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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone have any tips for getting more replies? I send quite alot of messages (not to the same people) but I get very few responses I'm never pushy or crude but having not been into the lifestyle for long I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. Any advice would be greatly appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sex change?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A sex change?"

That seems a bit drastic lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without knowing the content of your messages it's hard to comment on what you can do differently.

Make sure you've read the profile to see if you match the requirements of the person/s you're messaging. Be polite and articulate in your message, attach a nice face picture so they can see you.

A lot of people will look at your profile before deciding to read the message so ask yourself after reading your own profile 'would I meet this person?'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Without knowing the content of your messages it's hard to comment on what you can do differently.

Make sure you've read the profile to see if you match the requirements of the person/s you're messaging. Be polite and articulate in your message, attach a nice face picture so they can see you.

A lot of people will look at your profile before deciding to read the message so ask yourself after reading your own profile 'would I meet this person?'"

I always make sure I read people's profiles as I find it helps me write the message. Thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're welcome, ultimately......single fellas far outnumber women/couples so they/we can afford to be choosy. It sucks for you guys but it's just how it is, do the best you can to stand out from the crowd and you'll have success.

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By *onkers 76Man
over a year ago

pontypool

good advice there mate , also you gotta make your opening message stand out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm starting to realise there ALOT more single guys on here than ladies and couples lol. I'll try and be a bit more original and just stay patient, thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You aint doing anyfin wrong.. women are extremely fussie who they reply to lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I found your profile to be confusing cos you say you're straight but willing to meet ts/tv/cd....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it could be the cock pics? Majority of women look at the profile before the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A sex change?"

My thoughts exactly lol

Unfortunately, as men, we rarely get responses - even to well crafted messages.

Patience my friend - someone will get back to you (and me hopefully) one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A sex change?

My thoughts exactly lol

Unfortunately, as men, we rarely get responses - even to well crafted messages.

Patience my friend - someone will get back to you (and me hopefully) one day. "

Hey...you've had many a message from me, young man

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Why on earth are there so many threads like this? It is rocket science!

Look at your profile for a start, what's on it that would entice you to meet you, if it is sweet FA then that is where you need to start, plus to me, another straight guy who might meet a CD/TV? Then your not fooking straight!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Why on earth are there so many threads like this? It is rocket science!

Look at your profile for a start, what's on it that would entice you to meet you, if it is sweet FA then that is where you need to start, plus to me, another straight guy who might meet a CD/TV? Then your not fooking straight! "

It ISN'T rocket science

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why on earth are there so many threads like this? It is rocket science!

Look at your profile for a start, what's on it that would entice you to meet you, if it is sweet FA then that is where you need to start, plus to me, another straight guy who might meet a CD/TV? Then your not fooking straight! "

That's what I thought. You look nice btw, do you come often?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Here!!!!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why on earth are there so many threads like this? It is rocket science!

Look at your profile for a start, what's on it that would entice you to meet you, if it is sweet FA then that is where you need to start, plus to me, another straight guy who might meet a CD/TV? Then your not fooking straight! "

This....

Would put me off straight away, if u dont know fuckin tvs is still a guy so ur not straight then sorry bye bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why on earth are there so many threads like this? It is rocket science!

Look at your profile for a start, what's on it that would entice you to meet you, if it is sweet FA then that is where you need to start, plus to me, another straight guy who might meet a CD/TV? Then your not fooking straight!

This....

Would put me off straight away, if u dont know fuckin tvs is still a guy so ur not straight then sorry bye bye "

He is here to have fun too, you know.

OP, this is a perfect example to show you that you're not for some people and some people are not for you. It's not a big deal. When messaging people, don't focus solely on if you match what they're looking for but what you're looking for as well. This is equally important and will help make your messages more sincere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are sending nice messages after looking at profiles i have a feeling its your profile that isnt standing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips for getting more replies? I send quite alot of messages (not to the same people) but I get very few responses I'm never pushy or crude but having not been into the lifestyle for long I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. Any advice would be greatly appreciated x"

To be honest...you may think the self deprecating tone of your profile is endearing but you're in a buyers market where confidence is key and it just says don't bother to me...like I'd have to do all the chasing and all the work on a meet...what would be in a meeting for us as a couple or a single woman?

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is going to sound weird but I got a lot more people intersted when I stopped sending messages.

Spend some time working on your profile and pics. Talk to people on the forums for a bit.

P.S You have 4 pics 3 include your cock.

Think about what that says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is going to sound weird but I got a lot more people intersted when I stopped sending messages.

Spend some time working on your profile and pics. Talk to people on the forums for a bit.

P.S You have 4 pics 3 include your cock.

Think about what that says "

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why on earth are there so many threads like this? It is rocket science!

Look at your profile for a start, what's on it that would entice you to meet you, if it is sweet FA then that is where you need to start, plus to me, another straight guy who might meet a CD/TV? Then your not fooking straight!

This....

Would put me off straight away, if u dont know fuckin tvs is still a guy so ur not straight then sorry bye bye

He is here to have fun too, you know.

OP, this is a perfect example to show you that you're not for some people and some people are not for you. It's not a big deal. When messaging people, don't focus solely on if you match what they're looking for but what you're looking for as well. This is equally important and will help make your messages more sincere. "

Sorry....what? Did i say he wasnt to have fun"you know" i said him putting straight but wanting to meet tvs essentially doesnt make him straight so dont understand why people like him put it!!

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