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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband.

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

There's nowt as queer as folk !

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why meet with them if you're not happy? I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people prefer to keep kissing for each other. It's not odd at all. If you don't like it just meet people that do like to kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard that before.

It's as if kissing is too intimate.

You can have the beaver but your going no where near the mouth! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing is very much for us - just pass by those that dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have spoke to a few couples who say this we accept it is up to the person but we don't understand how the girl will suck my bfs cock and swallow his cum but he can't kiss lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like kissing all round

We don't meet people who won't kiss.

Love watching my hubby kiss, play and have sex with another lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love kissing and it's stated as important on our profile.

Seems barmy to me that a cock in your holes is ok but touching lips is not......however I do understand the idea of wanting to reserve something special for partners.

So we always make sure to mention kissing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We love kissing and it's stated as important on our profile.

Seems barmy to me that a cock in your holes is ok but touching lips is not......however I do understand the idea of wanting to reserve something special for partners.

So we always make sure to mention kissing. "

That's why I keep anal for the boyfriend.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

I don't understand why one of the couple is allowed to kiss you but the other isn't. As I'm not bi it doesn't affect me and I don't need to understand everything

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

As with most things its each to their own. We don't kiss the opposite sex either. It doesn't cause any problems for us luckily..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's that all about?

Her

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

Yes it does seem odd that a woman will give me a blow job but won't kiss me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people don't understand.

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

Suppose each to there own we looking for more female contact than female to male contact

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't understand why people don't understand. "

I don't understand why you don't understand that people don't understand

Seriously though I don't really understand but there are a lot of things I don't understand I don't let it tax me too much . There are things that we like to do and not do that people don't understand, it's just life.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I dont kiss much on a meet...

But if im told before meeting that there is to be no kissing....

I simply wont meet them...

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

We looking for lots of girl on girl kissing no male kissing so maybe we the odd ones each to there own as long as everyone clear to start with

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We looking for lots of girl on girl kissing no male kissing so maybe we the odd ones each to there own as long as everyone clear to start with "

that's the main thing...... being clear from the start

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

I can totally understand it and it seems to be relatively common. When you're kissing someone you're looking into their eyes, (the "window to the soul" etc etc) so it's much more intimate and can have a real emotional content and feeling of contact much more so than when you've got other body parts in contact which is just physical where there is little risk of emotional entanglement.

So while I'm a big fan of kissing, if a couple don't do it with others and reserve that for themselves I can see where they're coming from.

And the woman to woman contact is presumably acceptable to them as I imagine the majority of bi women aren't interested in relationships with other women so the intimate kissing contact isn't an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can totally understand it and it seems to be relatively common. When you're kissing someone you're looking into their eyes, (the "window to the soul" etc etc) so it's much more intimate and can have a real emotional content and feeling of contact much more so than when you've got other body parts in contact which is just physical where there is little risk of emotional entanglement.

So while I'm a big fan of kissing, if a couple don't do it with others and reserve that for themselves I can see where they're coming from.

And the woman to woman contact is presumably acceptable to them as I imagine the majority of bi women aren't interested in relationships with other women so the intimate kissing contact isn't an issue."

when i kiss i mostly close my eyes - with him we often look etc but thats just us - maybe we should kiss but keep your eyes shut

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

And the woman to woman contact is presumably acceptable to them as I imagine the majority of bi women aren't interested in relationships with other women so the intimate kissing contact isn't an issue."

Not interested in a relationship with the guy either.....

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London


"

And the woman to woman contact is presumably acceptable to them as I imagine the majority of bi women aren't interested in relationships with other women so the intimate kissing contact isn't an issue.

Not interested in a relationship with the guy either..... "

You may not be but there are plenty of women (and men) on here that are interested in relationships.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I met a couple who had a kissing ban but I didn't know til I got there. It was my first meet actually. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal but found it very offputting. I wouldn't do it again it's not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people don't understand. "

Couldn't of said it better myself

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

To us, kissing has an emotional connection and of all the things we will do with others, we would just like to keep this one thing sacred for each other.

Everyone has a list of preferences. Just make sure you meet people that are looking for the same as you and you can't go wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is not so much an emotional thing, I like a good kiss, gets me going.

But having said that, if they don't want to kiss its up to them.

Her

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"It is not so much an emotional thing, I like a good kiss, gets me going.

But having said that, if they don't want to kiss its up to them.

Her"

We can totally understand where others come from too. The kissing makes it for them.

Fem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont meet couples with this rule. Kissing is a big part of sex to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is not so much an emotional thing, I like a good kiss, gets me going.

But having said that, if they don't want to kiss its up to them.

Her

We can totally understand where others come from too. The kissing makes it for them.

Fem "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind snogging as long as i can keep my Balaclava on

Vlad the Impaler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D"

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i do love kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do love kissing "
The start of foreplay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock "

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

"

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre "

Hang on a minute, you were Dr Spock before??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre

Hang on a minute, you were Dr Spock before??

"

I suffers from multi personality syndrome

Innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love watching Mrs N kissing other men and women, It's a great turn on but...... I can see exactly why people wouldn't want it to happen.

The act of kissing another woman is actually quite stressful for me. I find myself wondering how Mrs N feels about it. Does she feel jealous. Usually at the time she is having a good snog with the other bloke so once I'm happy she is OK can relax a bit.

Luckily she is usually the first to get kissed or doing the kissing so once that hurdle is out of the way the fun can begin.

Perhaps this is the dynamic that makes people put up the boundary of no kissing. they find it too stressful.

However I think it's all part of the fun and danger and send frizzions of lust down my spine when we are playing with people we both fancy the pants off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It opens up the body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre

Hang on a minute, you were Dr Spock before??

I suffers from multi personality syndrome

Innit "

Well ifwere gonna get sexy with tongue to ear I think id prefer DR Spock present, he's got massive ears, and you know us ladies......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

If it doesnt suit you youre much better moving on until you find someone who exactly fits what youre looking for than spending effort trying to work out why someone else has preferences that dont fit yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre

Hang on a minute, you were Dr Spock before??

I suffers from multi personality syndrome

Innit

Well ifwere gonna get sexy with tongue to ear I think id prefer DR Spock present, he's got massive ears, and you know us ladies......"

Spock is always there, Sometimes in the background and sometimes at the front, He likes the "Alternative" lifestyle

Dr Who

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre

Hang on a minute, you were Dr Spock before??

I suffers from multi personality syndrome

Innit

Well ifwere gonna get sexy with tongue to ear I think id prefer DR Spock present, he's got massive ears, and you know us ladies......

Spock is always there, Sometimes in the background and sometimes at the front, He likes the "Alternative" lifestyle

Dr Who "

Ffs, cosmic screwdriver?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don't know of I'd get turned on without kissing as I've never done it.

It's massively important to me and usually the thing I most look forward to about a meet.

I simply adore turning someone on with teasing kisses.

I'm curious now to try it though, would someone care to ravish me but start with a peck on the cheek and see how far we get?

Mrs D

Oh go on then, Purely for scientific purposes of course

Doctor Spock

Only if you promise absolutely no tongues!

Noooo noo noooooo

If im not snogging ya i have to stick me Tongue in yer ear

Dr Dre

Hang on a minute, you were Dr Spock before??

I suffers from multi personality syndrome

Innit

Well ifwere gonna get sexy with tongue to ear I think id prefer DR Spock present, he's got massive ears, and you know us ladies......

Spock is always there, Sometimes in the background and sometimes at the front, He likes the "Alternative" lifestyle

Dr Who

Ffs, cosmic screwdriver?"

Its all in the wrist action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her "

ooo you sound like tarsans jane there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started swinging we discussed this very thing , we tried it but it just felt so out of place for us that we quickly changed our view , I get why couples want to leave something intimate for each other but sex without kissing is like fish without chips lol

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her "

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing no meeting for us we find it strange that kissing is special but oral and sex are not . We do however appreciate people are different so please don't take offence xx

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"No kissing no meeting for us we find it strange that kissing is special but oral and sex are not . We do however appreciate people are different so please don't take offence xx"

None taken here. We appreciate your preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I play on this profile, I kiss but when we play together with people we have met on our couples profile I prefer not to, and although I love seeing my partner playing with other women, I definately dont like seeing him kissing.

Its far too intimate as far as Im concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few couples have this rule as they see kissing as more intimate than the actual sex, I love to kiss it is one of my favourite things to do to get it all going so to speak so I don't meet the couples who won't kiss as it doesn't work for me

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways... "

We do kiss others but this is perfectly understandable. Well said

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

It's not just couples though. I had a very hot quickie with a guy last year who was perfection to look at and a monster in the bedroom but although I couldn't quite put my finger on why the meet didn't feel quite right despite being super hot.

It was only after speaking to him later when he was asking for repeat meets that it came out he doesn't like kissing that I realised what had felt odd about the meet he hadn't kissed me!! Shame as he was gorg but it's the kissing that does it for me so no kissing means no meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways... "

I wouldn't expect you to meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways...

We do kiss others but this is perfectly understandable. Well said "

just stating the obvious

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways...

I wouldn't expect you to meet me"

No...I know you wouldn't. Nobody should expect anything. We all find the right people for each other Like I said, it works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post is the exact reason I won’t meet couples... as discussed in previous posts the single female is often used and seen as a plaything for the benefit of the couple...too many rules that apply to the single female only… you are permitted to kiss the woman half of the couple but not the man... (for the benefit of the man?) but you can give my husband a bj? Why on earth would I want to do something as personal as that but not be allowed to kiss him? ... Either the whole meet is a totally shared experience or it isn't...

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways...

We do kiss others but this is perfectly understandable. Well said "
Thanks for understanding. We don't face problems but that's due to being upfront about it from the start.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

I agree OP, it is odd but it's their preference so I'd accept it. I just find it a little disappointing when you're not told about the kissing preference beforehand. Surely it's one of those obvious requirements to be discussed before meeting. I've also been surprised by 'non-kissers' as well as 'barebackers' at meetings arghh!

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"Some people prefer to keep kissing for each other. It's not odd at all. If you don't like it just meet people that do like to kiss. "

no kissing but u can have sexual intercourse which is more intimate

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

we only meet couples that kiss, but did start with the no kissing rule - broke it on the first meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

I kiss without thinking (during sex, I don't just randomly attack people in Asda!) and so for this reason I wouldn't meet anyone who had any kind of kissing restriction as I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself. If some couples want to keep that between themselves then fine, but I'd just never meet them...though it does sometimes baffle how it's ok to kiss her but not him. Surely that's still just as intimate an act or am I not understanding something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about kissing but do avoid people that say they don't do it just because it suggests it won't be a very relaxed atmosphere.

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By *errible_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We don't kiss only fem fem, swinging is for fun Sex with your own partner is for love and kissing is between us, we have been turned down cos of this but it's our choice just like ppl who will only play bareback, we won't meet them either

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham


"We don't kiss only fem fem, swinging is for fun Sex with your own partner is for love and kissing is between us, we have been turned down cos of this but it's our choice just like ppl who will only play bareback, we won't meet them either "

We the same as you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband.

I kiss without thinking (during sex, I don't just randomly attack people in Asda!) and so for this reason I wouldn't meet anyone who had any kind of kissing restriction as I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself. If some couples want to keep that between themselves then fine, but I'd just never meet them...though it does sometimes baffle how it's ok to kiss her but not him. Surely that's still just as intimate an act or am I not understanding something! "

kissing her turns him on and he's unlikely to have a strop over it. I think the men should kiss the single men they ask to join them. On the rare occasion that seems to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people prefer to keep kissing for each other. It's not odd at all. If you don't like it just meet people that do like to kiss.

no kissing but u can have sexual intercourse which is more intimate "

We don't kiss and haven't been turned down for it yet that we know of. For us we aren't on here looking for intimacy. We have each other for that. When we have a meet it is sex, when we do it just us we make love.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people prefer to keep kissing for each other. It's not odd at all. If you don't like it just meet people that do like to kiss.

no kissing but u can have sexual intercourse which is more intimate

We don't kiss and haven't been turned down for it yet that we know of. For us we aren't on here looking for intimacy. We have each other for that. When we have a meet it is sex, when we do it just us we make love. "

So sex with a meet is something for pure gratification of yourselves and not the pleasure of others or am I being naive here? Any penetrative act is an act of giving ones body to another to cheapen it to the difference between sex and making love is just wrong !!! You aren't "forsaking all others" and surely the most intimate thing a couple has is their relationship and to not include others at all !!!

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People tend to seem narrow minded if their views differ from your own.

I like to be relaxed, so avoid people with lists of rules, especially those I feel are silly. But there are plenty of options for all without needing to be too bothered by the preferences of others.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

"

I think it's rude beyond belief that people are slagging off anyone that won't kiss during a meet!! If kissing is really so important then go find someone that does kiss.

Does anyone know what 'respect' means anymore??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a prize if I do?

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over a year ago

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"People tend to seem narrow minded if their views differ from your own.

I like to be relaxed, so avoid people with lists of rules, especially those I feel are silly. But there are plenty of options for all without needing to be too bothered by the preferences of others.

xx"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there a prize if I do?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people prefer to keep kissing for each other. It's not odd at all. If you don't like it just meet people that do like to kiss.

no kissing but u can have sexual intercourse which is more intimate

We don't kiss and haven't been turned down for it yet that we know of. For us we aren't on here looking for intimacy. We have each other for that. When we have a meet it is sex, when we do it just us we make love.

So sex with a meet is something for pure gratification of yourselves and not the pleasure of others or am I being naive here? Any penetrative act is an act of giving ones body to another to cheapen it to the difference between sex and making love is just wrong !!! You aren't "forsaking all others" and surely the most intimate thing a couple has is their relationship and to not include others at all !!!"

yes you are being naive. so my view is wrong but yours is right, ok then. when we have a meet it is for the sexual gratification of all involved. but that is what it is, sex. when we do it there is emotions involved between us and its totally different to when we do it with others.

kissing to us is the most intimate act between a couple. we kiss each other when we leave for work, before we go to sleep and when we are making love. it is an act that we associate with each other and the love and bond that we share.

to say that you cant have an intimate relationship and still invite others into certain parts of it shows how ignorant you are.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

I think it's rude beyond belief that people are slagging off anyone that won't kiss during a meet!! If kissing is really so important then go find someone that does kiss.

Does anyone know what 'respect' means anymore??

"

Some do.. *puts hand up*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

I think it's rude beyond belief that people are slagging off anyone that won't kiss during a meet!! If kissing is really so important then go find someone that does kiss.

Does anyone know what 'respect' means anymore??

"

I think it's rude beyond belief that people who question morals and others differing views of morality are deemed disrespectful

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

"

I have no issue with preferences and like I said I just wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss or restricts who I can kiss as it just doesn't work for me. I do genuinely struggle to understand though why it's different if I kiss the female of a couple...surely if kissing is an intimate act then it's still intimate between women? I'm not saying that to cause offence, I just don't get the difference. Obviously there is a difference to some people but it doesn't make sense to me...if a woman is genuinely bi-sexual then surely kissing male or female holds the same value?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

I have no issue with preferences and like I said I just wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss or restricts who I can kiss as it just doesn't work for me. I do genuinely struggle to understand though why it's different if I kiss the female of a couple...surely if kissing is an intimate act then it's still intimate between women? I'm not saying that to cause offence, I just don't get the difference. Obviously there is a difference to some people but it doesn't make sense to me...if a woman is genuinely bi-sexual then surely kissing male or female holds the same value?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single here. I expect to kiss and be kissed. Tongues too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single here. I expect to kiss and be kissed. Tongues too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

I have no issue with preferences and like I said I just wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss or restricts who I can kiss as it just doesn't work for me. I do genuinely struggle to understand though why it's different if I kiss the female of a couple...surely if kissing is an intimate act then it's still intimate between women? I'm not saying that to cause offence, I just don't get the difference. Obviously there is a difference to some people but it doesn't make sense to me...if a woman is genuinely bi-sexual then surely kissing male or female holds the same value?"

I suppose it depends, you can be bisexual but never see your self having a relationship with the same sex. So then I suppose same sex kissing would be fine.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We both kiss when playing....we enjoy watching each other enjoy ourselves in many ways.

We did meet a couple that wouldn't kiss and it just didn't work for us! we enjoy the teasing, flirting and build up and without the kissing it just feels too mechanical.

Mrs Dirty

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

Each to their own...Personally I need kissing as it's a massive turn on for me and really gets me going...my one and only meet with a couple that didn't want me and the fella kissing was my worst so that's put me off meeting other couples that don't too...obviously not every couple that don't kiss the opposite sex will be like that meet but when you've had a bad experience I suppose you don't want to put yourself in that position again...no kissing but everything else doesn't fulfil what I'm looking for however nothing with the male and everything with the female floats my boat perfectly! Haha. If you don't like what a couple or single has to offer you then don't meet them, there are plenty of others that will want the same thing as you!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"When we first started swinging we discussed this very thing , we tried it but it just felt so out of place for us that we quickly changed our view , I get why couples want to leave something intimate for each other but sex without kissing is like fish without chips lol "

This. Kissing is very erotic. I don't understand people who don't want to kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet without kissing?

for me that's like sex without passion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's wired but I like seeing my partner with other men giving them oral and full sex but I don't like her kiss other men. A little kiss when they first meet to makes everyone relaxed but we find kissing very personal I know it sounds silly

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"This thread shows how narrow minded and judgemental "some" people really can be, when they clearly have no clue why individuals choose to have they're own preferences. Im sure we all have them for different reasons.

As for making presumptions? I can't see the point myself...

I have no issue with preferences and like I said I just wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss or restricts who I can kiss as it just doesn't work for me. I do genuinely struggle to understand though why it's different if I kiss the female of a couple...surely if kissing is an intimate act then it's still intimate between women? I'm not saying that to cause offence, I just don't get the difference. Obviously there is a difference to some people but it doesn't make sense to me...if a woman is genuinely bi-sexual then surely kissing male or female holds the same value?"

No, not at all. I am attracted sexually to both men and women but I wouldn't have a relationship with a woman.

We're far too complicated. Lol!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We would prefer it if everyone was attracted to everyone. But obviously that's not always the case.

The kissing thing has been done to death, but just because you would be happy to hold hands with someone does not mean you want to kiss them. Just because you are happy to fuck someone, does not mean you want to go out for drinks with them.

Some people have it all, some people have great personalities but the looks don't do it.

I would never assume kissing is on the cards nor anything else. It's all about respect. The fact it does not match with your preferences does not make it illogical.

I'm quite sure there are some fella's who I could fuck if I was kissing their Mrs as the sensation would feel good, but I may not find them the kissable type.

On the other hand I may want to kiss the fella and not the girl.

(it's better if I want to kiss both and the same in return)

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"When we first started swinging we discussed this very thing , we tried it but it just felt so out of place for us that we quickly changed our view , I get why couples want to leave something intimate for each other but sex without kissing is like fish without chips lol

This. Kissing is very erotic. I don't understand people who don't want to kiss. "

We dont either but we do accept we all are into different things (which is a good job really cos it would get boring otherwise lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've no problem with couples who don't kiss, we just wouldn't meet them. We DO have problems if people aren't up front about restrictions like this as it can waste everyone's time if its not mentioned early on. Getting as far as meeting only to discover this stuff is not on at all.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I wouldn't meet a couple who only "allowed" me to kiss the woman. I'd say no kiss no suck him,no lick her

Yes but don't forget as a couple who don't kiss, then we wouldn't meet you either if that's your preference.

It works both ways...

We do kiss others but this is perfectly understandable. Well said

just stating the obvious "

I was agreeing with Pleasures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own...Personally I need kissing as it's a massive turn on for me and really gets me going...my one and only meet with a couple that didn't want me and the fella kissing was my worst so that's put me off meeting other couples that don't too...obviously not every couple that don't kiss the opposite sex will be like that meet but when you've had a bad experience I suppose you don't want to put yourself in that position again...no kissing but everything else doesn't fulfil what I'm looking for however nothing with the male and everything with the female floats my boat perfectly! Haha. If you don't like what a couple or single has to offer you then don't meet them, there are plenty of others that will want the same thing as you! "

I agree with this it's not nice to feel that the act of giving ones body is purely mechanical to suit others.... I've been giving this whole debate some thought and in my experience, both on and off this site, I'm not sure whether it is intimacy that people feel they are withholding... Possibly more to do with emotions, possibly jealousy. I've only been on this site as a single woman however when I was in my twenty year marriage, and we were far from this scene in our relationship, any blatant display of kissing or flirtation with my ex would always get me angry/jealous/resentful of the perpetrator... I still work with him and feel that even to this day if it happens in front of me... No one likes to see the effect that others have visibly on the one you love and kissing is a massive part of the whole sexual experience... The gateway to other emotions developing...

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We've had this request before too, we just didn't bother meeting, think the kissing helps get you horny ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people don't understand. "

I think we all do understand but think its odd

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

Girl on girl kissing here, no male to female kissy kissy lol quite easy to understand. Guess thats us off a few folks meet list , ah well , next lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love kissing and very much doubt we would meet others that didnt as it adds to the fun and is integral to foreplay etc.

The way we kiss each other when alone is totally different to when on a meet, its passionate deep and with meaning, on a meet we are just kissing and snogging. There is a difference.

That said it does go back to personal preference and the choices that others want to make and they should be respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Save all your kisses for me

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh, I'd find it alittle ofensive, and more than a little insulting, to expect to use a womans most intimate part of her body but NOT to show her respect by allowing her to use 'your' most intimate area..(Which is apparently..the lips on his face).....really?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

each to their own but it smacks of a real insecurity and trust issue with emotions and strangely intimacy.

Of course it could be down to bad teeth bad breath or maybe ulcers or worrying that their false teeth may come loose..

Kissing is such an important part of the passion that ignites the brain..if you take away the passion you might as well just use your hand or a toy and leave a tenner on the pillow!..and I bet those toys will end up in the mouth! ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We respect anyone's wishes if they're not allowing kissing between all parties, we wouldn't meet them however.

We're secure enough, as well as exceedingly tactile so we just have to give ourselves fully to the fun in order to enjoy ourselves with people.

Nothing beats a good kissing/making out as a warm up for the main event

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

A lot of the fun for me is finding out what the others enjoy. I would rather find out their rules as we go along instead of dictating beforehand...even if it ends in no physical contact!

Theres a certain frissance to not quite knowing what's happening next.

Better to have met and left than never to have met at all.

TBTWAPOS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't meet anyone who didn't do kissing

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"Personally I wouldn't meet anyone who didn't do kissing "

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By *eather_satinCouple
over a year ago

West Sussex

I used to have the view that kissing was very intimate and should be reserved for the couple......until I spoke to a few people on the forum about it AND experienced our first threesome. Wouldn't bother me if he kissed the other fem now as long as we all made the effort to get to know each other and had a connection. I wouldn't allow him to just randomly kiss just anyone!!

Putting myself in the shoes of a single fem and being told "yeah you can shag him and suck him off but you can't kiss him" almost seems a bit disrespectful towards her.

Rant over x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why meet with them if you're not happy? I wouldn't."

You're right but they probably make the rules up after you arrive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone im a bi fem who meets couples and keep being told no opposit sex kissing but the fem is allowed to kiss me. I find it very odd esp as I'm allowed to have sex with the husband. "

its just a turn on for the man isn't it, to see his bird snogging another woman but maybe she don't get so turned on seeing her felling kissing said women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've heard that before.

It's as if kissing is too intimate.

You can have the beaver but your going no where near the mouth! Lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I love to kiss, the few times ages ago that I played with couples thankfully there was loads of kissing or couldn't of carried on same as if I was playing with one man there has to be lots of kisses going round.

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By *issy NickersWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I can't imagine not kissing - couldn't play without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree that it's odd the female will suck and swallow his cum but kissing is a no go....we always assume it's the guy in the relationship not being ok with it tbh but that could just be wrong thinking lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We agree that it's odd the female will suck and swallow his cum but kissing is a no go....we always assume it's the guy in the relationship not being ok with it tbh but that could just be wrong thinking lol xx"

Its often not anything to do with the guy... For women sometimes kissing is more emotional... And they just don't enjoy it with others.. some couples find it to intimate.... More guys seem to not want to kiss than women.... And in our experience more women are uncomfortable with their guys kissing other women.

But whatever there reason.... If you are not compatible with how someone wants to play.... Play with someone else xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if its important to you you would duscuss this before agreeing to meet. If I meet with a couple then we all play. If they had a preference for no thats fine. I just wouldn't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are two couples that I've played with over a number of years and with each of them it took us lots of meets before we progressed to me kissing the fem (despite plenty of fucking in the meantime!).

In one case it was simply that I was being too polite and presumed that she wouldn't want to, when in fact she was totally fine with it.

In the other case it just seemed to happen naturally about the third time we met. Our meets before that were good but it got gradually more relaxed the more we met so kissing seemed more natural.

And then the most recent meet I had involved some love snogging from the outset at her initiation. Always go with the flow...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holy revival...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the OP

we find it strange but each to there own but we won't play if no swap kissing allowed or just the girls, as kissing is part of the fun for us

The argument that it's too intimate doesn't wash with us as its seems okay half the time for FEM/FEM kissing! Is that less intimate then? Or is it more intimate than oral while looking into each other eyes?

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