FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do, if anything?

By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

We have just discovered that someone who we have not met have been telling others that they have had a 'bad expIerience' with us. There were several reasons why we didn't want to meet up and obviously they feel rather hurt by what they perceive as 'rejection' This is a minor irritation to us but wondered if any one has had similar experience and what they did (if anything). Z

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

Whilst this must be very galling for you, I think you've got to just grit your teeth and forget it - anyone who really knows you will either know it's bollocks or ask for your side, and most of the peeps you've not met yet are unlikely to hear the story anyway.

We hope you dont get too stressed over it. M & A x

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Whilst this must be very galling for you, I think you've got to just grit your teeth and forget it - anyone who really knows you will either know it's bollocks or ask for your side, and most of the peeps you've not met yet are unlikely to hear the story anyway.

We hope you dont get too stressed over it. M & A x"

Yes, true - like I said it's a minor irritation and I would imagine that it goes on quite a lot, but you wouldn't ordinarily find out! Thanks, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't control what others say or do.

The people who've met and played with you know the truth so you don't need to defend yourself.

I'd just say I'd be wary of the people "reporting back". There's no reason for them to flame the situation and make you feel bad, they should say something to the other person.

A friend of mine share a mutual friend. She wanted to share some juicy gossip and I stopped her. I didn't mention it to my friend as she would have been hurt and upset and I wasn't going to cause her pain.

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By *eeds34Man
over a year ago

leeds

Yep think you just have to let this pass you by and besides the peeps who want to play with you will still want to I'm sure

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I havent met you - but i'll put the word out that i had an amazing time with you - should redress the balance.

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Thanks for the posts - yep - def one to leave behind and move on! All experience I suppose! Z xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

As we would know the truth, we wouldn't care what anyone else was saying....and personaly we would ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they just jealous hun ignore em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like you made the right decision not to meet them.

They must be a right pair of flakes to carry on like that just because they got turned down.

XXXX

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i think any geniune swingers would be very weary about anyone who talks that way about others. first of all smarts of sour grapes and secondly not someone to trust if they could be so indescreet even if case was true !

people on here make up their own minds and any adult knows ur not gonna click with everyone so not every meets gonna make the earth move !! people who have to be little others just does nothing but show how insecure they are . you know the real story so let it wash over you . plus if they are lieing about you then just think its giving someone else a rest lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well iv never met u but think your lovely!! xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"well iv never met u but think your lovely!! xx"

Ermmmm its Zoe who started this thread and everyone knows its me who's the lovely 1 around here. honest

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well iv never met u but think your lovely!! xx

Ermmmm its Zoe who started this thread and everyone knows its me who's the lovely 1 around here. honest

Steve

i meant both of you

lol!!!

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"well iv never met u but think your lovely!! xx

Ermmmm its Zoe who started this thread and everyone knows its me who's the lovely 1 around here. honest

Steve

i meant both of you

lol!!!

xx"

Awwwww how sweet of you

We think your lovely too

Steve with Zoe nodding from across room lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ullo S and Z,

I'd be less angry with the people you didn't meet than I would with the people who sewed the seed by 'whispering' in your ear.

It's difficult - as you have no idea whether the original couple said good thigs, indiffrent things or bad things about you.

The people to blame are the go betweens. The ones that put poison in your heads. People like that are the ones who incite riots.

Plus by the time they tell you what the other person says it's been through their heads and interpreted by them and then fed back to you in the form that they want you to believe.

Don't blame the first couple. We have NO idea what they said at all. The second couple STINK ..

P.S do the second couple read the forum ? Am I for it ?

Do I look worried

Shit stirrers !

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I think that anyone with half a brain cell will run a mile from someone spreading rumours and will make up their own minds about people

There are people in all walks of life that have nothing better to do than spout venom and shit stir when things don't go their way

You're a great couple and we can say that because we have met you unlike the green eyed monsters that are trying to cause trouble for you xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I agree with the people saying the second couple are the worse ones. It depends on the context. They may have merely mentioned something was being said, not what was said. Also it depends if the second couple are someone they know, or don't know. If it was a friend I would probably feel more betrayed that they hadn't told me, if I found out later that is!

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Thanks HPC! (The tenners in the post) and I agree with el nino too - I don't feel aggreived about the couple blocking us after they were told lies about us as they just took the story as true - it's the people who hadn't even met us that got my goat - well for all of 5 seconds! Z xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure I agree with the people saying the second couple are the worse ones. It depends on the context. They may have merely mentioned something was being said, not what was said. Also it depends if the second couple are someone they know, or don't know. If it was a friend I would probably feel more betrayed that they hadn't told me, if I found out later that is!"

That is VERY contradictory. There was no need for the second couple to say anything at all. Gossip stops with you ...or you are a trouble maker. I think it's strange that you would feel betrayed by a friend because they chose to do the right thing and not tell you something. Also ......the gossip that spoke to S and Z .....were not their freinds.

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