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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there guys.

On our profile, it clearly states that we are looking for bi guys only. But the amount of straight guys messaging us claiming to be bi is staggering. Now we know a few might be genuine, but we are unsure of how to be certain? We are afraid that a straight guy will say he is bi or wants to explore and then will turn up and say they just want sex with the female half of us. Has anyone had this happen to them? Do you think we are being harsh by saying we are unsure about meeting them? Please let us know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im bi but never find bi couples xxx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Quite a lot of 'straight' men are bi. I don't meet them for being disingenuous at best and lying, deceiving bastards at worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss it beforehand and find out what he is comfortable doing and look for someone with verifications showing bi play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he turns up and says he's only going to play with her then just send him packing. Problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently a lot of "bi" guys on here do not put it on their profile in case it puts couples off....however, these guys tend to also be the ones who say they are straight but have lots of TV/TS as friends......!!!

I have to say though, two guys I have met on here over the years, who were "straight" I have since found out are bi...I think it just takes a lot more for a guy to publicize it due to perceived homophobia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get countless messages from Straight guys who want to meet. I always ask why they are contacting me when they clearly state they are straight. The reply is the same. They feel that they will be rejected by couples and females.

Well I just think it's a little dishonest. Surly being honest on here about who you really are brings more friends and respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We also have straight guys saying they aren't bi but will at least let the male half of us 'suck their cock', even though they are straight...We don't really know how to respond to those guys? Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off. "

That is a bloody brilliant idea! Thank you! :D

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"im bi but never find bi couples xxx "

Your profile says you are straight?

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Were the same but to be honest,i think it is just a way in to helens pants.

Also alot of guys say they put done straight cos it scares off ladies...

Wot a load of crap!

If you cant be truthful to yourselves then how can we trust you full stoppppp!

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off.

That is a bloody brilliant idea! Thank you! :D"
pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just give a polite no thanks. Say we look for confident, experienced bi guys who are happy to admit to being bi on their profile. We say that an awful lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off.

That is a bloody brilliant idea! Thank you! :D"
wouldnt bother me lol more the merrier x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off. "

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I hate that as I think this is probably the one place where we can be honesg about our sexuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate that as I think this is probably the one place where we can be honesg about our sexuality"

I tend to agree. If you can't be honest here god knows the level of deceit in your daily life.

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

If your not sure - Add a little detail to the profile about what you would and wouldn't do. I don't get guys who lie.

I'm not going to trust the love of my life to someone who can't admit to being bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the opposite. Bi guys messaging to ask to suck my "yummy" cock. My profile clearly states str8.

They get pissed off when I say no - or worse still say 'it's ok they won't tell'. How the fcuk does that make it ok?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off.

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It would encourage, enthuse and excite me to have some man to man sex as his wife was watching and masturbating and really getting off on watching.

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By *oluptous69Couple
over a year ago

Hull

I have a bisexual male friend . Don't invite bi curious . We play mmf . Not many meets but have found some genuine people on here . I ask outright do you shag men . Then decide if they are genuine . Hope this helps xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar here, while Ive not had loads of meets there are a few guys who indicate on their profiel they are straight, meet have a "happy ending". Then dont want to verify or add or anything. Generally in case couples or single women wont want to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of the perennial problems on Fab. So many guys confused, embarrassed or downright lying about their sexuality.

It amazes us the number of "straight" guys who are perfectly happy to indulge in some sexual activities with other guys or TV's but still claim to be 100% straight.

Others will say or do anything to get at the female in a bi couple.

No wonder many openly gay men feel confident propositioning straight guys!

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Hi there guys.

On our profile, it clearly states that we are looking for bi guys only. But the amount of straight guys messaging us claiming to be bi is staggering. Now we know a few might be genuine, but we are unsure of how to be certain? We are afraid that a straight guy will say he is bi or wants to explore and then will turn up and say they just want sex with the female half of us. Has anyone had this happen to them? Do you think we are being harsh by saying we are unsure about meeting them? Please let us know!

X"

OP its amazing the amount of straight couples who say no to meeting you if your profile says bi. So maybe thats why!

Regarding meeting and finding guy isnt bi, well your in control simply say no and bye bye!

Having met as a couple its true straight men will do quite a lot of stuff to get to the lady but you need to set the rules clearly and the best way is to say he plays she watches but might join in if it turns her on enough....

I've also met straightcouples where guy turns out to be be bi. Good job im easy going haha.

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Enjoy dont worry and if its not going to plan just stop and end the meet! Just don't fall out with each other over boundaries. Set them clearly before the meet with each other and the guys you are meeting. As well as making your expectations clear.

It will go much better as the awkwardness will be gone.

As always love to you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there guys.

On our profile, it clearly states that we are looking for bi guys only. But the amount of straight guys messaging us claiming to be bi is staggering. Now we know a few might be genuine, but we are unsure of how to be certain? We are afraid that a straight guy will say he is bi or wants to explore and then will turn up and say they just want sex with the female half of us. Has anyone had this happen to them? Do you think we are being harsh by saying we are unsure about meeting them? Please let us know!

X"
we have it all the time we met a guy before had bi oral both ways but after all he wanted was the Mrs so now i say the men have to meet first to prove genuinely bi but most say no will only meet both of us

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Hi there guys.

On our profile, it clearly states that we are looking for bi guys only. But the amount of straight guys messaging us claiming to be bi is staggering. Now we know a few might be genuine, but we are unsure of how to be certain? We are afraid that a straight guy will say he is bi or wants to explore and then will turn up and say they just want sex with the female half of us. Has anyone had this happen to them? Do you think we are being harsh by saying we are unsure about meeting them? Please let us know!

Xwe have it all the time we met a guy before had bi oral both ways but after all he wanted was the Mrs so now i say the men have to meet first to prove genuinely bi but most say no will only meet both of us "

They say no as they want to meet a couple. Many bi guys do not want to meet just a guy.

Bi means liking both and in varying degrees of which way in preference.

I have come across many profiles where male wants to meet alone, I ask myself does she exist? Is this really a couple?

Best way is say she will watch only. Many guys find this a big turn on. Everyones happy

As always love to you all

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By *ikerswingCouple
over a year ago

mcr


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off. "
just the thing we do finds them out straight away .

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off. just the thing we do finds them out straight away ."

The give away is they dont take off their socks and stay sat at the top of the bed eyes shut - thinking to themselves , it could be her, it could be her.

And your thinking... go home go home. Haha.

Those boundaries really need setting but some guys will get into some situations cos their brain is not engaging properly. Reality can be hilarious.

.As always love to you all gay bi or straight. Xx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I hate that as I think this is probably the one place where we can be honesg about our sexuality"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get countless messages from Straight guys who want to meet. I always ask why they are contacting me when they clearly state they are straight. The reply is the same. They feel that they will be rejected by couples and females.

Well I just think it's a little dishonest. Surly being honest on here about who you really are brings more friends and respect."

And the classic "I have friends on here who I don't want to know"

That makes me feel really good, that I'll be nothing more than a dirty secret.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank You for all your awesome replies guys n gals they very helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I posted a topic on this subject also. if you are a bi male in a couple or bi curious single put it in your profile. dont let homophobic people dictate your sexuality or put straight cos you think you might get more meets. Be your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I posted a topic on this subject also. if you are a bi male in a couple or bi curious single put it in your profile. dont let homophobic people dictate your sexuality or put straight cos you think you might get more meets. Be your self "

Here here

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By *ynxMan
over a year ago

Stafford

I believe like others have said about couples only looking straight guys personally I'm honest which is why I have bicurious on my profile which what I am. I have noticed couples don't want curious guys only bi others only want straight and so on suppose its down to what the couple want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on the flip side...some of us straight guys meet straight couples and at some point u know the straight hubby isnt so straight.....

either on the meet or at a later date..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"on the flip side...some of us straight guys meet straight couples and at some point u know the straight hubby isnt so straight.....

either on the meet or at a later date.."

Lots of 'straight' couples where the guy is actually bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 60-70 % of the messages we get are off 'straight' guys

Not too bothered about the label they pin on themselves.

If thry fit the physical criteria, they are in with a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"on the flip side...some of us straight guys meet straight couples and at some point u know the straight hubby isnt so straight.....

either on the meet or at a later date..

Lots of 'straight' couples where the guy is actually bi. "

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just me or is the male OP claiming to be straight on his profile too...yet wants to me bi guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its even worse when straight women start playing with each other, kissing,rubbing tits,doubleendering,rubbing clits,licking each other,squirting soaking fanny juices over themselves...

and us guys are sitting thinking...

FUCKING LIARS!..while wanking

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Is it just me or is the male OP claiming to be straight on his profile too...yet wants to me bi guys..."

Nope - just read it.

She's straight - he's bi.

Simples!

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does OP mean? lol!

We arent claiming to be straight?

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian


"im bi but never find bi couples xxx

Your profile says you are straight? "

Yes it does say he's straight.....hate Bi guys not being honest!! At least we have our notes, so we can ensure we never meet him (Dan)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does OP mean? lol!

We arent claiming to be straight? "

OP means Original Post. As in the very first post- yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im bi but never find bi couples xxx

Your profile says you are straight?

Yes it does say he's straight.....hate Bi guys not being honest!! At least we have our notes, so we can ensure we never meet him (Dan) "

We hate all the lying 'straight guys' who then claim to be Bi too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask the guy to tongue kiss your man deeply the minute you meet!

( Kidding, kidding )

-JD

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"on the flip side...some of us straight guys meet straight couples and at some point u know the straight hubby isnt so straight.....

either on the meet or at a later date.."

Totally agree - this happened to me several times and I caught the bi.

Have also gone through a meet playing totally straight to find right at the end the totally straight man slyly swopping half way through a bj his wife was doing so well. I felt kinda conned lol.

As always love to you all.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"Hi there guys.

On our profile, it clearly states that we are looking for bi guys only. But the amount of straight guys messaging us claiming to be bi is staggering. Now we know a few might be genuine, but we are unsure of how to be certain? We are afraid that a straight guy will say he is bi or wants to explore and then will turn up and say they just want sex with the female half of us. Has anyone had this happen to them? Do you think we are being harsh by saying we are unsure about meeting them? Please let us know!

X"

we get this all the time too as we dont want straight as it does nothing for us , so many say they are bi but we just dont want to take that chance as its hard enough to get out with sitters etc and we just want to be sure that we meet with what we looking for which us a bi male nit a straight male lying on his profile

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think many profiles are just set-up to help, in the owner's opinion, to maximise their chances with their top priority targets. This may be women or mf couples in many instances. As some of these express quite frequently that they will not meet bi or bicurious guys, then it deters a lot of guys from being more open about their interests.

I'd recommend that the female part of a couple speaks to the guy who's claiming he's bi, and get him to meet the male half first. The bi male half is probably going to be able to assess the truthfulness of any claims, as well as assess the compatibility for both him and the female half. They could even do some mm exploration, to validate how genuine a guy is. If the female speaks on the phone, then it stops fake mf couples, where it's just a single male, from abusing the situation.

Asking guys to cover their mm sexual activity interests is also important, as not all guys like everything, so again it ensures a good match of tastes. Having a guy just lay back and get sucked by a guy may be a little too passive for many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them that the guys will be playing first while the female just watches, and she might not even join in.... That puts the straight guys off. "

That's what we do now

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

We do the exact same thing with bi guys who respond to us, even though we are looking only for straight guys. Perhaps we could swap those unwanted messages out with each other,resulting in a better selection to choose from. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there guys.

On our profile, it clearly states that we are looking for bi guys only. But the amount of straight guys messaging us claiming to be bi is staggering. Now we know a few might be genuine, but we are unsure of how to be certain? We are afraid that a straight guy will say he is bi or wants to explore and then will turn up and say they just want sex with the female half of us. Has anyone had this happen to them? Do you think we are being harsh by saying we are unsure about meeting them? Please let us know!

X"

Hi prefer to meet gay not bi/bi curious men. Nothing worse than meeting a man who is struggling to accept his sexuality, blowing hot and cold and freaking out. Gay men no what they want and generally have fewer anxieties with sexual encounters. If anyone wants sex with a man with no strings then get to a gay sauna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get a lot off guys saying im bi it makes us laugh along with guys saying will meet smokers when profile says they wont. We replie saying your profiles not for us thank you

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