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this is going to be a look at me thread!!

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith

Not really, but just wanted some advice about my profile, after being on and off here for nearly 4years, and not meeting for the last 8months, just due to relocating I thought id do an update and a tidy up, in the hope to maybe get my social life and the fun back into my life. ..

Im ready to mingle again and looking forward to it.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

It's a shame that due to the necessity of outlining ground rules (and so many of them) to condense the amount of ladies you ladies have to sift through.

One thing I picked up on though as a self respecting male I don,t like to see someone outlining that they decide who and when they see and meet, mainly because as someone that is very considerate (perhaps too much so) i,d hate to think meeting socially gave the impression i'd be automatically wanting to take it further. I and other guys may decide that before you had made your decision but would be polite enough to be honest and thank for your time but there wasn,t the connection needed to play.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

condense the messages*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask something? Do you carry your own condoms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really, but just wanted some advice about my profile, after being on and off here for nearly 4years, and not meeting for the last 8months, just due to relocating I thought id do an update and a tidy up, in the hope to maybe get my social life and the fun back into my life. ..

Im ready to mingle again and looking forward to it. "

Too long, to many shouty DONTS on there

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith


"Can I ask something? Do you carry your own condoms? "

if I go to a meet after a social then sometimes I do.. but I always have them at home.

ive just heard so many excuses for a man not wear one.. they've run out etc ...

and theres no need for the excuses.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Inject some humour...and less about your size....make it into a positive...loose some of the don'ts etc

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith

Thank you for all the advice, I will take it all in account and will update and write a nice profile I hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask something? Do you carry your own condoms?

if I go to a meet after a social then sometimes I do.. but I always have them at home.

ive just heard so many excuses for a man not wear one.. they've run out etc ...

and theres no need for the excuses. "

Always take your own then there can never be any excuses and lose your threaten to block line, comes across as aggressive and childish

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It annoys me if men turn up to play meets without condoms too. It comes across as them hoping they'll get away with not having to wear one.

Even if I have my own, (which I almost certainly would), I'm likely to decline sex because of it.

Besides, there are so many types of condoms available and different sorts suit different people. If I choose the condoms they may be uncomfortable for the man and he could find getting and staying hard more difficult. I prefer men find condoms they find comfortable and bring them.

I take care of the back-up contraception in case of condom failure, I don't see why I shouldn't expect men to provide a barrier method that suits them. They're the one that has to wear it.

I don't see any problem with making it clear that for play meets men should bring condoms if they want sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the dont's will be ignored by idiots anyway so best remove them, idiots are by virtue of being idiots going to ignore instructions and read very little of the content. All a negatively charged profile does is put off the people who don't do any of that stuff in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's important your profile matches your personality. Write it so it expresses your personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the dont's will be ignored by idiots anyway so best remove them, idiots are by virtue of being idiots going to ignore instructions and read very little of the content. All a negatively charged profile does is put off the people who don't do any of that stuff in the first place."

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's important your profile matches your personality. Write it so it expresses your personality "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"All the dont's will be ignored by idiots anyway so best remove them, idiots are by virtue of being idiots going to ignore instructions and read very little of the content. All a negatively charged profile does is put off the people who don't do any of that stuff in the first place.

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True dat.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"I think it's important your profile matches your personality. Write it so it expresses your personality "

Or contract the work to a certifiable loon:

I'm Loud and Proud, I've been on here for four years off and on and I'm looking for white guys 27-37 and Costa reward card is an advantage. These are my preferences, please respect them, failure to do so isn't exactly going to make me want to jump on your bones, is it?

I like to have a chat before a social meet to see if we click, check that you aren't a chainsaw wielding loon and that you don't take your mum and gran everywhere with you. Group sex is fun, but there are limits.

I do give my number out, but obviously only if I think it is going to go somewhere (see above ref maniacs with chainsaws).

The first meet is always a social meet. This s out a lot of guys who just want instashag and I also get to use my reward card at Costa.

We all have real lives and I'm no exception. I work, study and am a single mum, so I can't meet at the drop of a hat, or chainsaw being hidden. However, I do turn up when I say I will, as I've not got time to waste messing people about.

I'm a big girl, so if you are looking for Olive Oyl, ask Popeye what he did with her and if he's still got her meggins. I'm also a person and not a fetish object. Same as you - your cock isn't a fetish item to me. I'm much more interested in you as a person and what you look like than how far up a Sky remote you reach.

I get a fair few messages and please remember than no reply means no thank you.

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith

Tina I might give yours a try and see what happens while im thinking of my own mad crazy and to the point profile!!! Xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Not really, but just wanted some advice about my profile, after being on and off here for nearly 4years, and not meeting for the last 8months, just due to relocating I thought id do an update and a tidy up, in the hope to maybe get my social life and the fun back into my life. ..

Im ready to mingle again and looking forward to it. "

same advice i would give to any woman... any man... any couple

if you think your profile reflect the best "you" you are..... keep it!!

if it doesn't.... pen, pad, sit down, have a think.... change it!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Tina I might give yours a try and see what happens while im thinking of my own mad crazy and to the point profile!!! Xx"

and then you took it word for word....

and that creates a whole different issue..

you see, as much as i like tina's take, thats is tina and her personality... thats not you!!!!

if I want meet someone... I want to know them, and feel a part of them.....

sorry... that to me is almost akin to deception.....

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith

And for now ive hidden my profile so I can write just a new one that comes just from me.

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith

Am getting there have been thinking and have started writing..

I thank you all xxx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Wot no chainsaw wielding loons?

No, seriously, it is a big improvement. I like the 'local alien' line I like that very much.

Now where was I? Ah yes, the prologue....

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By *oudnproud OP   Woman
over a year ago

penrith


"Wot no chainsaw wielding loons?

No, seriously, it is a big improvement. I like the 'local alien' line I like that very much.

Now where was I? Ah yes, the prologue.... "

thank you tina x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am getting there have been thinking and have started writing..

I thank you all xxx"

Tonnes better, enjoyable to read and rant free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's important your profile matches your personality. Write it so it expresses your personality

Or contract the work to a certifiable loon:

I'm Loud and Proud, I've been on here for four years off and on and I'm looking for white guys 27-37 and Costa reward card is an advantage. These are my preferences, please respect them, failure to do so isn't exactly going to make me want to jump on your bones, is it?

I like to have a chat before a social meet to see if we click, check that you aren't a chainsaw wielding loon and that you don't take your mum and gran everywhere with you. Group sex is fun, but there are limits.

I do give my number out, but obviously only if I think it is going to go somewhere (see above ref maniacs with chainsaws).

The first meet is always a social meet. This s out a lot of guys who just want instashag and I also get to use my reward card at Costa.

We all have real lives and I'm no exception. I work, study and am a single mum, so I can't meet at the drop of a hat, or chainsaw being hidden. However, I do turn up when I say I will, as I've not got time to waste messing people about.

I'm a big girl, so if you are looking for Olive Oyl, ask Popeye what he did with her and if he's still got her meggins. I'm also a person and not a fetish object. Same as you - your cock isn't a fetish item to me. I'm much more interested in you as a person and what you look like than how far up a Sky remote you reach.

I get a fair few messages and please remember than no reply means no thank you.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask something? Do you carry your own condoms?

if I go to a meet after a social then sometimes I do.. but I always have them at home.

ive just heard so many excuses for a man not wear one.. they've run out etc ...

and theres no need for the excuses. "

We always take ours also!! Can never be too safe.

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