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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe your too fussy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello . Single men do find it difficult especially those in their twenties it seems. Maybe put a little in your profile about what exactly you're after, fun is such a non descript word and as you say knowledge is king...let people know a little about what you're after. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because there are shed loads of men on here. You'd be better off going to a nightclub

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested."

Your profile says you would like to meet a woman who is "pretty", has a "good body" and "has class". Remove these stipulations and you'll find your chances of a meet will increase exponentially

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested.

Your profile says you would like to meet a woman who is "pretty", has a "good body" and "has class". Remove these stipulations and you'll find your chances of a meet will increase exponentially "

what are you saying Mr M?!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested.

Your profile says you would like to meet a woman who is "pretty", has a "good body" and "has class". Remove these stipulations and you'll find your chances of a meet will increase exponentially

what are you saying Mr M?! "

Me? Nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree with the above - it just suggests slight pickiness - maybe leave it out and see who messages or replies to yours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested."

Seriously..

Get out from behind your screen, get to some socials, a club whatever..

Get to meet people in the flesh. Go well groomed, smell fresh enjoy good social fun. People will respond to this..

Make friends, network.. and you'll see the lifestyle open up to you, in ways you never thought possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested.

Seriously..

Get out from behind your screen, get to some socials, a club whatever..

Get to meet people in the flesh. Go well groomed, smell fresh enjoy good social fun. People will respond to this..

Make friends, network.. and you'll see the lifestyle open up to you, in ways you never thought possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And have no expectations of meeting and playing for a long whole to start with - then you will relax and your true personality will come over more so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go ugly early.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go ugly early."

Lol ; you see there's a guy with the balls to say it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally any "straight" man who wants to meet tvs would automatically be ignored. I don't think you should lower your standards for a shag: although the desperate do. Just accept, as you're not Harry Styles, Kendal Jenner lookalikes on here may not be beating a path to your door!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm being really picky here and this is only to help you as you seem a lovely young man but your Grammar is incorrect and some people might find that off putting. The fact that you put a woman's physical attributes ahead of her mind appears a little shallow and for some of us girls our 'brains' are the main organ that needs stimulating. Play with that and the world could be your 'sexual oyster'. Otherwise you could be wasting your time. As a mature woman seeing a young man eating his dinner fails to rock my world. You are blessed with youth and good looks. Your pics appear young, fun and your physique good. I'm sure there are many gorgeous girls for you but for me as a cougar my Moto is "If you could have given birth to it - stay away from it". Good Luck!!!!

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested."
not enough cock pics, the girls love a cock pic. also maybe mix it up a bit with a sky remote or lynx can, so we can see the exact size you against the object then you are good to go.

sit back and watch the inbox swell good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there can I just ask , when you say your having no luck on here do you mean the pretty girls with the good body that want regular fun aren't around or just that there not replying to your messages . Now form please do not have a go as I am including my self in this . 80% of the women on here don't concider them selfs pretty with good body's and of the 20% left 15% prob have reg fuck buddy's . See now your fishing in a very big lake for one or two fish . I am not in any way saying lower your standerds ! But I am saying good luck finding that one . Yes I think your on the wrong site and a night club might be an easier lake

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By *aulknerMan
over a year ago

South shields


"Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested. not enough cock pics, the girls love a cock pic. also maybe mix it up a bit with a sky remote or lynx can, so we can see the exact size you against the object then you are good to go.

sit back and watch the inbox swell good luck "

Genius!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a goodlooking chap. The fiirst 3 pica don't do you justice, get rid. Replace with natural smiley pics instead maybe one fresh out of shower with a towel round ypu and a filthy smile?

A big put off for some is you state your straight, when about it states your looking for tvs. If bi curious or bi put it to that or if straight get rid of tvs.

Good luck and hope this helped x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested. not enough cock pics, the girls love a cock pic. also maybe mix it up a bit with a sky remote or lynx can, so we can see the exact size you against the object then you are good to go.

sit back and watch the inbox swell good luck "

ignore above he is taking the micky!! Lol this is what you do to AVOID not take on board! Lol ( maybe he is jealoues)

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested. not enough cock pics, the girls love a cock pic. also maybe mix it up a bit with a sky remote or lynx can, so we can see the exact size you against the object then you are good to go.

sit back and watch the inbox swell good luck

ignore above he is taking the micky!! Lol this is what you do to AVOID not take on board! Lol ( maybe he is jealoues) "
what? just helping out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently I am pretty (fat so probably not what you class as a great body)I'm also well spoken, dressed etc so could be described as having a bit of class but I'm not so arrogant to view myself as stunning pretty and classy enough to meet the expectations of a man who has those stipulations on his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He hasn't bothered to come back and read all your advice anyway. His profile is still the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested. not enough cock pics, the girls love a cock pic. also maybe mix it up a bit with a sky remote or lynx can, so we can see the exact size you against the object then you are good to go.

sit back and watch the inbox swell good luck

ignore above he is taking the micky!! Lol this is what you do to AVOID not take on board! Lol ( maybe he is jealoues) what? just helping out "

Hhhmmm naughty boy you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you have an idea of what you are looking for then stick with it.

it will mean you wont get anyone and everyone interested in you, but that special few people that will make you salivate may well just be looking for someone like you.

why shouldnt a bloke be picky?

women on here are, and men are quite happy changing themselves to try and fit in with these small limits that some women stipulate.

stick to your guns

dont post threads about lack of success, rather just join in with the banter

and, the actual question of 'is this site for you?'

well, you are the only one who can say what is or isnt right for you.

if you feel it isnt, leave, get yourself out into the real world and meet that special somebody in a pub/down the shops/escort agency, whatever

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Hey just looking for some advise on this site. I'm a 26 year old guy. Groomed and in good shape. I can't seem to meet people on here and I'm not sore what I'm doing wrong!

I have full face pics so I'm not hiding anything and I'm fairly outgoing!

Maybe it's my profile or people just aren't interested.

Your profile says you would like to meet a woman who is "pretty", has a "good body" and "has class". Remove these stipulations and you'll find your chances of a meet will increase exponentially "

This made me chuckle

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

There is nothing wrong with being 'fussy' or wanting to meet women that you find pretty or those with a nice body. Some women may however feel that they won't measure up even if they were interested.

You look a bit miserable in your photos, so would suggest smiling.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"if you have an idea of what you are looking for then stick with it.

it will mean you wont get anyone and everyone interested in you, but that special few people that will make you salivate may well just be looking for someone like you.

why shouldnt a bloke be picky?

women on here are, and men are quite happy changing themselves to try and fit in with these small limits that some women stipulate.

stick to your guns

dont post threads about lack of success, rather just join in with the banter

and, the actual question of 'is this site for you?'

well, you are the only one who can say what is or isnt right for you.

if you feel it isnt, leave, get yourself out into the real world and meet that special somebody in a pub/down the shops/escort agency, whatever"

Should of read this post first

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"if you have an idea of what you are looking for then stick with it.

it will mean you wont get anyone and everyone interested in you, but that special few people that will make you salivate may well just be looking for someone like you.

why shouldnt a bloke be picky?

women on here are, and men are quite happy changing themselves to try and fit in with these small limits that some women stipulate.

stick to your guns

dont post threads about lack of success, rather just join in with the banter

and, the actual question of 'is this site for you?'

well, you are the only one who can say what is or isnt right for you.

if you feel it isnt, leave, get yourself out into the real world and meet that special somebody in a pub/down the shops/escort agency, whatever"

Reading through this I was thinking "Damn, Hercules has gone all serious"..... then BAM, dropped in the escort agency . . . All is right with the world.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"if you have an idea of what you are looking for then stick with it.

it will mean you wont get anyone and everyone interested in you, but that special few people that will make you salivate may well just be looking for someone like you.

why shouldnt a bloke be picky?

women on here are, and men are quite happy changing themselves to try and fit in with these small limits that some women stipulate.

stick to your guns

dont post threads about lack of success, rather just join in with the banter

and, the actual question of 'is this site for you?'

well, you are the only one who can say what is or isnt right for you.

if you feel it isnt, leave, get yourself out into the real world and meet that special somebody in a pub/down the shops/escort agency, whatever

Reading through this I was thinking "Damn, Hercules has gone all serious"..... then BAM, dropped in the escort agency . . . All is right with the world. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently I am pretty (fat so probably not what you class as a great body)I'm also well spoken, dressed etc so could be described as having a bit of class but I'm not so arrogant to view myself as stunning pretty and classy enough to meet the expectations of a man who has those stipulations on his profile. "

I agree with this. Some women may find this intimidating even if they are your idea of pretty with a good body. Many people dont like rejection so they may steer clear of you not knowing if they are pretty enough or have a good enough body for you. Also "Pretty" and "good body" are pretty subjective. You dont need to lower your standards but you need to be more specific I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you have an idea of what you are looking for then stick with it.

it will mean you wont get anyone and everyone interested in you, but that special few people that will make you salivate may well just be looking for someone like you.

why shouldnt a bloke be picky?

women on here are, and men are quite happy changing themselves to try and fit in with these small limits that some women stipulate.

stick to your guns

dont post threads about lack of success, rather just join in with the banter

and, the actual question of 'is this site for you?'

well, you are the only one who can say what is or isnt right for you.

if you feel it isnt, leave, get yourself out into the real world and meet that special somebody in a pub/down the shops/escort agency, whatever

Reading through this I was thinking "Damn, Hercules has gone all serious"..... then BAM, dropped in the escort agency . . . All is right with the world. "

ah mr M, the seriousness never lasts more than a paragraph or so lol.

back on subject, about people classing themselves as pretty/sexy/classy and so on, if the OP is contacting womeone, then they can rest assured HE thinks they fit in with his idea of his requirements.

its only if you are contacting him that it can get a little hazy, but sure, these are things that blokes on here have to work around, and with, every minute of the day.

doesnt feel as great when the sandal is on the other foot, does it, ladies....that feeling of uncertainty as to whether your idea of your own being lives up to that of someone else.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"

back on subject, about people classing themselves as pretty/sexy/classy and so on, if the OP is contacting womeone, then they can rest assured HE thinks they fit in with his idea of his requirements.

its only if you are contacting him that it can get a little hazy, but sure, these are things that blokes on here have to work around, and with, every minute of the day.

doesnt feel as great when the sandal is on the other foot, does it, ladies....that feeling of uncertainty as to whether your idea of your own being lives up to that of someone else."

If I really like the look and sound of a profile then I have no problem sending them a message. Accepting rejection and knowing that you won't be for everyone is part and parcel of swinging.

I would rather try and get turned down than sit back and wonder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno but you look a bit like Jason from corrie lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe your too fussy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile says you are 25 yet here you say you're 26...I smell a fib. If I were looking at this with a view to meet, then read that, that would set off a little alarm bell. Also some of the pics aren't what would appeal to me. I don't like pics of guys with drink in their hand. But that is my opinion, and my taste. Everyone is different. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dunno but you look a bit like Jason from corrie lol"
who? Is that a bad thing lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats it.

im going back to piss taking.

give a really good post and its the coronation street reference that gets the attention lol

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