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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, we're new to swinging, and have currently only had a couple of social meets. As a couple, we're looking for a woman or a similar minded couple to join us, but...

As much as K wants to do this, and as much as she fantasises about it, her own shyness has gotten the better of her at times.

She feels intimidated that people she likes and would like to meet are quite likely to have a lot more experience than her.

Is there anything we can do as a couple to help her overcome her shyness and feel less intimidated by those she would love to sleep with?

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

my gf was the same and it just took her to relax within the person if she feels like she not 100% within herself then try soft swap untill she is ready for full swap, once the comments etc about how nice she is and if she good at bjs ect ect then shyness should just fade away

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Is there anything we can do as a couple to help her overcome her shyness and feel less intimidated by those she would love to sleep with?"

Take it slowly.

Don't be afraid to back out at any point.

Remember, it's still sex, which she's probably had some experience of!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Hi, we're new to swinging, and have currently only had a couple of social meets. As a couple, we're looking for a woman or a similar minded couple to join us, but...

As much as K wants to do this, and as much as she fantasises about it, her own shyness has gotten the better of her at times.

She feels intimidated that people she likes and would like to meet are quite likely to have a lot more experience than her.

Is there anything we can do as a couple to help her overcome her shyness and feel less intimidated by those she would love to sleep with?"

Everyones got to start somewhere but let K be totally in control over picking who she wants to play with that way she wont feel intimidated to do it cause the male half realy wants it as happens with some couples . go for more than a normal social meet eg meal few drinks let her feel totaly in control of the situation and if the attraction is there im sure any inhabitions she has will melt away xxx

gd luck and have fun xxxx

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know how you feel on this subject,we were very lucky to find someone who was friendly and patient.we haven't looked back since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take your time to get to know ppl...... dont jump at the first chance of a meet...... chat on phone too, most nice ppl will give you the time of day and also give you time to adjust to swinging xxxxx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Some really good advice here, we're meeting a couple on Friday who have no experience at swinging at all - we've chatted loads on msn and they've asked us loads of questions and are ready to meet - initially for a couple of drinks and take it from there. Keep the pressure off and relax, it's still nerve wracking at times for us too! Good luck and have fun! Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice everyone much appreciated

xx

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