FabSwingers.com forum: Am I being too harsh?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.

I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.

Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.

Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.

Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'd ignore him. If he wanted to meet he would have replied. Up to you if you block but its harmless if people want to look.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

It has happened to me,think they are online storkers,or just to shy,maybe both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully he will read this and mail you. If not, if I'd consider blocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.

I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.

Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.

Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.

Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"

I've had this, I've messaged but no replies so I just block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this like a stalking the stalker thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really understand what you think is being harsh. If you don't like it then block. I don't get what the problem is?

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If he has,nt replied he,s not interested, he,s more than likely married and on here just to look at pics. If he lives close to you i would block him if you have a face pic on show

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Is it causing you any hassle him looking at you?

Also, maybe he thinks you're too pushy sending him multiple messages when he hasn't replied to the first one

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have people who look at us regularly we wouldn't think to message them and assume that if they wanted to contact us they would have by now. We think that if you put pictures on the net people will look, some more than others but if it makes you uncomfortable block them.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

If it's spoiling the fun you get from fab block him. No fuss and no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might just want to perve a lot, and I guess if it bothers you I'd block him.

It sounds excessive to me personally (to look that much without even a message), but it's fab and there's opportunity to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.

I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.

Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.

Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.

Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"

Are you ever likely to consider meeting him? Is he your type? We've blocked people who constantly look but don't message if we're not interested in the first place...It saves turning them down if they ever get the gumption to message and frankly it gets a bit creepy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I know he's done nothing wrong & it's his prerogative if he wants to reply.

I was trying to be polite & maybe give him an opportunity to chat if he wasn't sure about a 1st message.

I think it is a bit excessive the amount of times he's looked. I have no face pics etc that he could see only the picture of my tattoo. I've blocked him now.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a little excessive 23 times in one day but it's quite easy to rack up a number of views.

Viewed because they're on a local update, commented on a forum post , who is online etc etc.....can't remember who you viewed so look again ~ all adds up ~ or they could be a complete perv...

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

This happens quite often, at first I thought it was maybe guys who are shy and would like to...but....

Then I started contacting them saying,you keep lookin at my profile and asking if I could help them. Mostly no responses,found it a bit creepy so blocked them.

Currently,it freaks me out less and I just allow them to view my profile/pics.Some are simply pic collectors.. Flattering in some ways!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would this be a bad time to suggest there are others who choose not to allow you to see they've viewed your profile who may be visiting your profile many, many, many, many times...?

Or they may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would this be a bad time to suggest there are others who choose not to allow you to see they've viewed your profile who may be visiting your profile many, many, many, many times...?

Or they may not."

This.

It is a bit odd but loads of other people could be looking every 2 minutes, you'd never know if they are in stealth mode.

For me, I wouldn't bother blocking as if he was that bothered he'd just open a new profile and keep looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.

I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.

Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.

Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.

Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"

That would freak me out I would block. Yes people can look in stealth but you don't know so it's not weird.

23 times wow

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

It's your next door neighbour, he thinks he recognises your tattoo but he's showing all his mates for their opinion.

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By *ingerbicky69Woman
over a year ago

EXETER

You put your bits and bobs on the world wide web an some fellas been wanking over them all day?!?!?!? Well i never!!!

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"Is this like a stalking the stalker thing?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having looked at your profile he obviously is stealing your tattoo design as thats the only pic you have......maybe he's drawing a copy of it?

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

"You put your bits and bobs on the world wide web an some fellas been wanking over them all day?!?!?!? Well i never!!!

That's outrageous

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

During the course of the day I've probably popped onto Fab to check my messages, contact someone, look at pics or read the forum over 20 times. I use a phone to log on and do so by just pressing where I've been on the site previously, almost every time I end up on someone's profile and from there I go to the "Home" page.

I've probably "viewed" the same profile a dozen or more times just because it's a starting point when I come onto the site.

I hope they don't think I'm a stalker

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

There is the possibility the person is a "harvester", ie on your profile to see your friend's list and verifications and hope to get meets that way. Its sad but there are people like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you had a lot of pics available for few I wouldn't think it was weird but what exactly is he looking at? Can't be reading your profile that many times a day. I would think it was creepy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had that too...it really freaked out, I even put his user name on my status nut didn't work...weirdo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you had a lot of pics available for few I wouldn't think it was weird but what exactly is he looking at? Can't be reading your profile that many times a day. I would think it was creepy too. "

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

id block him if he s creeping you out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.

I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.

Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.

Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.

Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"

I had similar once and sent a message. No reply back so I just assumed i wasn't his type either that or he has no intention of meeting anyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you had a lot of pics available for few I wouldn't think it was weird but what exactly is he looking at? Can't be reading your profile that many times a day. I would think it was creepy too. "

I wonder if it's one of two things either someone wants a tattoo like that or after being messaged someone is playing a game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have one public pic tho so wouldn't say he's a pic collector. I'd block sounds like hes a weirdo.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is this like a stalking the stalker thing?"

This made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You only have one public pic tho so wouldn't say he's a pic collector. I'd block sounds like hes a weirdo."

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have a guy shows up on my looked at me 25% of the time at weekends ie for every 100 views he's there 25 times. A little less during the week. He's never messaged me. Doesn't really bother me. He must just like looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told before that if you use the 'who's near' feature, you show up on the 'looked at me' feature on the people on the lists profile.

Could just be that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block the fecker. . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of guys repeatedly look at my profile. Some message to tell me they are having fun on their own looking but most don't.

I don't care who looks or how often. Many guys are only on here for wanking material. So what?

If it bothers you; block him. It's not harsh.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

I sometimes read interesting posts in these forums and idly click on the commenter's profile only to find myself looking at a page I've visited several times before, and possibly don't even fit their requirements. I hope they don't think I'm stalking them. Never done it 23 times in one day though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's ok then; Thawt you were stalking me

(Joking)

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Means nothing I think, except he likes your pics/profile...

Block or don't block, but I wouldn't take anything on here too seriously...

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By *ornyboy46Man
over a year ago

heatons

I think he is just copying the tattoo and referring back to it frequently

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Is it causing you any hassle him looking at you?

Also, maybe he thinks you're too pushy sending him multiple messages when he hasn't replied to the first one

This!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We have people who look at us regularly we wouldn't think to message them and assume that if they wanted to contact us they would have by now. We think that if you put pictures on the net people will look, some more than others but if it makes you uncomfortable block them.

...and this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he looks again BLOCK him he's a cyber stalker

is he verified or something like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.

I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.

Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.

Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.

Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"

If you find creepy you should block, end of.

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Do you update your status often?

Write in the forum often?

Possible reasons for this activity.

Also could be using who's nearby and all three of these could lead him to clicking your profile before realising it's you again.

Or he could just be a stalker lol

So where in plymouth are you

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