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By *chillesHeel OP   Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

Joined this site and went to a club with some fantastic people. Had a great night but it went from 0-100 very quickly and in some respects, made us a bit hesitant to carry on with the swinging life!

We've started talking about it again but want to try it on a smaller scale. We are looking for a lady to join us for an evening/night but this isn't as easy as it seems!!

What we want is a confident girl who is experienced enough to take control of the situation and guide the night. One who can take charge but can be sensitive enough to make sure that no one feels things are going too far, too fast.

We are messaging people but not getting much back. I think the lovely single ladies are quite inundated with messages!! Don't mind the other half of a couple but not sure we are ready for the male to be present quite just yet.

Any advice?

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main problem is having a specific fantasy to fulfil. If a single lady doesn't share that fantasy she is probably not going to be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also not being able to accommodate will work against you as from other threads single females are hesitant to host couples that they don't know

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By *chillesHeel OP   Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

Yes, it's very true. I do only message ones who say they're bi of some sorts so hopefully the right girl will come along

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By *chillesHeel OP   Couple
over a year ago

Somerset


"Also not being able to accommodate will work against you as from other threads single females are hesitant to host couples that they don't know"

I can see why. Didn't think of that. Always thought of being somewhere neutral!

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Joined this site and went to a club with some fantastic people. Had a great night but it went from 0-100 very quickly and in some respects, made us a bit hesitant to carry on with the swinging life!

We've started talking about it again but want to try it on a smaller scale. We are looking for a lady to join us for an evening/night but this isn't as easy as it seems!!

What we want is a confident girl who is experienced enough to take control of the situation and guide the night. One who can take charge but can be sensitive enough to make sure that no one feels things are going too far, too fast.

We are messaging people but not getting much back. I think the lovely single ladies are quite inundated with messages!! Don't mind the other half of a couple but not sure we are ready for the male to be present quite just yet.

Any advice?

Thanks. "

Adjust your upper age limit

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By *chillesHeel OP   Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us single bi fems are so rare I'd give up trying. I used to meet couples & due to problems no longer meet.

What all couples need to have in mind.

1) A social is a must, just because you don't usually meet socially first this isn't a usual typical meet.

2) Women wont want to meet couples from outside of their area.

3) Accommodation. Where to go. Each fem is individual. Some like to accommodate, some like hotels. Personally I'd rather accommodate as I'm on home ground.

4) A 3sum is a rather personal thing for a bi gem who is entering into your relationship. How would you feel?

4) Who is going to hold her hand?

5) Is this experience about you two or her? She wants to be the center of attention for once. Women hate putting on a show makes us feel like puppets on a string.

6) Rules about no kissing or soft play are SHIT for a bi fem so why would they.

If couples want some genuine advice then your more than welcome to contact me privately.

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By *chillesHeel OP   Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

Thank you. I have PM'ed you.

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By *chillesHeel OP   Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

Thanks for the messages.

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By *amanthaSexCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Don't mind the other half of a couple but not sure we are ready for the male to be present quite just yet."

Couples with a bi female mostly like to play as a couple so you might struggle with this approach.

Samantha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps have a meet with a couple where only the women play with each other then back to own partners?

Your profile is one of the few I've seen where I've actually thought I'd be interested in finding out more.

Good luck. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shopping list?

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