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"I've had two meets where they never left a veri one from a women and another from a couple at a club it left me felling a bit hang on was i that bad? Even though both meets where very good all left satisfied and legs wobbling. I think they haven't left veries because 1 I realy am that bad and very disillusioned on my abilities or 2 I'm not the person or type they usually play with either way it's still crap. my wife had a meet where the guy came twice with no penetration then had a shower before her leaving my wife drippy and she still left a reasonable veri " Sorry to hear about those experiences. But think its goid to be a better person and write a positive veri. | |||
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"yes...but they dont need to be done for everytime u meet one person" thanks for the comment. Just leaves you flat when not used. | |||
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"yes...but they dont need to be done for everytime u meet one person thanks for the comment. Just leaves you flat when not used." agreed...when selecting the new guys, see if they leave verifications for their meets too..might help u determine whether they just see u as a easy hole.For me the verification shows what I liked about the person(s), not about their prowess etc, just something saying u were grateful to meet them. | |||
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"I've had two meets where they never left a veri one from a women and another from a couple at a club it left me felling a bit hang on was i that bad? Even though both meets where very good all left satisfied and legs wobbling. I think they haven't left veries because 1 I realy am that bad and very disillusioned on my abilities or 2 I'm not the person or type they usually play with either way it's still crap. my wife had a meet where the guy came twice with no penetration then had a shower before her leaving my wife drippy and she still left a reasonable veri Sorry to hear about those experiences. But think its goid to be a better person and write a positive veri. " I couldnt bring myself to leave a good veri if the guy was bad. I wouldn't want any other woman to meet a bad 'un based on my veri. If i meet a guy and he wasn't good, i won't leave any veri. False advertising | |||
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"I've had two meets where they never left a veri one from a women and another from a couple at a club it left me felling a bit hang on was i that bad? Even though both meets where very good all left satisfied and legs wobbling. I think they haven't left veries because 1 I realy am that bad and very disillusioned on my abilities or 2 I'm not the person or type they usually play with either way it's still crap. my wife had a meet where the guy came twice with no penetration then had a shower before her leaving my wife drippy and she still left a reasonable veri Sorry to hear about those experiences. But think its good to be a better person and write a positive veri. I couldnt bring myself to leave a good veri if the guy was bad. I wouldn't want any other woman to meet a bad 'un based on my veri. If i meet a guy and he wasn't good, i won't leave any veri. False advertising " Ohh I have met a fair few bad ones and they haven't had a veri. I wouldn't forgive myself if someone else met on my word!! | |||
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"I am happy to receive and give veris. I need em as a single guy but I wouldn't push for them. What do you guys think of my veris....I am unsure if they help? " Surely a good veri helps | |||
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" I couldnt bring myself to leave a good veri if the guy was bad. I wouldn't want any other woman to meet a bad 'un based on my veri. If i meet a guy and he wasn't good, i won't leave any veri. False advertising Ohh I have met a fair few bad ones and they haven't had a veri. I wouldn't forgive myself if someone else met on my word!!" I'm glad someone else agrees. I met a guy last years who had some veri good veris and he was less than nice. When i didn't wrie him a veri (after our social meet) he got quite abusive an demanded to know why. I blocked without reply so he set up a new profile. It made me wonder if he'd done the same to the girls that had written a veri. Not cool man. | |||
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"I am happy to receive and give veris. I need em as a single guy but I wouldn't push for them. What do you guys think of my veris....I am unsure if they help? Surely a good veri helps" The ladies in question think they will. .....but unsure if they are not a little....well I am a bit embarrassed. | |||
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"I have recently been lucky enough to of had one or two meets of late. I thought they went well. As single guys mainly have probs on here I thought a reasonable veri is welcome. But they haven't been used and heard nothing back. I use my veris as really appreciate time taken to write them. Also good to know what they enjoyed and didn't. Question is it worth writing them? x" I personally don't think so, I went to a party a little while ago and after a very short time they all went bareback which I don't agree with so I wouldnt play and left. I had great veris from the people at the party but they pestered me to go bareback with them the next time, I refused and they blocked me and veris disappeared. Hey ho, their loss | |||
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"I am happy to receive and give veris. I need em as a single guy but I wouldn't push for them. What do you guys think of my veris....I am unsure if they help? " Haha, oh I think you know full well they do! | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them " That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done " I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap " If am crap you will have to leave one in French lol | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap " Ohh shouod you speak to a lady like that!! Tut | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap If am crap you will have to leave one in French lol " lets get it on then! | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap Ohh shouod you speak to a lady like that!! Tut " lol..what lady!? she's pure filth(i hope) | |||
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"I know they say good things but I am worried they may be too much. When I read some that guys write, I worry if they are sycophantic ?" I know people sometimes leave great long diatribes full of hyperbole in the hope of getting them back. And I know some men say 'Oh god she's written me a really long one, now I've got to do the same back!!. I'd rather send what I want to read -read two or three lines saying something original or containing one or two key points I am looking for, without anything crude or vulgar. | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap Ohh shouod you speak to a lady like that!! Tut " Forgive him... he is from Glasgow lol (PS: Am teasing before anyone jumps on this ) | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap Ohh shouod you speak to a lady like that!! Tut Forgive him... he is from Glasgow lol (PS: Am teasing before anyone jumps on this )" and your from France fancy pance | |||
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"I always leave a veri. If they choose to show it or write one back is up to them" im the same always leave a veri but up to the person if they send one back | |||
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"I look for veris to determine whether I want to take things further than an initial message. There are so many timewasters here that veris at least show if someone is genuine & likely to turn up. Having said that I once judged a man on his glowing veris & he turned into a complete arse I've since worked out that because the veris were all from ladies he met at a club they hadn't seen him in "real life" as it were. That's made me very wary about club only ones. " | |||
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"I have recently been lucky enough to of had one or two meets of late. I thought they went well. As single guys mainly have probs on here I thought a reasonable veri is welcome. But they haven't been used and heard nothing back. I use my veris as really appreciate time taken to write them. Also good to know what they enjoyed and didn't. Question is it worth writing them? x" This has happened to me before. I use veris to check they are real and also to see who they met | |||
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"I only use verifications to see if someone is genuine. I personally don't request them or tend to write them for people that have enough. Why tell the world how good a meet was when you can just tell the person you met?" Absolutely right.... I have previously had messages from jealous types who met someone I had verified or received one from.... Talk about politics!!! Now I just show the summary, saves any aggro | |||
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"i never write them one unless they write me one, there are some funny people on here. " Someone has to be the first. If everyone thought the same then none would ever get left? | |||
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"i never write them one unless they write me one, there are some funny people on here. Someone has to be the first. If everyone thought the same then none would ever get left?" i think its up to the man to write one first. discuss it when they meet maybe. | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. " Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return | |||
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"I know that there are some people on here who won't meet if you have 'too many' verifications? " That's me fucked then..... | |||
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"I know that there are some people on here who won't meet if you have 'too many' verifications? " Always makes me laugh that, its a swingers site! There is a difference though between many over several years, many that are social meets or many play veri's where the profile stipulates bareback only. The latter would put me off but every one is different. | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return " Thats soo annoying too | |||
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"I've had two meets where they never left a veri one from a women and another from a couple at a club it left me felling a bit hang on was i that bad? Even though both meets where very good all left satisfied and legs wobbling. I think they haven't left veries because 1 I realy am that bad and very disillusioned on my abilities or 2 I'm not the person or type they usually play with either way it's still crap. my wife had a meet where the guy came twice with no penetration then had a shower before her leaving my wife drippy and she still left a reasonable veri " The very reason veris should be taken with a large pinch of salt! | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return Thats soo annoying too " Yes. Makes me feel im just a notch or ego booster | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return " Well you should wait then and if and when they do return the favor if not then you haven't lost anything.. | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return Well you should wait then and if and when they do return the favor if not then you haven't lost anything.. " I do this as now lesson is well learned | |||
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"Some do some don't... However, since you do not show your verifications (or some of them) with pride... Why should they of you?" I have stopped showing my veris or some of them for various reasons. Site politics!! Having too many veris. And expectations that things happen on previous meets will happen on every meet. You then get a shopping list of things they want! | |||
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"I have recently been lucky enough to of had one or two meets of late. I thought they went well. As single guys mainly have probs on here I thought a reasonable veri is welcome. But they haven't been used and heard nothing back. I use my veris as really appreciate time taken to write them. Also good to know what they enjoyed and didn't. Question is it worth writing them? x" I would wait to get a verification of them first. | |||
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"I'll always verify someone I've met, some return the favour, others don't, doesn't overly bother me. To me, its not a sexual performance review, its just to say they're genuine." +1 | |||
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"I have recently been lucky enough to of had one or two meets of late. I thought they went well. As single guys mainly have probs on here I thought a reasonable veri is welcome. But they haven't been used and heard nothing back. I use my veris as really appreciate time taken to write them. Also good to know what they enjoyed and didn't. Question is it worth writing them? x I would wait to get a verification of them first. " | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return Thats soo annoying too Yes. Makes me feel im just a notch or ego booster " . Not good is it | |||
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"Yes I think the man should verify the meet first for a social or full meet. If you start to see each other on a regular bases then not every meet would be required just an update from time to time. Yes I agree but they don't always. I've written then first and they display them and none given in return Thats soo annoying too Yes. Makes me feel im just a notch or ego booster . Not good is it " No its not. specially when they say i must write you one and don't and also stop talking. grrrr | |||
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"I never leave one first any more although been lucky its only been a couple of times but not nice.....not that I show mine anyway but I like to read them " We should show ours really. but then yours are more fun than mine lately. plus I'm nosy lol | |||
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"I never leave one first any more although been lucky its only been a couple of times but not nice.....not that I show mine anyway but I like to read them We should show ours really. but then yours are more fun than mine lately. plus I'm nosy lol " Lmao mine are not that fun | |||
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"I never leave one first any more although been lucky its only been a couple of times but not nice.....not that I show mine anyway but I like to read them We should show ours really. but then yours are more fun than mine lately. plus I'm nosy lol Lmao mine are not that fun " Excuse me madam but you get fun and games | |||
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"Some do some don't... However, since you do not show your verifications (or some of them) with pride... Why should they of you? I have stopped showing my veris or some of them for various reasons. Site politics!! Fair enough each to their own... My point is that it won't encourage anyone to leave you a verification and if you do not show theirs... Why should they proudly show yours? Verification are fun and a nice way to say 'Thank you I really enjoyed myself and I hope you did too' and should be taken lightly I wander why some people worry so much. Having too many veris. And expectations that things happen on previous meets will happen on every meet. You then get a shopping list of things they want!" | |||
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"I know that there are some people on here who won't meet if you have 'too many' verifications? That's me fucked then....." Literally | |||
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"I am happy to receive and give veris. I need em as a single guy but I wouldn't push for them. What do you guys think of my veris....I am unsure if they help? " Same here, as a single guy they are useful to show that you are genuine and not a time waster. Its disappointing to write a veri and not get one back,but its others perogative | |||
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"I know that there are some people on here who won't meet if you have 'too many' verifications? That's me fucked then..... Literally " lol oh dear! I'm not sure lots would put me off, depends, they could be lots of social veris. Sometimes just one could put me off depending on who it was from. | |||
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"I never leave one first any more although been lucky its only been a couple of times but not nice.....not that I show mine anyway but I like to read them We should show ours really. but then yours are more fun than mine lately. plus I'm nosy lol Lmao mine are not that fun Excuse me madam but you get fun and games " | |||
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"I usually send them if I feel I can leave them a nice one and they would like one. If I am asked for one I do expect one back and find it rude if they display mine and not return the favour. I verify for myself who I want to meet though so any veris they have or if they have none is of little consequence for me." | |||
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" ... if they didn't return one I feel something went wrong and the meet wasn't good for them That is what I thought too but two guys I have met have not done a verif, one has asked to meet again and the other one I have met again, so... the initial meets must have been good So now, I believe that it is not a reflection on the quality of the meet if a verif is not done I'd have to leave one max, even if u were crap If am crap you will have to leave one in French lol " aww paddster yer je grande merde ohhh la la hehehe xx | |||
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