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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice for a young man trying to find hot meets but is not taken seriously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you've had meets, 2 in recent months & that's good going for most single guys here. Maybe your expectations are high x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Any advice for a young man trying to find hot meets but is not taken seriously?"

Don't tell jokes at meets.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Any advice for a young man trying to find hot meets but is not taken seriously?"

Start a thread called 'Frustrated Young Man' and see how much interest you can generate.

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

When you get a meet, don't wear a tartan cap, false nose and glasses and pretend you only have one arm...then ladies are bound to take you seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

move to edinburgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice for a young man trying to find hot meets but is not taken seriously?

Start a thread called 'Frustrated Young Man' and see how much interest you can generate. "

Lol he will get zero I think - bad advice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive not managed to find a single meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've done okay so far hun with 2 meets, what are you hoping for?

How about checking out the clubs / meets & events posts ~ might be of interest, cast your net further afield....

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Ive not managed to find a single meet "

In 2 weeks??? OMG! Did you expect to join up and have naked women queuing round the block?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ive not managed to find a single meet "

What about your veri then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive not managed to find a single meet "

you've only been on 2 weeks! what were you expecting? women queueing up to have sex with you? it's a swingers site not a sex site

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Ive not managed to find a single meet "

Dude, you been here for two weeks! What you playing at? I had 17 meets in my first fortnight! Get your finger out...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Any advice for a young man trying to find hot meets but is not taken seriously?"

Where have all your pics gone, they were brilliant??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive not managed to find a single meet

In 2 weeks??? OMG! Did you expect to join up and have naked women queuing round the block? "

A queue of 2 is ample for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know exactly how you feel to be honest very slow going on here alot of timewasters im just looking for an open minded woman

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"i know exactly how you feel to be honest very slow going on here alot of timewasters im just looking for an open minded woman "

2 meets in 9 weeks? Maybe it's your expectations that need reviewing, not your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive not managed to find a single meet

In 2 weeks??? OMG! Did you expect to join up and have naked women queuing round the block? "

Pfff, I had so much trouble dealing with this queue when I joined the site... I'll be honest: I'm still struggling with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PHOTOS! PHOTOS! Cant see you! Not that I am personally interested as you are too young...but if I was...then I would want to see a pic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know exactly how you feel to be honest very slow going on here alot of timewasters im just looking for an open minded woman

2 meets in 9 weeks? Maybe it's your expectations that need reviewing, not your profile."

I'm defineatly starting to feel that i came on here looking for more open minded women and couples than using other sites or places to get sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PHOTOS! PHOTOS! Cant see you! Not that I am personally interested as you are too young...but if I was...then I would want to see a pic! "

Agreed, it always helps to have good photos on your profile, especially when you're competing with several hundred others guys in a womans inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all,

I'm finding the same thing as the guy who started this post.

I appreciate I haven't been on here long, but would value some input or constructive feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I'm finding the same thing as the guy who started this post.

I appreciate I haven't been on here long, but would value some input or constructive feedback "

cannot accommodate so will assume you're married or attached, which you haven't explained in your profile and all your pics are the same more or less, there's no variety to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know exactly how you feel to be honest very slow going on here alot of timewasters im just looking for an open minded woman "

timewasters? Your talking about yourself there mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I'm finding the same thing as the guy who started this post.

I appreciate I haven't been on here long, but would value some input or constructive feedback "

well i think your super hot but alter your age range....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know exactly how you feel to be honest very slow going on here alot of timewasters im just looking for an open minded woman

timewasters? Your talking about yourself there mate! "

How do you know? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies so far...I'll try to spice up my pics but don't want to be too obvious i.e. full naked shots.

I can accomm from time to time when flat mates out so have changed that, and have changed my age range.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"PHOTOS! PHOTOS! Cant see you! Not that I am personally interested as you are too young...but if I was...then I would want to see a pic!

Agreed, it always helps to have good photos on your profile, especially when you're competing with several hundred others guys in a womans inbox."

Not viewing life on Fab as a competition usually helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PHOTOS! PHOTOS! Cant see you! Not that I am personally interested as you are too young...but if I was...then I would want to see a pic!

Agreed, it always helps to have good photos on your profile, especially when you're competing with several hundred others guys in a womans inbox.

Not viewing life on Fab as a competition usually helps! "

Yes, because there's plenty of women and couples to go round all the guys here, thus no need to stand out or 'compete' with them

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"PHOTOS! PHOTOS! Cant see you! Not that I am personally interested as you are too young...but if I was...then I would want to see a pic!

Agreed, it always helps to have good photos on your profile, especially when you're competing with several hundred others guys in a womans inbox.

Not viewing life on Fab as a competition usually helps!

Yes, because there's plenty of women and couples to go round all the guys here, thus no need to stand out or 'compete' with them "

For those that put the effort in, don't see Fab as owing them anything, treat life on here as an addition to their lives rather than the only opportunity for sex they have - and who have zero expectancy, urgency or in fact need to rely on the internet to meet people - then no, there is no need to compete, and yes - those guys will find there ARE plenty of women and couples to go round.

It's those that think joining Fab provides them with everything they will ever need and a magic wand to arrange meets that will get frustrated and disappointed.

The rest ? They're out enjoying life on here, meeting privately, in clubs, at socials and building friendships and social circles (whether in real life or virtually) and avoiding frustration with a site that is no more than a means of contact.

But you'll rarely hear from them in the forums as they're too busy and have no need to seek advice, ask why things aren't happening as they expected or start attention seeking posts to try and raise their profile.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PHOTOS! PHOTOS! Cant see you! Not that I am personally interested as you are too young...but if I was...then I would want to see a pic!

Agreed, it always helps to have good photos on your profile, especially when you're competing with several hundred others guys in a womans inbox.

Not viewing life on Fab as a competition usually helps!

Yes, because there's plenty of women and couples to go round all the guys here, thus no need to stand out or 'compete' with them

For those that put the effort in, don't see Fab as owing them anything, treat life on here as an addition to their lives rather than the only opportunity for sex they have - and who have zero expectancy, urgency or in fact need to rely on the internet to meet people - then no, there is no need to compete, and yes - those guys will find there ARE plenty of women and couples to go round.

It's those that think joining Fab provides them with everything they will ever need and a magic wand to arrange meets that will get frustrated and disappointed.

The rest ? They're out enjoying life on here, meeting privately, in clubs, at socials and building friendships and social circles (whether in real life or virtually) and avoiding frustration with a site that is no more than a means of contact.

But you'll rarely hear from them in the forums as they're too busy and have no need to seek advice, ask why things aren't happening as they expected or start attention seeking posts to try and raise their profile.

A"

bang on!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

dont know what the deal is with people saying you are to be supposedly happy that you have had a few meets is a few months.

If you are single - your time is your own. As each weekend passes without a meet or a planned meet falling on it's arse, the frustration goes through the roof.

I am on several sites just for this reason. People take it that you are sleeping with the site, but honestly - if you went down the pub or to a club you could sleep with just as many people, just on a site such as this, you dont spend as much and you are not so d*unk to suffer the 'oh dear' look in the morning.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Welcome to fab home of frustrated men.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive not managed to find a single meet "

You've only been here 3 weeks !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chill dude, ber yourself, talk to some people, use the forums and just enjoy being here generally....you will find the odd meet but don't be expecting numbers....what you will find on here are good people, folk who bring quality to your life =)

if your looking for numbers, go on a.w and get your wallet out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves."

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

two meets in 30 something days what are you expecting!!!, cannot accomodate!!! nearly always a turn off, and then tbh your status says "full of himself" sorry if this offends but ask a question and get an answer!!!!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else."

well said!!!! shame a lot seem to forget this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves."

What and just meet anybody that offers?? This isn't desperatewomen.com mate. I think you will find the genuine women on here (and yes I do mean genuine not some dude called Brian pretending to be hot bi girl Amy looking for action) have standards that many guys fail to meet. Should the women apologise for that. Errrr no!! Why should anybody lower their standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Welcome to fab home of frustrated men. "

Talk for yourself I'm not frustrated

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else.

well said!!!! shame a lot seem to forget this lol"

I had 7 meets in the first 7 days on here. Who is suggesting this is a brothel? It is a two way street for meets - you want to meet and they do. Granted some profiles do make sex a dirty subject, but the site exists only because people like sex!. What has it got to do with some kind of usurping of genders??????

I think there a lot of people on here talk as good talk - but actually dont meet! Instead they are looking for either love or a relationship. Those actually looking for good sexual relations get frowned on by 'social swingers'. Its ridiculous.

If you look at profiles - there a great many more people on the site than those who comment on these forums. A great deal more of them have a LOT more verifications than those commenting on these forums. Yet make a comment about no meets and people who dont meet slate you for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves."

Yeah because clearly the only reason we're here is to satisfy the frustrations of the men here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we don't get is why any of the single guys who start threads like this don't use clubs. To my mind its the very best and by far easiest way to build a circle of friends within the community who will gladly verify you as long as your decent. Not only that, there is loads of potential same night fun to be had , but once again as long as you are decent. If you are genuine and intend to meet etc then why wouldn't you go to a club ?? Just our view of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

What and just meet anybody that offers?? This isn't desperatewomen.com mate. I think you will find the genuine women on here (and yes I do mean genuine not some dude called Brian pretending to be hot bi girl Amy looking for action) have standards that many guys fail to meet. Should the women apologise for that. Errrr no!! Why should anybody lower their standards?"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else.

well said!!!! shame a lot seem to forget this lol

I had 7 meets in the first 7 days on here. Who is suggesting this is a brothel? It is a two way street for meets - you want to meet and they do. Granted some profiles do make sex a dirty subject, but the site exists only because people like sex!. What has it got to do with some kind of usurping of genders??????

I think there a lot of people on here talk as good talk - but actually dont meet! Instead they are looking for either love or a relationship. Those actually looking for good sexual relations get frowned on by 'social swingers'. Its ridiculous.

If you look at profiles - there a great many more people on the site than those who comment on these forums. A great deal more of them have a LOT more verifications than those commenting on these forums. Yet make a comment about no meets and people who dont meet slate you for it. "

You can't say people don't meet just because they have no veris, I know plenty on here that don't do the whole veri thing but meet regularly.

I think the brothel comment anyway (if I've taken it correctly) wasn't aimed at people who choose to meet regularly, more at those who assume that just because they are on a site like this that they are gonna be getting meets every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What we don't get is why any of the single guys who start threads like this don't use clubs. To my mind its the very best and by far easiest way to build a circle of friends within the community who will gladly verify you as long as your decent. Not only that, there is loads of potential same night fun to be had , but once again as long as you are decent. If you are genuine and intend to meet etc then why wouldn't you go to a club ?? Just our view of course "

Maybe to expensive, just a thought

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"What we don't get is why any of the single guys who start threads like this don't use clubs. To my mind its the very best and by far easiest way to build a circle of friends within the community who will gladly verify you as long as your decent. Not only that, there is loads of potential same night fun to be had , but once again as long as you are decent. If you are genuine and intend to meet etc then why wouldn't you go to a club ?? Just our view of course "

believe it or not I am shy approaching women.

plus, although I have only been to 3 clubs, they have either been seedy or the women havent been as relaxed as they could be in private. Clubs are full of promise but disappoint compared to private meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else.

well said!!!! shame a lot seem to forget this lol

I had 7 meets in the first 7 days on here. Who is suggesting this is a brothel? It is a two way street for meets - you want to meet and they do. Granted some profiles do make sex a dirty subject, but the site exists only because people like sex!. What has it got to do with some kind of usurping of genders??????

I think there a lot of people on here talk as good talk - but actually dont meet! Instead they are looking for either love or a relationship. Those actually looking for good sexual relations get frowned on by 'social swingers'. Its ridiculous.

If you look at profiles - there a great many more people on the site than those who comment on these forums. A great deal more of them have a LOT more verifications than those commenting on these forums. Yet make a comment about no meets and people who dont meet slate you for it. "

seven in seven! swoon, your my new hero lol

and do they? i don't know, i'm not here to collect veri's fella or to count other peoples...i'm not nineteen any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I second the title of the thread. I find it incredibly difficult to get people interested in talking to me on the site.

I appreciate my age is against me but still advice would be welcomed to get a bit of help in achieving a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else.

well said!!!! shame a lot seem to forget this lol

I had 7 meets in the first 7 days on here. Who is suggesting this is a brothel? It is a two way street for meets - you want to meet and they do. Granted some profiles do make sex a dirty subject, but the site exists only because people like sex!. What has it got to do with some kind of usurping of genders??????

I think there a lot of people on here talk as good talk - but actually dont meet! Instead they are looking for either love or a relationship. Those actually looking for good sexual relations get frowned on by 'social swingers'. Its ridiculous.

If you look at profiles - there a great many more people on the site than those who comment on these forums. A great deal more of them have a LOT more verifications than those commenting on these forums. Yet make a comment about no meets and people who dont meet slate you for it.

You can't say people don't meet just because they have no veris, I know plenty on here that don't do the whole veri thing but meet regularly.

I think the brothel comment anyway (if I've taken it correctly) wasn't aimed at people who choose to meet regularly, more at those who assume that just because they are on a site like this that they are gonna be getting meets every day. "

That was the point of the comment, thank you.

I think the site is too easily seen as a join and fuck type thing rather than a way to meet like minded folk with a bit of fun thrown in...we all see it differently though I guess so its just one of those things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I second the title of the thread. I find it incredibly difficult to get people interested in talking to me on the site.

I appreciate my age is against me but still advice would be welcomed to get a bit of help in achieving a meet "

Just be patient and be yourself your veri says they wanna meet so your on the right track I'm sure, its not always so fast on here so take your foot off the gas and enjoy the drive really....that's my best advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What we don't get is why any of the single guys who start threads like this don't use clubs. To my mind its the very best and by far easiest way to build a circle of friends within the community who will gladly verify you as long as your decent. Not only that, there is loads of potential same night fun to be had , but once again as long as you are decent. If you are genuine and intend to meet etc then why wouldn't you go to a club ?? Just our view of course

believe it or not I am shy approaching women.

plus, although I have only been to 3 clubs, they have either been seedy or the women havent been as relaxed as they could be in private. Clubs are full of promise but disappoint compared to private meets"

Not in our experience when we've wanted fun we've always had it, we prefer clubs but perhaps that just suits our personalities and we can afford the. I suppose that helps

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

What and just meet anybody that offers?? This isn't desperatewomen.com mate. I think you will find the genuine women on here (and yes I do mean genuine not some dude called Brian pretending to be hot bi girl Amy looking for action) have standards that many guys fail to meet. Should the women apologise for that. Errrr no!! Why should anybody lower their standards?"
my statement wasn't serious. I am here to meet women not alienate them all. No one should drop there standards. If there no attraction there's no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What we don't get is why any of the single guys who start threads like this don't use clubs. To my mind its the very best and by far easiest way to build a circle of friends within the community who will gladly verify you as long as your decent. Not only that, there is loads of potential same night fun to be had , but once again as long as you are decent. If you are genuine and intend to meet etc then why wouldn't you go to a club ?? Just our view of course

believe it or not I am shy approaching women.

plus, although I have only been to 3 clubs, they have either been seedy or the women havent been as relaxed as they could be in private. Clubs are full of promise but disappoint compared to private meets"

mmmmm not sure I agree with that, its all about mingling an dchatting to people, the rest will come, but its down to the individual I guess.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"What we don't get is why any of the single guys who start threads like this don't use clubs. To my mind its the very best and by far easiest way to build a circle of friends within the community who will gladly verify you as long as your decent. Not only that, there is loads of potential same night fun to be had , but once again as long as you are decent. If you are genuine and intend to meet etc then why wouldn't you go to a club ?? Just our view of course

believe it or not I am shy approaching women.

plus, although I have only been to 3 clubs, they have either been seedy or the women havent been as relaxed as they could be in private. Clubs are full of promise but disappoint compared to private meets

Not in our experience when we've wanted fun we've always had it, we prefer clubs but perhaps that just suits our personalities and we can afford the. I suppose that helps "

Doubt you are saying I cant afford it, I think you missed a word? did you mean better or more exclusive clubs?

I have been to 'events' where the people were both very attractive and extremely well dressed. The problem I found with this was there was a kind of a pretentious 'out do you' atmosphere.. People were tottering around, kissing each other on the cheeks, men were happily patting and gripping womens bums as they walked past. They didnt even know them but it came across that if you had wealth, the women were just fodder. The the women were putting on a kind of priness look at me appearance (outward and inward). I dont like that kind of inequality just because tits and arses are out... x

Get any one of them behind closed doors and they would let go I'd say

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


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You can't say people don't meet just because they have no veris, I know plenty on here that don't do the whole veri thing but meet regularly.

I think the brothel comment anyway (if I've taken it correctly) wasn't aimed at people who choose to meet regularly, more at those who assume that just because they are on a site like this that they are gonna be getting meets every day. "

As I say.. some people do make sex look dirty, and I can wholly appreciate the number of worthless messages guys and their fantastical fantasies send to people... I have seen a few of them. But there does seem to be a generic reply to anyone that doesnt get a meet - and that is, 'you've had 1 meet in 4 months - some people dont get that in a year'. Thank god for FB's! as I would be Supernova if I waited that long! lol

I think people who prefer to chat, shouldn't try to put people off meeting or even stamping their feet about it, simply because they prefer to observe, is what I am saying.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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You can't say people don't meet just because they have no veris, I know plenty on here that don't do the whole veri thing but meet regularly.

I think the brothel comment anyway (if I've taken it correctly) wasn't aimed at people who choose to meet regularly, more at those who assume that just because they are on a site like this that they are gonna be getting meets every day.

As I say.. some people do make sex look dirty, and I can wholly appreciate the number of worthless messages guys and their fantastical fantasies send to people... I have seen a few of them. But there does seem to be a generic reply to anyone that doesnt get a meet - and that is, 'you've had 1 meet in 4 months - some people dont get that in a year'. Thank god for FB's! as I would be Supernova if I waited that long! lol

I think people who prefer to chat, shouldn't try to put people off meeting or even stamping their feet about it, simply because they prefer to observe, is what I am saying."

but then i would say your "7 in the first 7" isn't the norm either... just because you have had more success than most your view may well be more skewed than others...

just like your experience in clubs gives you a skewed opinion of them as well.....

more people are likely to relate to the "1 meet in 4 months" than yours because of the amount of threads that start "how can I be helped/how can i improve my chances" and yes.. when a lot of people come on here at the beginning they do think "instashag!!"...... and maybe the "expectation vs reality" doesn't go as those people think which is why the rants start

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


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but then i would say your "7 in the first 7" isn't the norm either... just because you have had more success than most your view may well be more skewed than others...

just like your experience in clubs gives you a skewed opinion of them as well.....

more people are likely to relate to the "1 meet in 4 months" than yours because of the amount of threads that start "how can I be helped/how can i improve my chances" and yes.. when a lot of people come on here at the beginning they do think "instashag!!"...... and maybe the "expectation vs reality" doesn't go as those people think which is why the rants start"

Granted about the tally, but I didnt get them by lurking on the forums asking of tips. I got them by sticking all the cock shots I had onto my profile and having a text that was essentially all me me me. I have changed it to suit people on here - and surprisingly I havent met as many since lol. But I do realise I dont send messages anymore really lol.

People do tend to relax privately - I dont think there is dispute there..

I am still amazed when I see popular people posting on these forums, that when I look at them.. they are hardly verified at all, yet the fountains of knowledge. Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

but then i would say your "7 in the first 7" isn't the norm either... just because you have had more success than most your view may well be more skewed than others...

just like your experience in clubs gives you a skewed opinion of them as well.....

more people are likely to relate to the "1 meet in 4 months" than yours because of the amount of threads that start "how can I be helped/how can i improve my chances" and yes.. when a lot of people come on here at the beginning they do think "instashag!!"...... and maybe the "expectation vs reality" doesn't go as those people think which is why the rants start

Granted about the tally, but I didnt get them by lurking on the forums asking of tips. I got them by sticking all the cock shots I had onto my profile and having a text that was essentially all me me me. I have changed it to suit people on here - and surprisingly I havent met as many since lol. But I do realise I dont send messages anymore really lol.

People do tend to relax privately - I dont think there is dispute there..

I am still amazed when I see popular people posting on these forums, that when I look at them.. they are hardly verified at all, yet the fountains of knowledge. Just my opinion "

and one you are quite rightly entitled to....i will say though i don't think the amount of veri's tallies at all with a persons knowledge....people have a sex life away from here too dont forget and a veri isn't part of some experience score they have...it's the odd comment on one website on what people think of them is all... and no amount of 'notches' makes a difference i would think.

i'd say in the end everyone is on here for similar reasons, but we all treat the site a little differently so let's all just get on and play nicely and take from this site what we each will in our own ways because i doubt very much there is a 'right' way...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"

and one you are quite rightly entitled to....i will say though i don't think the amount of veri's tallies at all with a persons knowledge....people have a sex life away from here too dont forget and a veri isn't part of some experience score they have...it's the odd comment on one website on what people think of them is all... and no amount of 'notches' makes a difference i would think.

i'd say in the end everyone is on here for similar reasons, but we all treat the site a little differently so let's all just get on and play nicely and take from this site what we each will in our own ways because i doubt very much there is a 'right' way...

"

And in the same respect, it's the odd comment on a website that puts people off meeting because they think are meeting too much.

One or two meets in a few months is not a lot.

Anybody can comment, and they are entitled to it, but passing comment outside of the lifestyle should be treated as such, and veris are a decent way to cut through it. It's one reason why they are there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you say your pics are genuine..WHAT PICSis that front end pic genuine or just copy and pasted from a HULK site...You only get out of this site what you put into it!!! And whingin wont get you far!!!!There is a higher proportion of single guys on this site..As we have said before on single guy posts!!! You are trying to shag someone elses wife/girlfriend/lover....Dont you think folk are gonna be PICKY!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

and one you are quite rightly entitled to....i will say though i don't think the amount of veri's tallies at all with a persons knowledge....people have a sex life away from here too dont forget and a veri isn't part of some experience score they have...it's the odd comment on one website on what people think of them is all... and no amount of 'notches' makes a difference i would think.

i'd say in the end everyone is on here for similar reasons, but we all treat the site a little differently so let's all just get on and play nicely and take from this site what we each will in our own ways because i doubt very much there is a 'right' way...

And in the same respect, it's the odd comment on a website that puts people off meeting because they think are meeting too much.

One or two meets in a few months is not a lot.

Anybody can comment, and they are entitled to it, but passing comment outside of the lifestyle should be treated as such, and veris are a decent way to cut through it. It's one reason why they are there."

i don't think anybody said that anything beyond that was too much, it's just when folk come on and say they're not getting enough when by the standard of the single man on here they're actually doing ok

and if they're going to be put off by the odd comment, perhaps they have too much care for what others think of them....you and i for example, have our own opinions and will air them knowing that someone on here may or may not agree with them, those who can be put off so easily by a comment on a post may be wise to thicken their skin a little? dunno...just a thought.

.....it's a lack of apriciation for what they do have that shows through sometimes and admittedely yes, threads of that ilk tend to get short thrift because there are so damned many of them....people always want more and forget that the 'more' they are looking for on here are real human beings who have the choice to do as they please, and often enough will not choose that particular single guy. such is the way of things sometimes...

i dunno, i'm probably talking crap as i don't have that many verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I will say is have patience, good things come to those who wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves.

you looking for sheer numbers or for quality times?

it's a social website as much as anything and it's not a free brothel....ladies are free to do as they choose on here and no words need having, with themselves or anyone else.

well said!!!! shame a lot seem to forget this lol"

seconded! What that man said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was gay I would get about x1000 more action. Women you seriously need to have a word with yourselves."

You're a man, nothin special so no women don't need to have words with themselves

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By *oulcakeMan
over a year ago

Gornal


"chill dude, ber yourself, talk to some people, use the forums and just enjoy being here generally....you will find the odd meet but don't be expecting numbers....what you will find on here are good people, folk who bring quality to your life =)

if your looking for numbers, go on a.w and get your wallet out"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being frustrated and young is normal especially if you are a young man

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oooh the pics are back - I'm having a nice perv, I'll be the first to declare you prime FFF material!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets scince youve joined u need to consider your self more than lucky on here!!! Some of us dont even get message replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 meets scince youve joined u need to consider your self more than lucky on here!!! Some of us dont even get message replies!"

I'm not even surprised all your pics are of your cock, really???? do you need that many? and you've made no effort with your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try the deli. Oh hold on, my mistake. That's just cold meets isn't it

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