FabSwingers.com forum: Asked for a fac pic then blocked?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are incredibly childish and can't say "no thank you". Don't worry about it.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

They simply decided you werent for them, nothing childish about it, dont get hung up on it, take it as a simple no thanks and move on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

its happened to us too

. A block is the same as a no thanks, you're not ugly and neither are we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? "
you are not at all ugly they may have recognised you so found it easier to block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? you are not at all ugly they may have recognised you so found it easier to block x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet, not on here anyway.

I remember once on pof, a guy could see my numerous pics (incl full length) we chatted a while then he asked me to add him to FB.....then he blocked me

He's a dick...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are incredibly childish and can't say "no thank you". Don't worry about it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? "

start worrying when they actually tell you that you are ugly! Dont worry about it. It would be a boring world if we all liked the same things! lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What everyone else has said

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By *litlicker77Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

I've been blocked for asking for face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes hapaneds all the time, basically its their loss lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it hapaneds all the time, basically its their loss lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a no thanks with no wasted time pointlessly messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no thanks often elicits a "why"? And then the torrent is unleashed when you say, I don't fancy you, you are too short/fat/old/ugly, easier and less upsetting to just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously : Fab is not the place for fragile ego's or those that bruise easily on an emotional / confidence level.

You have zero control over how others view you physically or how others use the features the site offers.

As a result, it is pretty much written in the sand that (for men particularly) we will all, at some point, have to face rejection.

Whether this is done with a polite 'thanks but no thanks' message or with an automatic block, the end result is the same, your chat is going no further.

To me, both send a clear message, both would 'upset' the sender of the pics. The difference is, with the block, the sender doesn't get the opportunity to chance his or her arm further.

I think sometimes that inability to continue 'negotiations' upsets more than the rejection itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've had it before and it is difficult not to take it personally but I just try and remember this very simple quote....

"I'd rather be someone's shot of whiskey then everyone's cup of tea!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even more fun when someone aint got a pic.. that gets me everytime how they block u and say not intersted lol as I dont know how they look... maibe for the best in away lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? "

Yep,more than once (Mrs here)

Taking the fact its impolite out of the equation, honestly if someone said 'no thank you'd you'd still wonder. Sometimes I've been asked why but im not sure answering would help.

We're not everyones type.

A guy got my pic a few months ago and said 'only brunettes are sexy in glasses' before blocking me.

Honestly, don't let it under your skin, try and think next, smile and carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you not ask something similar earlier today if i am mistaken accept my apology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not childish its just plain rude and ingnorance and shows how shallow some people are, i have no problem with some one saying you're not what am looking for as long as they tell me straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not childish its just plain rude and ingnorance and shows how shallow some people are, i have no problem with some one saying you're not what am looking for as long as they tell me straight"

There are many people who are happy and confident enough to accept a polite no thanks however, on past experience some people aren't. To have abuse hurled at you for a polite no thanks is really not acceptable so this method stops this. I agree its a tad rude, maybe she could have said thanks but you're not really for me but best of luck then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always send my face picture by second email....saves lots of time in long run...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think a lot of people find it easier than having to say, thanks you aren't for us because... and then give a reason which can lead to a chain of unwelcome correspondence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people find it easier than having to say, thanks you aren't for us because... and then give a reason which can lead to a chain of unwelcome correspondence.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"its not childish its just plain rude and ingnorance and shows how shallow some people are, i have no problem with some one saying you're not what am looking for as long as they tell me straight"

its not rude, its a simple no thanks, and stops anymore time been wasted.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Just to develop my answer further, I've found that if you send a polite no thanks, 4/5 times you get a further message saying, how come? The clever one's dress it up as 'fair enough, hun/babe/tart/majesty, but could you let me know why not just so I can learn for the future; I obviously respect your decision and haven't printed off your photos and attached them to my dart board.'

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the ones that when asked why, you say not really my type, then they message back saying they have a big cock. Oh well why didn't you say that at the beginning, I'm instantly attracted to you now lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I like the ones that when asked why, you say not really my type, then they message back saying they have a big cock. Oh well why didn't you say that at the beginning, I'm instantly attracted to you now lol"

LOL

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Or the one's that say, 'read my veri's, you don't know what you are missing'

Yeah, someone else's opinion is really going to change my mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or the one's that say, 'read my veri's, you don't know what you are missing'

Yeah, someone else's opinion is really going to change my mind!

lol you're not missing anything if you're not attracted to them, never really get why people say that, probably makes them feel better!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Seriously : Fab is not the place for fragile ego's or those that bruise easily on an emotional / confidence level.

You have zero control over how others view you physically or how others use the features the site offers.

As a result, it is pretty much written in the sand that (for men particularly) we will all, at some point, have to face rejection.

Whether this is done with a polite 'thanks but no thanks' message or with an automatic block, the end result is the same, your chat is going no further.

To me, both send a clear message, both would 'upset' the sender of the pics. The difference is, with the block, the sender doesn't get the opportunity to chance his or her arm further.

I think sometimes that inability to continue 'negotiations' upsets more than the rejection itself."

This!

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By *rben112Man
over a year ago

worcester

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? "

yes. Often

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just to develop my answer further, I've found that if you send a polite no thanks, 4/5 times you get a further message saying, how come? The clever one's dress it up as 'fair enough, hun/babe/tart/majesty, but could you let me know why not just so I can learn for the future; I obviously respect your decision and haven't printed off your photos and attached them to my dart board.'

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

...you're wicked!

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By *usty_n_LustyCouple
over a year ago

Kent

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

Spot on! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing my time on here has shown me is if u a guy 9 women out of 10 will delete your message and not respond. Thats my experience anyway. Its a pretty tough learning curve....fun though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I've had it before and it is difficult not to take it personally but I just try and remember this very simple quote....

"I'd rather be someone's shot of whiskey then everyone's cup of tea!""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? "

Don't let if phase you. I've always had the courtesy to reply and say 'not my type' but it takes all sorts to make a world I guess, move on to someone with a soul, they are out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

Thanks for the reply i find i get on with older people as i work with people who are significantly older the me (trying to be polite) we all have our preferences.

But thanks for pointing out in your words " but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight"

thats quite honest but its a little harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

Thanks for the reply i find i get on with older people as i work with people who are significantly older the me (trying to be polite) we all have our preferences.

But thanks for pointing out in your words " but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight"

thats quite honest but its a little harsh

I don't think it was aimed at you ... or any one particular individual to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

Thanks for the reply i find i get on with older people as i work with people who are significantly older the me (trying to be polite) we all have our preferences.

But thanks for pointing out in your words " but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight"

thats quite honest but its a little harsh

I don't think it was aimed at you ... or any one particular individual to be honest

ok well its still a little blunt though i wouldn't say anything that bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This obviously puts you on the spot, as you can't say anything like:

With that tache you resemble a Mexican bandit

Your profile states 42, but you look old enough to tell me what you did during the war. The Boer war.

I'm sure you have a lovely personality, but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight.

Thanks for the reply i find i get on with older people as i work with people who are significantly older the me (trying to be polite) we all have our preferences.

But thanks for pointing out in your words " but frankly the thought of opening my eyes and seeing your face mid vinegar strokes is already making sleep look doubtful tonight"

thats quite honest but its a little harsh

I don't think it was aimed at you ... or any one particular individual to be honest

ok well its still a little blunt though i wouldn't say anything that bad

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It wasn't aimed at you or anyone else and I'm sorry if it could be taken that way, hun. I've not looked at your profile to see your age nor even considered it could be taken that way.

It was an example of the reasons someone may wish to NOT give to someone who has been messaging them.

Sorry if I caused any offence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It wasn't aimed at you or anyone else and I'm sorry if it could be taken that way, hun. I've not looked at your profile to see your age nor even considered it could be taken that way.

It was an example of the reasons someone may wish to NOT give to someone who has been messaging them.

Sorry if I caused any offence.

i know it was not aimed at me you opinion is your own

no need to apologise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly? "

It's a very rude thing to do in my opinion - try not to let it impact your self esteem - chin up and carry on regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I had it several times but then I'm ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

us too - we never know which one of us puts people off - makes us laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello lovely people

Have you ever been asked for a face pic then when you've sent it you are immediately blocked? This is not the first time this has happened seriously knocking my confidence online am I that ugly?

It's a very rude thing to do in my opinion - try not to let it impact your self esteem - chin up and carry on regardless

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By *ay Dee BeeMan
over a year ago

INGATESTONE near Brentwood

Send face pic with first message. I know not possible for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a few couples Do that to me im a right ugly bitch

I dont worry about it,its there way of saying no without the thanku

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