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By *ornysxcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maldon

Other couples or single girls please add as you wish.

The last couple of days we've had a few messages from single guys from what I can only describe as being totally disrespectful. We are a couple, address us as a couple.

Tips from us

Be respectful, you don't know us so don't assume the fem wants to be passed round your mates like a piece of meat.

Actually take the time to fill in your profiles. Add DECENT photos, 10x cock pics really isn't gonna make a couple interested in you.

If you can, add a face pic, again not one from first this in the morning, take the time to look an dress to impress a potential meet.

Respect what's been written on a persons profile. Don't assume that your every woman's dream guy. Sorry but your not.

Don't be pushy, not every couple or girl wants to or can meet at the drop of a hat.

Every day we read the same topics from single guys (why can't I get a meet ect ect ect) do a forum search an you'll find hundreds of replies. Have a checklist an be realistic as to wether you can tick them off before coming on here having a moan that your not getting laid.

Anyone else like to add to this? We have jut found that most (not all) single guys want a quick shag an cheap thrill at the expense of genuine swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is probably pointless and i personally think that if a guy doesn't know the basics then leave him to it. If a guy honestly thinks that a 'wanna fuck' message accompanied by 10 x cock pics will work then he should be enlightened! A guy can alter his profile to fit in with what others think will be appealing but he'll be the same disrespectful idiot that he is! Harsh perhaps but true I feel! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn't be enlightened!!! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely no point posting threads like this since theres no forum stickies and as no one especially new guy's search forums either.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Skip the advice.

Leave them to it - it's easy to delete a message.

And surely all the crapmakes the good messages stand out?

Delete and block. Use crap messages/profiles as just another filter and eventually you'll narrow down the number of profiles that can contact you in the first place.

A

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

good words and very pertinent to couples and single females too

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My female fb and I once put meet up looking for a single man and made it clear to contact us BOTH. Total waste of time. I got ignored or "if you cant handle her" type macho alpha dildo type messages. No respect, no thought and consequently - no chance lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I understand and agree please don't tar all us single guys with the same brush. Your post makes it look like all single guys are shameful idiots. We're not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I understand and agree please don't tar all us single guys with the same brush. Your post makes it look like all single guys are shameful idiots. We're not. "

It also implies that couples are never disrespectful....not so as im sure im not alone in having been contacted by some arrogant couples who think single women are here as playthings for the couples pleasure and showed total lack of respect. Perhaps a less patronising post aimed at evrryone would have been more appropriate. Were all due respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I understand and agree please don't tar all us single guys with the same brush. Your post makes it look like all single guys are shameful idiots. We're not.

It also implies that couples are never disrespectful....not so as im sure im not alone in having been contacted by some arrogant couples who think single women are here as playthings for the couples pleasure and showed total lack of respect. Perhaps a less patronising post aimed at evrryone would have been more appropriate. Were all due respect."

Completely agree

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By *ornysxcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maldon

True about the couples, jut so thing we've never experienced. We have met couples similar to what you describe at clubs an have come home an agreed that it's more the male calling the shots an the female following suit, an would likely feel the same if a message came through from a couple with that same attitude. It's a shame as we don't want to block all males, so may just hit bloke as soon as a message like this comes through, as some are damn fine looking guys, an some very polite ones that unfortunately are a long way a way from us. Fabs is proving to hard to tell the real swingers from this looking for cheap thrills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after read the replies above, as a single male I would have to agree, Find your local chat room, be courteous and polite. Say hello/hi to the room in general and then respond to the comments back. Venture out to socials meet and mingle and relax It's the way forward. Don't be pushy, it's not a race and the only looser will be you.

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By *rometheusMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Hear hear!

& message to the couple who posted this thread, Please read my profile?

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True about the couples, jut so thing we've never experienced. We have met couples similar to what you describe at clubs an have come home an agreed that it's more the male calling the shots an the female following suit, an would likely feel the same if a message came through from a couple with that same attitude. It's a shame as we don't want to block all males, so may just hit bloke as soon as a message like this comes through, as some are damn fine looking guys, an some very polite ones that unfortunately are a long way a way from us. Fabs is proving to hard to tell the real swingers from this looking for cheap thrills "

I don't think hitting the bloke is the answer,maybe block them instead

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By *ornysxcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maldon

Poxy predictive text!!! Angles really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poxy predictive text!!! Angles really "

Angels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Other couples or single girls please add as you wish.

The last couple of days we've had a few messages from single guys from what I can only describe as being totally disrespectful. We are a couple, address us as a couple.

Tips from us

Be respectful, you don't know us so don't assume the fem wants to be passed round your mates like a piece of meat.

Actually take the time to fill in your profiles. Add DECENT photos, 10x cock pics really isn't gonna make a couple interested in you.

If you can, add a face pic, again not one from first this in the morning, take the time to look an dress to impress a potential meet.

Respect what's been written on a persons profile. Don't assume that your every woman's dream guy. Sorry but your not.

Don't be pushy, not every couple or girl wants to or can meet at the drop of a hat.

Every day we read the same topics from single guys (why can't I get a meet ect ect ect) do a forum search an you'll find hundreds of replies. Have a checklist an be realistic as to wether you can tick them off before coming on here having a moan that your not getting laid.

Anyone else like to add to this? We have jut found that most (not all) single guys want a quick shag an cheap thrill at the expense of genuine swingers "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this is probably pointless and i personally think that if a guy doesn't know the basics then leave him to it. If a guy honestly thinks that a 'wanna fuck' message accompanied by 10 x cock pics will work then he shouldn't be enlightened! A guy can alter his profile to fit in with what others think will be appealing but he'll be the same disrespectful idiot that he is! Harsh perhaps but true I feel! Z"

I agree. I think profile and etiquette advice shouldn't be given for anyone. It works as a great idiot filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wondering how many men will take that kind of criticism in real life if sex was not on the plate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree with the OP at all. All the single guys I chat to are perfectly capable of communicating, without me telling them how to talk to me. They certainly aren't just after a quick shag as that never happens with me. And most of the guys I meet continue chatting after.....I sometimes wonder if I'm on the same site as everyone else...its all about who we choose to communicate with that makes your experiences on here and how you deal with those you don't want to chat to.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley & London

If a guy who thinks being rude to people follows your rules and slips under the radar, do you think he can keep it up for the whole meet?

Don't waste your breath telling the loons how to escape being filtered out at the first mail. Better to spot em in the distance rather than when things get up close and personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we just cant fucking win the lepers of the site shall rise up and smash the single fem and couples regime!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we just cant fucking win the lepers of the site shall rise up and smash the single fem and couples regime! "

Lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"we just cant fucking win the lepers of the site shall rise up and smash the single fem and couples regime! "

You can smash me any time hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we just cant fucking win the lepers of the site shall rise up and smash the single fem and couples regime!

You can smash me any time hun "

ooh...smash n grab! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well to be honest OP thanks for the advice, if I'm wrong shoot me, but U are unverified to my knowledge...I'd say I might be unsure if u have any experience of sending decent mails to men women or couples...I however have the experience.Hope that does'nt sound boastful...I've just been on the site a good number of years.. all groups have their problems...highlighting single men is an easy cop out option as we are the largest group on fab.Have you also thought about who it is YOU attract, u have a narrow age set, some specific requirements...surely u can understand out of who u msg or messages u back, that u will have a high percentage of silly men?...basic maths, two brains shall work it out...possibly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I understand and agree please don't tar all us single guys with the same brush. Your post makes it look like all single guys are shameful idiots. We're not.

It also implies that couples are never disrespectful....not so as im sure im not alone in having been contacted by some arrogant couples who think single women are here as playthings for the couples pleasure and showed total lack of respect. Perhaps a less patronising post aimed at evrryone would have been more appropriate. Were all due respect."

Succinctly put xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it all taken so seriously ??

It is what it is . . . FUN!

If you don't like what anyone has written, said, done . . Just move on!

Tips for single guys . ? Really ? Each to their own I say . . . We're all adults right??

D(f )

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In all honesty you get good and bad across all the demographics on this site. There will be the same % of idiots within each. If everyone conducted themselves in a decent, polite and amiable manner it would benefit everyone on the site x

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"Whilst I understand and agree please don't tar all us single guys with the same brush. Your post makes it look like all single guys are shameful idiots. "

Chill out, if you're a respectful and reasonable single guy then obviously this doesn't apply to you.

And if anything, it's other single guys who make us look like idiots by constantly posting topics about it being rude not to reply to messages. The amount of whining about that topic is incredible!

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"There will be the same % of idiots within each."

I actually seriously doubt that. I never have any problems with chatting to women or couples.

Single men behave like arses all over the internet. There are all kinds of blogs about the terrible messages men send on internet dating sites!

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Other couples or single girls please add as you wish.

The last couple of days we've had a few messages from single guys from what I can only describe as being totally disrespectful. We are a couple, address us as a couple.

Tips from us

Be respectful, you don't know us so don't assume the fem wants to be passed round your mates like a piece of meat.

Actually take the time to fill in your profiles. Add DECENT photos, 10x cock pics really isn't gonna make a couple interested in you.

If you can, add a face pic, again not one from first this in the morning, take the time to look an dress to impress a potential meet.

Respect what's been written on a persons profile. Don't assume that your every woman's dream guy. Sorry but your not.

Don't be pushy, not every couple or girl wants to or can meet at the drop of a hat.

Every day we read the same topics from single guys (why can't I get a meet ect ect ect) do a forum search an you'll find hundreds of replies. Have a checklist an be realistic as to wether you can tick them off before coming on here having a moan that your not getting laid.

Anyone else like to add to this? We have jut found that most (not all) single guys want a quick shag an cheap thrill at the expense of genuine swingers "
yep all that to just get unread or deleted i can see why winks or pasted shite is popular with the single guy

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I had rude and unreasonable messages from couples at the first point of contact from them so it does happen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we just cant fucking win the lepers of the site shall rise up and smash the single fem and couples regime! "

Don't worry... just keep trying...... you'll get a meet eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we just cant fucking win the lepers of the site shall rise up and smash the single fem and couples regime!

Don't worry... just keep trying...... you'll get a meet eventually. "

I'm saving myself for u x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So where were the tips in this thread ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well hopefully we will have all learnt something from the op .......

Clearly all single guys just need to take heed and they can add themselves to the list of those who have enjoyed their company ..... Oh hang on , on second thoughts ......

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