FabSwingers.com forum: Still no meets :-(

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, been on the site for a bit now and I'm struggling to find people to meet me so far on here. I post meets regularly when I'm free, have public pictures and I'm photo verified. Could anybody give me some tips and advice on how to improve my profile please so I can interest some people

Thanks

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

5 weeks is no time at all in the grand scheme of things.

Can't really offer advice on profile as I don't know you, just read it from a potential meets point of view and think 'would I want to meet that person?'

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" Could anybody give me some tips and advice on how to improve my profile please so I can interest some people

Thanks "

nope... in the nicest way possible...

I am a believer in that if you cant work it out for yourself, it shouldn't be in a profile........

in that if you listen to everyone and change your profile accordingly... then the profile isn't you anymore, its a generic mish mash of what you think people want to hear

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I've been on here a while now, got no joy for quite a while so went to clubs and enjoyed myself there, persevered on here and finally things come together

It won't happen overnight though, however frustrating that may be

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Nice pic of the Louvre there

Your profile looks fine to me, so I suspect you might be too young for some people, and your accommodation problems could put people off. Daytime only meets suggests you are attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my point of view, just looked at your profile and it looks ok to me...it could be that you're just not someone's type..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice so far!! I see the point of changing it and then it not being me from somebody else's advice. I can only accom daytime as still live with parents

but can meet all day a lot of the times just nights, especially weekends can be hard due to night shift work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says in your profile you have had meets with lovely woman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Says in your profile you have had meets with lovely woman.

That was on a previous profile about 2 years ago. I left due to no luck with meets even when I had a veri off another member. Only came back here as really wanted to give it another go and enjoy myself

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Says in your profile you have had meets with lovely woman.

Perhaps he's ready to move on to the not so lovely women now.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

" Could anybody give me some tips and advice on how to improve my profile please so I can interest some people

Thanks

nope... in the nicest way possible...

I am a believer in that if you cant work it

out for yourself, it shouldn't be in a

profile........

If you try to please everyone, you will please no-one....you might try to appeal to a wide range of people in the hopes that a net cast wide must catch a little fish, however, you need to make sure the weave is small.

in that if you listen to everyone and change your profile accordingly... then the profile isn't you anymore, its a generic mish mash of what you think people want to hear"

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

No criticism really - although I do find the constant "I'm free!" notices a bit much, Id just arrange to meet people when you are free rather than posting it up, but thats just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be invented with your messages when you send them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No criticism really - although I do find the constant "I'm free!" notices a bit much, Id just arrange to meet people when you are free rather than posting it up, but thats just me. "

Thanks for the advice mate. I just feel posting meets advertises I'm free to people who may want to meet and don't want to annoy people with constantly messaging them asking if they are free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would do you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would do you

xx"

Thanks

if I'm ever over your way I'll be sure to message you! If you happen to pop by sunny old West Midlands let me know and maybe we could arrange something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think u look really nice sweetie but Im never keen on a list of meets and especially day time meets - no one works 7 days a week - it screams attached to me xx

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By *oger43Man
over a year ago

Telford

Post in the forum that you have had a lack of interest, then maybe someone will take notice..... Oh!!! Err!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax, enjoy yourself and don't rely soley on Fab as your way to meet/have fun with women and you won't get frustrated.

Things will happen if you put the right effort in and with a little patience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think u look really nice sweetie but Im never keen on a list of meets and especially day time meets - no one works 7 days a week - it screams attached to me xx"

Thanks! I can only accommodate in the day times due to living at home still with parents but always very willing to travel at anytime of the day for a meet when I'm not working nights x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't know if I'm ever going to have any luck on here

! Just been up the lickey hills where I had a meet arranged but in end couldn't meet as both had no signal so not other persons fault and then drove all the way into Birmingham to meet somebody at their hotel for them to ignore my messages when I had arrived. I just want to get myself verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know if I'm ever going to have any luck on here

Move to Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know if I'm ever going to have any luck on here

you can arrange a social meet to get verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know if I'm ever going to have any luck on here

Get yourself to a club. Must be one near you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thing is I put meet posts up but hardly ever get replies

. Am I doing something really wrong? Would love to go to a club defo but for my first time would perfer to go with someone as don't have a clue what to expect and how to start talking to people about things lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont put so many up at a time its confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not go along to one of the fab socials, there are two in June one in west brom and one in darleston. You don't have to be a member to attend and there will be loads of other Fab members there. I bet you could even arrange to meet up with others going and go in with them.

Your age is going to go against you and I'd stop putting to continuous meet requests. Browse the profiles in your area & send out messages to people you like the look of and that you match what they are looking for.

Your profile & pics are fine and do what they need to do and if you were a few years older I'd meet you....

Good luck and just relax & go with it for a bit....FAB is a marathon not a sprint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm same can't. Get a meet x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm same can't. Get a meet x"

You've been here a week. What did you expect? A queue of women desperate for sex, waiting for you?

You're one of many thousands of men. There are far fewer women and couples. Present yourself to your best advantage and be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to be doing OK. Been registered two weeks met two people. Got another meet Friday planned. Monday next week too.

I don't know what I'm doing right though..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'm same can't. Get a meet x"

A hidden profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I seem to be doing OK. Been registered two weeks met two people. Got another meet Friday planned. Monday next week too.

I don't know what I'm doing right though..

Meeting men will always be far easier than meeting women or couples.

There are so many here and let's be honest, in general, they 'put out' without too much legwork.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Go to a swinging venue and socialise. Amazing what some people meeting with you can turn things around. Until then you're just another photo. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not go along to one of the fab socials, there are two in June one in west brom and one in darleston. You don't have to be a member to attend and there will be loads of other Fab members there. I bet you could even arrange to meet up with others going and go in with them.

Your profile & pics are fine and do what they need to do and if you were a few years older I'd meet you....

Good luck and just relax & go with it for a bit....FAB is a marathon not a sprint

What dates are the two socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What dates are the two socials?

BBW event at Chameleons is 22nd June

http://m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/268540

Other social is 7yh June at Xstasia

http://m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/275524

Of you check the meets and events forums they are all in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From my point of view, just looked at your profile and it looks ok to me...it could be that you're just not someone's type.."

That's the usual thing I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I seem to be doing OK. Been registered two weeks met two people. Got another meet Friday planned. Monday next week too.

I don't know what I'm doing right though..

Meeting men will always be far easier than meeting women or couples.

There are so many here and let's be honest, in general, they 'put out' without too much legwork."

All true which is probably a good job I'm bisexual then and know this and I'm happy with it.

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