FabSwingers.com forum: Big 1st time post(mfm a good idea)?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can't stop fantasising about fucking my girlfriend with another man. The reason being before we went out we were involved in 4 or 5 mfm 3somes. But one inparticular we tried DP and I can honestly say before then and ever since, I've never seen her or anyone else in so much absolute ecstasy. It turns me on so much just thinking about it, and the idea of doing it again with her sounds amazing. Trouble is we are in a committed relationship now. I'm not 100% sure how this might affect our relationship. When I brought it up during sex she was very reluctant about it but mainly from how it would effect my view of her. We are very much in love and to take the chance is not worth it for her. I've tried explaining the turn on is seeing her turned on, but I'm not sure she truly grasps this. I think she believes I might just be trying to open the door to allow me to fuck someone else, which I wouldn't be against but it's not why a mfm turns me on. We used a buttplug while fucking that night and both spoke about her taking 2 cocks and we both came really quickly and loved it. Funny thing was after that we both kind of lost interest in the idea. Can something like this be enjoyed as just a fantasy or are we on a road to taking things too far?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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Yes something like this can be enjoyed just as fantasy and while you might be on the road you both have control and can stop before it goes too far.

As to the rest of it nobody but the two of you can make the decision to do what you fantasise about and I always say that of you have any doubt or need validation from others don't go ahead. I would say that you're in the right track in as far as discuss doubts and fears are concerned though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes something like this can be enjoyed just as fantasy and while you might be on the road you both have control and can stop before it goes too far.

Thanks for the advice

I think if she knew 100% that my turn on from this was seeing her enjoy herself so much, and that I would not get jealous and that it wouldn't effect our relationship in anyway, that she would be really up for it. She enjoyed it in the past and enjoyed talking about it during sex while d*unk. But to freely admit it in the cold light of day goes against the grain I think. Did you or your partner have any reservations into swinging before you took the plunge?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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Yes we did have reservations, we discussed it for hours over many months. I have to say as the female half of this relationship my reservations were greater.

I'm not comfortable discussing your girlfriend specifically the issue is between you two alone along with the specifics and with respect to you I don't know for sure that she is aware of what you're saying. But I would say this discuss, reassure and discuss again, respect a no, don't assume that "I'll think about it" means yes, don't make it the focus of your sex life and take things slowly a great relationship is worth so much more than fulfilling a fantasy.

One thing I'll add is that a lot of women feel that their partner is looking for more than they alone can give and feel hurt it threatened by that, you need to be sure enough in yourself to be able to reassure her that your relationship will continue as it has done of her answer is no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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Oh forgot to add......good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh forgot to add......good luck

It doesn't matter if you think it won't affect your relationship but if she thinks it will give it a miss

She might like it and want it all the time she might look round after for someone who wants her exclusively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The concerning thing is you lose interest after you cum. If you do dp with another guy the vision of him fucking her will be in your mind for ages long after the sexual excitement has subsided. It will be there when you are apart and when you have disagreements.

If you are both comfortable with it at those times then try it but do Not if it bothers you.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

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"I can't stop fantasising about fucking my girlfriend with another man. The reason being before we went out we were involved in 4 or 5 mfm 3somes. But one inparticular we tried DP and I can honestly say before then and ever since, I've never seen her or anyone else in so much absolute ecstasy. It turns me on so much just thinking about it, and the idea of doing it again with her sounds amazing. Trouble is we are in a committed relationship now. I'm not 100% sure how this might affect our relationship. When I brought it up during sex she was very reluctant about it but mainly from how it would effect my view of her. We are very much in love and to take the chance is not worth it for her. I've tried explaining the turn on is seeing her turned on, but I'm not sure she truly grasps this. I think she believes I might just be trying to open the door to allow me to fuck someone else, which I wouldn't be against but it's not why a mfm turns me on. We used a buttplug while fucking that night and both spoke about her taking 2 cocks and we both came really quickly and loved it. Funny thing was after that we both kind of lost interest in the idea. Can something like this be enjoyed as just a fantasy or are we on a road to taking things too far? "

As a matter of interest, is she aware that you read and post on this Site? If she is aware that you are doing it secretly, she may be worrying that you want something that she can't give. If she does not know and you are doing it secretly then you should ask yourself why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the great advice from everyone. There was a few ways I hadn't fully looked at that have been brought up here and after some thought I'll just slow it down abit, have fun and see where it takes us. To be honest even reading my original post back to myself has helped and the advice givin is very useful. I'd never really considered the thoughts playing in my mind if we were to argue or fall out. Although the ones from the past don't haunt me it might be different now we're in a committed relationship. I think this would be more fun kept as a fantasy role and I'll only consider taking it further if she suggests it to me. As far as her knowing I'm on this site posting, yes and no. We made a joint profile after we visited a club as fuck buddies and we both have a look at any messages we get. She doesn't know I made my own and posted this thread,because I wanted some sound advice before deciding to discuss taking my fantasy any further with her. So thanks for all the sound advice everyone, happy swinging

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