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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really

dont pay. They will ask for more. You have nothing to be ashamed of to your family. Or if u do, deny it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch ...

I wouldn't pay for their silence as if they can demand once they can again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? OMG. Report, block and move on. If they spill the beans on you, then others will know what they're up to as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them that that's known as either blackmail or extortion and you'll go to the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phone the guards

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

really

so name and shame them now ,might get the post removed .

but how do they know your family did you take them on the date with you ???????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expose you for what exactly? Having sex? Not exactly crime of the century. Sounds fishy

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By *erseysideridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

deffo report ,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

Call their bluff...

Message them, tell them that you are going to the police with the printed out message they sent you, and when they get arrested, they will the ones that get exposed to their family and friends.

Then block them, you won't hear from them again, if they have your number change it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They sound very mean,threaten to tell their mummies

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

How do they know how to contact your family?

How do they know who your friends are?

Print their profile and messages in case of police involvement

If you sent them a face pic, put the same one on face buk then you can say they copied it from there

Don't send money

Let them do it, if you're genuinely single then it's just sex.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way."

Seriously? Is that how you solve disputes?

I'm never sure whether posts like this we are supposed to openly laugh at how pathetic they sound or run away from the laptop in fear of the internet hardman!

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton

OMG definatly don't send them money x call their bluff tell them ok how would they know your family and friends anyway ?? Block them on here report them, block them on your mobile and move on they're obviously just freaks x please don't worry tho you have done nothing wrong its them that could end up in trouble with the law

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family

Call their bluff...

Message them, tell them that you are going to the police with the printed out message they sent you, and when they get arrested, they will the ones that get exposed to their family and friends.

Then block them, you won't hear from them again, if they have your number change it x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them that that's known as either blackmail or extortion and you'll go to the police. "

You should do this. Let us know what happens. I feel really sorry for you.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

I would teach them a lesson and go to the police.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

Would direct them to the nearest branch of Sports Direct..... advise them to enter aforementioned retailers, buy a nice new set of trainers.... and jog the fcuk on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And next time dont tell anyone too much detail about your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family

Call their bluff...

Message them, tell them that you are going to the police with the printed out message they sent you, and when they get arrested, they will the ones that get exposed to their family and friends.

Then block them, you won't hear from them again, if they have your number change it x

This "

This also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell a close friend who you trust implicitly.

They will know your personal situation and can give advice knowing the possible implications of any course of action.

I take it there is some way they can identify you e.g. You have been photographed or filmed, as there is nothing on your profile that identifies you personally.

Not knowing your personal situation, my advice is to front to out with them. The thought of a prison sentence for blackmail can be good for focusing the mind.

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago


"How do they know how to contact your family?

How do they know who your friends are?"

look at where the OP lives .... from my experience of living in Eire, everyone knows who you are and everything about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

As you dont accomodate i take it you went to there house,just hand post a copy of there message and if any photos of them,through there letterbox with a big kiss and say lovely neighbours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call their bluff and tell them to do it but in the mean time you are taking the matter of blackmail to the police, in all honesty if it came out what's the worst that could happen? Your a single man so have no wife or girlfriend to worry about finding out, I'd imagine ya mates will pat you on your back and your family will ask questions

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Same advice as others - don't give them an inch and show that you are not weak. Obviously reinforce that you will use the police.

If you've done anything wrong, then let us know about it, or someone on here that you trust, as it may need some more specific advice. As it stands, if you are not married, you could be dating someone, so it may threaten that - but having group fun is of course not illegal, but may be frowned upon by some more religious leaning folks.

Arm yourself by being ready and build your confidence levels. You need to let out any worries, as they are weakening to us as people. If you have fab friends, see if there are any that you could talk with. Otherwise, your standard life friends would be good.

Consider amending your profile temporarily, if that is what they would use to help identify you, but overall I believe in staying strong, as you are in a stronger position than they are, as they're acting illegally.

Look after yourself Good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Police, they will deal with and bring charges only if necessary. Usually the threat is enough though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A range to meet in the local pub to pay them at a busy time

Once they're sat down an chatting stand up and loudly and angrily shout

"I don't care how small your cock is I am NOT fucking your wife because you can't, and no I won't take you're filthy money"

Then storm out. No matter what they say afterwards what is heard then will be the truth in everyone's mind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

Expose you for what exactly ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is some good advice above. Personally I would reply to the message thanking them for the proof that they are blackmailing you and say you will be forwarding it to the police.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Please update us as we are all wishing you well, this is the kind of situation we have to back each other up on and avoid.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

firstly dont pay secondly report to admin and thirdly if admin do nothing about it report to police its blackmail by any description

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way.

Seriously? Is that how you solve disputes?

I'm never sure whether posts like this we are supposed to openly laugh at how pathetic they sound or run away from the laptop in fear of the internet hardman!"
if someone was trying to blackmail for money yes. Only the male half of course. I would be at there house or work place causing them all sorts of distress. They deserve nothing less. Unless the guy seemed like he would kick arse then it would be police being called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way.

Seriously? Is that how you solve disputes?

I'm never sure whether posts like this we are supposed to openly laugh at how pathetic they sound or run away from the laptop in fear of the internet hardman!"

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

so they don't mind everyone knowing that you shagged his wife and he let you ,your single hes not,you haven't done anything wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them you couldn't give a fcuk because it's just come out about you being HIV. (Jokes)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never be ashamed of what you do or what you've done.

There is nothing wrong with doing what makes you happy. (Unless your a Psychopath)

Bullies, extortion, can only work if you give a toss.

What can they actually threaten you with? Nothing......

We wish you all the best..

L & J

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By *ob and angelaCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

call there bluff .... find out as much info bout them then turn the deck on them ....

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

He has not said what they wanted money for, was it half the meal was it half the hotel bill ????? was it for their elctric, new sheets you spunked over???

All it says is they asked for money but money for what.

Need to know that first before you start calling black mail surely???

so Op what was the money for

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By *all_cheeky_guyMan
over a year ago

guildford

Good point above, this could be seen at two levels, both not great.

First level, some misunderstanding about shared hotel bill etc etc, that could have somehow gone a bit odd, hence the demand.

The more worrying level is this is some attempt to blackmail you. Of course none of us on the forum know how you know this couple, and I am guessing having met four times that that you thought you know them fairly well.

If they really think this is a way to extort money from you, and you pay, this will happen to others. Or worse, something akin to the Scottish case of the council worker that was beaten up by the partner of a woman he had been taking naughty photos of.

I would state the facts to admin on here, and I would state the facts to the rozzers, that's all you can do. All of us put a lot of trust into situations of play with ourselves, partners and our health, and if they are trying to blackmail you it needs to be stopped, as where does that grow to?

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By *ung hiMan
over a year ago

Northwest

Call the S A S ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them to go forth and multiply as like everyone else said you pay once your be forever paying and its only sex ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "

Tell them you will expose them to police. That will shut them up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How come the OP has not replied once , apart from the original question......nothing ??

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