FabSwingers.com forum: I don't like anal sex!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am fully aware that I am entitled to my sexual preference but somehow it seems that almost everyone I chat to, likes anal sex. I read profiles and the majority like anal sex. Guys are surprised when I say I DON'T like anal sex or rimming..giving or receiving! I just don't like anything to do with anal play of any kind. That's just me!

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry. I feel the same about not wanting to play with guys bottoms... Or see guys with guys x its just not my thing x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I very rarely fit in an arse unless theres about an hours worth of prep. By which time I still get distracted by pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same with oral, I've been told I shouldn't be on here because I don't do it and I'm too vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of women don't like it, so you are not unusual in anyway. This is a sex site and some things get exagerated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean by everyone being surprised and feeling pressured by others. I'm not a fan of it either, had an unpleasant experience once.

I'd say stick to your guns and don't feel like you need to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thankyou for your posts...though judging by so many profiles I read...you would think everyone is getting up the dark side all night long!

I say that without judgement as to others preferences but surely it cannot be THAT popular or commonplace? ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very rarely fit in an arse unless theres about an hours worth of prep. By which time I still get distracted by pussy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis "

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm the same with oral, I've been told I shouldn't be on here because I don't do it and I'm too vanilla"

Ain't that vanilla from what you've been telling me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else"

Noooooo.....you misunderstand. I am not really interested in why they like it. I just don't understand why so MANY like it....or SAY they do... like its a trendy thing nowadays! So those of us who don't like it..are made to feel somehow sexually not as liberated....which is total crap as far as I am concerned. Rimming is another 'fashion'. Suddenly if I don't like it...I am prudish! I never had this problem a few years ago! Fashion eh??? Lol!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I very rarely fit in an arse unless theres about an hours worth of prep. By which time I still get distracted by pussy

tell me about it .. I can guarantee after I finish I say something like; 'I cant believe I didnt go in your arse - you were just ready!.... fekinell'.

More often than I'd like too!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else

is it blokes telling you this, as odds are they;re mis representing reality in order to hopefully shag your arse.

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By *erseysideridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

I hate anal or anything 2 do with bum area so u not on ur own there ,,,if ppl persist n say it really turns me on ,I say move on cos it tuns me off full stop ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else

is it blokes telling you this, as odds are they;re mis representing reality in order to hopefully shag your arse."

Well it still proves thats what they want then....which is my point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else

is it blokes telling you this, as odds are they;re mis representing reality in order to hopefully shag your arse.

Well it still proves thats what they want then....which is my point!"

well for blokes it feels good and agin is a bit of mental thing. so thats why they want it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Whats wrong with a good old fashioned traditional fuck??? Cock and pussy???? Am I just an old fashioned girl now???? Lol!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else

is it blokes telling you this, as odds are they;re mis representing reality in order to hopefully shag your arse.

Well it still proves thats what they want then....which is my point!

well for blokes it feels good and agin is a bit of mental thing. so thats why they want it."

Well then I shall have to settle for being out of fashion then!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate anal or anything 2 do with bum area so u not on ur own there ,,,if ppl persist n say it really turns me on ,I say move on cos it tuns me off full stop ,

Me too...but it seems we are unusual! !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know what you mean by everyone being surprised and feeling pressured by others. I'm not a fan of it either, had an unpleasant experience once.

I'd say stick to your guns and don't feel like you need to do it. "

Lol...oh don't worry. I don't do anything I dont want to do. But I find it fascinating that this is seemingly commonplace for the majority ..or so they say anyway.

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

I think anal sex is becoming more commonplace/accepted quite possibly due to the increased ease of access to porn.

It's probably slowly filtering its way into the general consciousness.

My FB and I both love anal but there are plenty of profiles out there that clearly state they don't so you're not alone.

Also I think the percentage of people on here who do like it is probably a lot higher than in the general populace as people on here are likely to have tried more things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think anal sex is becoming more commonplace/accepted quite possibly due to the increased ease of access to porn.

It's probably slowly filtering its way into the general consciousness.

My FB and I both love anal but there are plenty of profiles out there that clearly state they don't so you're not alone.

Also I think the percentage of people on here who do like it is probably a lot higher than in the general populace as people on here are likely to have tried more things."

I have also tried lots of things so just because I dont like anal, doesnt mean I am a dull lover.....quite the contrary...though many guys who have met me, have intimated that I am not adventurous etc....

I HAVE tried anal. I just dont like it. Its a preference like any other. But I don't like to be made to feel that I am somehow less of a sexual partner because of it ...when a man doesnt even know me. It happens a lot though. ...I get questioned about why I dont do it ..why I dont like it....wont I just try etc.... Whats the big deal???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I meant to say guys who have NOT met me...have assumed that because I dont like anal sex, that I must be boring in bed.

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

Porn has made us men obsessed with anal sex. I'm sure porn is causing havoc with sexuality in the young folks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Porn has made us men obsessed with anal sex. I'm sure porn is causing havoc with sexuality in the young folks."

I dont see how porn intrinsically makes you like something. I see how it might make you consider it and try it. Then you may like it or not....but ultimately if you try it (as I have) and you dont like it (as I don't).. then porn wont MAKE me like it.

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

"I hate anal or anything 2 do with bum area so u not on ur own there ,,,if ppl persist n say it really turns me on ,I say move on cos it tuns me off full stop ,

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meant to say guys who have NOT met me...have assumed that because I dont like anal sex, that I must be boring in bed."

Bloody Hell!! How stupid can some guys be. There's lots more to sex than the backdoor. Just because a girl doesn't like anal doesn't make her boring bed.

I've had some very hot and creative sex that didn't involve anal play of any kind.

I would do anal if a girl I was with enjoyed it but it's not the holy grail of sex. It takes lots of preparing and lube to get her ready, nice if done right, but a blowjob that's nice and wet and lots of eye contact is hard to beat. For guys who enjoy ass, just do doggystyle if anal isn't what the girl likes, you get a lovely birds arse view, whilst fucking her pussy. Maybe old fashioned but can't beat the classics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Porn has made us men obsessed with anal sex. I'm sure porn is causing havoc with sexuality in the young folks.

I think porn has made anal less taboo and so people are more willing to try it

I'm with you on this one though, I don't like any bum play at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I meant to say guys who have NOT met me...have assumed that because I dont like anal sex, that I must be boring in bed.

Bloody Hell!! How stupid can some guys be. There's lots more to sex than the backdoor. Just because a girl doesn't like anal doesn't make her boring bed.

I've had some very hot and creative sex that didn't involve anal play of any kind.

Oh don't worry...guys who HAVE met me KNOW I am not boring!!!!!! Lol! I only mention it as some ignorant men believe anal is the main act! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am fully aware that I am entitled to my sexual preference but somehow it seems that almost everyone I chat to, likes anal sex. I read profiles and the majority like anal sex. Guys are surprised when I say I DON'T like anal sex or rimming..giving or receiving! I just don't like anything to do with anal play of any kind. That's just me!

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

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- Not at all, everyone is different and has their own likes and dislikes. Also, don't ever feel pressured into anything, because it's solely your choice what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

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- Not at all, everyone is different and has their own likes and dislikes. Also, don't ever feel pressured into anything, because it's solely your choice what you do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Porn has made us men obsessed with anal sex. I'm sure porn is causing havoc with sexuality in the young folks.

I think porn has made anal less taboo and so people are more willing to try it

I'm with you on this one though, I don't like any bum play at all."

Any 'promotion' of sexual activity will make it less taboo.....so as I said earlier...yes...some might consider trying it but it wont MAKE them like it or not like it.

I was on the fetish scene for years and then suddenly that Mr Grey book came out...and the media is talking about D/s as if its a new thing!! So sales for Ann Summers furry handcuffs go through the roof! So did that awful book suddenly make more people consider trying bondage for example? Yes..of course! But did they enjoy it? Maybe. Maybe not. Exposure whether literary, visual or other medium.....opens up a world...but it doesn't mean the viewer will automatically enjoy its contents. I suspect there are those who genuinely enjoy anal sex and good luck to those that do.....then I suspect there are those who pretend to...just to get noticed, to be 'fashionable', sexually 'en vogue' etc.....and then there are those of us (like me) who have tried it, don't like it and no amount of telling me how amazing it is. .is going to change my mind. ..yet so many try to convince me!!!!

I wonder if cock cages ever become really popular, should I keep on persuading every man I meet..that he really will LOVE it! And if he doesnt....well he isnt adventurous. ..right????????

(JOKE!!!!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

- Not at all, everyone is different and has their own likes and dislikes. Also, don't ever feel pressured into anything, because it's solely your choice what you do."

Rest assured...no one will ever pressure me into doing anything I don't want to do. But this obsession with anal sex...as if its the holy grail of sex. .is a bit tiresome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience there are usually two reasons a woman doesn't like anal sex.

1. Some Douche bag pulled the 'whoops wrong hole' trick at some point in the past - Women who dismiss anal because of that can usually be persuaded with light anal fingering, some rimming, lots of lube and a gentle approach

2. They just don't like it. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes and thats how it should be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am no 2...if you will forgive the irony!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am no 2...if you will forgive the irony!

What is Ironic about that?

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By *atinbootsTV/TS
over a year ago

Market Rasen

"Whats wrong with a good old fashioned traditional fuck??? Cock and pussy???? Am I just an old fashioned girl now???? Lol!!!! "

I like your sentiment... Ok so I enjoy crossdressing but I most definitely do not want any experience with anal. Sorry but an arse is an Exit Only area as far as I'm concerned...

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By *elkel1979Woman
over a year ago

Cumbria

Lol im number 2. I hate anal and any guy who tries to persuade me to try it after ive told them i dont do anal get an instant block. I dont care if everybody else likes it i

dont and wont ever be tempted xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like anal either, end of conversation as far as I'm concerned and it really gets on my nerves when a man tries to persuade me otherwise. Comments like..you'll like it when I do it or I'll be gentle won't change my mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to do anal and enjoyed with some that knew importance of gentle at first,however i stopped doing it abt 3 months ago on meets and dont miss it.

If anybody tries to persuade me in chat before meet i just say nope i got heamorroids it shuts them up,end of conversation about anal

If go to play at party or club i just say no arse play,blokes are fine with that,if they do try even a finger i say no,they stop

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

"Whats wrong with a good old fashioned traditional fuck??? Cock and pussy???? Am I just an old fashioned girl now???? Lol!!!! "

I'm a dedicated swimmer against fashion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm the same with oral, I've been told I shouldn't be on here because I don't do it and I'm too vanilla

Ain't that vanilla from what you've been telling me

You shush

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By *ecor atorMan
over a year ago

York

Nothing worse than getting yer cock covered in brown sauce and sweet corn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it helps, i get the same thing but because i don't play with women and I'm not even remotely bi curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

im so glad you posted this I was feeling exactly the same way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like anal but only with partner on occasion and it's me who instigates it , but as far as porns concerned some men try to turn you into a porn star which ruins the whole experience for me (ie deep throat yeah if you want me to be sick on you or someone trying for the arse when I've said I don't do it apart from with partner) good girl x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it helps, i get the same thing but because i don't play with women and I'm not even remotely bi curious "

Ah yes! Me too! Being a submissive woman on the fetish scene for many years, these two things were almost expected as a minimum: To enjoy anal and to be bisexual or bi curious. If you werent either...then a lot of Dom guys werent interested!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How fascinating and refreshing to hear from so many people, especially woman, that anal sex isnt the fashionable, 'must do' thing! Because from the way men tell it to me.....I am unusual! Clearly not as unusual as they say! Ha.....pleased I have dispelled another urban myth! Guys .....you might love it...but it doesn't mean the majority of woman do! A preference like any other...but certainly not as commonly enjoyed as some....x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am no 2...if you will forgive the irony!

What is Ironic about that?"

It was just a play on the term 'no 2'....as in.....oh nevermind lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than getting yer cock covered in brown sauce and sweet corn!"

Oh thanks for that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like anal either, end of conversation as far as I'm concerned and it really gets on my nerves when a man tries to persuade me otherwise. Comments like..you'll like it when I do it or I'll be gentle won't change my mind!"

Lol.....oh yes I know! I get those comments too!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Each to their own, if you enjoy it crack on,

For Myself and those I m with, There are certain doors that will remain exit only for me ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own, if you enjoy it crack on,

For Myself and those I m with, There are certain doors that will remain exit only for me ,

Lol @ crack on!

Anal isn't for me really, have had a couple if good experiences but mainly it's not enjoyable.

There are plenty of other things that are exciting and fun and they certainly don't make you 'boring' x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

im so glad you posted this I was feeling exactly the same way x"

Join the sisterhood! Lol x

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

It is the weirdo's that make life interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't stand anything going near my bottom and I can't stand touching anyone else's. Similarly my hubby does not like it either. So you're not wierd. We are all different and like different things. You just do what you're comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal preference, its for some and jot others doesnt make you any less swingerish/more vanilla than those that do anal, enjoy your meet time with those that are worthy and ignore those to bitch and moan at you not doing bum play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry your not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody should stay true to themselves no matter what they like or dislike, and that includes Swingers.

In the end, you can't fool yourself, so you have to be honest. Plus, the world would be one boring place if everybody was exactly the same!

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oddly enough I like anal sex but I won't do anal play with fingers (give or receive).

Most men I come across are chuffed that I like anal sex - that doesn't suggest to me it's commonplace.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"I hate anal or anything 2 do with bum area so u not on ur own there ,,,if ppl persist n say it really turns me on ,I say move on cos it tuns me off full stop ,

Me too...but it seems we are unusual! !!"

You won't get an argument from me...... pussy pussy pussy all the way. I'll happily do dp just so long as I'm the pussy man or dvp even. But A & rimming no thanks......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think some women on here get more meets because they will do anything.

I cant do anal sex or have sex in certain positions because its painful.

i thinks its because i have uterine fibroids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes not many are into it x.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

I'm really not fussed about anal at all. I met one woman who preferred it so that's what we did but I didn't really see the fascination.

It's a weird one cos a guy not liking it is 'ok' but a woman not liking it is 'weird.' personally I blame pornography. Cos there is so much anal. Worryingly, plenty of anal to vaginal as well!

You are not unusual, you're a person with her own preferences. Which is what we should all be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to do anal with some meets but I didn't enjoy it and it hurts! So I decided why shud I do something that I personally do not enjoy? I don't do it now and no one will persuade me otherwise. There are plenty of other pleasures to do and enjoy by all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

Like a lot of guys who are quite horrified to discover that not all women squirt!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I jamie ( male ) dont see the huge fuss about anal give me a nice pussy anyday !!

As as for rimming well its just far too easy to get shitfaced !!

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

The same, can't really understand why people love it.

Each to their own.

Some people get off on feet ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't like anal or rimming, that includes giving or receiving. I certainly don't get any pleasure from receiving anal play. As mentioned above there are plenty of other things to do. Maybe its because there is a large number of married men on here who's wives won't entertain the idea that they think they expect it elsewhere. Everybody has their preferences and if the person you are meeting doesn't respect that then I'd be telling them where to go.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Like anything - it's an interest to some and not others.

Some enjoy it, some don't!

Asking why any sexual taste appeals to some but not others is pointless - the same argument could be had about BDSM, watersports, oral, bi-play, exhibitionism - the list is endless.

If you don't enjoy it - just say no. There's no need to justify your preferences. Likewise there's little point accusing those that do enjoy a particular activity of following trends, doing it to please others or simply bowing to peer pressure.

We all have our own reasons why we pursue and enjoy certain activities and choose to avoid others.

So long as you respect others decisions - it's all good! Variety is the spice and all that - and it'd be a dull old world if everyone was the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I'm not a fan giving anal.. I think the porn vids have knowingly oversold this like a bad John Lewis

Lol.....then WHY do I read sooooo many profiles telling me they LOVE anal then?????

because it's a dirty taboo it's a mental thing over anything else

I feel the same with gushing and fisting which many many people love. Simple for me, if a guy is fixated on either I say no thanks and move on. Never used to be the case that there was such an interest and yes sure porn has a lot to do with that too.

Forget about it and focus on what you do enjoy and finding guys that match.

I do like anal but only when worked up to slowly and yes porn is responsible for many thinking you can penetrate an anus with ease which in most cases is definitely not true.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

the only thing to get near my bottom is the toilet if I take a dump

hate anal and would never be persuaded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally do sometimes enjoy anal, but I'll only do it with trusted guys who I know will take the time needed for it and will stop without hesitation if I was to ask them and not spit their dummy out. For this reason I don't put it on my profile because it's something I do when I want to do it (and have the time to prepare), not when it's demanded by someone I've not yet met in the flesh. I wouldn't entertain meeting someone that implying I wasn't adventurous enough for them...what would be the point as surely I'd be a disappointment

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over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

If your unusual so am I....dislike any type of anal play.

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By *atchadreamWoman
over a year ago

ST NEOTS

"I know what you mean by everyone being surprised and feeling pressured by others. I'm not a fan of it either, had an unpleasant experience once.

I'd say stick to your guns and don't feel like you need to do it. "

We are many around that do not find it so exiting...

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

"Ha.....pleased I have dispelled another urban myth! Guys .....you might love it...but it doesn't mean the majority of woman do! "

I would have thought it was pretty common knowledge that most women don't like anal...

IMO anal sex isn't usually suited to one off meets due to the level of trust required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

I totally agree with everything you have written. Its not for me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am also in the category of 'I don't like anal sex' so you're definitely not alone! I am aware that a lot like it, and was told by a man that most men love it!! I have tried it, but I just don't get any enjoyment out of it. I don't mind being rimmed, but that's as far as the enjoyment goes for me - much prefer to have my pussy licked, fingered and f***ed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A finger is ok as is rimming but I'm not keen on anal either so it's tough shit if they expect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I crave it. I think there's something wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very rarely fit in an arse unless theres about an hours worth of prep. By which time I still get distracted by pussy"

Me too, and when in its so tight its really uncomfortable or borderline painful. ... Don't mind giving rimming, quite like it on some, but skip the full on anal. ... Wet, slippery pussy that I can slide in all the way is such a distraction ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I have no issue what others do. But apparently I am soooooo unusual and sometimes I feel an almost peerlike pressure because I am told everyone else does it!

Now that isn't going to make me like it or do it.....but I do feel like this unusual species!

If its not for you just dont do it, some woman dont like having a cock in their mouths, so what!!! If I like a lady & we have sex its not a turn on for me if she is doing anything she doesnt like,, so your bums no play,, gee there's still so much fun to be had.....dont get hung up on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been told I have the smallest bum hole seen on a woman, I have tried as I know its something my partner likes, but its just not happening, although I love a finger and being licked, my partner gave up on it now,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve been trying to convince couples for ages that straight doesnt mean a bit of girl girl fun to warm things up so youve no chance them understanding you dont like anal lol .....

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By *igshoeMan
over a year ago

camberley

I don't have anything against giving anal but only if the lady requests it. I cannot lie and say when I have done it I didn't enjoy it but I much prefer a nice wet pussy. Personally I think the taboo/naughty factor of it may be a bigger draw than the physical sensation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOPE not every one..met loads of couples that DONT either like or even try it!!!We cant so dont push it onto others..Mr S does enjoy doing dp with couples but not that important..If you dont like it...dont do it.,Its your body...or again!!! Is it a single guy thing!!! Same as fisting has suddenly become "Fashionable"...cant do that either...xxx

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