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"How do you deal with your jealous side??? Ok ok I know some of you will say this isn't the place for the insecure but I disagree .....it's just knowing how to handle it !! I have two sides a very naughty horny side ...but occasionally I can get jealous aarrgghhhh My hubby turns his jealousy into horniness ...we discuss it loads and I have no reason to be jel ....I trust him 100% but it's my own demons I guess ... Watching him fuck another woman is fine ...it's the fact he may find her funnier ...more interesting I find I struggle with ....surely this is normal emotions when you are a newbie???? " no it isn't normal in my opinion. You need to be 100% secure in your relationship and if you worry that he might find someone else funnier or more interesting indicates that you have doubts about yourself or him. You really do need to work on that as a couple, talk it through again and again and again, your relationship is too important to jeopardise. | |||
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"what If he/she is funnier or more interesting?..its what u do when ur not swinging that counts, with each other..sex with other people is sex." | |||
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"As someone who plays with couples, this is would, and has been, an absolute nightmare for me. For my own peace of mind, I need to be sure that the couple are both on the same wavelength and are in a loving, secure relationship. As a result, I tend to be more cautious, and less likely, to play with new couples. If there's any doubt, for the sake of us thirds, please have a long think and discussion before you involved others. It is meant to be fun, and fun only, for all involved." wanna join me and my blowupGF?...she is dying to meet u and we never argue | |||
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"As someone who plays with couples, this is would, and has been, an absolute nightmare for me. For my own peace of mind, I need to be sure that the couple are both on the same wavelength and are in a loving, secure relationship. As a result, I tend to be more cautious, and less likely, to play with new couples. If there's any doubt, for the sake of us thirds, please have a long think and discussion before you involved others. It is meant to be fun, and fun only, for all involved." This is why I wonder why there's not more of a scene for erotic play rather than sex between people. It just strikes me as a much better way to test the waters and get a feel for things just to roll around, have some giggles, and get a bit turned on...than to rush into deep waters and find you can't swim. Is it that a single person joining a couple would not be interested unless there is sex on offer? It seems to me that there are a million and one ways to be erotic but not so many ways to have sex...so why isn't there more of a scene in just being a bit erotic with strangers? Not saying anything...just puzzled really | |||
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"As someone who plays with couples, this is would, and has been, an absolute nightmare for me. For my own peace of mind, I need to be sure that the couple are both on the same wavelength and are in a loving, secure relationship. As a result, I tend to be more cautious, and less likely, to play with new couples. If there's any doubt, for the sake of us thirds, please have a long think and discussion before you involved others. It is meant to be fun, and fun only, for all involved. wanna join me and my blowupGF?...she is dying to meet u and we never argue" I'm a smoker so I hope you've got a puncture repair kit! | |||
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"As someone who plays with couples, this is would, and has been, an absolute nightmare for me. For my own peace of mind, I need to be sure that the couple are both on the same wavelength and are in a loving, secure relationship. As a result, I tend to be more cautious, and less likely, to play with new couples. If there's any doubt, for the sake of us thirds, please have a long think and discussion before you involved others. It is meant to be fun, and fun only, for all involved. wanna join me and my blowupGF?...she is dying to meet u and we never argue I'm a smoker so I hope you've got a puncture repair kit! " well we can burn her n dump the body...its u I want anyway..shhhhh xxx | |||
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"Just remember this is one of the first times, if not the first time, he will have met this woman...he may be laughing at her jokes out of nervousness...and anyone new is always more interesting for the short term. This sparkle you see between him and this woman is simply the fusion that occurs when you glisten up against something new and forbidden and intriguing. Anybody would be the same. But none of this is lasting. When the novelty fades she is just another woman, like yourself. What you are feeling jealousy about is a fiction which exists in the short term but is not real The electric sparkle between you and new strangers is tickly, fun, and exciting...but it is not the deep, wholesome and nourishing log fire that burns at the center of your relationship " Excellent advice tbh.... and true for both people often. .. | |||
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"Thanks guys.....i guessed I would have mixed views !!! We communicate loads and he knows this is a real concern for me ..... This kind of stuff is not for the faint hearted and I can see if it's done wrong I run the risk of losing the man I love !! Hence why I am looking at every issue that may pop up !!! It is a shame that you can get a taster session...as opposed to diving in straight the way !!! It seems to be all or nothing on here . Thanks again xxxx" Could you maybe go to a club or a party ? Sit and watch to start ? See how you go ? | |||
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"I can honestly say that I've never felt jealous nor has Luke since we've been meeting others, I've watched him with other women and the only thing I feel is horny and a sense of pride! I've never once thought that he may find someone else funnier ect. Perhaps only stick to the sort of playing that you know that you'll feel ok with. Carry on with the communication as that is key. " | |||
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"Thanks guys.....i guessed I would have mixed views !!! We communicate loads and he knows this is a real concern for me ..... This kind of stuff is not for the faint hearted and I can see if it's done wrong I run the risk of losing the man I love !! Hence why I am looking at every issue that may pop up !!! It is a shame that you can get a taster session...as opposed to diving in straight the way !!! It seems to be all or nothing on here . Thanks again xxxx" You can ease yourself in as slowly as you like. Maybe like someone said go to a club and just watch or play together at first. If that goes ok then try soft swap? You can stop whenever you want. X | |||
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"Thanks guys.....i guessed I would have mixed views !!! We communicate loads and he knows this is a real concern for me ..... This kind of stuff is not for the faint hearted and I can see if it's done wrong I run the risk of losing the man I love !! Hence why I am looking at every issue that may pop up !!! It is a shame that you can get a taster session...as opposed to diving in straight the way !!! It seems to be all or nothing on here . Thanks again xxxx" This may sound harsh so don't take it the wrong way. If you feel that your OH is going to run off with someone or you think it may damage your relationship then I can't see that swinging is for you, it's not just about the 2 of you but the people that you meet and maybe play with, if we met a couple and felt that there was insecurities on their side then we wouldn't play as it's not worth putting ourselves in a potential situation that could cause friction. All of this is meant to be fun! I would suggest going to a club and see how you feel when watching others play. But I wouldn't join in until you have your insecurities sorted out. | |||
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"Thanks guys.....i guessed I would have mixed views !!! We communicate loads and he knows this is a real concern for me ..... This kind of stuff is not for the faint hearted and I can see if it's done wrong I run the risk of losing the man I love !! Hence why I am looking at every issue that may pop up !!! It is a shame that you can get a taster session...as opposed to diving in straight the way !!! It seems to be all or nothing on here . Thanks again xxxx You can ease yourself in as slowly as you like. Maybe like someone said go to a club and just watch or play together at first. If that goes ok then try soft swap? You can stop whenever you want. X" It's is most definitely not all or nothing here or on the scene at all, you do things you want at your pace. Clubs are a fantastic way to start, we have been going to clubs as a couple for about 3 years and up until our last visit we had only played with each other, soft swap is also a great way to get into things. Never feel you have to do something your not sure or happy about! | |||
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"Thanks guys.....i guessed I would have mixed views !!! We communicate loads and he knows this is a real concern for me ..... This kind of stuff is not for the faint hearted and I can see if it's done wrong I run the risk of losing the man I love !! Hence why I am looking at every issue that may pop up !!! It is a shame that you can get a taster session...as opposed to diving in straight the way !!! It seems to be all or nothing on here . Thanks again xxxx" I don't mean this harshly either but you said you aren't concerned about your man having sex with someone so a taster session isn't going to achieve a great deal because he stands the same chance of finding the woman next to him in the bus queue more interesting and funnier than you. If your real issue is that you're concerned that he will come across someone who is better at sex than you that's what you need to address. Good luck with it all, do go at your own pace and if it isn't for you fantasy can be a wonderful thing. | |||
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