FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling shy about meeting

By *ockstarxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I say I want too but when it comes down to it Ive started getting shy... Its starting to wind me up a lot. I know its mainly body confidence aswell. but I used to feel ok and not care about meeting O.o wtf.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"I say I want too but when it comes down to it Ive started getting shy... Its starting to wind me up a lot. I know its mainly body confidence aswell. but I used to feel ok and not care about meeting O.o wtf."

We all go through phases like that. Sometimes taking a step back gives us time to get things back into perspective. Try going for a social meet first which will take some of the pressure off. Good luck and keep your chin up xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get like that. As the meet gets closer, I'm sometimes half willing the man I'm meeting to cancell the day before. As soon as you meet and get the first awkward few minutes over with you'll be fine.

I have major body issues and lack confidence but once I'm feeling relaxed with the man I'm with, I'm fine. Nothing wrong with nerves before a meet though, it adds to the build up, excitement and anticipation.

Try not to worry or think about it too much. Just relax and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone gets like that at some point. Dont rush if your not ready and maybe go for drinks for first meet. Social meets at club are also very good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always a little daunting to meet anyone new, let alone to do the most intimate things to each other! I have phases like this. Just take a step back and get back to it when you feel like it. I often have to remind myself I'm here primarily for what I want myself. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we still get pre meet jitters - like others have said once the first minutes have passed its usually all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I pray they will cancel because of this but when the buggers do, I am incandescent with rage, how very dare they? A couple of times I've sat waiting......and waiting and they've not turned up, mixed feelings then, relief mixed with chagrin. "Time wasters, oh thank god, time wasters, oh thank god"!

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

I agree with all on here! If your not ready to meet someone, don't be rushed. If your not comfortable with meeting, keep getting to know them on message or chat! If they want to meet you & think your sexy they will wait! If not they weren't worth meeting in the first place, don't jump in!

Just remember we all have hang ups about our bodies, good luck & just have fun! T&J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been cancelled on before, the lady in question was quite upfront and said she really wanted to meet, but didn't feel comfortable with herself etc, and cancelled. It happens to us all, maybe just have a few socials first or meet up with people you've met before if you're in that mood?

Relax and enjoy yourself too

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

It really is all part of the excitement and you miss it a little bit when you get used to meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nervous tension, only heightens the whole experience for me.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I hardly ever get nervous or apprehensive, I don't know if its a good thing or a bad thing but I am just a relaxed laid back person, even if the meet doesn't work out I am not phased and just look on it as one of those things that happens

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think most people would be supportive and encouraging.

I have to be honest though, if I were to be having repeat meets and it was to surface more and more. I would end it. I am here for NSA sex.

just being honest

good luck and hope all works out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's natural to be nervous ...

Just don't read to much into it initially,meet somewhere public and take it from there....whether it ends in a coffee, shag or a to be continued....

You won't know until you take one step at a time and start simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been the same. I've had three weeks off from playing because I developed a massive fear of meeting. Even though I've already had a few. Soon sorted that out tonight though tee hee. Normal service to resume now i imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Alli, Alli here

I am a nervous wreck before meets. You might find you go through phases with this, I have periods where I feel OK and don't worry too much and other periods where I feel so anxious I almost wonder if it's worth it (it is)

I try to remember that it is NEVER as bad as it is in my head beforehand, experience has taught me this. I have never had a bad meet or been rejected as unattractive or not been able to turn a guy on, or had nothing to say, all the things I worry about. And when I say worry, I have literally shook on my way to meets.

And do remember that the other party may be just anxious about performance, expectation and worrying if you'll fancy them.

If though it actually makes you unhappy you need to think about whether it's right for you right now.

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