothing wrong.

We'll neither have I and I don't give a toss who knows."

That's great but being outed can make some peoples professional lives difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?!

I have an ex who keeps starting up new profiles mentioning me in his status. The worst one was about 12 months ago where he gave my name and the village I live in. He became UNLOS within 40 minutes but it wasn't very pleasant at the time

And again, what the hell is wrong with these people. I would hate to be on the inside of their heads."

Tell me about it! It drives me crazy at times. The last one was a week ago with the word unfinished business as his text! I came very close to sending Legs! to Fab Swinging heaven permanently but I have good friends on here who told me he'd win if I did that.

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By *uicedusCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

One of my best mates knows and he said we were out of order for what we do, yet he's out every week end picking up differant woman a sh..ing behind his girlfriends back

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?!

I have an ex who keeps starting up new profiles mentioning me in his status. The worst one was about 12 months ago where he gave my name and the village I live in. He became UNLOS within 40 minutes but it wasn't very pleasant at the time

And again, what the hell is wrong with these people. I would hate to be on the inside of their heads.

Tell me about it! It drives me crazy at times. The last one was a week ago with the word unfinished business as his text! I came very close to sending Legs! to Fab Swinging heaven permanently but I have good friends on here who told me he'd win if I did that."

Sad, very sad. I feel sorry for him trapped in the past like that. I'm sorry that you have to endure it because it's menacing. I hope he suffers a bout of chronic constipation.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

delete your profile quickly before the rest of the parish see it and you bring down hellfire and damnnation on the town you brazen degenerates .you must walk the streets dressed in sack cloth and ashes with a bell around your neck to signify what you are before prostrating yourselves at the alter of the nearest cathederal to beg forgiveness

or you could just ignore them and they will get bored and go away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone had somebody they know find out about your swinging life and start harassing you about it or telling others?

What to do?!

I have an ex who keeps starting up new profiles mentioning me in his status. The worst one was about 12 months ago where he gave my name and the village I live in. He became UNLOS within 40 minutes but it wasn't very pleasant at the time

And again, what the hell is wrong with these people. I would hate to be on the inside of their heads.

Tell me about it! It drives me crazy at times. The last one was a week ago with the word unfinished business as his text! I came very close to sending Legs! to Fab Swinging heaven permanently but I have good friends on here who told me he'd win if I did that.

Sad, very sad. I feel sorry for him trapped in the past like that. I'm sorry that you have to endure it because it's menacing. I hope he suffers a bout of chronic constipation. "

that's quite tame compared to what I wished him but you're right, it is sad and thank you

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