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"Slut is how someone else defines us. I define myself " "Hell is other people." Does anyone ever truly judge or define themselves? | |||
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"It's funny you know, when people tell you something a lot you start to believe it's true. All my teenages years I was bullied, labelled as a slut and so growing with this said so much I kinda learnt to love it and always wanted to be a dirty slut. However, although I do love sex an insane amount and I do have my kinks, being a dirty little slut isn't fun on your own - for me it's a bit demoralising. Sex for me is a spark, a connection that you want to share and hooking up with strangers just seems a bit more seedy. Sex is a very powerful, emotive and I think some people lose sight of this and just have sex for the sake of having sex. I'm not against anyone doing anything - each to their own as long as all parties are happy - just come to this realisation and wanted to share lol also I'm not saying ALL people are like this... It's a thought #justsayin" Reason why I prefer 1 on 1, club now mainly voyeurism. This from TheScotandthegirl "Forget labels and focus on what satisfies you" | |||
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"This is why we love role play as Master/slave. When in role I own my slave and she becomes MY slut, nobody else's just MY slut. of course what we do with other would have her portrayed by vanillas as a slut. However, being under my command and protection she can be who she wants to be, with the added emotional protection that I have made the choice for her, so she does not have to feel guilty in any way for thigs she may have done. As a Master, it is my job to carry all the guilt/embarrassment/anxiety and not my slave #masterslaverelationshipsrock " Very well put. Someone who actually understands the role of being a Master. | |||
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"I found this an interesting thread..till I realized I couldnt wank over the OP's pics! grRrrrrrr " Oh I'm sure you'll find someone else to do the biz over lol... x | |||
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"Agree with a lot of what you said, and certainly agree that those who understand Dom/sub relationships always make me smile. I'm glad you have a great one and high five you Personally I will say that whilst I happily do as Master instructs, and he knows best, I don't think there needs to ever be any guilt or embarrassment,on either side.i do as he instructs. What we all do is safe, sane and consensual. I admire and respect the fact you are protecting you sub and I like that. Hope you don't take any offence, and I wish you a lot of fun in your relationship Ruby x" Ruby no offense taken What I mean by guilt/embarrassment etc is that my slave has no say when I instruct her (of course I know her boundaries)so for example my kink is display. So if I instruct her to display herself when she doesn't feel comfortable and someone sees her and makes a comment. Then it is me who must carry the embarrassment of us getting caught, not her. Likewise, if I want to have her used by a group of men, she need carry no shame or guilt at being 'too slutty'. It is my decision and she is simply fulfilling my wish....she can transfer those feelings onto me. I suppose it's a bit like a child saying, "He told me to do it" when they get caught doing something wrong by an irate parent. Like you, what we do is consensual. However, it is my job to push my slaves boundaries (within safe limits) and that sometimes involves making her do things she might otherwise be too scared to do. With me protecting and giving lots of aftercare and chocolate, I hope she always feels safe. Happy sub/Domming to you both too xxx | |||
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"I found this an interesting thread..till I realized I couldnt wank over the OP's pics! grRrrrrrr Oh I'm sure you'll find someone else to do the biz over lol... x " hints will get u everywhere x | |||
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"It's funny you know, when people tell you something a lot you start to believe it's true. All my teenages years I was bullied, labelled as a slut and so growing with this said so much I kinda learnt to love it and always wanted to be a dirty slut. However, although I do love sex an insane amount and I do have my kinks, being a dirty little slut isn't fun on your own - for me it's a bit demoralising. Sex for me is a spark, a connection that you want to share and hooking up with strangers just seems a bit more seedy. Sex is a very powerful, emotive and I think some people lose sight of this and just have sex for the sake of having sex. I'm not against anyone doing anything - each to their own as long as all parties are happy - just come to this realisation and wanted to share lol also I'm not saying ALL people are like this... It's a thought #justsayin" I don't think I could if I was single either. Good luck. | |||
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"For me sex starts in the mind, nothing hornier than tease and tell." Oh it definitely starts in the mind.... | |||
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"Agree with a lot of what you said, and certainly agree that those who understand Dom/sub relationships always make me smile. I'm glad you have a great one and high five you Personally I will say that whilst I happily do as Master instructs, and he knows best, I don't think there needs to ever be any guilt or embarrassment,on either side.i do as he instructs. What we all do is safe, sane and consensual. I admire and respect the fact you are protecting you sub and I like that. Hope you don't take any offence, and I wish you a lot of fun in your relationship Ruby x Ruby no offense taken What I mean by guilt/embarrassment etc is that my slave has no say when I instruct her (of course I know her boundaries)so for example my kink is display. So if I instruct her to display herself when she doesn't feel comfortable and someone sees her and makes a comment. Then it is me who must carry the embarrassment of us getting caught, not her. Likewise, if I want to have her used by a group of men, she need carry no shame or guilt at being 'too slutty'. It is my decision and she is simply fulfilling my wish....she can transfer those feelings onto me. I suppose it's a bit like a child saying, "He told me to do it" when they get caught doing something wrong by an irate parent. Like you, what we do is consensual. However, it is my job to push my slaves boundaries (within safe limits) and that sometimes involves making her do things she might otherwise be too scared to do. With me protecting and giving lots of aftercare and chocolate, I hope she always feels safe. Happy sub/Domming to you both too xxx " Makes sense.... Mwah Ruby | |||
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"I found this an interesting thread..till I realized I couldnt wank over the OP's pics! grRrrrrrr " Shuuusshhh, don't tell anyone but when you click on a profile and it says "Profile hidden" you can click on "gallery" to still see the pics. I just spunked over the OP's amazing titty pics. | |||
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"Good post OP, it's good to get across that women of fab aren't always raging sexpots all the time. I have found some of the messages I receive on here make me a little uneasy, as if some guys project this very slutty image onto me without getting to know me first. They will make assumptions about what I am like and what I enjoy based on their fantasies. On a good day I will delete and move on, on a bad day I will question whether I am really as liberated as I think I am. Time out to reflect is a good thing if you need it x" Well I can only say that your profile is far from slutty. If a man is projecting this onto you at the message stage then he is missing the essence of your profile. There is also a misconception that kinky means slutty and any kinky woman is gagging for it. How wrong can some people be. I for one am treating every woman on here as if their motivation is like mine. We are here to have liberated and stimulating experiences without the anchor of societal norms and mores. I treat ladies like a girlfriend and hope this can be reciprocated. I do not value sexual partners based on time spent or hoops jumped through. Its intimacy and a connection- that can be as intense with a stranger or partner-that I measure my satisfaction on. So ladies, never feel like a slut unless you want to. Even then, maybe a different word would be more apt. Taking ownership and driving your sexuality should not have a negative context......its admirable and inspiring. PK.......you are quite the most delightful lady and your profile clearly defines this. I, for one, am a fan. | |||
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"As was explained to me, there is a difference between acting like one and being one, and she is not one. Knowing her personally, and this is for "Vanessa", I am really happy to say that she is a person with a beautiful and sweet heart who almost always means well :P" "almost always" I have to go empty my sick bucket | |||
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"This is why we love role play as Master/slave. When in role I own my slave and she becomes MY slut, nobody else's just MY slut. of course what we do with other would have her portrayed by vanillas as a slut. However, being under my command and protection she can be who she wants to be, with the added emotional protection that I have made the choice for her, so she does not have to feel guilty in any way for thigs she may have done. As a Master, it is my job to carry all the guilt/embarrassment/anxiety and not my slave #masterslaverelationshipsrock " This is probably the most eloquent description of the master slave relationship that I have heard. Sluttiness as a behaviour within the confines of safe and consensual environment is incredibly empowering | |||
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"I think the way men message you on here turns you off sex more than turns you on and the way some men are in their general attitude towards sex can be pretty disgusting and disrespectful." Some men on here do treat the women on here like meat, but not all of them...just as some women and couples treat men like they are nothing more than a dildo that doesn't require batteries. If the messages you get are what is putting you off then maybe block guys from contacting you and search for what you want instead when you come back from having some time out? x | |||
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"It's funny you know, when people tell you something a lot you start to believe it's true. All my teenages years I was bullied, labelled as a slut and so growing with this said so much I kinda learnt to love it and always wanted to be a dirty slut. However, although I do love sex an insane amount and I do have my kinks, being a dirty little slut isn't fun on your own - for me it's a bit demoralising. Sex for me is a spark, a connection that you want to share and hooking up with strangers just seems a bit more seedy. Sex is a very powerful, emotive and I think some people lose sight of this and just have sex for the sake of having sex. I'm not against anyone doing anything - each to their own as long as all parties are happy - just come to this realisation and wanted to share lol also I'm not saying ALL people are like this... It's a thought #justsayin" I understand what you mean, it's all good on the excitement front but at the end of the day were all just here too fulfill a need! I didn't think id feel like this 2 years down the line and don't get me wrong it is fun but them times where it all gets a bit dark and your getting message after message that says 'wanna fuck now?' You just feel like an unpaid prostitute! That being said if you find a good FB life's just peachy on here! Ups and downs in the wonderful world of fab | |||
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"I'm not here to fulfill a need. There is nothing I need here. This is why I think I'd find it difficult if I were single." So your not here to fulfill your sexual/social needs? Everyone has a reason for joining and whether it's more sex/kink/going to clubs (the list is endless) we are all here to fulfill our need to want to do somthing surely? | |||
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"This site does unfortunately attract many desperate and delusional characters, but as you surely know, there are the gems in here." Oh definitely! And I've been lucky to meet and have a lovely time with a few of them! They are unfortunately just a bit too few and far between! | |||
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"It's funny you know, when people tell you something a lot you start to believe it's true. All my teenages years I was bullied, labelled as a slut and so growing with this said so much I kinda learnt to love it and always wanted to be a dirty slut. However, although I do love sex an insane amount and I do have my kinks, being a dirty little slut isn't fun on your own - for me it's a bit demoralising. Sex for me is a spark, a connection that you want to share and hooking up with strangers just seems a bit more seedy. Sex is a very powerful, emotive and I think some people lose sight of this and just have sex for the sake of having sex. I'm not against anyone doing anything - each to their own as long as all parties are happy - just come to this realisation and wanted to share lol also I'm not saying ALL people are like this... It's a thought #justsayin" With you on this, I always say I'd rather make love to a friend than fuck a stranger, it genuinely does get better when you get to know someone and their little turn ons. Difference between a shag and mind blowing sex | |||
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"I'm not here to fulfill a need. There is nothing I need here. This is why I think I'd find it difficult if I were single. So your not here to fulfill your sexual/social needs? Everyone has a reason for joining and whether it's more sex/kink/going to clubs (the list is endless) we are all here to fulfill our need to want to do somthing surely? " No. I'm here as an extra - a bit of fun. I enjoy it but can take it or leave it. If I felt I was 'needing' to be here I'd be concerned. | |||
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"I'm not here to fulfill a need. There is nothing I need here. This is why I think I'd find it difficult if I were single. So your not here to fulfill your sexual/social needs? Everyone has a reason for joining and whether it's more sex/kink/going to clubs (the list is endless) we are all here to fulfill our need to want to do somthing surely? No. I'm here as an extra - a bit of fun. I enjoy it but can take it or leave it. If I felt I was 'needing' to be here I'd be concerned." I think your getting the context of 'need' wrong completely. I'm not saying people need to be here like they need to breathe, I am saying we all have a need for sex or we wouldn't be here, everyone has a reason for being here, mine is because I have a high sex drive -my need for sex is higher than other peoples so I go down different avenues such as swinging sites to get it. | |||
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"I'm not here because I need sex or because I need to sate a high sex drive. Those needs are filled more than adequately at home and always have been. I like to be here for now. I don't need to be." That's lovely for you, I don't feel the need to argue with a random stranger because they have misinterpreted the context in somthing that has been sent. that's not what I'm on the site or the forums for. Obviously some feel the need to pick at things others say and try to make them feel like they can't post for fear of being jumped on. | |||
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"Did you accidentally post on a discussion forum? The point seems entirely valid to debate. You apparently seek somebody to regularly have sex with and suggest everybody is here for a 'need'. I think there is a distinction between those that have needs and are by definition 'needy', and those like myself that regard this only as an addition. If I felt I needed a relationship of any type I would not be seeking it here. I also doubt I would engage in swinging as a single person as I would lack the reassurance and emotional stability that comes through a relationship. A point I've made a couple of times, in different ways and that I feel is valid to this discussion. Also valid is that the increasing number of people incapable of handling adult discussion and resorting to personal insults/accusations of trolling/picking on etc. is tiresome. If you don't like exchanging viewpoints, don't invite them." What I said to the OP wasn't aimed at you, you decided to make it personal to you and then make it into an attack. If you want to argue with random strangers on fab to pass your time then go ahead but I'm not interested in taking part in it thanks! | |||
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"I'm not here because I need sex or because I need to sate a high sex drive. Those needs are filled more than adequately at home and always have been. I like to be here for now. I don't need to be." Which, by your next statement,(if you have needs you are needy) means you to are 'needy'. I know you not; but how patronising can you be when you argue against said patronisation the post before. Yes you are happy, or so you state. You get all you need...no matter how needy that may make you. Yet, you are still here. As a ? Philanthropist ? Anthropologist ? I dont care. But please don't appear to look down on those who have different ways of sating their 'neediness'. I am sure I have misunderstood you and I apologise in advance. | |||
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"Im in need of an asprin reading some of this thread " I may need something a little stronger.. | |||
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"Im in need of an asprin reading some of this thread I may need something a little stronger.." Lithium | |||
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"Im in need of an asprin reading some of this thread I may need something a little stronger.." don't worry it's not as bad as my threads, lol | |||
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"Im in need of an asprin reading some of this thread I may need something a little stronger.. don't worry it's not as bad as my threads, lol" | |||
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"Im in need of an asprin reading some of this thread I may need something a little stronger.. don't worry it's not as bad as my threads, lol " lol, so i presume you have seen my threads i don't read them back.... am scared of getting nightmares | |||
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"As the OP I will add that this post was never about sexual needs or wants it why we are on here.... It was more a thought about growth and what makes us who we are , and also how there is still isn't equality between men and women?! How the fuck is turned into neediness is beyond me! " It got turned into neediness because someone misinterpreted my post which was in support of you, it then turned into tit for tat and it seems to have carried on, I never seen the rest of the conversation last night because I was very busy getting laid But basically I was saying, I get what your saying completely! x | |||
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"This is why we love role play as Master/slave. When in role I own my slave and she becomes MY slut, nobody else's just MY slut. of course what we do with other would have her portrayed by vanillas as a slut. However, being under my command and protection she can be who she wants to be, with the added emotional protection that I have made the choice for her, so she does not have to feel guilty in any way for thigs she may have done. As a Master, it is my job to carry all the guilt/embarrassment/anxiety and not my slave #masterslaverelationshipsrock Very well put. Someone who actually understands the role of being a Master. " So true , there's something special about that role ! | |||
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