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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After a private conversation off site with a "friend" the content somehow got out into the public domain... I've been called a troublemaker which appears to have put paid to my visits to local clubs... Where I really only go to (much exclamation!!!) socialise anyway....

There is very little respect shown to one another as a single in this scene... With many threads debating lack of bi girls (in my experience been put off by the demands of couples and the jealousy of the other partner) trouble getting proper meets with genuine, intelligent men folk (well I don't get hundreds of messages but, seriously, the lack of content in the ones I do get give me the urge to hit the delete button) the guys I do meet, despite proclaiming they aren't looking for notches, then set about doing exactly that... Nothing worse than seeing a new verification the day after a fantastic meet

So fab peeps do I just stay here and sit it out or do I chuck the whole thing in?

Advice please and let's try not to get too personal !!! I'm well aware how I look and whether or not I'm fat curvy ugly attractive etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest only you can make that desicion as wether to stay or go. If you don't find it fun anymore or aren't finding what you want on here then maybe you should have a break from it just hide your profile then it is still there if you decide to come back. We understand it can get frustrating on here at times but I'm sure if you stick with it you will find what you are looking for

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By *az_1976Man
over a year ago

Peterborough/Huntingdon

I think stay and ignore the idiots on here. There's plenty of idiots in the 'real' world too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do whats best for you. You could always hide your profile and take a break. What ever you decide to do, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like your mind is made up!

From your OP your not finding swinging much fun.

No one can tell you to stay or leave! It's your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than seeing a new verification the day after a fantastic meet "

Just how long is a person meant to wait to meet someone else after seeing you?

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Why don't you take pro active steps to meet the kind of people you are looking for? Check out profiles for yourself and make the first move, send emails to the ones who you fancy meeting or getting to know?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Cock a snook at them all and stay. Use the site as you wish, and sod the rest of them.

Or do what I do when the site starts getting to me - hide your profile and pics, filter all messages, and change your password, and take a break. Do things outside Fab, get back in touch with friends and family, start a new hobby. Return refreshed.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It wouldn't matter to me if someone I had had sex with one day had sex with someone else the next day. It's just sex.

it's supposed to be fun. If it's not fun....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


""Nothing worse than seeing a new verification the day after a fantastic meet "

Just how long is a person meant to wait to meet someone else after seeing you?

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5 mins on a good day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If what you say is true you seem to have met more than your fair share of the (admittedly many) nobbs on here!

Hopefully having met most of them you may now get some better ones....there are some of us genuine ones here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't matter to me if someone I had had sex with one day had sex with someone else the next day. It's just sex.

it's supposed to be fun. If it's not fun...."

.... Then evaluate why you are here .

Clearly it's not working for you

If it makes you angry and sad ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a private conversation off site with a "friend" the content somehow got out into the public domain... I've been called a troublemaker which appears to have put paid to my visits to local clubs... Where I really only go to (much exclamation!!!) socialise anyway....

There is very little respect shown to one another as a single in this scene... With many threads debating lack of bi girls (in my experience been put off by the demands of couples and the jealousy of the other partner) trouble getting proper meets with genuine, intelligent men folk (well I don't get hundreds of messages but, seriously, the lack of content in the ones I do get give me the urge to hit the delete button) the guys I do meet, despite proclaiming they aren't looking for notches, then set about doing exactly that... Nothing worse than seeing a new verification the day after a fantastic meet

So fab peeps do I just stay here and sit it out or do I chuck the whole thing in?

Advice please and let's try not to get too personal !!! I'm well aware how I look and whether or not I'm fat curvy ugly attractive etc.

"

The meet /veri thing has happened to me not very nice especially if you are under the impression that you and said guy may be in a relationship of sorts, as.I was. I hid my profile for a bit till I got over it. I also lost a good guy through my possessiveness, so just don't do what I did. it's meant to be fun after all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"After a private conversation off site with a "friend" the content somehow got out into the public domain... I've been called a troublemaker which appears to have put paid to my visits to local clubs... Where I really only go to (much exclamation!!!) socialise anyway....

There is very little respect shown to one another as a single in this scene... With many threads debating lack of bi girls (in my experience been put off by the demands of couples and the jealousy of the other partner) trouble getting proper meets with genuine, intelligent men folk (well I don't get hundreds of messages but, seriously, the lack of content in the ones I do get give me the urge to hit the delete button) the guys I do meet, despite proclaiming they aren't looking for notches, then set about doing exactly that... Nothing worse than seeing a new verification the day after a fantastic meet

So fab peeps do I just stay here and sit it out or do I chuck the whole thing in?

Advice please and let's try not to get too personal !!! I'm well aware how I look and whether or not I'm fat curvy ugly attractive etc.

"

Go, this clearly isn't the time or the place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The line under your status and this post suggest go. You have not said anything positive about being here.

The site will still be here if you miss it.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Do whats best for you. You could always hide your profile and take a break. What ever you decide to do, good luck "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont have to use the site to meet I left but missed forums so came back for banter. Do what is right for you if you need a break then take it kind of puts everything into perspective. Do not let one bad apple ruin it for you. Good luck with what you decide x

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By *harlotte_KWoman
over a year ago

London

Stay. Take control of your sexuality and what you want. Pay attention to your instincts about people. And if you don't like the way someone treats you, well, then say adios and move on! Plenty of other folk who will treat you the way you want...just got to be a bit more discerning about who to play with. And open to meeting all types. From another single girl xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anything we say have any bearing? If you're not enjoying it then go. if you're not sure, hide your profile while you decide. No big deal. It doesn't sound like the site is right for you at the moment, but I don't know you. All I know is if the site want working for me it was making me stressed/unhappy then I wouldn't be here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

all the single ladies.... and the others that have contributed... thank you for your input... yes this site makes me unhappy and at times, stressed, but you will see I've restricted my profile so that I take charge of what happens and when... rather than hiding. This is so that my true friends on this site don't get worried about me.

I have been on and off FAB S for around three years now and I've had some fantastic, in fact, glorious times as well as those I'd rather not remember... but maybe it's time for me to bow out and let go gracefully... and this seems to be the best way rather than a knee jerk "delete profile" reaction... anyway, will see how it goes.

Cheers to everyone who contributed and to putting decision making firmly back under your own control, so that you and only you can influence what the future holds

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Re meets/ veri's...

If you meet someone one day, and the next day they get verified by someone they met two weeks ago, what's wrong with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Nothing worse than seeing a new verification the day after a fantastic meet

So fab peeps do I just stay here and sit it out or do I chuck the whole thing in?

"

If it bothers you so much that someone might actually dare meet someone else the day after meeting you then you really are not cut out for this kind of site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a private conversation off site with a "friend" the content somehow got out into the public domain... I've been called a troublemaker which appears to have put paid to my visits to local clubs... Where I really only go to (much exclamation!!!) socialise anyway....

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There are at least 3 local clubs - can't believe you really mamaged to annoy all 3 of them and not be welcome at any of them.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Im not sure from your post you're looking for what this site provides if you're feeling hurt by people meeting you then meeting others within a day or few days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy had written this, it would be , see you, bye !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't let any if those club wannabes who think they are famous put you off, I'm sure you are welcome at other clubs locally x

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