FabSwingers.com forum: Beginner needs advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am completely new to the swinging scene & need some advice. Would it be better for me to meet guys who are more experienced in NSA meets or go for a novice like myself? I'm coming from a very monogamous background into new territory & so I don't want to make too many faux pas or get into situations that I really don't want. Help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would suggest some experience..... Less of us about....lots of guys on site are chasing experience and can get rather whiny and desperate....sure you wouldn't want that as first experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say either. Go with someone you feel comfortable with. Take your time over who you choose to meet. Don't be rushed into anything you're nit comfortable with. And have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say either. Go with someone you feel comfortable with. Take your time over who you choose to meet. Don't be rushed into anything you're nit comfortable with. And have fun!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cynic in me expects that you will get experienced swingers saying they are the best bet (they doi after all understand swinging), newer swingers saying they are are a better choice (far better than being just another meet)...

Truth is both have there pros and cons, neither are better or worse - just do what is right for you.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I wouldn't say either. Go with someone you feel comfortable with. Take your time over who you choose to meet. Don't be rushed into anything you're nit comfortable with. And have fun!

Trust your guts... If it feels not right, just leave it, don't feel you have to do anything you dont want to do.

Hope this makes sense, Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep . Choose wisely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks peeps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have plenty of time, chat with people, get to know them and then decide but trust your instincts and make sure you stay safe and then - HAVE FUN!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust your own instincts....

Always chat via this website for a while to get to know someone better....

Read the person's profile to see what they are looking for. Look at their picture's which they ideally should have, including face pictures. Check if they are photo verified or verifications from other's if any. If no picture's or verifications ask why? Read, check and ask questions always.

Never give the other person your phone number unless your absolutely sure....

If giving your number, get a Fab phone ( a cheap spare phone only for Fab meets ) you can always get a new sim if you give you number to people you wish you hadn't....

If you do proceed to set up a meet with someone you have been chatting to for a while, exchange numbers a day or two prior to the meet and keep in contact throughout.

When the meet is set up, meet in a public place like a cafe, pub or shopping centre. Somewhere neutral where you can have a initial chat to see if you click and if it could go further. That way if you don't, you can part as friends.

Always be safe and think about everything and everything should be fine... Have fun...

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

That's such a good question. I can see the benefits of am experienced man but also the sense of an experience shared by being with someone who is new too, Take small steps, be comfortable in what you do. You might make mistakes but nobody gets it right first time and given that swingers are relatively forgiving types nobody will hold it against you, or judge you!

Everybody has a first time and as long as you learn from each experience and take something from it then it's a positive

As the previous poster said - HAVE FUN!

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

chat and ask lots of questions. it's better to meet a great person you feel comfortable with and can talk to rather than someone who can give you the experience you think you want.

if you get it all in one you've hit the jackpot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say either. Go with someone you feel comfortable with. Take your time over who you choose to meet. Don't be rushed into anything you're nit comfortable with. And have fun!"

Good advice, feel safe, comfortable, and meet open place etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing's for sure...you won't be wanting no willo-the-wisp lover

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Am completely new to the swinging scene & need some advice. Would it be better for me to meet guys who are more experienced in NSA meets or go for a novice like myself? I'm coming from a very monogamous background into new territory & so I don't want to make too many faux pas or get into situations that I really don't want. Help!"

If they don't look anything like their pictures and you don't like them as a result, tell them straight away, and there will be no expectations of play.

If you come across as weak, you will get used, swinging is a two way street.

Expect nerves, expect anxiousness, expect excitement, expect anticipation all at the same time when meeting.

Meet in a public place if you feel more comfortable.

Have condoms, blokes usually don't carry them.

Enjoy seeing what you've missed and don't think sex is love as it's not.

Get choosing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just meet people I feel comfortable with, regardless of experience. It all depends what you want out of this experience, NSA doesn't have any set rules to follow so probably impossible to fax pas.

Top tips.

Chat on here and insist on exchanging pics via this site 1st. Don't fall for the "can't have pics on here because of my job" it's a red flag.

Set up a KIK account, that way you don't need to exchange numbers before a meet unless you want to.

Personally I don't have a FAB phone as my phone has the facility to block numbers, but others swear by them.

If the guy seems too good to be true, it usually means he is......

Set your own rules & stick to them.....I've heard every line, excuse and story in the book now to get around mine.

Have a thick skin, some guys can get a little nasty when you say "no thanks" .

Good luck & have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just meet people I feel comfortable with, regardless of experience. It all depends what you want out of this experience, NSA doesn't have any set rules to follow so probably impossible to fax pas.

Top tips.

Chat on here and insist on exchanging pics via this site 1st. Don't fall for the "can't have pics on here because of my job" it's a red flag.

Set up a KIK account, that way you don't need to exchange numbers before a meet unless you want to.

Personally I don't have a FAB phone as my phone has the facility to block numbers, but others swear by them.

If the guy seems too good to be true, it usually means he is......

Set your own rules & stick to them.....I've heard every line, excuse and story in the book now to get around mine.

Have a thick skin, some guys can get a little nasty when you say "no thanks" .

Good luck & have fun

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Besides all that we are lovely

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

"I just meet people I feel comfortable with, regardless of experience. It all depends what you want out of this experience, NSA doesn't have any set rules to follow so probably impossible to fax pas.

Top tips.

Chat on here and insist on exchanging pics via this site 1st. Don't fall for the "can't have pics on here because of my job" it's a red flag.

Set up a KIK account, that way you don't need to exchange numbers before a meet unless you want to.

Personally I don't have a FAB phone as my phone has the facility to block numbers, but others swear by them.

If the guy seems too good to be true, it usually means he is......

Set your own rules & stick to them.....I've heard every line, excuse and story in the book now to get around mine.

Have a thick skin, some guys can get a little nasty when you say "no thanks" .

Good luck & have fun

Besides all that we are lovely

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apart from the ones that are creepy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your instinct. I did after a few messages and a coffee with my first guy. We kept in touch and arranged a hotel meet. He was experienced but not too pushy, just pushy enough to educate a newbie. Had repeat meets with him. Hope you find the right guy for you

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you fancy trying clubs look out for socials, they're often advertised in the swinging club events forum.

Or post a thread looking for a female to escort you as a friend. Much as I enjoy going to clubs with male friends it is a different experience to going alone or with s female friend. And picking the wrong male can lead to a miserable evening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can actually get to know someone quite we'll on here by chatting. You do get a feel for them. Set your filters and block everyone then take your time finding a profile that appeals. Spend a little time chatting then arrange to meet in a public place. If all goes well, you're up and running. If you feel like your being pushed, block them. Always be safe. There are loads of lovely genuine and caring people on here, so chances are you'll find the right one ...... Love Dad (FFS)

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

You can always do the 'disaster meeting get out early' call. You get a friend to call about 25 mins into your meeting - if it's a disaster you answer the call and they tell you they've locked themselves out of their flat and you've got the spare keys and can they meet you at your place and you feign regret at having to cut the meeting short blah blah blah..

If you're enjoying it you just ignore it....

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Oh and have a safety buddy. Someone who knows when you're meeting and where you'll be and who can make sure you're fine after.

This is especially useful if you're inviting people back to yours or going to theirs.

I text a friend with the location/address and profile name and what time I'll be out by. I also let my meets know I do this - the vast majority of people are fine but there are some weirdos out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for the guys you find it easy to chat with and feel a rapport with and also one that you are physically attracted to. Experience doesn't always mean good after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and have a safety buddy. Someone who knows when you're meeting and where you'll be and who can make sure you're fine after.

This is especially useful if you're inviting people back to yours or going to theirs.

This as all is great advice !

See if can get a local lady how's local to chat maybe ask their advice for safe social meet places

If your nervous about meeting maybe try chatting to someone who isn't local just to get in the swing if things .

Just remember its all about fun ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three words of advice...

Social, social, social

If they make your skin crawl, irritate you, try and jump on you on a public place, what do you think will happen in a private place?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Oh and have a safety buddy. Someone who knows when you're meeting and where you'll be and who can make sure you're fine after.

This is especially useful if you're inviting people back to yours or going to theirs.

This as all is great advice !

See if can get a local lady how's local to chat maybe ask their advice for safe social meet places

If your nervous about meeting maybe try chatting to someone who isn't local just to get in the swing if things .

Just remember its all about fun ? "

I use either a chain coffee shop at a local shopping centre (easy to get to, plenty of parking and the staff couldn't care less if I was there three times a day with different people) or the bar of a local hotel that caters for mainly people working in Sheffield. Neither is far to travel, parking is free and if I get stood up it hasn't cost a fortune.

I also have a policy of being straight with people. If it's a no thanks I tell them there and then, pleasantly but clearly. If they are as described on their profile, turned up on time, were pleasant to chat with and I wasn't embarrassed or felt uncomfortable being seen in a public place with them then I offer a veri - I might not fancy them but the next woman might.

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