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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

…to refuse to meet up?

The other day I was contacted by a man whose profile pic looked very fit and hulky. He said he was 43 and had a 19 yr old gf who wanted a 3some with a TV, liked bareback and was filthy. I said it sounded good.

He then suggested meeting at Milton Keynes casino early evening before going back to his and hinted they’d be another guy and possibly girl involved. As a TV I was reluctant to meet in a place potentially full of “lads”, d*unks and homophobes. He said the meet was to ensure we got on, which I agreed is a good idea. I then suggested he escort me into the venue and told him what I’d be wearing. I also asked for his mobile and where we’d be playing.

He reassured me the casino would be fine with me coming in dressed, claiming he knew the manager and refused to give me his mobile number or location of the “party”. He then said “If you are not trusting then forget it, we want a laugh not complications”. I said I’d sleep on it.

The next morning I asked for a face picture, told him what I’d be wearing, when I’d arrive and asked for a mobile number again to make arrangements easily and even suggested an alternative gay friendly place to meet. He then blocked me.

I felt he was very brusque about my apprehension about meeting in such a public and possibly hostile place and found his refusal to give me his mobile and the location of the “party” to be odd. Added to a lack of face photo it made me suspicious I was being set up or couldn’t trust him. He did have one personal verification (I email her but have had no reply) and was a silver member, so maybe he was on the level and I messed up a good night out.

Was I right to be so concerned or should I have gone for it? Discuss…advise…please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say you were right to be concerned. If I dont feel happy or the conversation takes another direction, I'll change my mind. Personal safety comes first and if you feel uneasy then don't do it.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

If your "Spidey Senses" were tingling then you did the right thing in being concerned

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

You did the right thing indeed.

I wouldnt even think twice about it.

how are you expected to meet somone without seeing their face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did the right thing always trust instincts you have them for a reason x

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By *illyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Agreed. Never put yourself in a situation

You dont feel comfortable about.

Sounds to dodgy. Leave well alone.

You did the right thing.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"…to refuse to meet up?

The other day I was contacted by a man whose profile pic looked very fit and hulky. He said he was 43 and had a 19 yr old gf who wanted a 3some with a TV, liked bareback and was filthy. I said it sounded good.

He then suggested meeting at Milton Keynes casino early evening before going back to his and hinted they’d be another guy and possibly girl involved. As a TV I was reluctant to meet in a place potentially full of “lads”, d*unks and homophobes. He said the meet was to ensure we got on, which I agreed is a good idea. I then suggested he escort me into the venue and told him what I’d be wearing. I also asked for his mobile and where we’d be playing.

He reassured me the casino would be fine with me coming in dressed, claiming he knew the manager and refused to give me his mobile number or location of the “party”. He then said “If you are not trusting then forget it, we want a laugh not complications”. I said I’d sleep on it.

The next morning I asked for a face picture, told him what I’d be wearing, when I’d arrive and asked for a mobile number again to make arrangements easily and even suggested an alternative gay friendly place to meet. He then blocked me.

I felt he was very brusque about my apprehension about meeting in such a public and possibly hostile place and found his refusal to give me his mobile and the location of the “party” to be odd. Added to a lack of face photo it made me suspicious I was being set up or couldn’t trust him. He did have one personal verification (I email her but have had no reply) and was a silver member, so maybe he was on the level and I messed up a good night out.

Was I right to be so concerned or should I have gone for it? Discuss…advise…please."

Completely right.

If you are not comfortable (and he is not even trying to held that as I see it) then you did the right thing.

It's never going to be worth taking a chance in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you know you did the right thing,i am sure you dont need the re assurances of others as to how you should conduct your own security

personal safety is paramount.how could you possibly enjoy a meet if you felt threatened or unsafe in any way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely did the right thing. Anyone up front would not have a problem giving their no and a face pic. Not unreasonable requests! I'd say you were saved from a lot of bother. Well done for sticking to your instincts.

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Agreed. Never put yourself in a situation

You dont feel comfortable about.

Sounds to dodgy. Leave well alone.

You did the right thing."

I 100% agree with this reply above...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all of you - you know I know I think did the right thing, but I just wanted to check I wasn't being silly. I did think the guy was a dick not to be more understanding.

Thanks - keep the support coming though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely done the right thing . And for him to mention there might be more people than he first suggested would make my sensors stand on end and think twice . And for him not to send a face pic or give his number is just taking the mickey . Leave well alone and block him from contacting you again . Safety is paramount .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, you did the right thing x

If I so much as get an eyebrow raising message I refuse to meet, safety first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"…to refuse to meet up?

."

if your gut was warning you then yes you was right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No face pic, no phone number and not knowing where you will be ending up, you would of been mental to turn up

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By *tickyfingers.24Man
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

You were 100% correct in your choice.. Anyone worthy would have respected your concerns. X Safe swinging. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No face pic, no phone number and not knowing where you will be ending up, you would of been mental to turn up "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If something doesn't feel right then chances are it isn't...I've cancelled before now a few times when something doesn't quite add up to me. I might have missed out on a great night, but I might also have escaped ending up in the Manchester Ship Canal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you felt it was rite then yes i was as for your piece of mind and comfort is above as is your safety bum holes to what any body else thinks your feeling are paramount xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did the right thing. He sounds like a complete crank, and not at all genuine.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"You did the right thing always trust instincts you have them for a reason x"

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

you did right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely right to not meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks very much for all your support and comments. I knew I was right but I am new to Fabs so I didn't know if I was being a "timewaster" by saying I'd do it but setting conditions. I feel vindicated and will be more confident in future in making sure I only meet in safe situations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that you did wrong was to keep thinking about it past the point where he hadn't listened to your concerns about the venue...!

Always listen to your gut feelings and if you have the slightest doubt then stop things right there.

It's about full enjoyment for both sides and you don't owe anybody your time!

Sounds like you had a lucky escape - and even if not then you know that you'd have been too worried to enjoy anything...

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"Thanks very much for all your support and comments. I knew I was right but I am new to Fabs so I didn't know if I was being a "timewaster" by saying I'd do it but setting conditions. I feel vindicated and will be more confident in future in making sure I only meet in safe situations.

"

Assuring your own safety and well being is never a waste of time despite what anyone else might suggest.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

So are casinos full of lads, d*unks and homophobes??

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"So are casinos full of lads, d*unks and homophobes??

"

They can be quite grim places they are a million miles from the sophisticated venues as seen in Bond films

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did right. I think you were being set up.

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By *itzWoman
over a year ago

south wales

You absolutely did the right thing. So what if he has paid out to be a silver member, doesnt mean anything. It is much better to wonder what might have happened than to regret your decision knowing what has happened. Always know where you are going and talk to your meet on the phone at least, there are some funny fuckers out there. I would suggest finding a mate who knows what you are up to on the swinging scene to be a phone buddy, who you can tell where you are going, give your meets telephone number and any other details you have and contact them when you meet and also when you get home safe. Take care out there and have fun xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're not trusting..."

Of course you shouldn't be.

No face pic and no mob number = no meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You listened to your instinct which usually serves us well. We ignore our gut reaction at our own peril.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Casinos are cool. Bareback isn't.

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