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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a bit more imaginative than hi how are you.

Only you can 'sell' yourself to others. We can't do it for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't understand why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many have you sent that to?

I'm only asking as most of the time you only really get one chance to grab someones attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello how are you

Then tell them about yourself.

Then tell them how rampant you are.

Then tell them how you fit into there plans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're going to ask a question, make it something to do with their profile. At least it shows you read it!

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be sarcastic, bitchy, funny and honest, send them a ridiculous picture of you in fancy dress and sit back and wait, those that reply will obviously have a sense if fun, those that don't, you've lost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol."
and that works?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.and that works? "
Yes.. I am inundated with offers, currently finding time to fit all the women in each day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I useally tell em about my sad childhood . And how I was bullied It works on BGT

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women"

It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women

It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!!"

Sarcasm? On fab? Never!

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "
You have been on before recognise your pics and asked for advice? Only you can know what to write in a message. There is no ideal message. The advice below and given on the many forum threads on the subject is good advice

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women

It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!!"
Me sarcastic !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women

It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!! Me sarcastic !!!!! "

Not you, shag tonight. Don't panic, that's not an offer, I mean the user shag tonight lol

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford


"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.and that works? Yes.. I am inundated with offers, currently finding time to fit all the women in each day "

drop the bit about nice tits to make the inbox a little bit more manageable. Got it down to three hours reading and replies daily. Works a charm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women

It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!! Me sarcastic !!!!!

Not you, shag tonight. Don't panic, that's not an offer, I mean the user shag tonight lol"
I was just about to say . Yes please . You killed the moment

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Hi, how are you?, usually only works in a bar when you have a smile, personality and a smell to back it up.

Show me you have a personality and a smile using words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

would something like this work

Hi, I mike

A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.

Key Stats:

6ft 2 tall

34 inch waist

Slight belly

Clean and DD Free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi how are you, fancy a fuck ?

Then attach atleast 12 close up cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would something like this work

Hi, I mike

A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.

Key Stats:

6ft 2 tall

34 inch waist

Slight belly

Clean and DD Free"
DD free ??.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

drug and STD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By getting off your ass and going to clubs/socials/parties!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"drug and STD"
Would leave that bit out mate . It sounds like you had a drugs and decease problem and now your free

Ladies would automatically expect you to be DD free anyway . I don't think there are many ladies looking for guys who aren't

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

good point, thanks mate

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"would something like this work

Hi, I mike

A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.

Key Stats:

6ft 2 tall

34 inch waist

Slight belly

Clean and DD Free"
Honestly, I would just delete it. Stats are irrelevant. You need something to catch the readers eye/imagination.

Appreciate people have to start somewhere but telling people you have little experience is a negative start. Make a message personal, pick put something from the persons profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.and that works? "

It would for us , shame he isn't nearer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.and that works?

It would for us , shame he isn't nearer "
lol thanks and yes shame I wasnt closer .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats happening chick fancy some dick?....

Let me know if it works...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Make a message personal, pick put something from the persons profile "

You need to give the recipient a reason to reply so need to make it unique to each person you message. I may be wrong but from the example you gave it reads like you send the same message to multiple recipients - probably not a great idea. Read the forums and you'll see copy and paste messages are generally not well recieved.

Comment on the profile, pay a compliment (preferably something a little more substantial than nice tits), ask a question. You need to be engaging and draw people in to a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make each message you send individual to the person you are messaging, don't cut and paste the same message to everyone. Read their profile in full and look for common ground to give you ideas of something to write about.

Be patient and put in effort. A lot will no doubt still get deleted but you'll have a better chance.

If that fails just ask them for a shag right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get a meet then either turn up or if you can't make it, then let them know. Saves them sitting waiting like a spare part at a wedding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make each message you send individual to the person you are messaging, don't cut and paste the same message to everyone. Read their profile in full and look for common ground to give you ideas of something to write about.

Be patient and put in effort. A lot will no doubt still get deleted but you'll have a better chance.

If that fails just ask them for a shag right now. "

Cut and paste!! Haha now I know you have done that .. crafty devil haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "

read her profile and try to meesage her with content related to what she is looking for, if you want more meets I would go to a club

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"would something like this work

Hi, I mike

A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.

Key Stats:

6ft 2 tall

34 inch waist

Slight belly

Clean and DD Free"

Yawn! Sorry, but a message like that would be deleted straight away....nothing that stands out from the crowd, makes me smile or makes me believe that you have bothered to read my profile.

And another tip....some photos of you looking even remotely happy might help! Smile man, what you so miserable about??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes there are just no words.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Missy, looking at your pics just made me decide to have melon fruit salad for breakfast!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Missy, looking at your pics just made me decide to have melon fruit salad for breakfast!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Missy, looking at your pics just made me decide to have melon fruit salad for breakfast!

"

Fancy sharing?!!

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Your age will go hugely against you.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Your profile is dull too so that also goes against you. Women are interested in what experiences you can offer them. Your profile is your shop window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep coming and going with new profiles probably doesn't help, this must be your 3rd profile in around a month. Some people notice this and rightly or wrongly assume you might not be serious or up for this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about as an opening line

'Lottery millionaire looking for a woman to help him spend obscene amounts of money on fast cars, designer clothes and exotic foreign travel.....'

If nothing else it will get people's attention

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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Very true.... Where it doesn't work in on here. If you answer the message and say you get 5 maybe 10 a day then you will be on here all day just discussing your health.

They get deleted as it shows the kind of effort and interest they have in our profile which prob relates to the effort put in on the job!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women"

Wow, what a great sense of humour you need

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "

I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hes hidden his profile so anybody who bothers to answer his amazing message isnt going to find out anything more

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,

I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused* "

He has only just hidden it....I'm guessing yet another one who asked for advice but didn't like the advice given!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,

I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused*

He has only just hidden it....I'm guessing yet another one who asked for advice but didn't like the advice given! "

I think this is his 3rd profile in a month. He asked for advice on his last one a few weeks ago and got some good advice so he knows what he should be doing.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,

I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused*

He has only just hidden it....I'm guessing yet another one who asked for advice but didn't like the advice given!

I think this is his 3rd profile in a month. He asked for advice on his last one a few weeks ago and got some good advice so he knows what he should be doing."

Hmmm....just a bit thick then??? Lol! Some guys on here never learn......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If things were reversed I'm sure a lot of the women here would struggle too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would something like this work

Hi, I mike

A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.

Key Stats:

6ft 2 tall

34 inch waist

Slight belly

Clean and DD Free"

Cut and paste messages in my opinion don't work, you need to read the persons profile and answer that.

Also a few weeks ago you were only looking to meet guys....what changed??

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By *mmie2014Man
over a year ago

London


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "

Really your best bets are socials. In a social you are a real person who has made the effort to turn up. That is, you become a serious player/swinger. Best of luck.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I m often amazed that people (often guys) have to ask for help to craft a message thats a good introduction

same with a profile thats engaging and interesting guys you know you best,,

Wtf guys use your imaginations,

Apologies I m in a frystrated mood today,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol."

Spot on.... its complimentary, offering something and asking a leading question. .. guaranteed to get a response. Hahaha

I try to be a little different with my intro line being.... nice legs.... what time do they open? Kidding.

Better to ask if you can call one leg Christmas and the other one easter and then ask the lovely lady if you can come visit between the holidays.

Have a good day people.

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By *WcplCouple
over a year ago

Tameside


"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women

It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if im honest its not the first message that impresses me its the guys profile. I always read that first if its not to my taste i delete the message without even reading it

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By *hameless-2Couple
over a year ago

_hameless-2 ~ HULL

Oh for fux sake mate.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but grow a personality. No wonder you always get deleted with that one liner.

I'm an old fat fucker now but we still manage to pull younger, good looking slim cpls.,women,men.

Cos my personality is bigger then my belly and my wife is so damn sexy lol

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By *hameless-2Couple
over a year ago

_hameless-2 ~ HULL

Afterall, if you can make a woman laugh your halfway there to making her come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use

"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "

why don't you try chatting in the chatrooms? get to know a few people that way, then attend a social or two, get a few verifications and then hopefully meets will follow...

but for now how about 'hi..i just checked out your profile and I think we would get on.. have a look at mine and if you agree lets take it from there?' or something like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually start with.

Ahoy there. Stand by to be boarded you landlubber. Then the offer of walking my plank usually gets busty maidens all a quiver and queuing up to shiver my timbers!

Yarrggh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials were how we started and was a really good ice breaker ..... contrary to what we thought swingers arnt that scary after all ....... just a bit odd

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If there was a 'proper' message to send people that was copy and pastable, every guy on site would use it. Be individual. Invest some time in people and be creative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Afterall, if you can make a woman laugh your halfway there to making her come."

so long as she laughing with and not at

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