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By *mf4BxJ OP   Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Would you or have you ever given someone a second chance?

We're still pretty new to this and though we had a meet arranged for the other week. Texts/Calls/MSN through the day and arrangements were made. 10 mins before the meet up time, we were actually at the bar already, we got a message from the male part of the couple saying that he could get in touch with the female part.

Not wanting to waste anymore of our valuable Saturday night we finished our drinks and went to our friends for a good, albeit non swinging, night.

He later got in touch with what seems to be a reasonable explanation but at that point discovered they were fuck buddies which we'd suspected when the plans started to fall apart.

We've accepted their explanation and they've asked for a 'second chance' but we don't get to meet that often and would had to waste another chance on a non starter.

Any ideas?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

In this situation my instincts say no

Had he even told his FB that he had arranged a meet? or did he just try and get hold of her to let her know on the day?

If you're thinking of making another arrangement I would ask to speak to the fem to make sure shes aware of whats going on

Goos luck xx

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

life happens and things crop up last minute and if that was the case id normally say then yes give them another chance .however ,he wasnt honest with you to start with aboutn having a fb not being a proper cpl! what else havent you been told ?id not want anything todo with anyone who had already been dishonest . you have to trust the ppl you swing with and thats already been lost in my book . is it really worth comprimising your values and self respect just for the sake of getting a meet that may still not happen . im sure other meets will happen and be all the better as it will then with people you can fully trust and be open with . so give this "cpl" a very wide birth and have fun getting to know the other fun genuine cpls wholl resoect you enough to be totally honest and open with you which is what you and every other genuine cpls deserves x

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

It's a tricky one - if they have a few recent verifications as a couple and you've spoken to them both on the phone then I'd be inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt - with the best will in the world things can go wrong sometimes and to label someone as a timewaster or otherwise less than genuine after just one failed meet might be a little premature.

But you have to trust your instincts - I've had one couple cancel and flake on me numerous times but I had a good vibe about them so I persevered and they turned out to be one of the nicest couples I've ever met - and other seemingly more together couples have turned out to be a waste.of space.

So you never can tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't do second chances, for example we had a couple arrange to meet us last Sunday, we got the drinks in, made a buffet and turned down another meet, during the day 2 long term friends of ours (both couples) called in to see us.

When we said we had a meet arranged that evening and told them the name of the couple it transpired that the same couple had arranged to meet one of the couples the night before and that night and had also contacted the other couple with a view to meeting that night, (lord knows how many other couples they had arranged to meet) no second chance here.

We have given couples a second chance in the past only to be let down again.

Obviously if we get adequate notice to cancel a meet it's not a problem but not turning up or 10 minutes notice is really bad especially as we always put a buffet on for our home meets.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the rule of thumb i use is the closer to meet time they cancel, the less likely i am to meet that person again......

most people will give you a couple of hours or the day before if they know.... but 10 minutes before would raise so many alarm bells with me I think I personally wouldn't.....

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