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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Opinions please, if neither can accommodate, so a hotel is agreed on, should the guy pay for it? The old fashioned part of me says that maybe I should, but part of me is uncomfortable with it, kind of paying for sex if you get me. Too late now, I've pulled the plug on the meet. Got me thinking though and I can't decide.

Girls, would you expect the bloke to pick up the tab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would pay for it, I'd treat it as if it was a date, so my place to pay.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Should be half and half!!

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

If it's a hotel I reckon it'd be best to discus the cost before hand. Male half here typing I had a few hotel meets years back when I was single on here and we always split the bill but this was all discussed first. I did try to be the gentleman about it and offer to pay though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always offer to split cost, but I'd consider him a right tight-arse if he accepted! lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Split it if neither is stayin the night, or both are. If your using it for sleep, you pay. I'd never expect the guy to pay all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's a hotel I reckon it'd be best to discus the cost before hand. Male half here typing I had a few hotel meets years back when I was single on here and we always split the bill but this was all discussed first. I did try to be the gentleman about it and offer to pay though!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Split unless one party or other is stopping the night, then they pay. That's what we've done with single guys before with hotels. We have used the room before and after the meet so we have paid. Seems a bit old fashioned to have an expectation that the guy should foot the bill - MrsNotts.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

50/50 unless like others have said 1 is already staying in the hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You 'pulled the plug on the meet'???

Eh I wouldn't be booking the hotel then, some charge cancellation fees.

I'm fiercely independent. If I wanna meet I will normally book and pay for myself.

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By *ife in furCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Old fashioned, well mannered, chivalry not dead, male usually pays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the others.

We've split the cost everytime after openly discussing, unless one of the couples decide they want to stay the whole night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect the guy to pay, I will happily pay half, I've even paid the full amount on occasion, some guys insist on paying, if they do I just let them as it kind of kills the mood if you argue over hotel bills, I always offer to pay my way though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I meet as a single fem, I always book and pay for the hotel myself, as I tend to stay the whole night. If neither myself or the meet were staying, I'd expect us both to go halves.

As a couple, we still pay for the hotel, as Mr is a bit old fashioned like that! Just ask others to bring their booze and snacks.

Saint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Old fashioned, well mannered, chivalry not dead, male usually pays"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am independent and provide for my children. However, there are things i can do without, so will not pay for hotels just because i have better uses for my money. If as a result we cannot meet, so be it. Obviously there may be exceptions to this but not on the scene.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Unfortunately, as a single mum, money is tight and I can't afford hotel costs. This would of course be explained to the guy well beforehand and if he offers to pay then that's great. I've never experienced a problem with the guy paying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was meeting someone in a hotel just as a meet then I'd pay half. I don't expect any man to pay my share!

When I've stayed overnight at a hotel I've paid the whole amount.

The same as when I've met and we've had a meal and gone onto a club, then we agreed before hand who was paying for what. That's only fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, as a single mum, money is tight and I can't afford hotel costs. This would of course be explained to the guy well beforehand and if he offers to pay then that's great. I've never experienced a problem with the gguy paying "

Exactly! Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, as a single mum, money is tight and I can't afford hotel costs. This would of course be explained to the guy well beforehand and if he offers to pay then that's great. I've never experienced a problem with the gguy paying

Exactly! Same here."

Financial restraints are crippling (unlike bondage ). If a guy wants to invite me back to his hotel room then fantastic. Whereas the peanuts I earn are spent before I get them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be able to afford a hotel

So because of this I meet at a club and I always go home after it

A hotel is the cost of a weeks shopping for my kids

If they would rather book a hotel and pay for it then ok but so far I have never had a hotel meet

Feels a bit weird and cheap to me

But that's me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've booked hotels for a meet and had a no show, never again. I met a guy in a hotel before xmas and we'd discussed going halves but I got nothing so now I only have hotel meets if I'm staying in one for other reasons. I'd always offer to go halves and think if you're booking one specifically for a meet its only fair to go halves.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It's best to discuss this sort of thing prior to meeting, if I am staying overnight then I will happily pay half towards the bill

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys, would usually have no qualms about paying but just been made redundant and , until I find something else, watching the pennies, besides which, her profile said can accommodate and, all of a sudden this wasn't the case. Was getting uneasy about the whole thing anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys, would usually have no qualms about paying but just been made redundant and , until I find something else, watching the pennies, besides which, her profile said can accommodate and, all of a sudden this wasn't the case. Was getting uneasy about the whole thing anyway.

"

People must always go with what they are comfortable with and that includes financially. No-one wants/needs regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if your both wanting to meet then split the bill only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I find that the female tends to pay out more on outfits basques stockings etc so I would expect the guy to pay

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

I think that if the lady offers to pay half then fine but I would be happy to pay for the room. Chances r that either both if us or at least just me would stay the night anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

should be half and half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me I find that the female tends to pay out more on outfits basques stockings etc so I would expect the guy to pay"

Really? Surely what you wear is your choice? Plus I doubt that you buy a new outfit for every meet? I certainly wouldn't bring the cost of my outfit into the equation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a meet not a date,you all share the cost between you,you can be chivalrous by giving her a great time with lots of orgasms,you shouldn't have to be out of pocket to have fun on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me I find that the female tends to pay out more on outfits basques stockings etc so I would expect the guy to pay

Really? Surely what you wear is your choice? Plus I doubt that you buy a new outfit for every meet? I certainly wouldn't bring the cost of my outfit into the equation."

Thats your choice - As you say what I wear is my choice and yes I have bought a new outfit for each meet for me its part of the build up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly all the time men are willing to pay for hotel rooms,meals out,drinks etc them there will be women that will milk it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly all the time men are willing to pay for hotel rooms,meals out,drinks etc them there will be women that will milk it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me I find that the female tends to pay out more on outfits basques stockings etc so I would expect the guy to pay

Really? Surely what you wear is your choice? Plus I doubt that you buy a new outfit for every meet? I certainly wouldn't bring the cost of my outfit into the equation.

Thats your choice - As you say what I wear is my choice and yes I have bought a new outfit for each meet for me its part of the build up "

So if a man buys a new shirt, boxers and socks would you then pay for the hotel as he's forked out for new clothes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd always offer to split cost, but I'd consider him a right tight-arse if he accepted! lol x"

Same here....

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

If we are using the room and then boh leaving - half and half.

If I am staying over local to her - I will pay as I am staying the night and she isn't (or not likely too).

If she is travelling to me (haha) and staying, I would offer half !

Each to their own I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i in hotel for work ill pay

if im n hotel as im going out etc ill pay

if im booking it for fun and its a fb 50/50

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love you all, thought I was being out of order but seems the general consensus agrees with my feelings. So I'm not a tight old bastard after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I pay, its my room. So can chuck them.out lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If men who can't accommodate contact me I decline as I don't accommodate. I tell them I don't pay for hotels if they suggest a hotel. If they want to that's up to them. I never expect to be wined and dined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would and expects her to pay abit, its resesion after all lol.

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By *lectriclemonadeCouple
over a year ago

spain

if its a girl you are meeting you should pay, if its a couple it should be 50/50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if its a girl you are meeting you should pay, if its a couple it should be 50/50"

Why should he pay if its a girl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid question, but what is the etiquette with hotels?

Do you stay over, or just leave after the deed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the bill should be split whatever the situation.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid question, but what is the etiquette with hotels?

Do you stay over, or just leave after the deed?"

ask her what she wants to do

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think the bill should be split whatever the situation.

Her"

Me too

Also Her

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Stupid question, but what is the etiquette with hotels?

Do you stay over, or just leave after the deed?"

there is no hard and fast rule, you should discuss it with the person/people you are meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends,

Do you trust them ?

Was it a couple ? Have you met them before ? or was it a single person ?

I wonder if you've just smelt a rat and feel they are time wasters. Lot's of people get scammed on here so you wont be the first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always offer to at least split the bill so therefore hace the correct funds available, but will admit ive never paid, when the time comes to it, as they always have done the gentlmanly thing and paid in full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50/50!

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By *bro07Man
over a year ago

Teesside

Should split the cost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I offer to split cost where I can, only had one agree to it though x

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By *isalikesitWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I don't think it's fair to expect the male to foot the bill, as we are all there for fun and no one should be left out of pocket. The only exception would be if they were staying there anyway.

Also don't make the mistake we did and leave it till the last moment to book a room and then find yourself in Faulty Towers!!!

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

A straight split, it's not a dating site.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A straight split, it's not a dating site....."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bollocks to that, 50:50 or GTFO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Opinions please, if neither can accommodate, so a hotel is agreed on, should the guy pay for it? The old fashioned part of me says that maybe I should, but part of me is uncomfortable with it, kind of paying for sex if you get me. Too late now, I've pulled the plug on the meet. Got me thinking though and I can't decide.

Girls, would you expect the bloke to pick up the tab? "

Me being jason, would not book a cheap hotel , I would not someon pay half unless they were financially stable etc

It is the same as inviting someone out for a meal , I would pay,

If I was invited out for a meal I would expect the lady to pay in return and i would think nothing more of it even if it was mcdonalds as long as they splashed out a cramel sundae

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Straight down the middle. Or split equally among the number of people present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen it as paying for sex, more like taking her out on a date of sorts. If I'm meeting her then we would have been corresponding and I would see her as a friend so doesn't seem like paying for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not! Split the cost unless one of you is travelling a lot more than the other, in which case you should be civil enough to come to a fair agreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually split the costs,half and half Its only fair,although one man did insist on paying full once didnt accept my offer of paying

When i meet a couple i split it 3ways as bit unfair to me lol

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Opinions please, if neither can accommodate, so a hotel is agreed on, should the guy pay for it? The old fashioned part of me says that maybe I should, but part of me is uncomfortable with it, kind of paying for sex if you get me. Too late now, I've pulled the plug on the meet. Got me thinking though and I can't decide.

Girls, would you expect the bloke to pick up the tab? "

Discuss this beforehand. If you want - offer to pay the first time, and let her pay the second. If you are good - she will want to meet you again

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Opinions please, if neither can accommodate, so a hotel is agreed on, should the guy pay for it? The old fashioned part of me says that maybe I should, but part of me is uncomfortable with it, kind of paying for sex if you get me. Too late now, I've pulled the plug on the meet. Got me thinking though and I can't decide.

Girls, would you expect the bloke to pick up the tab? "
No its mutual fun between two consenting adults so it should be split 50/50 since both of you are having fun,its a swinging site not a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is all individual However, this is the woman's world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the man wants my company he will book and pay

I'm old fashioned haha I bought a bureau and a spider plant ))))))

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By *CoupleCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

I old fashioned type. Booked and paid for room and ,,,,, yes your there already , no show !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a hotel was something I suggested then yes. I would pay. My idea so I'd expect to foot the cost. If he has the idea I would offer to pay half. It's only corteous after all. When I have offered to pay half hotel cost the guys have always been horrified at the suggestion.

Off to Dundee soon and if I am lucky enough to have company then I wouldn't expect him to pay anything as I'd need the room anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt expect nothing x

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