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By *ontempo OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Have taken on a lot of advice and learnt alot lately of how the site works and can understand that established meet swingers have a real job with all the fake profiles,spare a thought for us,we been like lambs to slaughter, we trying so hard to prove we real we wasted alot of time getting what I now know is meaningless verification on webcam,also we went getting endless Skype requests, unaware that a whole other world of cyber sex exsists on fab,honestly we were elated finally a couple who wanted to chat,only too realise we were fresh meat for the none real swinger community lol, not having any real experience but being honest about that and now discovering the wonderful much friendlier world of the forum, I feel like we've been on a journey already and we haven't even had meet yet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look in the club section for a nearby club,and dip your toes there.You are under no obligation to play,unless you want to,you will meet some great people,and I'm sure you will come across other fab members that will be only too happy to verify you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome and good luck, don't just rely on fab for meets attend socials, clubs and parties make friends and connections, expect nothing and don't do anything you will regret later

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By *ontempo OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Thankyou everyone we are going try a club I think and add some pics of my man x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As nice as the forum is, the real world of fab is in connecting with people and trying to arrange meets. Forums are the same the world over, half useful and friendly, and half Jerry Springer. They are addictive, just like the chat rooms, and you can quickly find yourself sucked into a huge cumuli nimbus that can whirl you around and around for days...which can be fun if you've got nothing better to do. They can be positive but they can also be the 21st century equivalent of public stonings. So you need to be careful about what you write and how you write it or else you're likely to come across someone who's just cruising to have a bad day and is willing to take it out on you. Yes they do have their benefits and you can connect with people on them if you're good at managing your forum persona. I certainly know that the more I've written here the more interest we've received from members all over the UK...so it does help to raise your profile...but only if you say stuff that resonates with people or seems kind

Looking at your profile I'd say you need to make some simple changes and you should be away meeting new people. You need to write more about yourselves...just enough to add a little character and personality to your profile so that you're not just another cookie cutter profile along the way. Then you need to hang the sexiest pictures you can put together out to dry. They should be accurate...but they should show you at your sexiest. We haven't done this yet because we know that the minute we do we'll be attracting a lot more attention to ourselves and we're not really ready for that at the mo. So three things...

1) write up a more interesting and enticing profile

2) post up some super sexy images

3) book yourself in for some club nights

These should get you off to a better start meeting real people. Yes the forum is nice...and it has it's place...but actually meeting people is the meat and potatoes here. I've already managed to meet a few people and have some friendly laughs and we're not even swinging yet! So just be positive, friendly, and enthusiastic whenever someone contacts you...and say you'd love to meet. Most people on here are nice. We've been on here 3 months and only had to block two couples who sent us threatening or vindictive messages...so if you can deal with that kind of ratio and take it as a pinch of salt...you'll be fine

Good luck...and btw the picture you've already got is a very very good start

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We started our swinging adventure by attending a club back in January this year. We researched a number of clubs which we thought were not too far away, and found one in Sheffield (La Chambre) which also had their own chat room and forum. We joined up and chatted too several people, and when we finally arrived at the club, there were a few people who we could chat too whilst we found our feet.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Don't know where abouts in Kent you are and how far you can travel but there is a big forum social at Jaydees in a few weeks lots of fab folk old and new are attending

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Have taken on a lot of advice and learnt alot lately of how the site works and can understand that established meet swingers have a real job with all the fake profiles,spare a thought for us,we been like lambs to slaughter, we trying so hard to prove we real we wasted alot of time getting what I now know is meaningless verification on webcam,also we went getting endless Skype requests, unaware that a whole other world of cyber sex exsists on fab,honestly we were elated finally a couple who wanted to chat,only too realise we were fresh meat for the none real swinger community lol, not having any real experience but being honest about that and now discovering the wonderful much friendlier world of the forum, I feel like we've been on a journey already and we haven't even had meet yet x "

If you see any advertised I would recommend a social, you get a chance to meet people in a non-pressured environment, can get verified as genuine from actually meeting and maybe even make a few contacts for the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi guys , we would recommend going to clubs for meets as you see exactly what your getting on the nite ,

also plenty of socials held at clubs they are worth a visit too,

eureakas is a friendly club and also has social nites, they also open all day to chill out before the partys start in the eve,

what ever you chose enjoy

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By *ontempo OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Thanks for all advice everyone,am thinking a social would be a good place to start x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for all advice everyone,am thinking a social would be a good place to start x"

Don't know where in Kent you are but there's a social coming up in Sussex.

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

More pics please....only cos the one you have is very sexy and we want to see more

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