FabSwingers.com forum: softly softly

By *otmilf84 OP Couple
over a year ago

wakefield

Hi, So we are very new to the scene and so far have just webcammed but feel we would like to go another step. Neither myself nor the mr though want to be in an awkward situation with pushy guys or people visiting our family home. Neither does the thought of just meeting somebody for sex based on a profile appeal too much. We have been considering going to a club or party but wonder what would realistically be expected. Could we go there and then not be hassled by men for sex? Do people soft swing at clubs or even just put on shows with nobody joining in at all just watching?

As complete newbies we don't want a situation that puts us off at the first go.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

La Chambre is reasonably close to you and if you attend on couples night (Saturday) there's no single men. There's certainly no pressure in any club and you do not have to do anything you don't want to. We actually have a lockable camera room so you can be safely tucked away but your antics get screened to everyone else. The couples only rooms have viewing windows too for putting on a show.

What you describe is common and you should never feel pressured to do anything you're not comfortable with.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Suggest you read the reviews of Cupids, Amour and Partners. They have couples nights on Wednesday, Friday and Thursday. We started at Cupids on a busy Wednesday party night. There were a few newbie couples there. If anything people were almost too polite and we didn't play until our third visit.

Then look at going to clubs on nights when single men are allowed.You shouldn't be pressured, no means no and they have their uses lol.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a room at Jaydees and tease you can lock the door and people can watch you play thru the window . Maybe a good start

At a club you will chat to people and make freinds and be able to discuss what you want and maybe find what you want

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only soft swing also and have never found this a problem when going to clubs.

You have set your boundaries, so just stick to them and don't feel pressured to change them, even if it feels right at the time .. go away and talk about it.

We go to No 3 mainly, they limit the number of single males and never had a problem with pushy people , be that couples or males… which works for us.

Thing is, these threads normally turn into an advertisement for club regulars to state ' our club is best ' so you really need just to try a club when it's quiet and build up your confidence with the surroundings and then decide if you want to play.

There is no rule saying you can't play in a couples room by yourself.. no means no , doesn't matter where you are. People can still watch you and that would be the same rule at any club you attend.

Look at the cub web sites and get a feel for what the club is like and maybe just try a week night first before going on a weekend when there's more people and might be harder for you to relax.

Hope you enjoy it , whatever your decision .. clubs are so much fun

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only soft swing also and have never found this a problem when going to clubs.

You have set your boundaries, so just stick to them and don't feel pressured to change them, even if it feels right at the time .. go away and talk about it.

We go to No 3 mainly, they limit the number of single males and never had a problem with pushy people , be that couples or males… which works for us.

There is no rule saying you can't play in a couples room by yourself.. no means no , doesn't matter where you are. People can still watch you and that would be the same rule at any club you attend.

Look at the cub web sites and get a feel for what the club is like and maybe just try a week night first before going on a weekend when there's more people and might be harder for you to relax.

Hope you enjoy it , whatever your decision .. clubs are so much fun"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *chillesHeelCouple
over a year ago

Somerset

We are just about to visit a club for the second time. The first time we went we didn't have involvement with others and enjoyed ourselves in the middle of a quite fantastic orgy!! There was no hassle from anyone. In fact the closest I got to being approached by anyone was when a random woman spanked my arse!!!

I found it to be a really safe and fun environment which I can't wait to experience again next weekend. We may even get a little braver next time

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our fem doesn't fully swap and we are happy to play with couples that prefer soft fun, we also enjoy visiting la chamber and have always found Saturday couples night fun with no silly expectations

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread