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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it me ? My profile ? My looks ? My area ? Am I ugly ? -I really dont think I can do much more to get a meet, even a text is out the question, have some blokes really fucked it up for ppl like me, im such a decent guy and the most genuine ull ever meet, I can travel, accomodate and pick up, I offer a very relaxed atmosphere where we could enjoy time together weather it be talking or just having having sex,just not sure what more I can do-would greatly appreciate your thoughts and answers no matter how honest they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I didn't like reading is you're here to act out fantasies and learn new things. You don't come across as confident. I don't like submissive men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile, a bit part is a winge about your past life, no one here cares about that.

Plus your ''straight'' but want to meet Tvs TS and do you really want to have sex with a 99 Year old??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers banana cake, I can see how that could look, ive just tried to be as honest as I possibly could, think I might have to rewrite a new one and give it an extra bit of thought.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your profile, a bit part is a winge about your past life, no one here cares about that.

Plus your ''straight'' but want to meet Tvs TS and do you really want to have sex with a 99 Year old??"
wow I totally seeing it in a different light now,now ofcourse I wouldnt id break here bones lol, cheers guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers banana cake, I can see how that could look, ive just tried to be as honest as I possibly could, think I might have to rewrite a new one and give it an extra bit of thought.x"

People are here for experiences not to fulfil fantasies. What do you offer women to get what you want in return ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cheers banana cake, I can see how that could look, ive just tried to be as honest as I possibly could, think I might have to rewrite a new one and give it an extra bit of thought.x

People are here for experiences not to fulfil fantasies. What do you offer women to get what you want in return ? "
ok ok point taken lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers banana cake, I can see how that could look, ive just tried to be as honest as I possibly could, think I might have to rewrite a new one and give it an extra bit of thought.x

People are here for experiences not to fulfil fantasies. What do you offer women to get what you want in return ? ok ok point taken lol."

We are very hurt, you have called Bannana cake by her name and not us by ours lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get you,your a guy who just wants sexual excitement & new experiences to fulfill your "lost time"..I too was in a mundane relationship with no sexual fulfilment for 14 years!..I've met & had some of my own fantasies with some great people from this site!..it's hard for most guys on here!..stick with it & hopefully them fantasies of yours will be fulfilled x (fem)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cheers banana cake, I can see how that could look, ive just tried to be as honest as I possibly could, think I might have to rewrite a new one and give it an extra bit of thought.x

People are here for experiences not to fulfil fantasies. What do you offer women to get what you want in return ? ok ok point taken lol.

We are very hurt, you have called Bannana cake by her name and not us by ours lol "
OMG !!! how rude of me.....please forgive me phoenix 1 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers banana cake, I can see how that could look, ive just tried to be as honest as I possibly could, think I might have to rewrite a new one and give it an extra bit of thought.x

People are here for experiences not to fulfil fantasies. What do you offer women to get what you want in return ? ok ok point taken lol.

We are very hurt, you have called Bannana cake by her name and not us by ours lol OMG !!! how rude of me.....please forgive me phoenix 1 lol "

Sorry I posted the first post from our couples profile, just to confuse you lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get you,your a guy who just wants sexual excitement & new experiences to fulfill your "lost time"..I too was in a mundane relationship with no sexual fulfilment for 14 years!..I've met & had some of my own fantasies with some great people from this site!..it's hard for most guys on here!..stick with it & hopefully them fantasies of yours will be fulfilled x (fem)"
well at least someone understands -do agree with the guys tho and I should alter my profile slightly xx, thanks for the comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two weeks is no time at all on fab. It takes time and effort and lots of patience. Did you think it would be instantaneous? ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is not good, and your profile picture is mean and moody looking, think most on here would prefer a friendly smile, then to cap it off you posted a why wont anyone meet me topic 2 weeks after joining.

Apart from that you are doing fine... bit more patience, more effort especially in the forums and socials to get yourself known and sell your future nobody wants to know your past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two weeks is no time at all on fab. It takes time and effort and lots of patience. Did you think it would be instantaneous? ......"

I was just typing this about being on her two weeks it takes a while people can often be suspicious of newbies.

I have been on here two years and my advice is travel and go to socials. I still have not met anyone within 30 miles of home and I have been on here nearly 3 years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above, but you've stated you're a 'smoker', but stated that you 'won't meet smokers'. Plus a ranty status isn't very attractive and add in your text what you can offer to prospective meets, than just what your expectations. 2 weeks on here - you're still a newbie.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but, moan moan and moan.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is certainly honest. I imagine moaning about your failed relationship would be a bit off putting.

Perhaps a nice tasteful body pic or two would help. Address the wanting to meet tv but down as straight issue and be patient. This site is much like real life in that you have to put effort in to get anywhere.

Best of luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think you only get one chance to get make a great first impression...

ranting about your ex in all honesty doesn't make for a great first impression.. it makes you sound rather bitter.....

two weeks doesn't sound like patience, it sounds like you were expecting people to just drop their knickers for you... effort in = rewards out

just because people like sex, it doesn't mean they want sex with just anyone....

in fact I think it is harder on a swinging site because people have a mental and/or physical vision of what they are after from sex

don't change your profile to suit people.. then it is not you!!! deception by omission is worse for me than actually just saying something and leave people aware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negative status updates, big no no. Be positive

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

You've been here 2 WEEKS...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Your profile could be improved. Slagging off your ex....hmmm....it may be why you're here but do you think it's an attractive trait? Also, I've noticed a lot of sexually unsuccessful men on here appear to blame things they hVe no control over, so asking if other men have fucked it up for you is irrational, bearing in mind you've been here 2 weeks. You don't have to explore much to think who has fucked it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo get rid of the bit about your ex. How would you feel if you read a single woman's profile slagging off and being downbeat about her ex, put off? Probably!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sort out a decent pic..thats a bit crimewatchy just stole a car...

and doesn't make u look 34...

let other people decide if you are the most genuine honest guy on here etc...dont blame others when ur failing(and basically hardly even started)

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

LOL at your new age range, 99 was pushing it but 80 year olds why not

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

Agree with what has already said especially the being a smoker but wont meet smokers.

So lets just say you take all the advice given and create a great profile, you still have to do the leg work. Make sure you are reading peoples profile BEFORE sending a message, and make it message that will grab their attention.

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town


"LOL at your new age range, 99 was pushing it but 80 year olds why not "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"LOL at your new age range, 99 was pushing it but 80 year olds why not

"

Keens granny is 80....ask him for her kik

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moody and darkened barely visible picture a very negative status and a they lack of decorum you show to your ex partner revealing details about your relationship, though honest isnt respectful to the good times you will have had with her at some point and indicates you could show no discretion to prospective meets that keep the fact they live this lifestyle secretive

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"What I didn't like reading is you're here to act out fantasies and learn new things. You don't come across as confident. I don't like submissive men "

My number one put off: men that are recently out of a relationship then slag the ex off for being boring etc. My second put off: straight men - allegedly - seeking to meet tvs.

As I read the profile before the message...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"your profile, a bit part is a winge about your past life, no one here cares about that.

Plus your ''straight'' but want to meet Tvs TS and do you really want to have sex with a 99 Year old??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"LOL at your new age range, 99 was pushing it but 80 year olds why not

Keens granny is 80....ask him for her kik "

she just said she'd kik yer baws steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a toilet bowl in sight; no Sky-remote-as-a-ruler pic; no random woman's butthole on show.

Must do better if you want to fit in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good looking gjuy

just make your profile a bit more positive and cheerful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make yourself look and sound sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself down to a social, get yourself known and also give clubs a try. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me ? My profile ? My looks ? My area ? Am I ugly ? -I really dont think I can do much more to get a meet, even a text is out the question, have some blokes really fucked it up for ppl like me, im such a decent guy and the most genuine ull ever meet, I can travel, accomodate and pick up, I offer a very relaxed atmosphere where we could enjoy time together weather it be talking or just having having sex,just not sure what more I can do-would greatly appreciate your thoughts and answers no matter how honest they are."

Ok...read the first part of your profile out loud and imagine you're saying it to a woman you've never met before...now picture her face as you're saying it...is she leaning forward, making positive eye contact and nodding eagerly wanting to hear more? Or recoiling in horror and looking for the loos so she can climb out the window?

That's your opportunity to make a first impression...It doesn't matter how decent, reliable or relaxed you are, if that's what they're getting early doors, can you imagine shat they're thinking it will be like any further into a meet?

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Sounds like you still have hang ups regarding your past relationship which I would imagine will put a lot of people off. Get rid of everything to do with your past and be positive.

Also go to clubs and socials. That way you meet people face to face and you can get verified. But don't go there with any expectations. Just go to socialise and meet new friends. Like you would do going into a new local pub for the first time. If you get to play is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most single guys got problems to get a shag here, its a fact lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pic isn't great, profile says you are a smoker but won't meet smokers, you have a rant about your ex, you're straight but want to meet TV/TS and a negative update about people on here. All are not good. Plus you been here a short time. It's not instashag.com.

To rectify - a clearer face and a body (not cock) pic, sort out your smoker status, lose the stuff about the ex, sort out sexuality if you want to meet tv/ts for sex you are at least bi cur (sorry if that's a shock) and try to be positive. Nobody likes a greetin face moody miserable bloke.

Read your profile back to yourself and if you would meet you then fine. If not - fix it.

Just trying to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'slagging off the ex' part of your profile is awful. What impression does that give to potential playmates? Unclear face pic and no body pics would mean I'd definitely pass on by.

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Is there ever any update after these threads are posted?? I think there should be an update one month on, on how the forum advice helped them.

However most of the time the profiles never change . ;(

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"LOL at your new age range, 99 was pushing it but 80 year olds why not

Keens granny is 80....ask him for her kik

she just said she'd kik yer baws steve "

I've been waiting 2 days ffs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got bored reading about your ex. I wouldn't meet someone who might spend the night slagging someone else off. The bitterness towards her is really not attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got bored reading about your ex. I wouldn't meet someone who might spend the night slagging someone else off. The bitterness towards her is really not attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was instantly put off by the unkind words about your ex. Shows no respect for someone you spent 12 years with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you asked for advise, got lots of it, but have done nothing to address any of the 'issues' on your profile, not making you look good I'm afraid, seems as if this is just another 'look at me thread'.

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By *itten-xxxWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I was instantly put off by the unkind words about your ex. Shows no respect for someone you spent 12 years with!"

It also takes two to make a relationship I'm sure you weren't blameless!

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

I'm so glad now that I left out of my profile that I'd buried my last 4 ex's under the patio.

Jenny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12 years of a sexless slave

great movie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm so glad now that I left out of my profile that I'd buried my last 4 ex's under the patio.

Jenny."

It's hard work getting the patio level again after the second isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your profile, a bit part is a winge about your past life, no one here cares about that.

Plus your ''straight'' but want to meet Tvs TS and do you really want to have sex with a 99 Year old??"

This, plus lose the whole of the first paragraph. write about yourself without sounding too aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just say you have fantasies to fulfill - gives you something to talk about when you meet up - think girls will be worried you will rant on about the ex - and give it some time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you asked for advise, got lots of it, but have done nothing to address any of the 'issues' on your profile, not making you look good I'm afraid, seems as if this is just another 'look at me thread'. "

We came, we looked, we jogged on.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you asked for advise, got lots of it, but have done nothing to address any of the 'issues' on your profile, not making you look good I'm afraid, seems as if this is just another 'look at me thread'.

We came, we looked, we jogged on....."

Amen Sister.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...have some blokes really fucked it up for ppl like me, im such a decent guy and the most genuine ull ever meet...." - in your own humble opinion of course!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you asked for advise, got lots of it, but have done nothing to address any of the 'issues' on your profile, not making you look good I'm afraid, seems as if this is just another 'look at me thread'.

We came, we looked, we jogged on....."

Lol! Best response so far! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you asked for advise, got lots of it, but have done nothing to address any of the 'issues' on your profile, not making you look good I'm afraid, seems as if this is just another 'look at me thread'.

We came, we looked, we jogged on.....

Lol! Best response so far! x"

Some will never learn.

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