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polite nonpushy guy but still no replies or meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been on here for a bit now been messaging people carefully and politely and being nice and chatty but to no avail ive had no replies or interest what am I doing wrong is my profile ok people thanks nick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been here four weeks! Personally too many cock pics tho some may like that sort of thing.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

four weeks doesn't exactly scream patience.... sorry......

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It takes time, mate....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah wasnt sure what pics to put or what people want to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know I haven't been on here long and I dont expect to jump in bed straight away so i just started messaging people just general chat and see where things go you know but no replies there either to start talking and getting to know people you start chatting dont you maybe its because im new im trying to hard I dont know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know I haven't been on here long and I dont expect to jump in bed straight away so i just started messaging people just general chat and see where things go you know but no replies there either to start talking and getting to know people you start chatting dont you maybe its because im new im trying to hard I dont know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well maybe put the cock pics private. Cause sumtimes it will put peeps off, as the sayin goes a cock's a cock if u've seen 1 u've seen them all lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok cool ill do that I see what you mean I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Ok cool ill do that I see what you mean I suppose "

see... and the slippery slope begins

you ask a million people.. you will get a million answers...

you start tweeking the profile according to what "others" people think.. it not you anymore.. its what you "think" sounds good.... it becomes a generic mish mash...

i am a great believer in "if you cant work it out for yourself... don't put it in a profile"...

in the end this is another example of "individuality" being sacrifice for quick results with minimum effort.....

the brain is the biggest sex organ you have... use it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol I get what your saying I do have a brain lol its only cos im new to this I was un sure what to put on my profile without people thinking im an deush lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Lol I get what your saying I do have a brain lol its only cos im new to this I was un sure what to put on my profile without people thinking im an deush lol"

Douche....you can ask but what if you get 5 ladies saying 'yuk, don't how your cock pics' and another 5 saying 'phwooaar! Show us more!'....then what? See? If you try to please everyone, you will please no one.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Lol I get what your saying I do have a brain lol its only cos im new to this I was un sure what to put on my profile without people thinking im an deush lol"

well sometimes you have to be able to think for yourself....

so maybe its more of a case of sitting down... pen... piece of paper and actually thinking about what you want to say and what you are trying to get across....

if you think you are putting across the best you you can... keep it exactly as it is

if not... change it... but it has to be you, not some vision of what you think appeals

you know you better than we all do!!!

the biggest mistake is people think you are trying to appeal to everyone... you are not going to be able to do that so why try....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

check out clubs parties etc..even purely social events...

You cannot accom..to many they may be concerned you already have a partner at home...this will really reduce interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very true all women like different things I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously mate...look around the site at other peoples profiles.....if you see a guy with like 100+ verifications then maybe he is doing something right?

Nick ideas! Don't copy directly but the best ideas are those stolen from others....China just got in trouble with the yanks for doing just that so even governments do it.

Feel free to ask privately too!

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By *otwife CoolhubCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Your profile is a good one, just make sure your messages are polite, interesting with a little humour.

This site is a waiting game but the rewards are worth it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very true all women like different things I suppose "

Yes we do. Your profile reads well but just my opinion, maybe lose the pic of you in your hat. And you say you hsve tattoos how about some pics of those? Anyway good luck

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

There's no shortage of really good profiles on here, I even message sometimes just to say thanks for a well written or funny profile.

You're own opinion of what you think makes a good profile is the best guide. Like others have said, take inspiration from the ones you think are good on here.

This site is very simple; you get out what you put in. Effort and time will pay dividends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on your profile exactly how you feel and what you are looking for, DO NOT put what you think people want to hear, when messaging people don't be generic, don't be desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS Nice torso photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok cool ill do that I see what you mean I suppose

see... and the slippery slope begins

you ask a million people.. you will get a million answers...

you start tweeking the profile according to what "others" people think.. it not you anymore.. its what you "think" sounds good.... it becomes a generic mish mash...

i am a great believer in "if you cant work it out for yourself... don't put it in a profile"...

in the end this is another example of "individuality" being sacrifice for quick results with minimum effort.....

the brain is the biggest sex organ you have... use it!

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