FabSwingers.com forum: Nerves

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So im about to embark on group sex..still fairly new territory for me. Its got me thinking.

Many yrs ago I joined a mf couple was a lovely experience but everytime he came near me I looked at her for reassurance!

How do you deal with nerves and any feelings of insecurity that you arent as attractive as the others or that youre not experienced enough compared to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think about it swinging is about relaxing and enjoying

not comparing xx

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

we think the nerves are all part of it when you lose them its time to give it up and well just remember this you are the new one into the situation so how ever you feel believe us you are going to be the most sexy attractive one there xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they ddnt like you they wouldnt be reaching for you now would they?

Just enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone gets nervy when meeting, some more than others, some even find it a turn on, so it's perfectly fine and normal. One way to try and look at it might be to think this way, you're there with people that should like you attractive because you were invited after all. Also, do what you feel like, be responsive, take your time, and you can always speak up with good people - e.g. "I'm a little nervous, so please tell me if...". Over time with experience you'll feel more confident, but never think you're any less than you truly are cos it's not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone gets nervy when meeting, some more than others, some even find it a turn on, so it's perfectly fine and normal. One way to try and look at it might be to think this way, you're there with people that should like you attractive because you were invited after all. Also, do what you feel like, be responsive, take your time, and you can always speak up with good people - e.g. "I'm a little nervous, so please tell me if...". Over time with experience you'll feel more confident, but never think you're any less than you truly are cos it's not true."
* (find you attractive)

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Alcohol helps. But not too much of course.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Group sex: unless they are Pagan or hippies, will not be the group sex as you think of it.

It takes a certain mindset or type of woman to enjoy groups/gangbangs. If you like the 'used' feeling it's brilliant. If you want intimacy or a modicum of sensuality then it wont be for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax! There could of been anyone newer than me I think than at our first party last year.

I went in at the deep end and boy did I love it

You are what you are, never feel you are less attractive, you will bring insecurity to yourself.

Looking at the female for reassurance, no she is there with him, for the same reasons, and hoping he has fun too.

Her

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Group sex: unless they are Pagan or hippies, will not be the group sex as you think of it.

It takes a certain mindset or type of woman to enjoy groups/gangbangs. If you like the 'used' feeling it's brilliant. If you want intimacy or a modicum of sensuality then it wont be for you. "

As a pagan couple we would really like to know where we have to queue for this group sex thing! We're obviously missing out!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Group sex: unless they are Pagan or hippies, will not be the group sex as you think of it.

It takes a certain mindset or type of woman to enjoy groups/gangbangs. If you like the 'used' feeling it's brilliant. If you want intimacy or a modicum of sensuality then it wont be for you.

As a pagan couple we would really like to know where we have to queue for this group sex thing! We're obviously missing out!

I might be completely wrong but I am under the assumption the female in Paganism, is the sublime form and worshiped as such. I wasnt saying Pagans do gangbangs.

(I am probably going to get it off hippies now)

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