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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see a few threads here about single guys moaning they can't get meets because it's been ruined for them by non genuine weirdos, or that people now how to out the weirdos easily enough. whatever, there's some good points raised, but no real advice for genuine single guys on how to help themselves stand out as genuine.

Myself for one, i'm a site supporter, i'm photo verified. i have pics on my profile, face pic available too. and a full decent (i hope) profile too.

Now, i'm totally genuine but around my area it seems very very hard to actually get a meet as a single guy.

I think what goes against me for that is i can't accommodate most of the time, and i guess to those who supposedly "know" how to spot a faker this could be an indicator or whatever.

I send full decent PMs, with pic attached if requested in the profile i'm PMing, always read the full profile and make sure to reference it too to show that yet i still struggle to get meets. and it's never a "fancy a fuck" type message, and never cock pics unless specifically asked for.

So those of you who may know better, any advice or tips for single guys who ARE genuine and can find this site a bit of a minefield for finding a meet that is also genuine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a few threads here about single guys moaning they can't get meets because it's been ruined for them by non genuine weirdos, or that people now how to out the weirdos easily enough. whatever, there's some good points raised, but no real advice for genuine single guys on how to help themselves stand out as genuine.

Myself for one, i'm a site supporter, i'm photo verified. i have pics on my profile, face pic available too. and a full decent (i hope) profile too.

Now, i'm totally genuine but around my area it seems very very hard to actually get a meet as a single guy.

I think what goes against me for that is i can't accommodate most of the time, and i guess to those who supposedly "know" how to spot a faker this could be an indicator or whatever.

I send full decent PMs, with pic attached if requested in the profile i'm PMing, always read the full profile and make sure to reference it too to show that yet i still struggle to get meets. and it's never a "fancy a fuck" type message, and never cock pics unless specifically asked for.

So those of you who may know better, any advice or tips for single guys who ARE genuine and can find this site a bit of a minefield for finding a meet that is also genuine?"

STOP saying how genuine you are , the women absolutely fucking HATE that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a few threads here about single guys moaning they can't get meets because it's been ruined for them by non genuine weirdos, or that people now how to out the weirdos easily enough. whatever, there's some good points raised, but no real advice for genuine single guys on how to help themselves stand out as genuine.

Myself for one, i'm a site supporter, i'm photo verified. i have pics on my profile, face pic available too. and a full decent (i hope) profile too.

Now, i'm totally genuine but around my area it seems very very hard to actually get a meet as a single guy.

I think what goes against me for that is i can't accommodate most of the time, and i guess to those who supposedly "know" how to spot a faker this could be an indicator or whatever.

I send full decent PMs, with pic attached if requested in the profile i'm PMing, always read the full profile and make sure to reference it too to show that yet i still struggle to get meets. and it's never a "fancy a fuck" type message, and never cock pics unless specifically asked for.

So those of you who may know better, any advice or tips for single guys who ARE genuine and can find this site a bit of a minefield for finding a meet that is also genuine?

STOP saying how genuine you are , the women absolutely fucking HATE that . "

Really? Genuinely? Hehe!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol i don't keep saying i'm genuine other than in this thread, in fact it appears only once in my profile in reference to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i don't keep saying i'm genuine other than in this thread, in fact it appears only once in my profile in reference to others "

I will be honest , it's not a good post , I've seen them before. Just wait until wine o clock tonight and the criticism will commence . You best being very active on the forums etc and just chatting to people. Over time you will get lenty friends and contacts .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He only said he was genuine 5 times give him a break

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He only said he was genuine 5 times give him a break "

lol i get your point about that in here but it's used purely to get across what i'm trying to. like i say, it's not like i sen it in PMs or use it all over my profile, the general assumption seems to be here that everyone is a retard until proven otherwise, well let the proving commence :D

seriously though, it's all fine and well that i see people criticizing and yeah having a luagh, but no one ever offers advice on the back of their remarks, surely not that many people are that arrogant they don't want to help other people out? i have more faith than that in the fabswingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He only said he was genuine 5 times give him a break

lol i get your point about that in here but it's used purely to get across what i'm trying to. like i say, it's not like i sen it in PMs or use it all over my profile, the general assumption seems to be here that everyone is a retard until proven otherwise, well let the proving commence :D

seriously though, it's all fine and well that i see people criticizing and yeah having a luagh, but no one ever offers advice on the back of their remarks, surely not that many people are that arrogant they don't want to help other people out? i have more faith than that in the fabswingers "

Eerrrrrhhhermm !!! I think you will find I did offer advice on the back of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He only said he was genuine 5 times give him a break

lol i get your point about that in here but it's used purely to get across what i'm trying to. like i say, it's not like i sen it in PMs or use it all over my profile, the general assumption seems to be here that everyone is a retard until proven otherwise, well let the proving commence :D

seriously though, it's all fine and well that i see people criticizing and yeah having a luagh, but no one ever offers advice on the back of their remarks, surely not that many people are that arrogant they don't want to help other people out? i have more faith than that in the fabswingers "

I was only joking tbh, i think your post is fine, the only thing that can go against you is that you cant accom.

And if im honest there's not that many genuine people on here, some profess to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you.....that's the best advice I can give....and as stated above, keep coming in here and socialising etc and you'll enjoy the site....apparently socials are a good ice breaker too if there are any you can get to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to let the pressure get you would be our advice. Be sociable on here and keep your eye out for any meets ups drinks socials etc. If you are a "genuine x5" male word soon gets out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah fair points everyone so far, i guess my area isn't the best for social meets etc really as i'm in the arse end of nowhere on anglesey, so yeah. but still good advice for sure and one i'd not really thought about too much if i'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying you're genuine means diddly squat on here....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Saying you're genuine means diddly squat on here...."

indeed, and yet confusingly it's a requirement of some many people profiles that you must be genuine

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

Be yourself fella and dont try to pressure people into meeting you. Take your time, go in the chatrooms or post in the forums. Most importantly for me is, never expect anything from fab, but when it does happen, treat it as a brucey bonus. Too many men come on here thinking they will get a meet easily, but it pays to be patient, respectful and also, be nice

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Just keep at it bud, its all about patience on here, somone local to you that you are attracted to might join up at any time.

ive been on here over two years now and had about 8 meets, could of been a fair bit more but ill not meet anyone im not attracted too.

so yeah its hard going for single guys, maybe try other sites too like pof and badoo but be honest on your profile and say your not looking for anything serious just nice company and see how it goes (thats if you arnt looking for anything serious ofcourse).

As its not right to make somome think you want a relationship just until you get what your after.

but best I can do is wish you best of luck and persevere as you never know whats round the corner as I found out from my meet couple days ago, was completly unexpected and came from no where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of all my meets have been through chatting on forums . Its gets your personality across and not just a face . Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with your profile. Its what I'd be looking for locally. Youve made the effort to write a decent & lengthy profile. You've a tidy body & haven't put up a million cock pics.

As for accommodating it wouldn't worry me as you may live with others though its a clear indication your attached. If your not put that your living with your landlord in a shared house with kids. it will explain to all interested. Of course if you've a partner be truthful about it & many others who are in the same boat will follow. You always put that you love outdoor sex & love the thrilled of getting seen by people. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling my friend. A though some time my being dyslexic puts people of as they don't like bad spelling and such like. But I do make the effort face and cock pics if asked for. I'm honest and up for most things but still very very few women or couples reply. I get more mail from gas guys than anything else, just a shame I ain't bi lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang in there. Been here for a while and still find it difficult but had a few great meets. It will happen. Just that us single guys are at a disadvantage lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be awesome.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

be equal and have a back bone...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Be awesome. "

......or failing that christos gave the best advice in the thread with his first 3 words...

"just be you!"

I hate "advice" threads because what works for you may not work for everyone... there is not one blueprint!

I just tell people two things...

"basic common sense"

"dont be an arse!"

the rest people can work out for themselves....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

the rest people can work out for themselves.... "

you are being generous there

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

the rest people can work out for themselves....

you are being generous there "

probably... hard nosed me is about to make an appearance...

if they can't... i'm not spoonfeeding it to them.... if they are adult enough to be here, and adult enough to sign up, then they should be adult enough to work it out for themselves without the aid of babysitters mollycodling them.....

too harsh????

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

the rest people can work out for themselves....

you are being generous there

probably... hard nosed me is about to make an appearance...

if they can't... i'm not spoonfeeding it to them.... if they are adult enough to be here, and adult enough to sign up, then they should be adult enough to work it out for themselves without the aid of babysitters mollycodling them.....

too harsh???? "

NO

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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the rest people can work out for themselves....

you are being generous there

probably... hard nosed me is about to make an appearance...

if they can't... i'm not spoonfeeding it to them.... if they are adult enough to be here, and adult enough to sign up, then they should be adult enough to work it out for themselves without the aid of babysitters mollycodling them.....

too harsh????

NO "

cool.... there is normally a phrase that goes along with it

"time to put on the big boys pants"......

sometimes people are their own worst enemies.... they have to be able to help themselves "help themself!".

if they can't do that.... fuck if i am going to!!!

too harsh?... grumpy man is making an appearance....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the truth. Those who don't succeed may not deserve to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Majority of all my meets have been through chatting on forums . Its gets your personality across and not just a face . Hope that helps "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the truth. Those who don't succeed may not deserve to. "

Just turning up when you say is the best advice

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

We find clubs or ssocials good place to meet single guys x x abd couples and also if message arrives we feel a face pic gteat too and recent not over 20 yr old x x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

the rest people can work out for themselves....

you are being generous there

probably... hard nosed me is about to make an appearance...

if they can't... i'm not spoonfeeding it to them.... if they are adult enough to be here, and adult enough to sign up, then they should be adult enough to work it out for themselves without the aid of babysitters mollycodling them.....

too harsh????

NO

cool.... there is normally a phrase that goes along with it

"time to put on the big boys pants"......

sometimes people are their own worst enemies.... they have to be able to help themselves "help themself!".

if they can't do that.... fuck if i am going to!!!

too harsh?... grumpy man is making an appearance...."

Saved me some typing!

A

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Always be yourself unless you can be Batman then always be Batman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy the banter and if you get a meet from it think of it as a bonus !!! But you do reap what you sow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always be yourself unless you can be Batman then always be Batman! "

Na na na na na na na na na na na naaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the truth. Those who don't succeed may not deserve to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always be yourself unless you can be Batman then always be Batman! "
" "

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

we only meet fakes

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"He only said he was genuine 5 times give him a break "

Does it make him genuine then?

I don't see many posts from timewasters saying that they are timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He only said he was genuine 5 times give him a break

Does it make him genuine then?

I don't see many posts from timewasters saying that they are timewasters"

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

There are so many single guys on here it can be tough on them and they need to be able to stand out for us girls (and couples). I always like to see a nicely worded message from a guy and do try to respond to all. However I won't reply if it is obvious that person hasn't read my profile! Just be patient, keep doing what you're doing and things will get better. Getting along to socials/clubs and posting in the forums is good too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen up, the reason single guys dont got such luck is cos the ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and thats a fact lol.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you reap what you sow and that is the same for females and couples.

you see the same people voicing their disappointment time and time again: one common demoninator THEM

they do the same over and over and over again, they get the same result.

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