FabSwingers.com forum: Face pics

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do people who post face pics on here ever get recognised by people they know, we would like to but are worried about getting recognised!!

Or are you just not bothered?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the news so I guess I'm asking trouble

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do people who post face pics on here ever get recognised by people they know, we would like to but are worried about getting recognised!!

Or are you just not bothered?

yes they do.

We also recognise people we don't know in the street including one lady who was bending naked over a sofa looking back at the camera.

If you want to publish face pictures go ahead plenty do but remember there has been at least one journalist in the forums lately and bear in mind that some people don't know the meaning of the word discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped putting my face picture up a few months ago, heard so many stories about being recognised etc, even some people taking iphone pictures of pictures on display.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a real shame as the sexiest part of so many of the pictures on here is the look on the faces!

Really can't take the chance of someone We knows us seeing our pics and showing others..

Shame ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our face pics are in our friends only photos so only people we've chatted to & have shared theirs with us get to see our mugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been recognised but so far it hasn't bothered us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do people who post face pics on here ever get recognised by people they know, we would like to but are worried about getting recognised!!

Or are you just not bothered?

Not bothered. I'm hardly an upstanding pillar of society so don't really have much to lose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fair comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did they actually tell you they saw your pics??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never really bothered me. If I get recognised then I'm guessing they are on the same site I am, it's nothing to be embarrassed about really. If they get stolen and used for something else then so be it. It isn't that much diferent to having face pics on something of the social network persuasion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The fact we have a young family makes it a bit dodgy, if we hadn't then we probably would post some face pics.

And we agree, definitely not ashamed to be on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does not bother us

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We did have public face pics until someone showed all our pics to my employer!

Lesson learned and we're now very choosy as to what we show.

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That was nice of them!!!

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"That was nice of them!!!"

Yes and it cost me my career! damage done now though and we've come out the other side better for it....we now have nothing to hide.

Mrs Dirty

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Do people who post face pics on here ever get recognised by people they know, we would like to but are worried about getting recognised!!

Or are you just not bothered?

Yes a guy viewed our profile who was local so we looked at his (no message or anything) and then he walked into our local late one night lol we don't have face pic on profile but told him where we had seen him...

Tbh we really aren't bothered who knows and cats pretty much out of the bag where we live..lol We just don't want it getting to you kids..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not bothered, got more chance of seeing god down the road lol x.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Someone must if recognised Roxy by her hair or a tattoo in ine of our pics and said " are you so and so" and put our road name!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were recognised by someone on here, does it matter anyway. You're both on the site for the same thing. We've been recognised and are friends with the couple that did. We talked about each other's discretion and how we won't be shouting from the rooftops. A bonus is they're hot so we'll be playing in the future too. A great way to skip the get to know you bit of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone must if recognised Roxy by her hair or a tattoo in ine of our pics and said " are you so and so" and put our road name!!"

As a side note. If I recognised someone in the street from here I wouldn't acknowledge them and I wouldn't expect them to acknowledge me either. I think it is quite rude to do so and not exactly the better part of discretion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quite agree, we have exchanged face pics with one or two couple who are local to us, not met yet but regularly bump into them at the gym etc, just a hello and that's it, think that's how it should be, shame not everyone is like that...

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I had face pics on here when I joined, then within a week I got a reply to a message saying "sorry but I know you" she then went on to tell me quite a bit about me so I know she knows me quite well and her hubby doesn't know she on here. I have no idea who this person is. So now my face pics are for friends only coz you have no idea who is looking at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not ashamed but I don't want to hurt our kids or our family, our lifestyle choices should not impact on them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Gillyhicks, we feel exactly the same as you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gillyhicks, we feel exactly the same as you x"

Most people would feel the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send face pics in private - not knowingly been recognised yet but have seen some people I know even from grainy pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would be much more fun if we could all post face pics and not worry about it though, it would cut a lot of the crap out!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Quite agree, we have exchanged face pics with one or two couple who are local to us, not met yet but regularly bump into them at the gym etc, just a hello and that's it, think that's how it should be, shame not everyone is like that..."

We have exchanged face pics with a guy the is very local, don't plan to play but as we said nothing to stop us saying hi and being pleasant not going to go shouting about fab but we are all adults lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recognised a lady when I was in Homebase last week, plucked up the courage to ask her if she was on "Fab" and thankfully she said yes......

It would have been an interesting conversation explaining what Fab is if she hadn't been a member!!!

Anyway we had a nice but brief chat and will meet probably up for a social at some point...so glad I took the chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

We know if we were as paranoid as some of the people on swinging sites seem to be we just wouldn't do it, it must be like having the "Sword Of Damocles" hanging over their heads, living with the constant fear of being outed!

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX"

People can and have lost their careers due to having photographs on sites like this, if they can be identified due to face pictures it makes that possibility all the more likely. It isn't paranoia its common sense.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

'job sensitivity' is a reality though and not due to an overinflated opinion of anything.

I really never thought that it would happen to me and we had public face pics on our profiles.

There are malicious people about and we wrongly assumed that people within the swinging community would be respectful....how wrong we were

It's up to each individual what pics they have but please don't ever assume that you won't be outed by someone who recognises you (even if they share the same lifestyle).

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX"

Try telling the school governors if you're a teacher.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

NHS staff, teachers, social workers, child care workers.....most staff in these jobs will have an organisation with a policy that lists behaviour that 'brings the organisation into disrepute'

After a 5 month investigation into every area of my personal life I lost my career!

As I said on a previous comment I now have nothing to hide but it really wasn't easy at the time.

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX"

What about your kids being singled out and teased or worse bullied, we prefer to keep our private life private.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"NHS staff, teachers, social workers, child care workers.....most staff in these jobs will have an organisation with a policy that lists behaviour that 'brings the organisation into disrepute'

After a 5 month investigation into every area of my personal life I lost my career!

As I said on a previous comment I now have nothing to hide but it really wasn't easy at the time.

Mrs Dirty "

I'm very sorry to hear this its awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NHS staff, teachers, social workers, child care workers.....most staff in these jobs will have an organisation with a policy that lists behaviour that 'brings the organisation into disrepute'

After a 5 month investigation into every area of my personal life I lost my career!

As I said on a previous comment I now have nothing to hide but it really wasn't easy at the time.

Mrs Dirty "

As a worker in one of the professions mentioned above, I would defy any investigation to prove how my out of work adult heterosexual sex life could "bring the organisation into disrepute", or compromise my ability to do my job.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"NHS staff, teachers, social workers, child care workers.....most staff in these jobs will have an organisation with a policy that lists behaviour that 'brings the organisation into disrepute'

After a 5 month investigation into every area of my personal life I lost my career!

As I said on a previous comment I now have nothing to hide but it really wasn't easy at the time.

Mrs Dirty

XXXX"

I hope you never have to do that.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"NHS staff, teachers, social workers, child care workers.....most staff in these jobs will have an organisation with a policy that lists behaviour that 'brings the organisation into disrepute'

After a 5 month investigation into every area of my personal life I lost my career!

As I said on a previous comment I now have nothing to hide but it really wasn't easy at the time.

Mrs Dirty

XXXX"

I did! and my employer admitted that it hadn't in any way.....but they still decided that my behaviour wasn't in keeping with the image they wanted for the organisation!

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX

What about your kids being singled out and teased or worse bullied, we prefer to keep our private life private."

Couldn't the same be said about children with a gay couple as parents?

The difference is that unlike swingers the gay community had the strength of conviction to stand up and be counted and to fight for their rights.

While swingers hide in the shadows, living in fear of recognition, they're never going to be accepted by certain segments of society, although we've found that most people couldn't give a damn what we do.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX

What about your kids being singled out and teased or worse bullied, we prefer to keep our private life private.

Couldn't the same be said about children with a gay couple as parents?

The difference is that unlike swingers the gay community had the strength of conviction to stand up and be counted and to fight for their rights.

XXXX "

But being gay is not a choice but swinging is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NHS staff, teachers, social workers, child care workers.....most staff in these jobs will have an organisation with a policy that lists behaviour that 'brings the organisation into disrepute'

After a 5 month investigation into every area of my personal life I lost my career!

As I said on a previous comment I now have nothing to hide but it really wasn't easy at the time.

Mrs Dirty

XXXX

I did! and my employer admitted that it hadn't in any way.....but they still decided that my behaviour wasn't in keeping with the image they wanted for the organisation!

Mrs Dirty "

Well we hope your union hammered them at an Industrial Tribunal!

XXXX

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Apparently someone keeps coming into my work, he told me today. ....no idea who he is....no fecking face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX

What about your kids being singled out and teased or worse bullied, we prefer to keep our private life private.

Couldn't the same be said about children with a gay couple as parents?

The difference is that unlike swingers the gay community had the strength of conviction to stand up and be counted and to fight for their rights.

XXXX

But being gay is not a choice but swinging is"

On the contrary, being 'openly' gay is a choice and many gay people have espoused that choice.

It's a pity that swingers don't have the same strength of conviction.

XXXX

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We've had face pics on here and on a previous site for years.

We live in a relatively small town, which we call "The Biggest Village In England" because everyone seems to know everyone else in some way or other.

However, bearing that in mind, we both have front of house jobs in very large public establishments but have never had any bother at all.

We think most people who make the excuse of "job sensitivity" have an over inflated opinion of their position in life.

XXXX

Senior Clergymen, Senior Police Officers, High Court Judges and M.P's maybe but we don't reckon there are many of those on here.

It all comes down to being open and having the front to stand up for what you believe in.

If you try to keep something secret and someone finds out about it your just giving them a stick to beat you with.

What's the worst they can say "Hold on a minute, you have an unconventional sex life!". So what!

XXXX

What about your kids being singled out and teased or worse bullied, we prefer to keep our private life private.

Couldn't the same be said about children with a gay couple as parents?

The difference is that unlike swingers the gay community had the strength of conviction to stand up and be counted and to fight for their rights.

XXXX "

it isn't about strength of conviction, some people prefer to keep their sex life private and if that is what they want it shouldn't be implied that they are paranoid or somehow letting the side down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately people can be small minded and petty so if it could affect your lively hood then not showing face pics can be understood so it is personal choice.

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