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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Open question really, how do women like to be addressed on here Seriously, (pre-empting all the bitch, slut, whore gags)when they don't have a name on their profile. I know some don't like being called babe, I'm uncomfortable with hun (bit too like the German military for me), I have had an icy response to babe, for me it implies a gorgeous woman, not a Disney pig! Loves a bit old fashioned just. wondered what the preferred etiquette was? answers on a postcard (or you can just reply - saves the environment). Consider me curious

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use their profile name then...i get Missy a lot or Miss D

It does really tickle me when im addressed as Madame though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of men say hello sexy..... A young man I see calls me dear, I know I'm old but blimey. The only name I really don't like is Miss/Mistress. Anything else I just see as small talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blimey Badnanna, if your old I must be pre-Socratic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear Madam,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get called Red by someone. But babe is good too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loath being called Babe...for some reason i take great offence to it but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people call me v. Can't stand babe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't put 'Cor I wanna fuck' instant delete and block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goddess usually works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

alright gawjus!!.... this really does my head in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my name on my profile so it impresses me if a man uses it

I dont get the hump when called babe,sexy,Hun etc i just let them know my name at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot don't use a name and just say Hi, how are you but I get called Legs quite often which is fine by me. I'm not overly keen on babes but I wouldn't hold it against anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I address a woman by licking her backside, scribbling on her front and applying a stamp to her head. I just cant seem to fit them in the postbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say profile name is a good start, check profile to see for dislikes and go from there.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Show you have put some effort in....

To who it may concern

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot don't use a name and just say Hi, how are you but I get called Legs quite often which is fine by me. I'm not overly keen on babes but I wouldn't hold it against anyone "

If i told you, you had gorgeous legs. Would you hold it against me?

(Hehe, couldn't resist. You were asking for it haha and i had to cease the moment)

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By *akedninjaMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

hmmm now that we've addressed an appropriate manner to address a woman lets move swiftly on to how to best to undress a woman hmmm do you ladies like to be undressed slowly and sensually or do you like it hard and fast with your clothes ripped from your body in a horny frenzy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That all depends on the person and what kinda play it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence. "

I dunno lots of women's profiles say asking how are you will get you blocked lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Use their profile name then...i get Missy a lot or Miss D

It does really tickle me when im addressed as Madame though! "

I get DB9 or Queen which is fine by me. Not keen on 'hun'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence. "

ohh those words are banned reading profiles loads moan it's not inventive enough to get a reply. Wtf!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot don't use a name and just say Hi, how are you but I get called Legs quite often which is fine by me. I'm not overly keen on babes but I wouldn't hold it against anyone

If i told you, you had gorgeous legs. Would you hold it against me?

(Hehe, couldn't resist. You were asking for it haha and i had to cease the moment)

"

You sweet talker Pops

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence.

ohh those words are banned reading profiles loads moan it's not inventive enough to get a reply. Wtf!!"

I think most people will agree it's an acceptable OPENING sentence. If it's the only sentence it then becomes unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I have my name on my profile it very rarely gets used,probably because lots of people don't use their real names anyway

Most people will call me something referring to the username which is fine by me,unless someone is told that certain terms of address are unacceptable they won't know so I think its unfair to get huffy about it,I hate the term dear but don't go bonkers about it if its used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not keen on babe, reminds me of the film babe the pig film lol.most just use my name on profile

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm happy to be addressed as lady karen

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence.

ohh those words are banned reading profiles loads moan it's not inventive enough to get a reply. Wtf!!"

Not by me!

Mind you, after I've said "I'm fine thanks" I do expect something with a little more thought.

Messages like "Hi hun wanna fuck" are the ones that annoy me. Along with the long descriptions of what they intend to do with me before they've even said hello or swapped pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence.

ohh those words are banned reading profiles loads moan it's not inventive enough to get a reply. Wtf!!"

I love those messages. When I have the time I tell them - in great lengthy detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I'm not bothered if i'm called babe, hun, sexy etc.

What makes the difference for me is the content of the message.

If a first message is sleazy or particularly graphic then I'm not interested, I'd like to think that a guy is interested in getting to know me a little and is happy to engage in some friendly conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dearest darling snookyookums honeybunch.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me I'm not bothered if i'm called babe, hun, sexy etc.

What makes the difference for me is the content of the message.

If a first message is sleazy or particularly graphic then I'm not interested, I'd like to think that a guy is interested in getting to know me a little and is happy to engage in some friendly conversation. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dearest darling snookyookums honeybunch....... "

I'd usually say your my huni bun sugar plum something something your my sweetie pie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to say babes.

Its a complimentary address I think, I know some people feel its disingenuous, but it is what I naturally write.

Its much friendlier than just "hi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dearest darling snookyookums honeybunch.......

I'd usually say your my huni bun sugar plum something something your my sweetie pie

"

Something something=

Pumpy umpyumpkin.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kountess will do fine thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dearest darling snookyookums honeybunch.......

I'd usually say your my huni bun sugar plum something something your my sweetie pie

Something something=

Pumpy umpyumpkin..... "

Where you been hiding my whole life? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kountess will do fine thanks "

Or "auld bag" maybe???? Eh???..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dearest darling snookyookums honeybunch.......

I'd usually say your my huni bun sugar plum something something your my sweetie pie

Something something=

Pumpy umpyumpkin.....

Where you been hiding my whole life? Lol

"

Haven't been hiding precious.....just waiting!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kountess will do fine thanks

Or "auld bag" maybe???? Eh???.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kountess will do fine thanks

Or "auld bag" maybe???? Eh???..

"

Not even proper royalty!!! What's the place coming to.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence. "

Noooooo. Not how are you! !. I get so many messages every day asking me how I am. I hate them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dearest darling snookyookums honeybunch.......

I'd usually say your my huni bun sugar plum something something your my sweetie pie

Something something=

Pumpy umpyumpkin.....

Where you been hiding my whole life? Lol

Haven't been hiding precious.....just waiting!!!! "

....well, guess no need to wait any longer

[Adds to hotlist]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like Hun or babe or indeed anything overly familiar in an introductory message. My profile name will do nicely until I'm ready to divulge my real name. But by then you will have learned to call me your highness !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Open question really, how do women like to be addressed on here Seriously, (pre-empting all the bitch, slut, whore gags)when they don't have a name on their profile. I know some don't like being called babe, I'm uncomfortable with hun (bit too like the German military for me), I have had an icy response to babe, for me it implies a gorgeous woman, not a Disney pig! Loves a bit old fashioned just. wondered what the preferred etiquette was? answers on a postcard (or you can just reply - saves the environment). Consider me curious "

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"Dear Ms" .... works for me

as does "Hi, pretty woman"

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By *ScarletandRedCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think I'm the only person on here that uses my real name "scarlet"

So most get it right and don't know it ! Lol .... just "hello and how are you?" is a good start !

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Almost every message I have ever received with babe, huni, sweet (insert any other cringeworthy name) has been from someone with a poor profile and very little other content in the message, let alone one worth reading.

Don't get me started on 'bbe'.

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By *pplecrunchWoman
over a year ago

Yeovil

Crunch will do. I hate being called Madam. I do not run a brothel and let let others know I hate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the goddess one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shelley works for me .. babe honey and things like that don't upset me I dont like "hen" though !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jools hates being called babe, hun, sweetie, darling etc.....

Jools is just fine .

Don't like guys being to familiar, once we chatted and got to know people.

But there are deffo regional terms of endearment that people in other parts of county don't understand.

Ex.

Pet( as in alreet pet)

Chick or chicken( as in how do chick)

Babes or treacle( Alwight treacle)

Etc...

Feel free to add or amended.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Shelley, Someone called you 'Hen' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So easy to give offence without wishing to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shelley works for me .. babe honey and things like that don't upset me I dont like "hen" though ! "

With you on that one Shelley...not keen on 'pal' either..or 'doll'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't give a rats arse, you can even call me a rats arse.

One guy calls me Karl Pilkington.

Another makes extensive use of sweetie.

Around these ere parts im often a bab.

If something isn't said with malicious intent I really do not care, address me how you wish and feel comfortable.

Trying not to cause offence to anyone must be like negotiating a particularly tricky assault course, on stilts......and trying not to break all the eggshells.

I'm off for a valium and a long lie down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goddess usually works for me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Goddess usually works for me "

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By *r-UniqueMan
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"You don't necessarily need to use a name:

"Hi there, how are you" is a perfectly acceptable opening sentence. "

Now now, we both know that isn't the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't give a rats arse, you can even call me a rats arse.

One guy calls me Karl Pilkington.

Another makes extensive use of sweetie.

Around these ere parts im often a bab.

If something isn't said with malicious intent I really do not care, address me how you wish and feel comfortable.

Trying not to cause offence to anyone must be like negotiating a particularly tricky assault course, on stilts......and trying not to break all the eggshells.

I'm off for a valium and a long lie down."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind any term that's intended to convey a pleasant attitude. Babe, Hun, sweetie, goddess etc, that's better than a rude, cute message. I don't admire a coarse opening gambit one bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hun from a bloke sounds wrongish -

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By *r-UniqueMan
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"hun from a bloke sounds wrongish - "

I have always thought this

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

I'd be respectful, formal and a bit creative. I'd stay away from terms of 'endearment'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey you, they luv it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Address people the same way that you would in any social situation...

Honestly, if you were introduced to a stranger in a social setting, would you really open with "Hi Sexy, nice tits! Wot u up 2?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can address me as 'Your ladyship' and don't forget to doff your cap on the way out

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Why do you need to use a pet name at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always use the profile name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind any term that's intended to convey a pleasant attitude. Babe, Hun, sweetie, goddess etc, that's better than a rude, cute message. I don't admire a coarse opening gambit one bit. "

A mate always called his wife Babe when she pissed him off, as she reminded him of a pig. Might not be a good idea for babe now maybe....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Open question really, how do women like to be addressed on here Seriously, (pre-empting all the bitch, slut, whore gags)when they don't have a name on their profile. I know some don't like being called babe, I'm uncomfortable with hun (bit too like the German military for me), I have had an icy response to babe, for me it implies a gorgeous woman, not a Disney pig! Loves a bit old fashioned just. wondered what the preferred etiquette was? answers on a postcard (or you can just reply - saves the environment). Consider me curious "

Mate, this is a swinging website, but you're not sure how to address women?

No offence meant at all, but if you need tips ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate, this is a swinging website, but you're not sure how to address women?

No offence meant at all, but if you need tips ...

"

Oh go on then - I'm burning with desire to know how an expert would do it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love 'Well hello there Sweet cheeks', kinda turns my legs to jelly. Candy works for me too of course. I can't abide babe or hun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hmmm now that we've addressed an appropriate manner to address a woman lets move swiftly on to how to best to undress a woman hmmm do you ladies like to be undressed slowly and sensually or do you like it hard and fast with your clothes ripped from your body in a horny frenzy?"

Undressing a lady is like slowly unwrapping a Christmas present...wonderful... And in the time that you're slowly undressing each other, wondering how the hell to get your socks off without breaking the moment by hopping around on one leg and falling over ...yup it happened to me a long time ago...luckily we both creased up laughing and it helped the evening along strangely... R.

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