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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have met a lady 4 or 5 times and have had a very good time sexually. She says that she would like to be tied up. She bought some restraints that tie to the bed and to both ankles and wrists. She has told me that I am in charge. I havent done this sort of thing before, any tips or suggestions for what I can do ?

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Well, I would deffo start by tying her up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hahaha, I assumed that part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

need to have a safe word so you know when she wants you to stop but doesnt ruin the mood by saying stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be assertive.

She wants you to take control of what happens.

Tie her up blindfold her and use different things such as feather, ice cube, to tickle and tease her all over her body.

She will be lay there anticipating the next touch and sensation so take your time and surprise her.

Set a safe word if you are going to introduce some pain, spanking etc ...Red Yellow Green Traffic Light system is a good one to start with. As she can say no as many times as she wants but until she says RED you can carry on.

Have fun

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Maybe start with some sensual play like blindfolding her while tied and stroking her and teasing with different objects? Feathers, brushes (cat brushes feel amazing), that kind of thing. Ice cubes are great fun when someone is tied up too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Restrain the use of "?", would be good

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By *yphoon1Man
over a year ago

The under the bed restraints are decent enough. Combine with rope and a bed with lots of gaps in the headboard and foot and youve got a real kinky playground.

Blindfolding her will heighten the anticipation. Do what she wants and take it further. Surprise her bit by bit (more toys, more restraint etc.)

Part of the appeal is that she will probably want to be taken, so dont hold back.... take her!

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Another tip is after some play with her tied up and blind folded stop and walk quietly out of the room for a few minutes. Say nothing and just watch her through the doorway for 5 or more minutes until she gets restless.

Then very quietly go back into the room and surprise her again... And so on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Muffins top tip, Tie her up and blindfold her, tear her undercrackers off n stuff them in her mouth for a gag..

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Then nip down the pub for a couple of hours

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Tie her up in a doggy position.

Then get a cam and set it up to show on a monitor. Put the cam under her belly pointing 45 degrees upwards and back (to show her crotch and anything approaching her from behind) and place the monitor in front of her face.

This way, she'll see everything that's happening, or about to happen, whilst being powerless to resist.

Much fun!

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

... also works well with iPhones and Skype.

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By *yphoon1Man
over a year ago


"Tie her up in a doggy position.

Then get a cam and set it up to show on a monitor. Put the cam under her belly pointing 45 degrees upwards and back (to show her crotch and anything approaching her from behind) and place the monitor in front of her face.

This way, she'll see everything that's happening, or about to happen, whilst being powerless to resist.

Much fun! "

I like that one. Will try that.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I have met a lady 4 or 5 times and have had a very good time sexually. She says that she would like to be tied up. She bought some restraints that tie to the bed and to both ankles and wrists. She has told me that I am in charge. I havent done this sort of thing before, any tips or suggestions for what I can do ?"

Kisd, lick, touch and tease here until she is begging you to fuck her. Then tease her some more.

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

iv got and used the bed restaints and blindfold ,yes love to tease and pls

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"Tie her up in a doggy position.

Then get a cam and set it up to show on a monitor. Put the cam under her belly pointing 45 degrees upwards and back (to show her crotch and anything approaching her from behind) and place the monitor in front of her face.

This way, she'll see everything that's happening, or about to happen, whilst being powerless to resist.

Much fun!

I like that one. Will try that."

Let us know how it goes.

If you need any more ideas just say. I'm full of ideas that I'll never get the chance to try myself... but I suppose it doesn't do any harm to see others having some fun.

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By *arriorMonk60Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Tie her up with a nice silk scarf

James

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a few ideas....

Once immobile, bring her to the edge of orgasm...and then stop ...telling her "you haven't earned it yet"...repeat a few times..then when you do allow her to come, hopefully it will be all she wanted and more...

A little role play goes a long way too...perhaps she's a spy and your job is to interogate her?? Etc...

There are lots of household items that can be used in play as earlier mentioned by someone ice is a good one...clothes pegs, hair grips,

Check that you haven't trapped any blood flow with the restraints that can cause damage...also if she is gagged remember that she can't use the safe word..!!

It's her desire and you are responsible for her mind and body...

If the 'scene' goes on for several hours just be aware that people can suffer a 'downer' afterwards...some aftercare would help...cuddles, reassurances etc..

Don't be put off though, have a great time....enjoy x

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By *ancingtartWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

i can only agree with what others have said have a safe word or if gagged a safe sign like shaking head and mmm mmm mmm something similar. if she wants to be pushed and boundries broken explain braodly pain etc... and yes after a while there is a definate come down, i get very emtional...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her find out exactly what she wants to happen and what her limits are. Yes and use a safe word

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