FabSwingers.com forum: This site is bad for single males

By *ingdong91 OP Man
over a year ago

shropshire

This site I find is very bad for single males due to the amount of single males on here, I don't see why people can take 10seconds to add a reply just saying why they won't meet, I e instead of a stright delete,

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree, and check my profile..not boasting...but I honestly dont know how some people use the site...and if they are complaining..its probably not the best way...or they have much higher expectations of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't worry about it, some women are just straight up cheeky on here, but for the most part there are some really cool ladies. They get huge amounts of mail to so I can see their _iew on it but yea a message saying not interested would help the situation, on the other hand many think their gods gift

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By *ingdong91 OP Man
over a year ago

shropshire

Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"This site I find is very bad for single males due to the amount of single males on here, I don't see why people can take 10seconds to add a reply just saying why they won't meet, I e instead of a stright delete,

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

I think that if you are that fragile... then maybe "you" shouldn't be here.....

and if you are going to be that "defeatist" then why should someone be interested...

no offence.. I'm here for fun... you can't just blame it on the numbers.... thats a cop out...

if you can't make yourself stand out from the others... that's not a site issue... thats a YOU issue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree, and check my profile..not boasting...but I honestly dont know how some people use the site...and if they are complaining..its probably not the best way...or they have much higher expectations of themselves."

Well mate your are nearly 40 the other dude is like 23, any wonder you have more verifications, there is an age factor for women and rightly so, everyone have their own personal preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

You can't see why people don't reply? How does an inbox full of messages saying you're not for them help you?! Take a no reply as a no thanks. Some single females claim to get over 100 messages a day. Multiply that by 10 seconds to understand why they might not reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well mate your are nearly 40 the other dude is like 23, any wonder you have more verifications, there is an age factor for women and rightly so, everyone have their own personal preferences "

I look in my twenties lol..even my boss said last nite!

Have u tried, clubs ?socials?...u have been here a while..these are events open to all..even cheeky young whippersnappers like u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well mate your are nearly 40 the other dude is like 23, any wonder you have more verifications, there is an age factor for women and rightly so, everyone have their own personal preferences

I look in my twenties lol..even my boss said last nite!

Have u tried, clubs ?socials?...u have been here a while..these are events open to all..even cheeky young whippersnappers like u

Where you on a work do when your boss told you that, to many wine gums???? Im messing, yea I deffo totally agree with what your saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a females pov... put yourself out there do as keenfucktographer mentions and go to socials/clubs and be that guy that everyone wamts to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no no...never complain, just up your game!

Delete all your sent items & stop waiting to see if they beed read/deleted. Have NO expectations and enjoy whatever comes your way.

The male to female ratio is what it is, no point dwelling on it...time could be spent woo'ing a sexy senorita!

Confidence is key but expecting to pull is crossing the line

Just my take folks, just my take!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're bi curious on profile..in your text it says you are straight with no bi tendencies..but then looking for a meet to try your bi side out.

Im confused so maybe try re-writing your profile?

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Not accommodating because you house share is such a cop out. I know a girl in a housw share that randomly picks guys up in clubs and takes them back.

I've been with guys in house shares. Who cares but you clearly. I'm guessing your house share is with parents and that is why you don't accommodate.

Your profile is all about you and nothing about what you can offer someone else and your pictures are dull.

If I were you I would delete and start again with a better attitude.

Go clubs and socials as that is the beat way to meet new people.

Be proactive and stop moaning that you have no meets as that is an instantaneous turn off

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By *andyMooCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Susie has a single account and gets appox 700 messages per week. She also has a life away from fab.

It takes a special message to get a reply.

Maybe you should try harder.

Or just not expect a reply then you won't be disappointed.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

Other people use the site in a different way to you. Just because you would meet anyone, (and to be honest, that in itself sounds desperate and unappealing), doesn't mean everyone else will, or should.

And trust me, age isn't just a number. It's true that a 20-something can be as good in bed, or better, than a 40-something but life experience and sexual experience can count for a lot.

I'm attracted to some 20-somethings but experience tells me I am more likely to find the mental connection I want with older guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never pressure others, or your self in getting some action.

That is what it sounds like what you are doing.

Just sit back and relax, enjoy the site.

That is what I like here, meeting others and getting input about their experiences and thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is great for single males I am aware of a huge amount on here that are succesful and get regularly terrorised in a good way.

It's just a question of making an impact and standing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not another fucking single guy moaning thread.... honestly..... some people really need to fucking wake up and actually read their OWN POSTS whining on about not getting someone to touch their willy.......it's so childish it unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not another fucking single guy moaning thread.... honestly..... some people really need to fucking wake up and actually read their OWN POSTS whining on about not getting someone to touch their willy.......it's so childish it unbelievable

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

When you say its bad for single males What you re really saying is ' I ve had no luck' I m a great beliver that you make your own luck not just on here but life in General,

As for age,, I often look at profiles of people that interest me often I find their preferences exclude me, I quickly move onto perving the next profile that 1) interests me and 2) I fit their preferences

Be lucky

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

I think that if you are that fragile... then maybe "you" shouldn't be here.....

and if you are going to be that "defeatist" then why should someone be interested...

no offence.. I'm here for fun... you can't just blame it on the numbers.... thats a cop out...

if you can't make yourself stand out from the others... that's not a site issue... thats a YOU issue!"
almost! totally agree..

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By *eandmrsjones1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

Because the amount of messages you get from single males even when your profile says you are not looking for single males, why would we take time to explain it to you when you didn't bother reading it the first time, or you just ignored it ?

That said we prefer single males who say they are single males rather than the single males that pretend they are a couple or a single female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take on the advice from the thread, be positive and have zero expectations, and you'll get there / somewhere / further than you already are!

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By *ornysxcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

We've just spent 4 days trying to arrange a MMF, sent over 30 messages asking for a face pic, an see where it goes, out of this who replied (say half) of those most wanted bareback an when told no suddenly disappeared, or wanted day fun so the wife didn't find out, or just frankly couldn't be asked to be polite. Never had so much frustration from a swingers site than what we've had from here, even half the couples are rude and can't be bothered to reply to messages an suddenly disappear after a few messages.

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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Manchester

You're a single make so just leave and reduce the ratio

Easy!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

if you came to my profile I would just say 'no thanku'

Woman dont have to explain why as that turns into conversation with someone their not interested in.

Some men do find it hard to get started, thats why I always suggest a fab social either vanilla pub or swinging club which is a way to experience a club without being on your own

also be better if you clearer on profile eg bi curious but in text straight with no bi tendencies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've just spent 4 days trying to arrange a MMF, sent over 30 messages asking for a face pic, an see where it goes, out of this who replied (say half) of those most wanted bareback an when told no suddenly disappeared, or wanted day fun so wife didn't find out, or just frankly couldn't be asked to be polite. Never had so much frustration from a swingers site than what we've had from here, even half the couples are rude and can't be bothered to reply to messages an suddenly disappear after a few messages. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been lucky enough to get quite a few meets . And I have said it a 100 times it all about getting known . Ie socials . Forums . Clubs . Get your personality out there instead of just relying on your pics to get you meets . There are millions of pics of guys . Why would they just pick you ? Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

That's your preference. My preference is I MUST be attracted to someone in a physical way before even considering to meet them.

As for not replying. I used to reply to every message and now i don't bother and do you know why? Got sick of single males giving me abuse just because I wasn't interested.

Granted it's a swinging site and we are all here for the same thing but doesn't mean I'll drop my knickers for any male who messages me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

That's your preference. My preference is I MUST be attracted to someone in a physical way before even considering to meet them.

As for not replying. I used to reply to every message and now i don't bother and do you know why? Got sick of single males giving me abuse just because I wasn't interested.

Granted it's a swinging site and we are all here for the same thing but doesn't mean I'll drop my knickers for any male who messages me."

Think it's been hit on the head there your expectations might have been sign up! log on ! And straight into the ladies ?

I think what you've found is that the ladies have the same needs (sex) but also would actually like to find the person to be of their liking and are not just going to let anyone enjoy them when they won't get the same enjoyment back ?

( can't understand that myself who'd want attraction ? Lol)

Man up and try to pamper each individual profile they way you think they might enjoy !!!

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been lucky enough to get quite a few meets . And I have said it a 100 times it all about getting known . Ie socials . Forums . Clubs . Get your personality out there instead of just relying on your pics to get you meets . There are millions of pics of guys . Why would they just pick you ? Good luck "

Totally agree with the above, I (Carlos) was here as a single for a couple of years and got meets because I put time and effort in. I even got meets on the back of my verifications and word of mouth. Stick at it and enjoy.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

Some of the previous posts have touched on the obvious issues:

1) claiming to be straight but the profile type says bi-curious

2) Not being able to accomodate - reason given hasn't stopped others

3) admitting you'll meet "anyone", whilst admirable you're keeping your options open, "anyone" can show a lack of discerning.

But my concerns:

You say there are too many single males on the site. There's one obvious way to make that less of an issue

But seriously, do you want the site to limit the number of single males it has? Or build some "algorithm" to work out a sufficient number of single males allowed at any one time based on how many couples and single females there are? What if the females and couples all want gangbangs? What if the couples and single females want only women? What then?

You started with "this site is bad", implying its the site's fault in some way you're having no luck. If you're so sure in your conviction you're welcome to try other sites - one well known site even had a "guarantee to get laid within 3 months" offer. Not sure what strategy they employed to accomplish this or if they made good on it for anyone on the last day of the 3 month limit.

As for dissecting profiles being against site rules, I humbly disagree:, in this case, identifying the problem is the first step to resolving it ... if the OP wants a solution to his problem that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

If you was a single female or a couple you'd understand why you don't always get a reply and just a delete people are not on here to give reasons why you ain't for them just take it as a no thanks and move onto the next one there will be people on here that will reply wanting a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're bi curious on profile..in your text it says you are straight with no bi tendencies..but then looking for a meet to try your bi side out.

Im confused so maybe try re-writing your profile? "

Have to agree with this.....far too many guys complaining about the site without looking at own profile. Nothing worse than confusion if someone is even considering an answer. If you are bi then say so - if not then your not. You won't get more replies by hanging that possibility out there.

Yes...there are far more guys than women here...how is that the fault of the site? It is just a fact you have to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'll you didn't message me lol.....

Only joking I'm probably a bit to old for you...but I am for real and I do turn up....seems to be more than what you have found to date!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

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So some lady replying saying " I don't want to meet you because " is going to make you feel any better ?. Take it on the chin they are not interested and move on

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

First of all, no one should expect a meet from the first message - deleting a message doesn't mean they don't or won't meet. They decided you weren't for them.

Secondly, people on here tend to do other things on the site besides sitting and waiting for messages to come, such as chatting, camming or reading the forums, than stopping what they're doing to read the messages straightaway. Don't expect any message sent will be read straightaway. Moreover, we all have other lives outside of fab...

Thirdly, some of us 'older couples' prefer not to bed people as old as our children and prefer mature people with experience, not someone who would have tantrums and spit out the dummy over the slightest thing...

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Leave then. Z

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Sorry to hear that the OP isn't enjoying things here

Perhaps I should take some of the blame... 49yr old Single Male getting lots of fun with younger ladies/wives in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you were leaving this site OP??

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

My fems friend on here gets at least 30 messages a day. If you were her, would you go into all 30, click on reply and write/paste a message. Honestly?

Especially when the vast majority are terribly written or even insulting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

Its a swinging site.....not a 'singles get a free shag' site. Go out. Meet people. Better your communication skills etc!

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

I think that if you are that fragile... then maybe "you" shouldn't be here.....

and if you are going to be that "defeatist" then why should someone be interested...

no offence.. I'm here for fun... you can't just blame it on the numbers.... thats a cop out...

if you can't make yourself stand out from the others... that's not a site issue... thats a YOU issue!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tip: dont rely fab for sex, use it as "extra" fun if you get it lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm 43 and had plenty of meets so the site works for me. It's easy - too easy - to blame things you have no control over, such as age, for lack of sexual success. It's also easy to blame the site. Perhaps the real cause lies a little closer? Plenty of advice in the forums for single men with similar complaints....read, then re-write.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip, "

Maybe that's the answer. Grip it. Many times.

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By *otgymfitanymoreCouple
over a year ago

pontefract

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

Good for you but we dont see the point in meeting up with anyone we dont find attractive, we also wouldnt play with someone just because they have a personality. What works for you doesnt work for others, try not to worry about how those who just delete your messages decide to use the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a club or socials .. Maybe the whole cross dressing thing may put people off also ( just my opinion )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip, "

Strange person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

Some buff rugby players might like larger women.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

You have to understand,some guys mail every chick here .. EVERY SINGLE ONE ... That adds up to an awefull lot of mail to reply to when you might not EVEN be interested..

If i mail someone and dont hear back,i assume they are busy or just not interested..

Either is fine by me..

I just `man up` and take it on the chin like a big girl and suggest anyone thats gonna cry about it does the same...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to understand,some guys mail every chick here .. EVERY SINGLE ONE ... That adds up to an awefull lot of mail to reply to when you might not EVEN be interested..

If i mail someone and dont hear back,i assume they are busy or just not interested..

Either is fine by me..

I just `man up` and take it on the chin like a big girl and suggest anyone thats gonna cry about it does the same...

I'm too thick to understand your mailing requirements..plus was too busy wanking at the pics..fancy a fuck?..might let u poke my wee pert brown scottish bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

I think that if you are that fragile... then maybe "you" shouldn't be here.....

and if you are going to be that "defeatist" then why should someone be interested...

no offence.. I'm here for fun... you can't just blame it on the numbers.... thats a cop out...

if you can't make yourself stand out from the others... that's not a site issue... thats a YOU issue!"

Do you get a message alert or does your spidey sense tingle,

Fab should put some of your forum comments in the tips & getting started,

It might help them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, this site is great for single males. Not sure why the OP is so down on it.

I've had plenty of sex with fabulous people. I mail some people and get nothing back but hey, it's no big deal. My expectations are modest in terms of number of meets but for a fairly middle-of-the-road middle-aged guy, I do very well indeed.

Fab has been fab for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're bi curious on profile..in your text it says you are straight with no bi tendencies..but then looking for a meet to try your bi side out.

Im confused so maybe try re-writing your profile? "

I noticed this and agree. Also hugely relieved at least someone sees being in their 40s as an advantage

. But to address the OPs point, the ladies I know from here do receive literally hundreds of messages and responding to them is unrealistic. Even more os when their experience seems to be that a polite no rather than a deleted message somehow is a foot in the door and the women just needs a bit more persuading. The site guidance recognises this and is explicit about not replying to messages is not rude. So if you want to use the site, accept a)The guidence, b) The odds are not in our favour .

If this too much or you genuinely feel the demographics are too much of a hurdle then there is an obvious solution that would reduce the imbalnce between women and men....at least by one!

There is some good advice on this thread. My offering is that negativity is seldom seen as attractive. Good luck and happy hunting. Enjoy the many other benefits of youth. Was it Wilde who said that youth was wasted on the young?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have messaged many single guys posting meets for fems/couples and not even had a reply from them,then when we post meet for single guy same ones get shitty when we dont answer there message very hard to find genuine people in and around this scene of late !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what you are getting at.....yes there is competition out there but if you persevere and are polite. ...It will happen. Get a veri then the whole world opens up.....its a scary place for single girls and they can be choosy. ...think of yourself on a deli counter at the supermarket. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expecting a reply instead of a straight delete lol... Such a level of self-entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cringe at the line age,race an size not important, it always gives me the impression of someone with very little standards that will just stick there dick in anyone that offers

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

No reply is no interest ! Rest assured if a woman's interested she will get back to you .

Why not a simple "sorry no interest" ?? Because it very seldom is simple! It's not just one message, it's the opening of a whole torrent of "but why not", "what if", "give me a chance" , Or my personal fave "yourloss" often followed by a tantrum a 2 year old would be proud of lol! It's amazing how quick the polite guy turns when told no and you suddenly go from amazing to minger for saying it lol.

Why waste my time and his with any further mails that will go absolutely no where .

As for the age range ..its their personal preference! Most don't not wish to meet people who they have zero in common with or young enough to be their child lol.

As said you can choose to blame the site, the preferences etc but fact is guys get meets !! So you can either carry on doing the same old same old and getting the same results or you look to change things . Don't worry over what you have no control over , and focus and finely tune those things you do.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

True... Any girls size 18 or over should be gateful of any interest at all and drop their knickers for everyone that messages them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

Think its just you, Pal. Ive had some right good meets over the years from this site. I think some people use this site as a primary way to get laid. For me this is a secondary way to meet women, my primary is the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple demand and supply more men than ladies if you want to get married than more choice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

True... Any girls size 18 or over should be gateful of any interest at all and drop their knickers for everyone that messages them.

They should not but on the other hand they should be realistic about what they are asking. And what they are offering in return

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

I think that if you are that fragile... then maybe "you" shouldn't be here.....

and if you are going to be that "defeatist" then why should someone be interested...

no offence.. I'm here for fun... you can't just blame it on the numbers.... thats a cop out...

if you can't make yourself stand out from the others... that's not a site issue... thats a YOU issue!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

True... Any girls size 18 or over should be gateful of any interest at all and drop their knickers for everyone that messages them.

They should not but on the other hand they should be realistic about what they are asking. And what they are offering in return

Do fit guys only like fit women then? I'm a size 18 and have been lucky enough to meet some fit guys. Its more about attitude than looks at the end of the day and if larger women want to meet fit guys then why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply is no interest ! Rest assured if a woman's interested she will get back to you .

Why waste my time and his with any further mails that will go absolutely no where .

As for the age range ..its their personal preference! Most don't not wish to meet people who they have zero in common with or young enough to be their child lol.

Just had a doozie. You know the sort of reply when I said no thanks? The one that says you are far too old and fat for me anyway! What's bunch of tosspots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cooorrrrr another whingin male..Do you really think at 23 you have the experience couples and ladies are looking for!!! Life is a bit short to be a sex teacher....And as I say to all these single guy moans..You are trying to get a free fuck with someone elses wife/girlfriend/fuck buddy..We have gone to the time and trouble to make a relationship.try it yourself Its not so hard!!!..get out and find a fuck buddy instead of being on here ..and WHINGIN!!!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Cooorrrrr another whingin male..Do you really think at 23 you have the experience couples and ladies are looking for!!! Life is a bit short to be a sex teacher....And as I say to all these single guy moans..You are trying to get a free fuck with someone elses wife/girlfriend/fuck buddy..We have gone to the time and trouble to make a relationship.try it yourself Its not so hard!!!..get out and find a fuck buddy instead of being on here ..and WHINGIN!!!!!"

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By *etallisMan
over a year ago

Massa Carrara (Italy)

oh well, living alone and being sincere didn't help. some people answer once saying that they are interested and then stop messaging.

but there are some genuine people as well, i must say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single guy and seem to do ok.

Problem is, there are some right numpty single guys out there.

Extra effort is required from the single guy. But you only get out what you put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a trooper, just look how many meets you've had, your the reason the other guys are getting left out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldnt had been said any better

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

True... Any girls size 18 or over should be gateful of any interest at all and drop their knickers for everyone that messages them.

They should not but on the other hand they should be realistic about what they are asking. And what they are offering in return

Lets reverse the scenario - I KNOW I'm not an oil painting, but it has not stopped me from meeting some absolutely gorgeous stunners in my time. I believe its called the "punching above your weight" award, of which I've been the proud recipient more times than I care to imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any site will be over populated with men, walk in a nightclub, its the same there too.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok let me have my tuppence worth.

Did you ever consider that some men like "larger women" So what you are saying is that they are all undesirable and men don't like them.... bull shit. My partner of 4+ years is a sexy, fit man, doesn't have a strict physical preference but does favour curvier women - does that mean he's got it wrong after 10 years of his being on the scene?

So what is being said is women my size and over should be thankful any man is giving them attention, rather than choice, or is that being picky? Bollocks! If you're not happy with what you see, block the profile and move on - we don't take offence

The OP in my opinion should leave.

If you had a better attitude you might get somewhere on here, for you after this thread you have no chance.

I personally would say read a profile, she if you are what they are looking for. If you are not, don't take it personal and move on. no point messaging to be told no thanks, or no reply.

I last thing I will say "PREFERENCE" wonderful word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus for males my age and younger leave come back when your 40. That all it seems to be? Why? Age it's a number.

" I am straight, with no bi tendencies. I will not do anal but, other than anal, I guess all the rest goes

Ok had a look at your profile. even though I am not your type

Honesty is what women look at first in a profile. Try being honest might help. Straight with no Bi tendences but bi-curious mmmmmmmmmmmm.... Instant NO from anyone that does read profiles not good character. Women don't meet liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some single males are successful some not for the better ones I guess its a lot of fun on here for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends as well where you live.. I heard women up north England, Newcastle and beyond are very horny.. I might need to relocate city lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets face it Son with me on the site no other bloke stands a chance so you mays as well give up

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

True... Any girls size 18 or over should be gateful of any interest at all and drop their knickers for everyone that messages them.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Susie has a single account and gets appox 700 messages per week. She also has a life away from fab.

It takes a special message to get a reply.

Maybe you should try harder.

Or just not expect a reply then you won't be disappointed. "

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"I think the biggest problem is that we have women who are like size 18+ for example, and they demand buff rugby players with a 6 pack.

The market clearly isn't in favour of men here

*facepalm*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

Maybe that's part of it. A woman wants to feel special, not that she could've been anyone. Plus, I have standards, anyone I meet will have too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a trend with profiles from men who complain about lack of action.pics is good start.shit pics will not get any responce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fb was is on here as a single male - worked out okay for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you matey 106 public verifications! Persistence and patience boys. Ive had no meets yet but i am still hoping in time the floodgates will open just like they have for this gent. Happy Swinging everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to stand out on here from the 1000's of others , for example your op is longer than your profile. Most people on here check a profile before even reading the message , have a look through the forums there is plenty of advice around

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By *bro07Man
over a year ago

Teesside

Lol I find that all my messages get deleted straight away without reply from the ladies. My messages are normal and polite. Just move on and don't let it bother you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only a few years older than you mate and I've had no issues. Maybe it's how you're coming across in your messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP's profile is shockingly poor, no information on it and crap pictures, combined with being on here 10 months and no verifications mean he wont get a meet.

Best delete and start again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

That's your preference. My preference is I MUST be attracted to someone in a physical way before even considering to meet them.

As for not replying. I used to reply to every message and now i don't bother and do you know why? Got sick of single males giving me abuse just because I wasn't interested.

Granted it's a swinging site and we are all here for the same thing but doesn't mean I'll drop my knickers for any male who messages me.

Think it's been hit on the head there your expectations might have been sign up! log on ! And straight into the ladies ?

( can't understand that myself who'd want attraction ? Lol)

Man up and try to pamper each individual profile they way you think they might enjoy !!!

Have fun "

Can you explain pamper? Do you mean tell them what they want to hear?? I for one dont reply sorry if that offends ppl but when I have been nice and said no thanks I get a barrel of abuse! No my deletion is your polite no thanks

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Im a skinny single guy with about as much good looks as a pair of socks. However I have a had a few meets in the past and had a great club night with a sexy 21 year old lady last night . Where else could that happen other than fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let the women that are interested make first contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be too hard on the OP. Yes it can be frustrating but fab for a single guy must be about attitude. You can't take this seriously. Some will go wild and obsessive about and some will never reply. Roll with the punches. Try to he unique. Understand that's it's a woman's world where normally some of the ladies on here wouldn't get looked at twice in the dating game. It's just fun that's all. Change you're messages to something more cheeky and fun..try couples and see how you get on there instead on single ladies. Understand that most women need more than a "wanna shag?" Msg like a lot of guys send. Get some good photos on there..don't mither ot pester anyone and they may return your message with a nice reply..good luck

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"Don't be too hard on the OP. Yes it can be frustrating but fab for a single guy must be about attitude. You can't take this seriously. Some will go wild and obsessive about and some will never reply. Roll with the punches. Try to he unique. Understand that's it's a woman's world where normally some of the ladies on here wouldn't get looked at twice in the dating game. It's just fun that's all. Change you're messages to something more cheeky and fun..try couples and see how you get on there instead on single ladies. Understand that most women need more than a "wanna shag?" Msg like a lot of guys send. Get some good photos on there..don't mither ot pester anyone and they may return your message with a nice reply..good luck "

Absolutely agree 100%

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

That's the attitude and mindset to have - these sites are all very similar but there are lots of different people all looking for different things - Enjoy the journey as it's alot of fun

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By *ithintemptationsCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

we get loads from single males ,not a problem,but if we replied to everyone and got a pound,we would be rich by now,if we dont reply its not anything other than trying to catch up with emails,we reply in the end !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from ladies , some lead to a bit of banter, others to more.

It can be brutal on here at times but thats life.

Try and learn from your mistakes and take the(mostly) good advice offered.

In time, often when you least expect it, you will catch someones eye.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

The site is only bad for single males on average, just because of the ratios

On individual cases it can work very well if you just learn how things work on here, approach women in a certain way

And absolutely key here when the numbers game isn't in you favour is don't take rejection/ deleting personally, I can't imagine a single guy on here doesn't have to deal with that

Once you accept that's a fact of life here and don't take it personally it's loads easier and better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a man but this site is fucking amazing and I love men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a man but this site is fucking amazing and I love men."

Good girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They should not but on the other hand they should be realistic about what they are asking. And what they are offering in return

It's not commodities trading, lad.

No wonder some folk aren't getting their balls damp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey! How's it going mate,

No what I mean to say is, I will meet anyone I don't go on looks or size, I go on personality that's it but I can't get anywhere

That's your preference. My preference is I MUST be attracted to someone in a physical way before even considering to meet them.

As for not replying. I used to reply to every message and now i don't bother and do you know why? Got sick of single males giving me abuse just because I wasn't interested.

Granted it's a swinging site and we are all here for the same thing but doesn't mean I'll drop my knickers for any male who messages me.

Think it's been hit on the head there your expectations might have been sign up! log on ! And straight into the ladies ?

( can't understand that myself who'd want attraction ? Lol)

Man up and try to pamper each individual profile they way you think they might enjoy !!!

Have fun

Didn't read brilliant !!

I just meant if you've nothing to offer that person don't message! But if you have let them know what you can offer them ? And talk to them! normally you can tell when your going to get on so have a conversation about them as a person and their needs ?

Treat them the way you would like to be treated ( manners cost nothing )

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Treat them the way you would like to be treated ( manners cost nothing )

Am a big believer in this, but as a guy I've been on the receiving end of a number or strange emails as well (forma few women and a few couples also. Everyone should treat the other person their talking to they same way they'd expect to be treated,... rather than some sense of entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat them the way you would like to be treated ( manners cost nothing )

Waiting for the couple to message me demanding they book a hotel. I meet them we fuck and they leave then

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By *icence_2_Thrill_006.9Man
over a year ago

Shoreham Bi Sea

No prob being a single guy on here. I get my fair share if idiots in here and some guys are such numptys when talking to women I know for a fact!! A lady friend and I put a meet up on our respective profiles some men are just plain STUPID!! They get invited to okay so a postcode is issued and a time frame established then they want to 'Talk' this site is for ' FUCKING!!!!!!!' Ten they want full address but as the meet was at my friends I advised her only give the post code use KIK messenger so no phone number when they get in the area they will be given the road and asked what they are driving so we could see they actually gave turned up! Then house number simples! Cum in have a swinging time leave happy get a verification. How difficult is that to understand? A couple of gem started making crap excuses so try get instant block they are the ones too lose out so show people respect we do this for saftey reasons. Rant over!! It just is very Annoying for naive women on here and timewasting hand jockeys giving us Genuine Guys a bad name!

Rant over and Out

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I'm a single guy I had a meet once it was nice. ..

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By *ohnboy236Man
over a year ago

Banbury

Age may just be a number but other playmates have to be comfortable with that number so your potential partners may be limited plus we get lots of messages from men who clearly have not read our profile before sending off a short first message .. You have to read and taylor your messages according to the needs of the persons you want to meet

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By *eanorMan
over a year ago

west herts

I find it incredibly hard to even get in touch with couples and single females.

I read profiles fully, send polite and relevant messages, also enclosing my pics and wink to let them know I've checked out their profile, but a large proportion on my messages are never even read. It's very disheartening.

Some guys seem to have the knack and probably can't understand why single males raise this topic, but for the vast majority it's a pretty fruitless experience to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it incredibly hard to even get in touch with couples and single females.

Some guys seem to have the knack and probably can't understand why single males raise this topic, but for the vast majority it's a pretty fruitless experience to be honest."

Think your best bet is to go to socials meet people there chat face to face then maybe add them on here as a friend if you get on once the word gets out your a decent person I'm sure everything will just fall in to place but I do agree this is not the best place to meet up with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without single males on Fab, this site wouldn't be my cup of tea! I will always respond to a well written message that comes from someone who has obviously read my profile and thinks we may have a fair amount of common ground to cover. I've even been known to get meets from posting in the forums. A positive and confident (not arrogant, there's a world of difference!) attitude goes a long way to reassuring the recipient of a message that you may well be very interesting...

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By *eanorMan
over a year ago

west herts

That kind of defeats the object of an online swinging site don't you think, but I take your point and good advice.

Unfortunately I'm not able to devote that kind of time the social side of swinging.

I use pre-meet contact via PMs, text or phonecalls to establish a rapport with potential playmates and always keep meets friendly with plenty of chat (for those that like to talk), but it's getting a bite at the cherry first that's the problem. Catch 22 I guess.

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